Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of  clarks, scotts and rogers)

quick! spot the clark!
(lol…I knew you could)

First:

the (return) of Lizzi and Michelle presents (in a slightly modified format) Friday Night Vidchat (an evening at George and Jane’s house) sponsored by the Wakefield Doctrine

…we started doing vidchats on Friday nights, seems like years ago, but with my sense of the passage of time*, I wouldn’t be surprised if someone comes up to me and says, ‘clark? these Vidchats? you’ve never done them…ever…you’re dreaming with your eyes open. again.’  oh well (jajaja)**

In any event, here’s how it works. Get yourself on google plus. Download the ‘hangout’ app. Send me a Comment to invite you to the vidchat (and be sure you’re a friend of the Wakefield Doctrine (or Lizzi or Michelle) on the Facebook ( the Wakefield Doctrine)  just in case the invite gets lost. Thats all there is to it!
What is a Friday Night Vidchat?  …just people hanging out in the 21st Century.  (these ‘people’ being older versions of: the cool kids who used to all sit at the same table in the cafeteria, the tough kids who used to stand around their cars in the parking lot, without coats on, even when it was, like 20 degrees, the funny kids who you could never remember their names or which class they were in with you, but they always sat in the back and said some funny shit, the odd kids who aced their PSATs and SATs, but got Cs mostly, your best friend in Middle School who you somehow lost track of once you got settled into High School,  the girl who wanted you to ask her to the prom, the guy who wanted to ask you to the prom, the kids who never thought that the prom could be anything more than a night of ‘the people you are not like’  …you know…them)

Start Time: 7:30 EST

hey!  Susan and Christine and Dyanne and  Kristi (K2)  and Val and Sandy and Kathy and Stephanie! and Lisa  and Joy (of course!) and everyone else….  Katia!

(ha ha! Kristi!  had you going there for a minute!! didn’t I?? ( damn! there must be something to that business of having a secondary scottian aspect!! this teasing is so not me****)

the complixated thing?  oh yeah. So I was thinking about how the Doctrine is best used and how, to use it properly, there always a certain degree of  ‘are-you-frickin-kidding-me???! I don’t want to do that!! However, since I’m all into trying to learn to write, I said to myself, I said, ‘hey! clark. you don’t need to convince me, I already know this shit. Try explaining it to a total stranger. If they understand what you mean, you’re golden.’  so, here we go:

once we’re able to identify the predominant worldviews of people in our lives, we can begin to better understand ourselves. Example: if I see a clark acting a certain way, no matter how…not similar to my own life circumstance, I can say to myself, ‘what is it about the personal reality( worldview) that would cause a person to do that?‘ This is not always easy to do. In fact, a lot of the times it’s something that we don’t want to do! (‘oh man, I may be a clark, but what she just said is messed up!! no way I would be like that!”   sorry, clark… ‘yes way’. )

I live in the world as an Outsider. the way that I relate myself to the world around me is as an Outsider.  My circumstance, my address, my marital status, my occupation, my vices, my virtue, my ability in bed, my hates, my skills …that can all be as different as Oak Bluffs MA is to Oakridge TN,  but the bottom line is that I am living in the world*** as an Outsider. If you are relating yourself to the world around you as an Outsider, then the relationship is the same. Your decisions are going to be the same. different circumstance, same decision process. dig?  So look around. Start easy. Look for people sharing your worldview. Observe their actions and reactions. Understand how they are experiencing the world.

…more to follow.

* clarks, as a people, have a special relationship with time. it might be better to say, clarks sometimes exhibit a sense of time the way that rogers (can) have a talent for music…. i.e.  incredible execution, no creative ability. go up to a clark about to fall asleep and say,  ‘hey!  the alarm is broken, wake up at 6:31’  and sure enough…. they will open their eyes at 6:31.  but,  but!  go up to a clark and ask them, ‘hey! how long have I been working at my current  profession?’  and the answer the clark will give you will, almost certainly, be wrong on an order of magnitude that will make you to say, ‘where the hell have you been that last 13 years?!’

** Thanks to Cyndithia….. for the Spanish lesson!!

*** don’t forget! parts of the Doctrine may appear strange and a little difficult ‘to get’, at first, but it’s fun strange and difficult ‘to get’. When we talk about ‘personal reality’, we are not implying anything metaphysical or strange, we just believe that. on one level, all reality is personal. We all walk and talk, fight and cheer, sleep and work in the ‘real’ world. Where the Wakefield Doctrine separates itself from the ‘normal’ personality theories is when we say, ‘observe the other person (or yourself) and infer how that person is relating themselves to the world around them: as (an) Outsider would or (a) Predator or as a Herd Member’.  When you can do that, you will be in a position to know more about that person than you have any right to know… lol (better not tell them, though)

**** yeah, right