Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)
the Wakefield Doctrine is a way to look at the behavior of the people in our lives and appreciate the world as they are experiencing it.
(nope! while this opening sentence may sound like we’re still in serious discussion mode, we are not.)
Since I’m stumbling around (rhetorically, of course) this morning for today’s ‘hook’ lets get out everyone’s favorite, the dileto of the wannabe-good-writer, the blog Post’s best friend… bullet points (bulletpoint motto: ‘hey! you have incomplete thoughts that seem like, in skilled hands might be intriguing to the Reader? bring ‘em on!’):
- clarks think, scotts act and rogers feel
- the Wakefield Doctrine is for you, not them
- the Wakefield Doctrine will allow you to infer how the other person is ‘relating themselves to the world around them’.
- the Wakefield Doctrine will put you in a position to know more about the other person than they know about themselves ( variation 1.3: ‘with the Wakefield Doctrine you will know more about the other person than you have any right to know’.)
- clarks are the people that you know you really like, but sometimes get busy with and forget
- scotts are the friend that you know will do something to embarrass you, but you also are really fond of them, so you pre-excuse them before each new social gathering
- rogers make up the majority of any group of people you might encounter, their solidarity is such (and secret) that there is no concern with having too many of them… the herd is horizontal (not vertical as with a pack of scotts) and clarks?… hell! you could have one (maybe two, never more than three) working alongside you the whole day today and not notice them, unless one of two things happen: a) the clark gets upset (no, it will not be with you! if they were upset with you, you would not only not know, you would not notice them…at all) or 2) need something that the others of your kind simply are not capable of providing (i.e. acceptance without reciprocity)
- scotts will make you laugh, rogers will encourage you to laugh, clarks will let you laugh
- when you were growing up and in elementary school… in trouble a lot? a scott …one of two sent to the Principles’ Office? a clark …afraid to get in trouble with the Teacher yet still have it happen …scott (female)
- oh yeah… haven’t mentioned this in a while, the Wakefield Doctrine is gender neutral and culture neutral
- we have all three types in potential, however we live in one personal reality, i.e. our predominant worldview
- last item…. and this is a hint as to why yesterday’s discussion was so intriguing and difficult…. ready? these personal realities? they are real. We talk about how clarks are the ‘Outsider’ personality type, right? and we can recognize a clark (or a scott or a roger) because of characteristic ways of behaving (of course, what we really mean by this is ‘relating themselves to the world around them’)…but the basic fact is that for me (for example), I am (an) Outsider. and scotts? the world they live in is the reality of the Predator and Prey, they are not choosing to act as they do, they are acting the way that they do simply because, given the nature of the world, ‘as they experience it’, it is the only way to act and live and thrive successfully. rogers? same thing the world (when a roger wakes up this morning), is, in fact, a quantifiable place…2 + 2 not only equals 4 it cannot equal anything else….ever. and the relationship rogers have with the traditions they experience and discover and learn about?…all real and all very full of value ….to them. not a choice, a fact. reality. we’re all used to/been brought up knowing that the world is the world as it appears to us… ‘you can’t fight city hall’, ‘measure twice cut once’, ‘haste makes waste’, ‘to the victor goes the spoils’, ’waste not want not’…. all those things are of the world we all live in, but we all live in our own personal reality and that’s the gift of and fun of the Wakefield Doctrine
- ya know?