Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)
Well, do you?
Well, before we get into what that word is, about today’s video Post. Pretty good, right? You will be Commenting in the form of a video (though audio is acceptable), won’t you? To reinforce the ‘message’ of the video Post, we are totally serious about the fact that when we talk about personal realities we mean real…. reality. Not… “well I feel like yelling out during a movie!” or ” I think you look great in that dress and no one will notice your complexion, believe me” or even ” I really will work hard on getting a job, it will all work out for the best.”
We’ll revisit this aspect of the Wakefield Doctrine more frequently going forward, as we now have Considerer and Michele and (the others) asking the hard questions.
So the word.
It’s an innocent enough word. More than innocent, this word is often considered to be one of positive meaning and intent, a hopeful word, an optimistic word. But as a loan shark is to your local bank, the price of the loan is always higher than the value secured.
The word is ‘maybe’.
In the hands (or on the tongues) of clarks, the word is meant well. “It is a good job, maybe I’ll get it“. Perhaps because, when clarks look at the world we see people and institutions, groups and family members who, while certainly not intending us harm, (they all) clearly know something that we don’t know. “Maybe I don’t want to be a doctor, maybe I really want to find my own way”. The words we use when describing the world we find ourselves in, are picked with the hope of blending in, looking to be a member or, one of the guys/one of the girls. “I think I should ask her out, maybe I’ll wait until a better time” “How many times do we have to discuss this, maybe next time you’ll listen to me”
Not really sure what it was that struck me about the use of the word ‘maybe’, it just seems that it has a certain resonance when employed by clarks. It is a word that lets us ‘commit without committing’, a word designed to insulate us from disappointment. clarks fear disappointment almost as much as we fear fear. More in a way. Fear can be run from. Disappointment is a sentence of reduced possibility. And if clarks are anything, we are people who believe that having possibilities is the difference between a possibly happy life and a life where we still have options. In a sense, as long as we have the possibility (of something) there is hope. Maybe.
About clarkscottroger
Maybe I’ll go to the pizza thing this weekend (Saturday night, actually) where my friend appears on Wheel of Fortune.
Maybe I’ll figure out just what it is that I’m supposed to do with myself.
Maybe I’m supposed to do something big with my life.
Maybe I’m not.
Maybe I don’t know.
Just…maybe.
@Cyndi
lol “…by george, I think shes got it!”
Maybe… I don’t know…. ;)
@Molly
You are succinct …as always (I will have to do a follow-up Post. …maybe)
“we are people who believe that having possibilities is the difference between a possibly happy life and a life where we still have options. In a sense, as long as we have the possibility (of something) there is hope. Maybe.”
This. Is. Brilliant.
I feel that we (clarks) may consistently take on the role of a consultant in our own lives – happy to ply the knowledge and experience as long as we don’t have to take the responsibility!
@Considerer
…well that seals it, you are totally one of the DownSprings of this here Doctrine thing here…
congratulations, Considerer! … (I benefit from reading your insights)
Hey! (just thought of it)…do you have a Wakefield Doctrine docTee yet? let me know
Why thank you – I shall try not to water on everyone in a manner undesired!
And no, I don’t yet – but it depends on your fee for international shipping as to whether that situation continues or not ;)
@Considerer
cool as to the cost, hey! you’re a clark you have already paid the price of membership (lol… for the clarks, the rogers are sneering, the scotts hold back a second, see that we don’t care about what anyone thinks and joins us in laughing)
I will contact you by email… the only thing is I have one grey docTee left, but I am planning on ordering a new batch of ‘not-grey’ docTees if you don’t mind waiting a few weeks I will send you one of the new ones or (immediately) the grey one that I have.
I can certainly wait (grey has the propensity to make me look ill). Thank you, and what a wonderful conversation starter it will be :D
I assume you can figure out how to get my email from this here comment box thing (blowed if I can ever work it out), if not, I shall furnish you with it.
Thank you :)
@Considerer
“…and what a wonderful conversation starter it will be :D”
err… hold that thought, lol
(If any of the other DownSprings want to perhaps relate any experiences as conversation starters… “so, you say you are a part of a secret Doctrine?” “is there really a Wakefield or is that code?” “I think your theory should be renamed to ‘the theory of clarks (the speaker’s name) and rogers” (from your scottian friend) lol it is actually fun. Will send email
Ooooh I get so irritated when people use that word. Just say yes or no, damnit! LOL. I don’t think I’ve used the word ‘maybe’ very often, because it drives me up the wall when other people say it most times. But sometimes, I do use it to irritate someone else!! ;)
@Melanie
it’s the totally committed non-committal!