Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

So, yesterday I asked Readers to Comment-write Questions that I could use as topic(s) of discussion in a video Post. Lizzi and Jean stepped right up and provided the following:

Jean:

• Question #1. if I were new here: if I gave you a list of famous people, would you be able to tell what sort of person they are (or were),really fast? For example, Paul McCartney? And how about that Clippers owner who just got banned?
• Question #2: What if I told you I don’t LIKE asking rude or adversarial questions? What are you going to do about that, eh? WELL?¹

Lizzi:

• 1. Why will a clark keep giving and giving and giving, getting nothing in return, and STILL refuse to call it a ‘toxic’ or ‘draining’ relationship (side-note of which, how deep *is* the clark wellspring for this
• 2. How come scotts can COMPLETELY switch off their compassion to make fun of other people, in groups?¹

the Wakefield Doctrine is a perspective on human behavior disguised as a personality theory. the key premise of this theory is that we all, to a small, but quite real extent, live our lives in what can best be called a ‘personal reality’. (This concept is nothing all that revolutionary or exotic. To get a glimpse of what we mean by ‘personal reality’, all you need do is gather the family around the dinner table,  after a wonderful day spent at the Family Reunion Picnic and ask the simple question: “So, did everyone have a good time today?”  the term ‘personal realities’ will immediately be illustrated, (we use the term: worldview). the Wakefield Doctrine proposes that we all find ourselves (at a very early age, say, 3 to 5 years old) in one of three worldviews: that of the Outsider, the Predator or the Herd Member. We grow up and develop personally and socially, psychologically and spiritually in the context of (one of these three) personal realities. The result is what we refer to as being a clark or a scott or a roger.  So we all have one reality that we live our lives in…we call that our ‘predominant worldview’. We do, however, retain the potential to experience the world as do ‘the other two’ (which is why, in the initial attempts to determine one’s own worldview, there can be confusion, i.e. “sorry… I’m pretty sure that  I’m a roger but sometimes I’m a scott I must be some new personality type”). The reason we say that there is only one predominant worldview is that, what we mean when we talk about using the Doctrine to ‘know more about the other person than they know about themselves’, is that what we are trying to do,  is actually  to, ‘infer how the other person is relating themselves to the world around them‘.  the Wakefield Doctrine is not simply about studying the acts and behavior and traits and reactions of the person, just to try and fit them into a category or chart or, as Sarah termed it, ‘the mold’  and then proclaim (that) person’s personality type. Nope! Wrong. Totally incorrect/off-base/missed-by-a-mile/neither-horseshoes-nor-hand-grenades/never-mind-‘home run’-you-were-out-before-you-came-within-90-feet-of-First-Base…sorry, that’s not what the Doctrine is trying to (let you) do! What then, is the Wakefield Doctrine trying to help to let you do? Is that your question? (’cause you know, we don’t have any Answers here….only a fun way to re-phrase the Question)… well, we’re glad you asked!  All we’re doing is trying to ‘see the world as the other person is experiencing it²‘.

…cool, huh?

So… while I go out and tape myself answering the questions above, I understand that Joy Christi (ComfyTown Chronicles) is doing a vid Post today too! Go check her out (that’s ok, I can say that, she’s a scott) (lol)  Check back here…say around 11:00 EDST I’ll have the vids up

In Response to Jean’s excellent question:

In Response to Lizzi’s questions:

and finally, this Surprise Guest Appearance by Friend of the Doctrine glenn:

1) scottian/pack-based humor

2) yeah, Christine!  more trick wording! we did not quite borrow the famous ‘see the world as the other person sees it (as they walk along in the moccasins)’  we did totally say, ‘as the person experiences it’  big difference, non?