Month: December 2014 | the Wakefield Doctrine

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December 31, 2014 By clarkscottroger

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2014. the Year of the clarks

that’s it. to elaborate on that statement would be to indulge in a clarklike need, (which everyone knows, is not a choice of the individual, rather it is the character of their reality), to understand. Which is is kinda ironic, as the word, ‘understanding’ has the sense of finality to it ( “ah! I finally understand!” “I just don’t understand you!” “Why can’t you understand, I’ve changed!“) and clarks are many things, ‘final and established’ are not on the list of the things (that)…. (clarks) are. So, I will leave it to you to enjoy today’s Post in a manner that is the only manner available to you, according to your predominant worldview, like it could be any other way:

clarks: ” but…. but!! granted I had better days and less horrible days this year… oh wait, I see what you mean yeah sure cool maybe no, you’re right, this is not the time or place…”
scotts: ” you fricken’ clarks! of course it was your year, you had us around way more than ever (and, for the record, even though I know that you can’t help with the running yourself down (and running into doors in your haste to make up for something)…. cut it out.”
rogers: ” well, it’s been…. no wait, what the heck (… lol, you’re welcome)… just what the heck have you started with this rogers with secondary clarks…. but thanks for balancing, or, at least, trying to balance the negative and the positive… even though the clark worldview is, somehow nearly un-workable in terms of quantifiable correctness, it’s a start”

screw it! here I am, worrying about leaving anyone out, if I went with the ‘mention-the-high-points-of-the-year-past ( the fact of the matter, for all of my living inside my head, the things that happened in 2014 that are memorable and significant in my life, issued from people, both real and virtual), but that would be so… clarklike…. so, the only fair way to approach this is to see what comes out of the next 7 minutes of typing….

lol…. er, I remember…. wait, lets get a category (honestly! this never happened before!… no, don’t tell me it happens to nearly all bloggers at one time or another) the

2014 brought about: seeing the benefit of knowing other clarks, I wouldn’t call it a community, we clarks are way too …clarklike for that! but I am convinced that my knowing other clarks (as clarks) has improved my life, Lizzi’s efforts to create a community totally manifested this year at the TToT, Cynthia (tbfkac**) graduated er…graduate school lol, and continues to show us what/how clarks can do to improve their own lives (and by doing so, the lives of others), Christine for demonstrating the peculiarly fun relationship between clarks and scotts, Kristi (K2), not only for participating as a roger, but demonstrating the value and impact of secondary aspects, zoe (and her little dog, too! not only for her technical insight into personality and behavior, but her demonstration (of the benefits) that derive from living by the adage ‘to thine ownself be true’…she does that, in very trying circumstances, better than most….and she has a secondary rogerian aspect, but we’re not holding that against her, are we?
(man! try to deliberately do a stream of consciousness and all of sudden, I go all Roberts Rules of Order*** on this here Post here)

…. Kristi (not only for being a good person, but being a clark who takes it to the world… we all ‘helped’ her get ready for that ‘Voices of’ thing last spring…. and she did an amazing job, despite that!)… and Tucker, for being a person who is growing up in front of us… no, seriously! start blog: small child, write this post: a friend of mine’s kid (ok not so good at describing the subtle changes in childhood)….

“…continue Hey I’ll fight tunee securely on the edge hello ok so maybe this dictate as a matter means way of writing a blog postwill require practice I will continue while driving my car stock stop”

back at the keyboard. The above, of course, is me playing with toys, in this case, the dictate-into-the-tablet-as-a-way-to-write-Posts… a thanks to Denise who over the past year has been constantly suggesting that I write down whatever random thoughts I might have while driving, she also deserves mention as a clark-doing-amazing things…. hey! that’s what this Post is all about!

2014 has illustrated the huge potential of a new kind of context, one that is of the real world, with scotts and rogers but with the emphasis on …not supportive (that’s not possible if you’re an Outsider) not really nurturing ( ’cause that’s what all clarks try to do, except with everyone other than themselves)…. identification yeah, that’s the touchstone word for this year past, for this inter-something of clarks, along with scotts and rogers!

Instead of needing (from the other person) and without demanding (from the people around us), if I simply identify with you, I gain without taking and (somehow) as a result, can give without being indebted…

sure! ‘2014 the year of identification’ among clarks and scotts and rogers, because, as we know from the Wakefield Doctrine: we live our lives in one personal reality (the predominant worldview of the Outsider/clark, the Predator/scott or the Herd Member/roger), but we always retain the potential to see the world as the other two are experiencing it.

(* yes, I did use that reversing site on a TToT Post in the Year past… (a point to your clarklike nature for noticing it, a point to your rogerian nature if it seems important to let everyone know it)

** tbfkac: the blogger formerly known as Cyndi

*** no, that doesn’t make sense, but I smiled as I typed it, so it fricken stays

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lets take a little Survey! -the Wakefield Doctrine- (year-end kind of thing, you know, everyone loves a fun survey!)

December 29, 2014 By clarkscottroger

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(no, I will not be making a predictable joke about the endless stream of survey postings on ‘the Facebook’ ( “hey! I got child molester! what kind of repressed urges type are you?” … “I’m a Type 2 recovering glue chuffer, it’s fun and makes me feel a part of the crowd!” … “I got purple!….no, wait! that was puerile! what color is that?”)

Three parts to our Post today. Well, 4 parts, if you actually participate.

First: the Wakefield Doctrine personality type (aka predominant worldview) Assessment. After you’ve taken the test, come back and Answer our quick and easy Survey Questions! (Comments are optional. Of course, we already know what you will say in your Comments, once we see how you scored.)

The Assessment. (…no, you have to click on it! here! what, no, don’t go back…ready? (no, you don’t need a No.2 pencil)… all you have to…. if you have to, we’ll wait…. are you back yet? ok… no! you can’t be done already, you haven’t gotten to the link. Sure, you are well-behaved. Everyone ready now? what!?!!? no, there is no study guide…. yes, this is an open book. now, take you cursor and): CLICK HERE

….times up!

Now the fun part!

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine- (and the Award for ‘Worst Job Wrapping a Christmas Present’, goes to…)

December 27, 2014 By clarkscottroger

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Christmas was 2 days ago. This is the weekly ‘Ten Things of Thankful’ bloghop, I have a Post to write…. how hard can it be?

1) Shoes. New. photo: These are the shoes that Phyllis bought me. I liked the ones without feet in them, she insisted on including the ones that I’m wearing in the photo. As we walked out of the store, Phyllis said, ‘think of this as part of celebrating your clarklike nature‘. She was referring to the fact that the shoes (that she really liked), were of some kind of suede-like material, black and yet still evocative of wingtip shoes. It’s hard to see the wingtip row of holes in the photo. I liked the other pair of shoes because they were new and (as a clark, while I have a decent sense of fashion, a natural affinity for the better quality of clothing, I do not have enough of a sense of ‘dressing well’ and subsequently I will wear clothes until they are literally falling apart. (Of the three worldviews, rogers have the most developed sense of fashion and scotts have the most ruthlessly effective fashion sense and clarks, well we’re creative).

2) Christmas card. Yeah, I know, how often has anyone heard me say, ‘I’m really grateful for the Christmas card I received in the mail’? Well, I’d estimate about 45 x 10^‘never!’ lol However, Wednesday evening Phyllis came home and said, ‘you have a card in the mail!’ and I was all, ‘oh really?’ I looked at the return address and saw it was from Kristi (K2). I thought, ‘cool! all the way from the blogosphere!’ So it went up on the window, where Phyllis puts the cards that she gets us… Christmas cards in the home of a roger is the equivalent of diplomas on the wall of your doctor or accountant

…the upper left with the dogs on the front

3) While Phyllis approaches Christmas from a more mainstream, aka normal perspective, what with the enjoying the sharing of the seasonal good cheer with family, friends and near-strangers.. I’m glad she has a certain less-than-rigid-rogerian expectation for ‘the Right Way’, at least when it comes to wrapping presents. The photo at the top of this Post shows the last present I wrapped on Tuesday evening.

4) Una enjoyed her Christmas presents. (Yes, we* wrap them and hand them to her as we exchange our own gifts on Christmas morning. She does quite a good job of tearing away the paper and pulling the toy out.) We did not take any videos this year. But it was cute.

5) I am grateful for the moderate winter so far…in our area, (southern New England), no snow. Winter doesn’t get much better than that, short of catastrophic global warming.

6) I (remain) ever grateful for the Wakefield Doctrine. While the prospect of spending 4 plus years writing blog Posts on the same topic, ‘the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers‘, (this TToT being a partial exception), may seem to some to be daunting and limited, I have yet sat down and regretted owning a computer.

7) the Book of Secret Rules/Secret Book of Rules, (for many of us here at ‘the-bloghop-that-Lizzi-built’, the BoSR/SBoR is like the childhood friend that your parents insisted was a bad influence and how you would do better to find another friend. (yeah, for most of us, that would have been our scottian friend).

8) …in a slightly odd way** I really enjoyed Christine’s Christmas Family Newsletter Post the other day. The modern-day equivalent of the vacation slides*** the cool thing was that, as I read her Post, I found myself thinking, ‘I knew that already!… I heard about it when it happened!’ Kinda cool… realizing how I (apparently) know about the course of the lives of a number of people who are spread out across the globe, all because of the internet and the Wakefield Doctrine blog.

9) Susan Z Surprise Question/Item 9!!

We all went to grade school, call it 6 to 8 years.

What Grade comes to mind first?
What do you remember about that Grade…

3rd Grade come to mind. I spent a lot of time after school writing spelling words (as punishment). I was a bit of a disciplinary problem at that stage, much time in the Principal’s Office along with my scottian best friend. (in the way of clark/scott friendships, I would come up with the ideas, plans, smartass remarks and Alan (the scott) would actually do them/say them/get others to participate, of course, I got in trouble along with him, so the behind-the-scenes thing wasn’t really working as well as one might hope.

10) SBoR 1.3

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* by ‘we’, I mean, of course, ‘Phyllis’

** yeah, finally!

*** you went on vacation and your parents took the camera (35 mm film) out of storage on the top shelf in their closet and returned with a ton of photos and then had all 235 photos converted to slides (color transparencies that were mounted in little square cardboard things that were, in turn, put in a carousel that went in the projector). (‘Honey! is the phone book in the kitchen, I need to tilt this more’) and one Saturday evening you would have dinner way early and the smell of that purple perfume from your parents bedroom signaled an adult gathering at the house. You were expected to go to bed early and not come downstairs, no matter how wonderful the salted cocktail peanuts smelled. The ‘company ashtrays’ would be out on the end tables along with the coasters for the drinks. Sometimes the carousel would get dropped and the slides would be in total random order. …yeah, those slides

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a quick Christmas Tale -the Wakefield Doctrine-

December 26, 2014 By clarkscottroger

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Man! I must be getting old! Normally, by this part of the Christmas/New Year cycle I’ve already published Posts that address critical topics, among which are:

Merry Christmas/Happy New Year in as many languages as google or bing will claim to be able to translate
a High Points of the Year Past (“…how can we forget the time that Dyanne, without a single…”) memories faux and pre-faux alike
projected ideas into the coming year (“in talks with Animal Planet about a ‘re-thought, pre-scripted series’ working title: ‘but…but!!! it’s true, I can see right through….’)
Resolutions for the coming Year (“..and I promise myself to not close my eyes the next time”…..)

So imagine my surprise this morning, when after winning the second round of Metaphysical Solitaire (game motto: ‘no, it’s like meditation…except you get to keep score!’), I realized that I did not write the annual Christmas Fable Spin Post! damn! well, I’m kinda out of time, have to go to work. And, for the record, I do not wear Christmas-present clothes on the first day back to work… but none of you are surprised by that little revelation, are you? For some reason, I thought ‘3 Wise Men’ and you know what came next…which one is the scott and which is the roger? So, really quick:

Caspar is old, normally with a white beard, and gives the gold; he is “King of Tarsus, land of merchants” on the Mediterranean coast of modern Turkey, and is first in line to kneel to Christ. Melchior is middle-aged, giving frankincense from his native Arabia, and Balthazar is a young man, very often and increasingly black-skinned, with myrrh from Saba (modern south Yemen).

What subsequently happened to these gifts is never mentioned in the scripture, but several traditions have developed. One story has the gold being stolen by the two thieves who were later crucified alongside Jesus*. Another tale has it being entrusted to and then misappropriated by Judas. One tradition suggests that Joseph and Mary used the gold to finance their travels when they fled Bethlehem after the magi had warned them about King Herod’s plan to kill Jesus. And another story proposes the theory that the myrrh given to them at Jesus’ birth was used to anoint Jesus’ body after his crucifixion.

There are several traditions on where the remains of the Magi are located, although none of the traditions is considered as an established fact or even as particularly likely by secular history.

The Shrine of the Three Kings in Cologne Cathedral, Germany.

Marco Polo claimed that he was shown the three tombs of the Magi at Saveh south of Tehran in the 1270s:

In Persia is the city of Saba, from which the Three Magi set out and in this city they are buried, in three very large and beautiful monuments, side by side. And above them there is a square building, beautifully kept. The bodies are still entire, with hair and beard remaining.

—Marco Polo, Polo, Marco, The Book of the Million, book i.**

A Shrine of the Three Kings at Cologne Cathedral, according to tradition, contains the bones of the Three Wise Men. Reputedly they were first discovered by Saint Helena on her famous pilgrimage to Palestineand the Holy Lands. She took the remains to the church of Hagia Sophia in Constantinople; they were later moved to Milan (some sources say by the city’s bishop, Eustorgius I), before being sent to their current resting place by the Holy Roman Emperor Frederick I in AD 1164. The Milanese celebrate their part in the tradition by holding a medieval costume parade every 6 January.

Seeing how the hallmark of 2014 was the recognition on my part (albeit, somewhat late and a touch halting) of the level of comprehension shared by the Readers of this here Doctrine here, I can forgo a lengthy exegesis of our Christmas Tale and simply wish all a safe and good Holiday Season.

* am I the only one who immediately thought…. ‘Pulp Fiction’ (and) ‘Reservoir Dogs’? lol… ok, maybe I’m am but, but this scene!

** polo!! come on now! who out there didn’t immediately hear echoes of the childhood swimming pool game?

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the Wakefield Doctrine ‘elevator pitch version: 12.0.24.14’

December 24, 2014 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

(As I wrote the title today, and thought to myself, ‘yeah, a reasonable theme for a Wednesdaypost’, a second thought intruded, like the overly-aggressive dance partner, insisting on ‘just-one-more-this-is-a-great-song-to… This second thought, like the unwelcome guest at the party who tries to either get invited in, failing that is satisfying with the prospect of spoiling the evening for everyone else, echoes the doubt that is sub-text to many of the efforts here at the Doctrine blog, with the faux-friendly, ‘that’s the way to get taken seriously! call what you do here a ‘writing exercise’, an elevator pitch’. That’ll do it.)

the Wakefield Doctrine? it’s a way of looking at your life and the people in it. Not quite a personality theory, per se, this thing is more a perspective on why we do the things that we do. A way of posing the question, ‘of all the possible responses to this situation, out of the near-countless options open to me, why would I choose to act this way’. The Wakefield Doctrine would have us ask, ‘why would I choose to feel this way’, given that how we feel about our lives can be more critical to living a satisfying life, than what we think to ourselves (though, arguably this two can be one and nearly the same). Properly applied, the Doctrine will drastically reduce the number of times you find yourself saying, ‘Why on earth would they go and do/say something like that?! I really thought I knew them better.’

There are, 3 personality types that (can) account for everyone in the world. The three: clarks, scotts and rogers:

clarks grow up and develop in the world of the Outsider, for clarks, the world (and everyone and everything except for them) is ‘out there’ and they (the clarks) are in this place that they find themselves in, quietly and, at times, desperately, trying to blend in, to pass as ‘a real person’… but before you begin to feel sorry for them, know that clarks touch the world that is not, and in doing so, have the gift of genuine creativity and true (albeit a touch self-destructive) selflessness
scotts live today the life of the Predator… while this word/label/type has connotations of hostile aggressiveness, voraciousness and truly basic appetites, these qualities of life can only be maintained by living in and of the present… not dozing away the day in a dream of future pleasure or the memory of pleasure already felt, of the three personality types, scotts live their lives by embracing the moment…
rogers are Members of the Herd and therefore know that the world is quantifiable and, while accepting that life is not always fair or good, kind or just, seek to discover the Right/Correct way to demonstrate this fundamental fact… it’s been said that a roger knows that there is a Right Way and a million Wrong Ways to act and they hope only to be able to demonstrate the Right Way rather than be content to merely point out the wrong

Become familiar with the characteristics of these there worldviews (personal realities) and you will be ready to use the Wakefield Doctrine in your day today. How? Simple. Observe the behavior of the person (or yourself) and ask the question, ‘how are they relating themselves to the world around them?’. The successful application of our little personality theory is to able to ‘see the world as the other person is experiencing it’. Do this and you will know more about the other person (and about yourself) than you have any right to know. You will be able to anticipate their actions and decisions, choices and reactions to all sorts of the everyday situations that we all find ourselves in…. well, everyday!

In case any of you are thinking, ‘well, this is a fine theory and I’m sure to study it, but I’m on a coffee break at work! I want to have some quiet fun!’, I say…. alright, here’s some Christmas music (along with some Doctrine observationing):

…sure, I enjoy the normal things about the Christmas season! As a matter of fact, Phyllis just came into the room to ask if I knew ‘the name of that song that everyone likes’ (New Readers? Phyllis is a roger)… I assumed that I knew the answer and so I figured out what she meant and gave her the ‘half-correct’ answer (New Readers? I’m a clark). The song is from Handel’s Messiah. I went and found a youtube of it from a performance by the Royal Choral Society. As I watched, I began to see things… odd things. The (female) lead singer (at 0:16 into the vid)… and then, the young girl who wishes she were somewhere else ( at 0:22 ) then! (and I just saw it as I went through the vid looking for the next scene…the women in the center (of both rows), one with short brown hair, the woman behind her with long blond hair… holy smoke, rogers on amphetamines?) ( at 0:30 )…now watch the two singers in the back row… what the hell?! their friends, were, like, up in the audience waving at them? ( at 0:32 ) why are we seeing only the backs of the people who are clearly lead singers? ( at 0:48 ). ( at 1:16 ) sure are a lot of rogers, but those two, one in the row behind the other….one with a crew cut, both with glasses). It’s safe to say that, among the men in this chorus, most are rogers with a handful of clarks (the ones with the slightly pained look on their faces)…. here!! ( at 1:44 ) one of each!! we don’t have to tell you which is which, do we? ( at 2:36 ) …how the hell did they get Angela Merkel to sit in?!! ) I find it interesting to note that there’s a much higher percentage of clarklike females in the chorus compared to the number of than male-like clarks! )