Psychology | the Wakefield Doctrine - Part 2

TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine-

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

You see it, don’t you? (Grat 7 for a hint)*

This is the Wakefield Doctrine’s weekly contribution to the Ten Things of Thankful (TToT) bloghop. First published in the Winter of 1895 by Lizzi R, the TToT has remained a most esteemed of what came to be known as Grat Blogs. While originally printed on yellow-lined foolscap folio, eventually someone decided that hardcopy had certain limitations and invented the internet and, immediately afterwords, the blogosphere.

Hey! March is Open Recruitment Month for Hosts and Hostinae. If you know a blogger you feel would be a good fit, tell us. For that matter, if, at this moment you’re thinking, “I could do that! Whatever ‘that’ is…sure, these Hostinae (and Host) seem like reasonable people. (ok, a slight reservation on those Doctrine people, serially, a robot in a movie from the mid-1950s?!?) But the rest of them seem… cool. Maybe I will send in my name.”

1) Phyllis

2) Una

3) the Wakefield Doctrine (sine qua non, y’all, sine qua non))

4) the Six Sentence Story bloghop

5) again, and surely one of the primary Grats shared by us all: relatively-good health (sufficient to remove accumulated frozen water from the driveway)

6) modern technology, specifically, having a motion picture camera in our portable telephone

7)  * What we sorta saw on our deck. Hey, it wasn’t just us, Phyllis saw it too! (ok, she would admit to seeing a figure (tribute and proof of her having a significant secondary clarklike aspect.) We thought about asking her to play the Anne Francis part… but decided not to (clarks may be crazy, but we’re not insane).

8) something, something

9) walking (P.) to the cottage on a winter’s night

10) Secret Rule 1.3

 

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Friday -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘Leftovers, binyons!”

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Perhaps we could interest you in a little RePrint?

Come on! You know you want to… it’s been a long week and despite knowing that a ‘proper’ original content Post is always good for the curious and discerning Reader, sometimes all a blogger wants is a bowl of cereal in front of the TV watching X-Files (or if you’re really *ld, the Man from Uncle).

Full Disclosure: This is, in fact, a rather informative post centered on a actual Doctrine Reader’s ‘question’. From back in… “Danger Will Robinson! Danger!! Depressing Calendar Mathematics ahead!”

 

(Everything Rule, Misky, your challenge is to step to the side and view this from the perspective of the Everything Rule. ha ha… look at us,  indulging in being a roger! aka assuming we know what someone else is thinking… wait.a.darn.minute! that’s not indulging in being a roger… it’s being a clark (back us up on this one Mimi? Denise? Cynthia? ;p)

 

hey, a little link-dropping ain’t such a bad way to end the wordk week, is it?

the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers) ‘…a unique, productive and fun insight into the behavior of the people in our lives’

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

As promised, we will now address the question on the minds of many Readers,  “…what the hell good is this Doctrine thing? We’ve read the Posts and freely admit that we like the sound of this theory of clarks, scotts and rogers.  It all makes sense but… enough with the allegory and theory! Lets hear what it can do to help with real life situations and such!”

 

From Friend of the Doctrine Amy:

I guess I would really like to know how to manage these scotts effectively without getting all worked up and out of whack. Do you know what I mean? I stay all calm for the most part and then they push and insist and try to tell me what I think (even though I know quite well what I think and it’s not what they want me to think)….and then I get mad and very direct and maybe a little more assertive than I am comfortable with. It takes me another two days to calm down after such a confrontation. Can you tell I just had such a confrontation? It’s three days later and I’m still thinking / analyzing / worrying about it. And I’m sure the Scott in questions never gave it a second thought!

Thanks Amy! (Amy is a Friend of the Doctrine who writes ‘Adorable Chaos’ …more than just a mommyblog, her observations and insights, while often focused on family and teaching, have a certain subtle edge (and secret humor) that you will enjoy reading it.) This is a great Question!

…next question?1

You’ve heard the saying,  ‘the Wakefield Doctrine is for you, not for them’, lets start with the second of the two questions implicit in the above scenario.

“…It’s three days later and I’m still thinking / analyzing / worrying about it.”2

Remember the last time you got all, “…I-can-rake-the-whole-yard!-I’ve-got-it-halfway-done-already-I-can’t-stop-now!” ?
Now recall what we say about the three personality types: clarks think, scotts act and rogers feel.
What we mean by this is not just that we clarks are given to introspection or scotts go from impulsive act to impulsive act, or even that rogers change moods like a girl changes clothes… no! we mean that, (in our respective worldviews), this is how we are.

Your feeling ‘out of sorts’ for days after your successfully overcoming the attempt by a scott to dominate you, is simply being stiff and sore, just like if you raked the whole damn yard on a Saturday afternoon in October.  Now, being a clark, what you need to ease the aches (god, don’t you love metaphors stretched almost to their breaking points?),  is something rational, yet still in the realm of what got you sore in the first place.3, i.e. exerting yourself dealing with a scott.
So, next time this happens, after you have overcome the scott in question, but sooner than 3 days of reflection later, go back to them and remind them of whatever it was that you (finally) did to get them to stop and behave. Depending on how much time has passed (since) the initial confrontation, you will find yourself less and less inclined to do this, preferring to keep everything in your head, on familiar ground. You will think to yourself that it might be best to ‘let sleeping dogs lie’.  ( …lol)

Now lets consider the first question (inherent in) your most excellent scenario:

“…even though I know quite well what I think and it’s not what they want me to think… I’m sure the Scott in questions never gave it a second thought!”

You are totally correct. They did not, they do not.
That is the charm, the strength, the limitation, hell! it’s the definition of the scottian worldview. They act. They live in the here and now, they act on the basis of the immediate, not the abstract .
You do not.
However, if you keep in mind that scotts view dominance and ranking as simply the way the world is and not (this is critical and alien to a clark) … not as a statement of worth or value or anything like that, you will be able to deal with them in their context, but on your terms and everything will be a lot more better.  for you…. (they won’t understand any of this, but explanations are for clarks, not for scotts.)

I hope this helps, Amy. Thank you for the scenario, yo.

1)  ha ha come on! you didn’t see that coming? No?? you might be at the wrong blog then,  if you were looking for totally straight on, sincere- to-a-fault self-improvement advice, you might be better going somewhere else.

2) Any Reader who cannot identify with this, you better go to the section on clarks.

3)  but, like being sore after too much raking, the exercises here are most effective when done as soon after the exertion as possible.

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Wednesday -the Wakefield Doctrine-

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The Doctrine, at least for the purposes of this post, can be likened to a musical instrument. It has the inherent value to produce what most of us characterize as a musical sound/tone. It responds to a certain approach/technique better than others. There are, (to some), arbitrary rules for the application of it in the service of playing music, (i.e. you should not use a clarinet as a bow on a viola, you should not blow into the f-holes of a double bass expecting to hear an alto note) and, finally, with study and practice, one might arrive at the point of being able to produce something otherwise not available any other way.

So learn your scales, (the characteristics of the three predominant worldviews), and practice until you know each note/detail by heart.

Practice your lessons: “a clark and a scott and a roger stand on the sidewalk across the street from a very popular restaurant.”

Play the clarklike part… now the scottian observation and finally, the roger’s counter response and, likely extended, coda.

Repeat.

Eventually, with practice, and, it is assumed, a certain of talent, one can play this little piece with emphasis on each of the three as the lead melody. And, if one has or develops ‘an ear’, you might bring each part to life in manner the listener has not heard before.

Technical prowess will produce a truly effective performance.

However, once you have the technique mastered, you can begin to put yourself into the music. And by doing so, produce something (insights into the life of total stranger) not heard before.

you know, like that.

 

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Monday Tuesday -the Wakefield Doctrine-

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If you don’t mind, having missed a normal (well, as normal as anything is, here at the Wakefield Doctrine) we’d like to do something a little different (“differently’?)

Hey! Ever wonder is there was anything clarks abhor more than scrutiny?*

To be defined by another/others in such as way as to persist and constrain (the) clark in their efforts to get through Life.

Well, that helped (us! lol) to get the cob-webs out from a missed day of writing a post.

Promise (ette) to get back to the plan to describe how without fatal contradiction, the Everything Rule can alter certain skills and attributes in an individual person. To result in, something like a precise scott (or a private roger or…or! a gregarious clark  lol).

Stay tuned

* of course the other two have something they fear, or if we were to take liberty with words (like that’d ever happen) the thing that is anathema to each of the three predominant worldviews:

  • clarks (the Outsiders) scrutiny, i.e. the uninvited/uncontrollable inquisition by (an) other or others
  • scotts (the Predators) unreliability,  we were talking a scott a long time ago about what it is like to be a clark. By way of describing our capacity for adapting. we said, “clarks have a near infinite capacity to deal with the novel. If a clark wakes up in the morning and it turns out the sky is purple (with green polka dots) they’d take a moment and go about their day like it was supposed to be that way.” the scott we were talking to replied, “No, impossible. Unacceptable! To having nothing of the world that is reliable, in a knowable way. a scott could not tolerate that.”
  • rogers (the Herd Members) this one is simple: to be shunned, to be exiled from the Herd.

 

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine-

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

This is the Doctrine’s weekly contribution to the Ten Things of Thankful (TToT) bloghop.

You are invited to join in the bloghop that Lizzi R created, back in the Summer of ’72. A time when music was exciting and the world did not yet possess the tools to completely monetize our young adult lifes. So, write a list, link it up and join in the exercise of gratuity*, It’s sorta easy, definitely fun.

For the Wakefield Doctrine, our list is:

 

1) Phyllis (in the kitchen, to Una’s left)

2) Una (from a Christmas so very long ago)

3) the Wakefield Doctrine

4) the Six Sentence Story bloghop

5) physical ok(ish)-edness.  …ok, some context might be in order (for any new Readers). The photo, depicting the business end of my San Angelo bar after hour-two of chipping 3″ of ice from the driveway. Also… our right foot.  An example of a perfect winter sport: not dying lol

6) still light out at, like 5:15 instead of not that long ago, 3:01 in the fricken afternoon

7) writing (specifically the series of three narratives (or plots or storylines…not really up on the technical side of this thing). At any rate, each week is a suspenseful adventure as I try to stay one installment ahead of the Reader. (Seat-of-pants writing, anyone?)

8) something, something

9) work: providing us with an opportunity to earn an income in a truly non-routine kind of endeavor. ya know?

10) Secret Rule 1.3

 

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