a scott, a party (no surprise there) the Wakefield Doctrine (…it is the same party and yes, we will get back to the clark)

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks who think, scotts who are all and simply about acting and rogers…so emotional)

The Wakefield Doctrine maintains that we all live our lives within and from one of three characteristic worldviews:

  1. the personal reality of ‘the Outsider’ (the clark)
  2. the environment of ‘Predator and prey’, (the scott) and
  3. the world of ‘belonging to the Herd’ (which is the perspective of the roger).

Since this is the second in a series illustrating how the Wakefield Doctrine can offer advice on meeting new people and how best to make decisions regarding relationships, lets jump to another worldview!

…by looking at the (rather common) situation in the life of a scott:

  • a scott
  • a party, of course you’re invited
Friday
You’re a scott.  You have your weekly staff meeting scheduled for 3:00 pm. In your Company, these meetings are seen as examples of how to research, plan, organise and execute a Staff meeting so that it is productive and everyone leaves feeling confident they are valued members of your team. Your Meeting Agendas are regarded as proof of what careful planning and meticulous research will produce in team morale building meetings.  You accept the approval of your superiors with grace and an inner smile,  knowing that ‘the Agenda’ is simply the cover, a diversion from the fact that what you do at these meetings comes naturally, and not from meticulous research and planning.

In the main work area, on your way to your office, you pass one of your newer employees saying to the group surrounding him,  “today’s my birthday… I reserved the private function room at the Calypso Club tonight… throwing myself a party!”  You decide you need some amusement, so you stop, which causes everyone to quickly return to their desk, leaving only you and the  ‘New Hire’, and you say. “Did I hear you say there was a party?” They look startled at the attention they are receiving, but recover quickly, “Yeah…. uh yes! the Company Policy doesn’t say anything about not having parties!
You say nothing. Enjoying the growing discomfort and uncertainty on their face. You can see the struggle going on inside their head…’do I run or fight it out?’ You say, “What time?”  Startled but with a look of relief they say, “8:30!”  As you walk away, without looking back,  you say, “I’ll be there!”

The first 1/8th of your work day  is spent answering emails and returning calls. You hate this part of your job.

The rest of your work day is spent solving problems and coaching your staff as they struggle with the workload. You love this part of your job.

The last 1/8th of  your work day is spent in meetings with upper Management. The CEO  is someone you respect and listen to, he single-handedly built the Company and though he has been said to be tyrannical, monomaniacal and abusive, you have a good relationship with him. The CFO, not so much. You find the precise, overly careful, fussiness of this Executive to be annoying, but you have resigned yourself to having to tolerate him. He totally loves you.

…your time at home before having to leave for the party is spent… looking at the mess your place is, resolve to keep it cleaner, well neater at any rate, find what you are looking for, have a bite to eat, debate going to the gym, decide to use the expensive exercise equipment you own, start 3 games of online scrabble as you ride the stationary bike, alternating between texting your siblings at college, emailing your folks back home, quick microwave dinner, drink a coke, decide to go on a diet take work clothes off throw things over your shoulder looking for the shoes you really wanted to wear to the party thinking of that makes you look at the clock realizing you are late take a shower get dressed and run out the door

The final 1/12th of the last 1/3 of your time at home  ….with a sense of excited anticipation, head out to the Calypso Club

(to be continued…)

(switched out the music vid from Ladysmith Black Mambazo to our little friends at Halestorm, have used this vid recently but it so gets the feel of today’s Post. Plus the drummer is so much fun to watch.)

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Well, what exactly do you want to know? Whether I am a clark or a scott or roger? If you have to ask, then you need to keep reading the Posts for two reasons: a)to get a clear enough understanding to be able to make the determination of which type I am and 2) to realize that by definition I am all three.* *which is true for you as well, all three...but mostly one

Comments

  1. Loved seeing the party example from the Scott point of view. Truly an amazing job proving the point of the three different personality types perfectly and can’t wait to see the last of them with the Roger.

    • clarkscottroger clarkscottroger says:

      Thank you, Janine

      …will set up the rogerian ‘perception’ next. Now, the real fun will start when ‘we all’ get to the party! Anyone out there Reading…if you have a sense of what you think ‘they’ (the clark, the scott, the roger) might do or say or think… let us know

  2. Amy says:

    Wow- that’s really interesting (and foreign) to me. Sounds much easier to be a Scott!

    • clarkscottroger clarkscottroger says:

      @Amy

      I agree, easier…but messier… more exciting but in a -control?-what-is-this-‘control’-you-speak-of?’ kinda way

  3. Downspring#1 says:

    @ Amy and Clark LOL
    I sometimes have to go back to the basics: clarks think, scotts act and rogers feel. It’s easy to underestimate the value of knowing those 3 things!
    It’s not in my nature to act without first thinking. Luckily for me (at least until now) when my scottian aspect decides SHE wants to play, lives and jobs have not been at stake. LOL
    For scotts, there’s time for anything and time for everything. For clarks, there could/might/should be time if…….when….. and for rogers, well, if they feel like it, and everyone else is going/doing it/saying the same thing.

  4. I believe being a scott might just be exhausting all the time. After such a packed day, I might have to take a power nap before heading to the club! :)

    • clarkscottroger clarkscottroger says:

      @Cari

      I agree, they must get tired, but it is of their nature (clarks think, scotts act and rogers feel)

  5. Cyndi says:

    Huh.. Interesting scott reaction – very different from the clark reaction. Hehe. I am enjoying these scenarios – they’re helping me to understand the whole doctrine better. :) I’m totally visiting family and analyzing them as all the clarks, scotts and rogers – it’s fun!

    • clarkscottroger clarkscottroger says:

      @Cyndi

      The fun is the fun part… now the next installment will the roger. Then the real fun! We will watch them at the party, how they see and respond to the people and the event.
      (Will, no doubt, get myself to do one third and final ‘episode’ the Post Party!)

      Quick spotting the type Tips:
      If you think they are a scott, confirm by ‘their eyes’ or more properly, their ‘gaze’ you will totally spot that characteristic.
      For a roger…tougher call. They are precise and exact and judgmental and sociable… if you thinking roger, but are not certain…count (their) use of the personal pronoun in conversation, they will totally use ‘I’ and ‘me’ way more than the other two*
      if you think you have a clark? easy one, at least when ‘in person and in conversation’: when you are talking to another clark, you will ‘bump into each other’ in the course of a dialogue, not only starting a sentence at the same time, but pausing at the same moment. What a surprise! lol

      *clarks will not use personal pronouns, unless forced to and then they will use ‘we’ and ‘they’ scotts? they don’t hardly need to use pronouns people seem to want to pay attention