Month: August 2014 | the Wakefield Doctrine

GPTGP the Wakefield Doctrine (yes, we have, apparently, run out of rogers)

August 14, 2014 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

(I have mentioned that, everything I do, related to the Wakefield Doctrine, results in a new/better/enhanced-even-just-a-tiny-little-bit understanding of myself, right?)

(…and I’ve surely related how the Wakefield Doctrine and my efforts to present it to others, is, somehow, self-motivating and I’ve never feared the blank white screen of an un-written Post, correct?)

Good.

Our Thursday series, (the) Guest Post Thursday’s Guest Post (series) has been a resounding success. Unfortunately, I am totally out of rogers (might have a scott or two somewhere, and a handful of clarks), but not a single, (yeah, right as if they are ever in singles….even when they are totally alone, rogers are never single lifeforms), grow-up-develop-coping-strategies-appropriate-to-a-reality-based-on-being-a-member-of-the-Herd.

‘what the hell?!’ (you may say), ‘hey!! they’re all over the frickin place!!’ (you are, no doubt, yelling), ‘jeez it should be so easy! to be rid of those life-sapping managers at work, …but here at the Doctrine they are not so …. difficult‘ (many are thinking), ‘are they talking about me?…. what a concept! of course they’re talking about me…. wait just a minute!! are they laughing?!?’ ( some are feeling annoyed). But the truth is, we are out. For the moment. Which is kinda too bad, as the rogerian Thursdays have been very popular.

…damn! I just now realized what I have to do (yeah, this here blog is kinda ‘self-development in-the-round’, lol).

I need to get us some more rogers.

…shit

[New Readers: the Wakefield Doctrine is, among a lot of other things, a tool for self-development. If you have always wanted to change certain things, get rid of bad habits or un-healthy appetites, but have found only limited success with traditional approaches ( or worse, changed as you hoped, only to find yourself backsliding to the old way), the Wakefield Doctrine is for you. The key to the self-improvement value is found in the belief that, while we all live in one of the three personal realities (worldviews), we never lose the potential of the other two. While I am a clark (growing up and living in the reality of the Outsider), I have a significant secondary scottian aspect (to see the world as does the Predator) and a pretty weak tertiary rogerian aspect (the life of the Herd Member).

The cool thing about the Wakefield Doctrine, (as a tool for self-improvement): if I want to develop my own-damn-self, I don’t have to unlearn anything and I don’t have to bring in anything overly new. I simply have to look to my secondary and tertiary aspects. It’s all there!]

so… this business of continuing the GPTGP series. I need to do something about the lack of rogers around here, (i.e. my scottian aspect), rather than think and talk and, worse, try to hope that someone else will do something.

…ok all set.

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Tuesday the Wakefield Doctrine …probably the least clark-inimical Day of the Workweek ( so, of course we talk about fear!)

August 12, 2014 By clarkscottroger

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hey! Friend of the Doctrine Kristi writes:

“Is it totally normal for Clarks, as they get older, to not worry about being an outsider so much? Because I feel like I don’t care about that part these days. I might just be tired though…”

Very provocative question! I can think of two ‘answers’. As with (most) things Doctrine, the real value, however, is to be found in how the Question/Answer, manifests (in my worldview or your worldview) The coolest thing about this here personality theory here, is that without fail, anytime I try to apply its principles to a situation, a problem, a hypothetical or I-need-to-know, I learn something new about myself.

Answer 1) yes. as we grow older, many of us clarks find that we don’t care so much about our status as Outsiders. (Here it is important to remember the Wakefield Doctrine‘s rather unique approach to personality types and behavior, i.e. we clarks are Outsiders in our own personal reality.¹) The thing of it is, as we get older, our interests and passions become less…varied. We like what we like and are less inclined to seek the new, the different, the maybe-this-will-be-different-and-I-won’t-feel-so-not-a-part-of-everything. Not saying that this is a bad thing. Hell, of the three worldviews, we are the most curious and (most) likely to discover the unique and strange things in the world around us. (As clarks) we also have a tendency to encounter situations that, perhaps, our scottian and rogerian family members and friends would not… to the extent that, as young(er) clarks, we often hear, ‘you did what?! you hangout with who??!’ (of course, we hear those alarmed statements and feel just the glimmer of pride, that we are doing something that, by all indications, the real people in our lives would not ever try to do.)

…but there is still, the fear.

Answer 1.b) when we are young clarks, we are not as accomplished at disguising our Outsider nature. fear is a wet army blanket, big, cumbersome and impossible to fold into an inconspicuous shape. As we grow and mature, we get better at negotiating with the fear. more sophisticated, if you will. But it is there. always. not, at this point of our lives, is the fear always so obvious. what makes fear so insidious, at the later stages of a clark’s life is that it has become an integral part of the calculus of our interactions with the world around us.

Answer B) many of us have learned at least part of the Answer that we have been seeking our entire lives.² …. well, hell, spend a lifetime trying and even though it is a fundamentally flawed assumption, you are going to learn something about how to look and act and sound like everyone around you.

Answer 6) …besides, maybe we are getting old, but so are the scotts and rogers in our world… and I’ll let you in on a little secret Insider Doctrine wisdom, age is kinder to clarks than it is to scotts and rogers (which is as it should be….given that we started out our lives old.)

(hey!! I deny being, in any way, addicted to the stats. if no one comes to the Doctrine on a given day, means nothing at all to me! even if I don’t post new content!)

(…however. I got a chuckle* out of zoe’s Post from yesterday, so if you are reading this, you should be reading this!)

* yes, that does totally identify me as an old person…

1) remember, the Doctrine seeks only to infer ‘how a person is relating themselves to the world around them’, identifying this relationship, will tell us if they are living in the world of the Outsider or the Predator or the Herd Member… once this is correctly inferred, we know all about ya. The Wakefield Doctrine maintains that: if you grown up, mature and develop in the (personal) reality of the Outsider, then you will tend to make certain decisions, prefer certain approaches to life situations and act a certain way, because it is the best coping strategy, (aka personality type), given the world you exist in. The same applies to those who develop in the world of the Predator or the reality of the Herd Member. Personality type, for the Wakefield Doctrine, is simply the characteristic coping strategies best suited to a given worldview.

2) clarks believe that there is something that they do not know about life that accounts for their not being like everyone else. clarks believe (consciously or not) that there is information, knowledge, fact (you know, rational stuff) that once learned, will allow them to be accepted into the company of ‘real people’.

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Random Monday the Wakefield Doctrine (if this were organized like a real personality theory, you’d have to pay for it)

August 11, 2014 By clarkscottroger

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So we (Cyndi and Denise and yours truly) were talking on the WDSLDR Call-in this Saturday. The topic was, superficially, about rogers, but in actuality, it was about clarks.

…because, the Wakefield Doctrine is for you, not them

we came to the conclusion that, prior to entering a new situation, most clarks prefer to know more (about the situation) rather than less. Sometimes this is a reasonable ambition, other times it is not. When it is not, clarks tend to retreat into their heads, in an effort to ‘figure out’ their best approach to the situation. Of course, this tactic will result in our clark not actually participating in the actual events. With this non-attentiveness to the reality we are in, our status of being the Outsider is totally assured. So, as we discussed on Saturday, how do you properly prepare for events that lie in the future and are therefore not completely knowable? (We rolled down the windows and yelled and hooted at a car full of kids from school going in the opposite direction.*) We were using, as the example of this principle, the new work situation that Cyndi was facing at the start of the new year. Most telling was that it was ‘knowing the people’ that she was going to be expected to work with (and in some cases, direct and manage). While we (Denise and me) were no help with the particulars of her work environment, it did occur to us that:

…with the Wakefield Doctrine, you (or me) or maybe just Cyndi, already knows everyone she is going to be working with, even if she has never met them before that first day… they will be clarks or there might be a scott there (probably not two, at least not in the same work environment) and a whole bunch of rogers. so, ‘fear of the unknown? not for this clark!’

We laughed, in part (or in whole), at the realization that, even after years of study, the Wakefield Doctrine still had new insights to offer!

Our conversation continued well past the normal cutoff time of the Saturday Night Drive (8:00 to 8:45 pm EDST). So, if you are in possession of a telephone next Saturday Night give us a call! It’s fun and informative and you will benefit!

with the insights afforded by an understanding of the (principles) of the Wakefield Doctrine, you will never need find yourself saying, “How could they say such at thing? I really thought I knew them better than that!”
…clarks think, scotts act and rogers feel
rogers organize parties, scotts are the most sought after guests and clarks find themselves there, despite their best efforts to the contrary

You know that old aphorism …or chestnut or, ‘come here son, I have something about Life to tell you’, thing about ‘if you have a job that you need done, ask a…’? Well, the Wakefield Doctrine says:

if you need it done right as soon as possible and you don’t care how neatly, or carefully (or correctly) done it is……… ask as scott
if you need it done, don’t mind not getting credit for it being done and don’t care how long it takes to get done………. ask a roger
if you need it done and you’d rather be doing something/anything else and you don’t care if it is completely done (better than you had hoped) or completely done…….ask a clark

* I think that was a scene from either ‘American Graffiti’ or it could have been ‘Dazed and Confused’

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TToT the Wakefield Doctrine ( Ten Things, right? the primary criteria of any list surely is/are the number of items)

August 9, 2014 By clarkscottroger

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Gratiudious items for this week:

got my camera (Sony Bloggie) to work again… come on telephone-in-car Interviews!
got a chance/took a chance and explained /introduced the Wakefield Doctrine to my dental hygenistist result?: smile from her and shiny teeth (for me)
glenn for vid interview
got started on this list Friday morning… not Saturday morning
took a video of (a portion) of our Friday walk, I played it back and found myself laughing (at the fun we have)
the photo above is of Una… dogs have this innate ability to develop certain habits and behaviors that are rather cool, in this example, she decided fairly early in her life to sit next to me at my (quote) desk (unquote) and, being small enough, use my legs as the back-half of her den.*
the Wakefield Doctrine… yesterday at the office: an agent from another company arrived to drop off some docs. he is a total roger** so Denise (not Girlie-on-the-Edge Denise, a different Denise***) and I are standing, (with another agent), at the copy machine (i.e. the modern equivalent of the Dagwood Bumpstead water cooler), anyway, we’re standing there talking and Denise says to Ben (the roger), ‘hey what about that showing you were going to confirm’ and he takes out his phone and holds it up to show the email confirmation (from his Seller) for the showing in question. A simple ‘yes’ would have served. He proceeds to hold up the phone to show a photo of an un-related property, so he could say, “You know this house? I just sold it” (…no response from us) “…full Price!” (still no response)…”five Offers!” I looked at Denise and smiled as she started to play with the roger, (the way that scotts like to do) “oh really? that’s amazing!! your own Buyer?” and, of course, he brightened right up… (I walked back to my desk laughing… my work was done).
this bloghop with it’s astonishing capacity to allow ….variations on the simple, used-by-countless-skilled-and-sucessful bloggers format of a Gratitude List bloghop. I mean, how simple need it be? Write about the 10 things you most identify as the events or people, activity or relationship that engenders a feeling of Gratitude… that has occurred in the previous 7 days. Pretty straight forward, right?
lol…. and then there’s this blog Post (though I will say, it’s not like I’m alone anymore with the outré grat list…. our friend zoe is given to taking the path less-written and our Founderess Lizzi! I mean, have you seen some of the things she’s done? secret Password protected Posts no less! ( v cool… and yes, I did try ‘clarkscottroger’ and ‘the Wakefield Doctrine’ as possible passwords…. no ego here! lol)
…so if you are out there and are thinking, “damn! that bloghop sure does have some talented and hot writers and writerettes… I don’t know if I can be as clear and straight forward as some of them like this Kristi or that Dyanne or … or Chicken Coop wall woman… .” take heart… join us this weekend.

Hypo-gratitudinous items for this week:

thumbnail photo (…on the Wakefield Doctrine landing page….here, notice the color of the leaves on the apple tree? yeah, I know…”what color?” it’s only August and the leaves are beginning to turn… what the hell!?!)
Item 1 on the ‘Grat List’ above came a day too late, as I had to use my phone of the video of glenn’s Post for GPTGP…

Video that made me laugh…twice, both times I’ve watched it!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rBGpq5KdWDA

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* dogs have an innate drive/instinct to find a safe place in their environment, a cave or den (literally or figuratively) in our case, semi-under my banquet table/desk

** Cyndi had an observation (forming the basis of yesterday’s Post) about whether or not it is possible to not have a significant secondary or tertiary aspects (it is and Ben, in our story above, is a person with pretty much just his predominant rogerian worldview… the result is: a very successful real estate agent. No, really! in this business the most successful man-like agents are rogers and the most successful female agents are scotts and the best agents are clarks¹

*** she is a scott with a significant secondary clarklike aspect

1) if by ‘best’ we mean, ‘putting the clients interests before the agent’s own interests’

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“1…2..3…4 ” (the Wakefield Doctrine) “…can I have a little more”

August 8, 2014 By clarkscottroger

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Excellent insight/question in two Parts, from DownSpring Cyndi:

Part 2:
(So my question is this): was he a clark and only a clark? He did have a little bit of scott in him because when he got pissed off, he’d raise hell, haha, but is there such a think as a “very private” clark? I mean, we already lead “observer” lives, but we’re often guilty of sharing too much to try to cover that all up. He didn’t. What gives? Was it his after-war trauma? Or is it possible a clark is 100% clark (no secondary or tertiary) and doesn’t over-share?

Part 1:
Husby and I were discussing how clarks often say way too much in social contexts just to try to “cover up” our “outsiderness” from the very often present rogers.
Okay, so the subject of husby’s dad comes up. The guy, we think, was a veritable clark, too. But, he had been in Germany in World War II. He was a sensitive guy, and very, very traumatized after returning after the war.
All his life, he was a true thinker: he was a civil engineer, introverted, and very witty.
But, he never said more than what was necessary. In fact, he was an extremely, extremely private dude, and never revealed too much about himself. He was a great observer, but managed to do it in a way that didn’t alarm people.

*you wanna know why I enjoy this Doctrine and the ensuing discussions, these days? I was in the process of formatting your Comment and I re-read the line, “… he was a civil engineer” and the thought popped in my head, ‘well, as a clark that should come as no surprise’. lol*

This Comment is of perfect timing, as I have been struggling of late with the question, ‘ok, they all get the Doctrine, what do we do next?!’ I read in your Comment, a couple of topics that may not have gotten a lot of attention recently. The most significant, (of the topics) is: the nature of the secondary and tertiary aspects, how they affect our behavior and whether they can be developed to our deliberate benefit. Even more basic a question, which I’m glad you mentioned is: “…is it possible a clark is 100% clark (no secondary or tertiary) and doesn’t over-share?”

absolutely. The Doctrine maintains that we’re heir to all three worldviews. And though, as clarks (and as products of Western culture ) we tend to think, ‘things must add up’ there is no necessity to have a significant secondary or tertiary aspect. I personally know of people who are predominate clarks or scotts or rogers with, (effectively), zero secondary aspects. So it is very possible to have people who do not have that additional spectrum of behavior that a secondary and tertiary aspect can account for in an individual.

I liked the idea expressed in your Comment about how clarks tend to, “…say way too much in social contexts just to try to “cover up” our “outsiderness” from the very often present rogers.” (funny, I was going to elaborate on your point with something about the things we say are meant, in part, as offerings to the social gatekeepers around us, to try and buy our way in…and I re-read your Comment and that’s exactly what is implied by your choice of the verb ‘say’ (as opposed to quite a few other words).

(Finally), I like that you remind us of the principle of ‘everyone does everything, at one time or another’…. meaning: go to war, chose engineering as an occupation, etc…. all three do it, what matters is how do these things manifest in our predominant worldviews. (there are even scottian engineers!! my god…their homelife must be insane!!!)

HEY! new Readers. you know you like what you’re reading. and, don’t worry, you’ll pick up the details and the list of characteristics of the three (to make it easier to identify a person’s predominant worldview), in time… but if you want a very quick insight into what we are discussing here today, follow this link to Cyndi’s blog and watch the video there in that Post. It will be a perfect illustration of a clark with a significant secondary scottian aspect. go on, now…. come back and tell us what your thoughts are on the vid. (the one you were supposed to go to, scott!! ok, I know you got distracted…. here is the link to the Post at ‘the ‘tude’