Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks who think, scotts who are all and simply about acting and rogers…so emotional)
The Wakefield Doctrine maintains that we all live our lives within and from one of three characteristic worldviews:
- the personal reality of ‘the Outsider’ (the clark)
- the environment of ‘Predator and prey’, (the scott) and
- the world of ‘belonging to the Herd’ (which is the perspective of the roger).
Since this is the second in a series illustrating how the Wakefield Doctrine can offer advice on meeting new people and how best to make decisions regarding relationships, lets jump to another worldview!
…by looking at the (rather common) situation in the life of a scott:
- a scott
- a party, of course you’re invited
In the main work area, on your way to your office, you pass one of your newer employees saying to the group surrounding him, “today’s my birthday… I reserved the private function room at the Calypso Club tonight… throwing myself a party!” You decide you need some amusement, so you stop, which causes everyone to quickly return to their desk, leaving only you and the ‘New Hire’, and you say. “Did I hear you say there was a party?” They look startled at the attention they are receiving, but recover quickly, “Yeah…. uh yes! the Company Policy doesn’t say anything about not having parties!”
You say nothing. Enjoying the growing discomfort and uncertainty on their face. You can see the struggle going on inside their head…’do I run or fight it out?’ You say, “What time?” Startled but with a look of relief they say, “8:30!” As you walk away, without looking back, you say, “I’ll be there!”
The first 1/8th of your work day is spent answering emails and returning calls. You hate this part of your job.
The rest of your work day is spent solving problems and coaching your staff as they struggle with the workload. You love this part of your job.
The last 1/8th of your work day is spent in meetings with upper Management. The CEO is someone you respect and listen to, he single-handedly built the Company and though he has been said to be tyrannical, monomaniacal and abusive, you have a good relationship with him. The CFO, not so much. You find the precise, overly careful, fussiness of this Executive to be annoying, but you have resigned yourself to having to tolerate him. He totally loves you.
…your time at home before having to leave for the party is spent… looking at the mess your place is, resolve to keep it cleaner, well neater at any rate, find what you are looking for, have a bite to eat, debate going to the gym, decide to use the expensive exercise equipment you own, start 3 games of online scrabble as you ride the stationary bike, alternating between texting your siblings at college, emailing your folks back home, quick microwave dinner, drink a coke, decide to go on a diet take work clothes off throw things over your shoulder looking for the shoes you really wanted to wear to the party thinking of that makes you look at the clock realizing you are late take a shower get dressed and run out the door
The final 1/12th of the last 1/3 of your time at home ….with a sense of excited anticipation, head out to the Calypso Club
(to be continued…)
(switched out the music vid from Ladysmith Black Mambazo to our little friends at Halestorm, have used this vid recently but it so gets the feel of today’s Post. Plus the drummer is so much fun to watch.)