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Tun -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘stress is actually fear, …dressed up like a really hot woman (or) man*’

February 10, 2015 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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ok  quick and short little Post.  the asterix in the subtitle? (ahem)

‘the Wakefield Doctrine is both gender and culture neutral. the personality types are simply the best effort on the part of (an) individual to contend with a personal reality’ that is (best) characterized as:

  1. the worldview of ‘the Outsider’ (clarks): the predominate feature of this individual’s reality is the, ‘apart from’ that imbues the life of the clark. often confused (willfully or not) with being different, odd, introverted, shy, anti-social or  funny-like-that, apartness is them, not us. (of the three personality types), only clarks know that ‘they are here and the world is out there’.  it is a common misperception (when encountering a clark) to mistake being (their) ‘apart from’ as  ‘being different, shy, antisocial, artistic, eccentric, just-don’t-want-to-be-like-everyone-else’
  2. the world of the ‘the Predator’ (scotts) immediately identifiable by their presence, scotts have the quality of certainty and decisiveness that make them most likely picked as the leader. they have simply learned the advantage of impatience…. the most common mistake people make about scotts is that ‘they should slow down just a little and maybe people will understand them and they won’t keep getting into trouble with (the principle, the shift manager, the cops, the parish priest or their best friend’s mother)’
  3. the life of ‘the Herd Member’ (rogers) they’re everywhere, the majority of (any given) population.  the most common error people make about rogers is that they are ‘taking things personally, when they are taking things personally’… they are, (one of the most tried and true tests to determine a rogerian personality type is to count the personal pronouns in their speech,) but that’s not the point! rogers,live in an chronological world, where B always follows A … unless there was a time when A followed B and then, depending on the current situation, that may be the way it’s always been.

… so, the point of our bullet-pointed insight: as you go through your day today, observe the other person, infer ‘how they are relating themselves to the world around them’, you will then know their predominant worldview and will be in a position to (be able) to see the world as the other person is experiencing it.

Why? Why go through all this? Because it is (for many of us) better to know than to not know, because everyone’s life has people in it…important people/loved one/barely-tolerated-co-workers/necessary people/obligatory people… they (or rather our interaction with them) is what makes up our day. Now if you are a person who always: gets along with everyone/never has a problem dealing with people/likes and respects everyone… then you can skip this section and go down and listen to our bonus music video …there you go, just click on the red arrow (from an album that disappeared from the shelves before you were born)

… everyone/anyone else?  back to the title. stress:  it happens, it is the fear that we will not meet the demands of the world around us, (as best we understand it… the world and the demands!) and, yet, when you look closer at this fear, it reflects a desire, a hope, a need within to be in harmony with our surroundings… not to submit to a greater force,  as much as to find the common measure in those we interact with…

damn! look at the time!! got to go find the common measure out there

 

(yeah, a bit of a throwback to early blog days, I really enjoyed this song, so here ya go)

 

 

 

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Well, what exactly do you want to know? Whether I am a clark or a scott or roger? If you have to ask, then you need to keep reading the Posts for two reasons: a)to get a clear enough understanding to be able to make the determination of which type I am and 2) to realize that by definition I am all three.* *which is true for you as well, all three...but mostly one

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  1. valj2750 says:
    February 10, 2015 at 10:33 am

    I’ve always loved that expression about stress.

  2. ivywalker says:
    February 10, 2015 at 12:41 pm

    I do believe your stress theory is missing just one small piece and that is the fear that the world will not meet OUR expectations as well… making it even more difficult to either be part of -or get what we need from -the herd. SORRY …For the life of me I still don’t understand that hot woman analogy.

    • clarkscottroger clarkscottroger says:
      February 10, 2015 at 1:12 pm

      well. then allow me to retort! (no, I don’t think I’ll ever get tired of Pulp Fiction dialog quotes)… It’s funny, but I was thinking this morning about the ‘stress is like’ and the reason I say hot woman/hot man is that if you listen to people talk (and yes, that makes them predominantly rogers) about stress… they often seem to embrace it… wear like a medal.. hold it up for the admiration of those around them

      how often do you hear someone, in the break room or at the bar or at PTA meeting say, with sincerity and gusto, “I am so afraid of not meeting the demands and expectation of my job/my spouse/my classmates/my boss…?

      or, for that matter, “I am so afraid that I will be disappointed in you… I fear that I will not get what I want to believe that I truly deserve”

      you know,… this Reply writing is getting kinda …stressful….. baby

      • ivywalker says:
        February 10, 2015 at 4:57 pm

        do you truly believe that people verbalize everything they’re thinking? I would never say the latter statement but I would always feel it even as a secondary Roger

        • ivywalker says:
          February 10, 2015 at 4:58 pm

          Latter not letter…..argh..auto correct.

        • clarkscottroger clarkscottroger says:
          February 10, 2015 at 5:08 pm

          yes…no I agree

          but how stress (appears to) manifest has a certain connotation, one less likely to be hidden, more likely to be paraded around (yes, like a hot…lifeform)… but I suspect that I and wading into a morass of cultural issues, one culture’s stress is another culture’s badge of honor….

          fear as the most basic of (negative) emotions is regarded differently in many cultures (and…. you know that I’m bound to invoke the ‘everything Rule’ in the three worldviews)

          but damn… just look at the photo… 2 clarks (one of each gender)… and a probable scott and possible roger

  3. dyannedillon says:
    February 10, 2015 at 3:29 pm

    Okay, I think my boss is a Roger.

    • clarkscottroger clarkscottroger says:
      February 10, 2015 at 4:12 pm

      cool (your figuring out that she is a roger, not that she is a roger)… and (extra) cool because the relationship between a scott and a roger is different from that of a clark and a roger… anything you have to share will be appreciated.

      …one of the major characteristics (of rogers) is what’s called ‘referential authority’… simpler to give an example: ‘because the manual says that’s how we do things’… ‘I’m sorry, I like your idea but this is how we always have done it’… ‘…because it’s just right’

      (of course, as a scott you have the added hurdle of ….er… controlling your appetite lol you guys are, after all predators…. and rogers? two words: ‘mooo!’)

      lol

  4. Denise says:
    February 11, 2015 at 5:52 am

    For some reason, I was thinking of that old addage “we tell people how to treat us”. True statement.The implications “nested” within that is an eye opener. How valuable a tool is this Wakefield Doctrine! Totally! (invaluable)

    ‘stress is actually fear, …dressed up like a really hot woman (or) man*’

    – Alrighty then! I’ll be sure to have a different man in my mind’s eye all this week! We gonna get co-zee lol.