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Teisdat -the Wakefield Doctrine-

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Thank god for Friends of the Doctrine!

In yesterday’s Post we mentioned Cynthia, (a leading Doctrine scholar), and one of her comments had Post Theme written all over it’s own bad self.

to wit:

Hmm. You taking up piano, Clark? Is that a clark-like instrument, because I am re-learning to play. Haha. I remember Roger saying he plays the guitar. Is that a more rogerian instrument? And something LOUD would be perfect for the Scotts. My brother in law is learning the fiddle. If he were younger, I’d bet my money on drums or…trombones

New Readers! It is entirely acceptable to me asking yourself… ‘What does she mean?’

Well, be patient! She is talking about the Wakefield Doctrine and, as you should know by now, is: an additional perspective on the world around us and the people who make it up. And…and! rather than a bunch of silly letters (Oscar Myers, we’re looking at you) or semi-embarrassing made up stuff (Latency Period, really Sigmund? you’re gonna go with the hand-the-adolescent-boys-a-freebie?), we have the very simple standard: How does the person relate themselves to the world? There are three personality types in the Wakefield Doctrine:

  • clarks (the Outsider)
  • scotts (the Predator)
  • rogers (the Herd Member)

fine.

Our correspondent Cynthia’s Comment is raising the issue of which musical instrument is most in simpatico with which personality type?1

…damn! out of time! tune in tomorrow for the conclusion of out lecture: ‘Music Performance and What the Heck is She Doing?!?!’

*interesting footnote: the story is (from a video of Joe Walsh talking about starting out) that one of his first instruments was ….the trombone!  Hey! Good illustration of a scott. Now the host of the show, Daryl Hall? (we’re thinking clark, possible roger)

 1  of course, she does not mean that only one type is attracted to or otherwise drawn to one particular instrument. The Everything Rule allows that ‘everyone does everything. at one time or another‘. And so, while guitar, (in particular lead guitar), is a very effective choice in manifesting how a scott relates themselfs to the world, clarks can be effective with it as well, e.g. Jeff Beck. The key value of the Everything Rule is to remind us consider what an individual, in their handling of an instrument, tell us about how they relate to the world.

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Monday -the Wakefield Doctrine-

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sorry about the missed Doctrine post last Monday (and an unsteady beginning to the Week of Snow).

As we all know, Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday, (with an option on Friday), are days we write about the Wakefield Doctrine. Thursday, (with an option on Friday), are for our stories in the Six Sentence Story format.

We are very fortunate to have Readers who are also students of the Wakefield Doctrine. And their Comments, invaluable inspiration for these ‘What is this Doctrine’ type post, are very appreciated.

This week we have a Comment from Mimi that effectively jumpstarts our first Doctrine post of the week. Misky, Denise and Cynthia are among the others who we count on to express their reactions, responses, interpretations and general feedback,

So, last Friday, in a Comment on a Doctrine post (sub)titled: ‘Leftovers, Binyons‘ Mimi, she be sayin

Assuming you know what others are thinking is natural when almost all you do is think!

Yes. And what this observation does is serve to remind us that, by virtue of the fact that everyone exists in one of three personal realities, it would behoove us to not assume the other person is experiencing the given situation the same as do we.

Continuing with this thought* it is evident, by our own correspondent’s admission to being a clark1 she could accept the idea that the other person might (mostly likely) be a scott or a roger.

So, back to the original Post, Amy would do well, upon realization that she was dealing with either a scott or a roger, to set aside her expectations for being understood and, instead make an effort to translate what the other person is saying, in the language-mode of their predominant worldview.

Lots of opportunity to reduce stress (for clarks), enhance one’s enjoyment of the moment (for scotts) and feel more confident (as a roger always seeks to do).

That should get us started on the week.

Remember: do not assume, despite being in a direct interaction…in the same damn room! that the other person is having the same experience as you.

Program Notes: No, there are not three alien worlds competing for our attention. There is the common world of everyday reality. It is only on a small, but still significant lever that we experience the world as a clark or a scott or a roger.

*see??! See?? lol

  1. clarks think, scotts act and rogers feel

 

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine-

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You see it, don’t you? (Grat 7 for a hint)*

This is the Wakefield Doctrine’s weekly contribution to the Ten Things of Thankful (TToT) bloghop. First published in the Winter of 1895 by Lizzi R, the TToT has remained a most esteemed of what came to be known as Grat Blogs. While originally printed on yellow-lined foolscap folio, eventually someone decided that hardcopy had certain limitations and invented the internet and, immediately afterwords, the blogosphere.

Hey! March is Open Recruitment Month for Hosts and Hostinae. If you know a blogger you feel would be a good fit, tell us. For that matter, if, at this moment you’re thinking, “I could do that! Whatever ‘that’ is…sure, these Hostinae (and Host) seem like reasonable people. (ok, a slight reservation on those Doctrine people, serially, a robot in a movie from the mid-1950s?!?) But the rest of them seem… cool. Maybe I will send in my name.”

1) Phyllis

2) Una

3) the Wakefield Doctrine (sine qua non, y’all, sine qua non))

4) the Six Sentence Story bloghop

5) again, and surely one of the primary Grats shared by us all: relatively-good health (sufficient to remove accumulated frozen water from the driveway)

6) modern technology, specifically, having a motion picture camera in our portable telephone

7)  * What we sorta saw on our deck. Hey, it wasn’t just us, Phyllis saw it too! (ok, she would admit to seeing a figure (tribute and proof of her having a significant secondary clarklike aspect.) We thought about asking her to play the Anne Francis part… but decided not to (clarks may be crazy, but we’re not insane).

8) something, something

9) walking (P.) to the cottage on a winter’s night

10) Secret Rule 1.3

 

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Friday -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘Leftovers, binyons!”

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Perhaps we could interest you in a little RePrint?

Come on! You know you want to… it’s been a long week and despite knowing that a ‘proper’ original content Post is always good for the curious and discerning Reader, sometimes all a blogger wants is a bowl of cereal in front of the TV watching X-Files (or if you’re really *ld, the Man from Uncle).

Full Disclosure: This is, in fact, a rather informative post centered on a actual Doctrine Reader’s ‘question’. From back in… “Danger Will Robinson! Danger!! Depressing Calendar Mathematics ahead!”

 

(Everything Rule, Misky, your challenge is to step to the side and view this from the perspective of the Everything Rule. ha ha… look at us,  indulging in being a roger! aka assuming we know what someone else is thinking… wait.a.darn.minute! that’s not indulging in being a roger… it’s being a clark (back us up on this one Mimi? Denise? Cynthia? ;p)

 

hey, a little link-dropping ain’t such a bad way to end the wordk week, is it?

the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers) ‘…a unique, productive and fun insight into the behavior of the people in our lives’

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

As promised, we will now address the question on the minds of many Readers,  “…what the hell good is this Doctrine thing? We’ve read the Posts and freely admit that we like the sound of this theory of clarks, scotts and rogers.  It all makes sense but… enough with the allegory and theory! Lets hear what it can do to help with real life situations and such!”

 

From Friend of the Doctrine Amy:

I guess I would really like to know how to manage these scotts effectively without getting all worked up and out of whack. Do you know what I mean? I stay all calm for the most part and then they push and insist and try to tell me what I think (even though I know quite well what I think and it’s not what they want me to think)….and then I get mad and very direct and maybe a little more assertive than I am comfortable with. It takes me another two days to calm down after such a confrontation. Can you tell I just had such a confrontation? It’s three days later and I’m still thinking / analyzing / worrying about it. And I’m sure the Scott in questions never gave it a second thought!

Thanks Amy! (Amy is a Friend of the Doctrine who writes ‘Adorable Chaos’ …more than just a mommyblog, her observations and insights, while often focused on family and teaching, have a certain subtle edge (and secret humor) that you will enjoy reading it.) This is a great Question!

…next question?1

You’ve heard the saying,  ‘the Wakefield Doctrine is for you, not for them’, lets start with the second of the two questions implicit in the above scenario.

“…It’s three days later and I’m still thinking / analyzing / worrying about it.”2

Remember the last time you got all, “…I-can-rake-the-whole-yard!-I’ve-got-it-halfway-done-already-I-can’t-stop-now!” ?
Now recall what we say about the three personality types: clarks think, scotts act and rogers feel.
What we mean by this is not just that we clarks are given to introspection or scotts go from impulsive act to impulsive act, or even that rogers change moods like a girl changes clothes… no! we mean that, (in our respective worldviews), this is how we are.

Your feeling ‘out of sorts’ for days after your successfully overcoming the attempt by a scott to dominate you, is simply being stiff and sore, just like if you raked the whole damn yard on a Saturday afternoon in October.  Now, being a clark, what you need to ease the aches (god, don’t you love metaphors stretched almost to their breaking points?),  is something rational, yet still in the realm of what got you sore in the first place.3, i.e. exerting yourself dealing with a scott.
So, next time this happens, after you have overcome the scott in question, but sooner than 3 days of reflection later, go back to them and remind them of whatever it was that you (finally) did to get them to stop and behave. Depending on how much time has passed (since) the initial confrontation, you will find yourself less and less inclined to do this, preferring to keep everything in your head, on familiar ground. You will think to yourself that it might be best to ‘let sleeping dogs lie’.  ( …lol)

Now lets consider the first question (inherent in) your most excellent scenario:

“…even though I know quite well what I think and it’s not what they want me to think… I’m sure the Scott in questions never gave it a second thought!”

You are totally correct. They did not, they do not.
That is the charm, the strength, the limitation, hell! it’s the definition of the scottian worldview. They act. They live in the here and now, they act on the basis of the immediate, not the abstract .
You do not.
However, if you keep in mind that scotts view dominance and ranking as simply the way the world is and not (this is critical and alien to a clark) … not as a statement of worth or value or anything like that, you will be able to deal with them in their context, but on your terms and everything will be a lot more better.  for you…. (they won’t understand any of this, but explanations are for clarks, not for scotts.)

I hope this helps, Amy. Thank you for the scenario, yo.

1)  ha ha come on! you didn’t see that coming? No?? you might be at the wrong blog then,  if you were looking for totally straight on, sincere- to-a-fault self-improvement advice, you might be better going somewhere else.

2) Any Reader who cannot identify with this, you better go to the section on clarks.

3)  but, like being sore after too much raking, the exercises here are most effective when done as soon after the exertion as possible.

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Six Sentence Story -the Wakefield Doctrine- [a Rosetta and the Sophomore Six]

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This is the Doctrine’s contribution to the Six Sentence Story bloghop.

Hosted by Denise, constrained by a sentence limit (high and low) of six, there are worse ways to spend the remaining time you have on earth.

Previously…

Prompt word:

SIGN

“Don’t fuckin do that!”

Rosetta Storme sat cross-legged on the king-sized Ritz Carlton bed surrounded by a tangle of sateen sheets, Frette cashmere blankets, pillows and a Doppio Ajour Duvet. At first glance she appeared fortified against an attacker, on closer examination, the configuration of bedding took on the appearance of a pier reaching out from shore towards a castaway.

Lying on the naked side of the bed, the Sophomore stared back at Rosetta, “Don’t do what?”

Reaching for her cigarettes and lighter on the nightstand, Rosetta did a very respectable imitation of an intoxicated smoker, right down to the always iffy strategy of moving her head in pursuit of the flame rather than steady her hand. Ethan both held her hand and lit her cigarette, and in the process showed no signs of impairment despite the early morning hours he spent sleep-screaming, “No, not again, this can’t be happening.”

 

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