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RePrint Monday -the Wakefield Doctrine-

February 21, 2022 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

So, in the Comments below, share with us your familiarity with this blog.

Go ahead, it’s a reprint day, so we have, if not plenty of, a sufficient amount of time. If it gets too late, I already gots a post (below). It will serve as content for today. (the reprint in the title?)

A confession: I always feel a little bit guilty about these reprint posts. Being a clark, surely the da Vinci of guilt, I don’t merely endure that third-day-of-a-sunburn discomfit, I embrace it. Surely there is something hidden in the non-rational conviction that there are unknown people in the Readerverse who, seeing that I’ve done more than one of these reprint posts, will …disapprove.

As any clark would tell you, ‘The one thing we do better than scotts and rogers is negotiate the terms of our ransom to unknown agencies’. What we don’t tell ourselves, as we acknowledge that this, this, last time we negotiate with secret terrorist, is that there is no one on the other side of the table, not a single person chasing us, the little room behind the carved-wood sliding door is, in fact, empty.

We remind ourselfs, like any good abused-spouse, not only have we invested too much in this relationship, there are others to consider. And, while we hate to admit to being wrong, we have the well-being of others to consider. So we will keep on keeping on.

… but, there is one, (among a world full of things and beliefs, arguments and convictions), thing that is different: there are other clarks in the world. other clarks we recognize and feel bad for. other clarks we observe learning to be less hard on themselves and we feel a hope. Not one dependent on the stories and tales of people who are presented as models and ideals. We feel hope because we see other clarks and we identify with the least of them and the greatest of them, and, in doing so, we belong.

(from Anno Domino 2014)

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

we all remember this from our undergrad ‘Abnormal Psych’ class, right?

Lets try a little experiment this morning. Two things first:

It’s been established (or, at very least, admitted to) here that, once I’ve engaged in the normal everyday demands of work and family and such, the supply of post-worthy words dries up faster than a 67 year old’s honeymoon

the Wakefield Doctrine is about learning about myself (as much as it is about seeing into the thoughts of you and the other people in my world¹)

So here’s what we’ll do: I’ll write a couple of hundred words about the value and use of the Wakefield Doctrine on a typical Monday morning. I’ll stop writing, take a quick shower, get dressed and start my work day². After an hour or so of work, I’ll come back here and ‘re-write’ this post. Let’s see if this ‘oh-my-god-can’t-you-see-how-incredibly-useful-and-fun’ theory of personality accounts for any change in my day.³

(Here we go)

the Wakefield Doctrine is a perspective on the nature of the world (and the people and things and events that make it up). Properly applied, the Wakefield Doctrine allows me to know more about ‘the other person’, than I have any right to know. With the Wakefield Doctrine, I am way, way less likely to find myself saying, “Now why in the world would they say/do such a thing?! I really thought I knew them better than that!”
As to how I go about ‘knowing more about you than you know about yourself’? All I need do is observe and (correctly) infer how you are relating yourself to the world around you. Are you acting like an Outsider? Do you sound like you are experiencing the situation as would a Predator or are you simply comfortable with the situation, as comfortable as a Member of the Herd? Once I know that (about) you, I can anticipate not only how you will react to a situation or interaction, I can get a glimpse of the world as you are experiencing it. This last is the most challenging aspect of the Wakefield Doctrine. Knowing that the other person (may) be perceiving the world differently than I am, even though we are both in the same room, hell! there’s no one here in the break room except you and me and all we’re doing is talking about the job we both have (the same job) and yet….somehow, you are reacting to it in a way that is totally at odds with the way that I would! that is the power of the Wakefield Doctrine

…oh yeah, the other part? If I want to… I can see parts of myself in a new light. This is not always such fun, but I can if I choose. The thing that this Wakefield Doctrine says to us is, ‘hey, you’re experiencing the world as (a clark or a scott or a roger)…. you have the right and the capability to see the world, experience the world as do ‘the other two personality types’…so don’t worry about:

not understanding (hey clark!! 2/3s of life is not about understanding or knowing or figuring out shit! but don’t let your brain trick you… you got this!)

not being ready (scott! yo… sure you’re always quick ….you’re even as smart as all them, don’t give it a second thought, what they seem to think they know that you don’t know? doesn’t matter…’cause you do!

nope, they’re not talking about you, roger… and even if there are moments when you think you can’t continue your efforts, that everyone has turned away, it’s not true. don’t give it a second thought

…alright. that’s what I have while I am still in ‘simple clark‘ mode.

stop back later this morning and lets see how it looks after I’ve had to engage in the ‘real’ world for a couple of fun-filled hours!

1) ok, it’s still about that, but I’m trying to establish my premise, so cut me some slack, ok?

2) meaning, I’ll check my email, do a couple of things, go to the office, check a couple of things and then come back to this Post…oh, probably around 9:55 am

3) no, I do believe you are that trusting! lol…. as a matter of fact, no I don’t think of what I’m writing as the product of a writer, telling whatever story I choose… I actually think of this as a record of my experiences, somehow converted to public display mode

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Friday -the Wakefield Doctrine- “(an) early Valentine’s Day post”

February 11, 2022 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Shuffling through some old (old) posts this morning. Came across the following. Sort of a nice memory. The post was written in 2011.

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine ( the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers )

This is a photo of my friend Bernadine Thomas and me (your Humble Narrator), taken about 10 years ago. Bernadine died unexpectedly a couple of years ago.

(As often happens with clarks and scotts) it was nearly love at first sight with Bernadine*. Simply was one of those clark/scott things. I met Bernadine when she came to work at a market and credit research company – I was experimenting with having a ‘real job’ in the ‘real world’. The company I worked for had their offices in Providence, on Westminster Street, and most important (to my story here) was that I worked in one of those cubicle workstation things, at my desk from 9-5, Monday through Friday, calling manufacturing companies all over the world, trying to get them to give me information about their use of raw materials. In other words, it was a very rogerian work environment, but one in which a clark could ‘pass’ as an employee. I had been working there for about 6 months when Bernadine was hired and moved into a nearby cubicle.

To set the stage for my meeting Bernadine, picture an entire floor of an office building with the front of the floor (at the windows) being divided into three offices for the owners of the Company and the rest of the space taken up with clusters of cubicles. These were ‘open clusters’ which meant you could spin your chair to the 2 other people in your cluster or, with a little extra push, be out in the aisle where you could see what was going on in the rest of the office.   On one wall, located in the middle of the office was the elevator and directly across was the main conference room, which had glass walls on three sides (windows on the 4th wall) and a large conference table in the middle. Totally visible from all the cubicles…think of TV with the Mute on.
I will never forget the day that Bernadine came to interview for a job, as the interview was held in the conference room. (It will help to know that the demographic of the Company was typical for the industry (and) for our part of the country, i.e. mostly female and nearly all white…not counting the Asian guy in IT).  Bernadine, as characteristic of all scotts, not only had ‘presence’, but being a large woman,  the minute she walked into the conference room, it was obvious to all of us that she was totally owning that room. Keep in mind, no one could hear the conversation that was going on in the conference room, except that is, when Bernadine laughed. As with scotts ( male and female), when Bernadine laughed you noticed! (…her’s was not one of those annoying, odd or quirky laughs), when she laughed it was full, un-restrained… totally without reservation or pre-requisite…simply enjoying herself.
Bernadine was hired.
As we got to know each other, I began to tell Bernadine about the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers. Bernadine made a lasting contribution to the Wakefield Doctrine. One afternoon, I asked her about the ‘dominance thing’. I told her about how scotts will always challenge everyone in the immediate environment, in order to establish the ranking order. But then I asked Bernadine a direct question, ‘What happens when you are not the dominant one?” Bernadine’s response was simple, ‘Nothing happens! It’s not a bad thing to be second in ranking! And…and…are you listening to me?  It isn’t ‘better’ to be the alpha! All that matters is that we know where we stand ‘ This was a revelation that not only added to my understanding of scotts but reinforced my understanding of the fact that we all live in slightly different realities. As a clark, the concept of not being at the top could be nothing but a negative thing, it simply never could occur to me.

(Two experiences that tell you a lot about Bernadine and all about scotts…)

Bernadine’s cubicle was in the cluster (of cubicles) adjacent to the one that I worked in with another market analyst, by the name of Charlie; a young kid, just out of college, smart, and competent but Charlie had a habit of sleeping at his desk in the afternoon. One afternoon Charlie awoke from his after-lunch nap, loudly grumbling about how much work he had to do and for reasons still unknown, I said in a fairly loud voice, “…It’s been a long winter, and Mr Charlie is starting to wake, while things have changed since the Autumn, one thing is still true..he is hungry…and surely will need to get out of the burrow” (I was, of course, hearing the classic Disney Nature Film Narrator voice in my head).
The immediate and unmistakeable peals of laughter coming over the cubicle wall on Bernadine’s side were worth it all. It was at this moment we became friends.

The second experience came at the end of my employment at that company.

I was called into the office of my (rogerian) boss late one Friday afternoon. He did all the talking and it was mostly about him and his difficult responsibilities and how I surely must understand how it was that he had to let me go. And, being a roger of major proportions he assumed that I would be embarrassed to inform my co-workers of my imminent departure. He asked me if I wanted him to make up a reason that would explain my not working there anymore or did I want to make up a reason…
I said, ‘No thank you, I will take care of it, first thing Monday morning’. He seemed satisfied with this plan and I left the office and went home (by this time it was past ‘quitting time’).
When I got home, the totality of what had happened finally began to sink in, (I have mentioned that I am a clark, haven’t I?), and I decided that I needed to call Bernadine. (This was noteworthy, as while we were workfriends, we did not socialize outside of the office. I had  never before called her at her home.)
But call I did.
After the surprise of, “Hi Bernadine, this is Clark…from work, you know? wore off,  Bernadine asked, ‘What’s wrong?” My response was simply, “They fuckin let me go today”

Bernadine’s next words were, “Alright. Tell me exactly what happened. And, don’t leave anything out!”

I still miss Bernadine, she was such a scott.

1)  love being defined (by a clark) as “this person not only is not suspicious of me and/or my behavior…they seem to actually enjoy my company!”

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine-

February 6, 2022 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

This is the Ten Things of Thankful (TToT) bloghop.

Created by Lizzi

Hosted by Dyanne

Co-hosted by Patricia, Lisa (and Mimi)

A (blog)post of ten,(more or less), items related to the experiential state of gratitude; id est, the people, places and things in our lives that elicit the psycho-spiritual state of gratitude (Latin: heus! Gratius multas*)

1) Una (In the photo above, being on guard is not merely a job, it’s a vocation). This would be a photo-from-winters-past. Not sure of the year.

Phyllis driving past my office yesterday. (See Grat Item Seven)

2) Phyllis

3) the Wakefield Doctrine

4) the Six Sentence Story the place for fiction suited to be read on the run, you know, tartine di finzione**

5) serial story writing and hanging out at the Six Sentence Café and Bistro. (including: ‘the Whitechapel Interlude‘ and ‘the Case of the Missing Fig Leaf‘)

6) the internet, or, to be more precise, the capacity of the www to allow people to make available a near-limitless supply of information, true and/or false; fact and fiction… it’s all good, ’cause, as the old saying reminds us, ‘Facts are like the familial designations aunt and uncle; they allow a more personal relationship with a stranger, if one chooses‘.

7) the business we have chosen*** which put us in a position to take a photo of Phyllis passing my office on an early Saturday afternoon as I prepared to take long-standing clients out to look at some new construction. It was fun.¹

8) that real estate is so suited to the on-going study and practice of a certain, un-named personality theories. (ok, one hint: ‘It rhymes with wakefield doctrine)

9) something, something

10) S.R. 1.3 From the Book of Secret Rules (aka the Secret Book of Rules) which is, in all modesty, one of the best of all features available to those who would write made-up stuff and would prefer not to get cited by some rhetoric maven (or mavette) who would get all strict-sixth-grade-English-teacher on yer ass, insisting that a good story has to make sense and adhere to a certain logical consistency. To which we say, “Listen Lady/Mister, this is the Wakefield Doctrine, we don need no steenkin’…” …yow! Exactly how much of the fictional/imaginary lobe of my brain has been coopted by old movie lines and song lyrics?!?! lol

* interesting, the role of italics in communication. That Latin phrase? Limit the italics to one word (multas) and you get a whole different emotion (thanks to the internet See Grat Six above)

** Full Disclosure: googlized Italian, trust we don’t offend any people who grew up in non-google world

*** yeah, movie fans will recognize that line from a scene in Godfather II

1) go ahead. impress us… (Hint: spoken by one of the lead actors in the Godfather Trilogy, in a 1980s movie. (Betcha Nick gets the reference.)

music

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Reprint Monday -the Wakefield Doctrine-

January 31, 2022 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

This just in…

Funny thing, though, went looking for a post written on the 31st of January and got as far as 2014 …without finding one. The following is from 2012. It’s a fairly comprehensive ‘Origins post.

(from January 30th 2012)

In a recent Video Friday Interview, when asked what changes or additions might improve the blog, Claire Peek suggested providing insight into the ‘why of the Wakefield Doctrine’. (As Claire put it “…A new Reader might find interesting how the Doctrine was born but especially why….” )

Far be it from us to shy away from a difficult task, in this case it is not so much a matter of the (historical) record of how the Wakefield Doctrine came to be, but rather the personal side of that creation/evolution/development. That is the challenge for today.

Easy part first! The ‘Eureka Moment of the Wakefield Doctrine ( nee the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers ):

In the early 1980’s, Scott (the progenitor scott) worked at a music store in Pawtucket. He was the main salesman and also ran the repair department (of the store), this included not only repairing musical instruments and equipment that he sold, but any equipment that might be in need of repair, including various types of tape recorders and other similar equipment.

One day I happened to stop by the store to visit scott while he worked. While there, a customer came into the store, went to the ‘repair department where scott and I were talking and presented to scott what was known as a ‘duel cassette recorder’ (This device had the capacity to record two cassette cartridges at once and was most often used to copy the contents of one cassette to another cassette, what we would call today, making a back up. Among the controls on this ‘dubbing recorder’ were two of all the normal tape recorder controls: volume, treble and bass. Where it was different from a single cassette recorder was that it had a Master Volume control dial, which, as the name implies controlled the overall sound output of the device.) The recorder that the customer placed on the counter appeared to be new and had no signs of damage or abuse. (As the customer approached the counter, I stepped back and Scott looked up and said, ‘What can we do for you’? The customer said to Scott, “this thing is brand new, it worked for a couple of days, then it stopped working entirely, I can’t figure out what is wrong”.

Scott looked at the recorder briefly, without saying a word and then reached under the counter and brought out some (black) electrical tape, and tearing off a 2 inch piece of tape, taped over the Master Volume control (after returning the dial to it’s highest setting). After completing this, scott slid the device back over towards the customer and simply said, “ There, its all right now”

The customer asked to plug in the recorder, took a cassette from his pocket, tried the recorder, ran it through it’s paces; seeing that the broken tape recorder that he brought into the store now worked like new thanked scott and walked out of the store without another word. A totally satisfied customer.

From my perspective the world shifted. For reasons not clear to this day, I not only saw what scott had seen (the nature of the equipment problem) but I saw that his solution implied a reality, a ‘context’ that was clearly different from the one that I assumed to be the same as everyone experienced.

That is the factual side of the creation of the Wakefield Doctrine. The personal side?

I had plenty of friends. Or more to the fact, I had a close circle of friends that I seemed to have acquired rather deliberately. Sometimes, when I hear or read about people expressing anxiety about making new friends in a new school or a changed job, I will laugh to myself. I still find (in the fact of) my own comfort that this thing that real people seem to worry about, (i.e.making friends) is really so not difficult while at the same time/all the time, I feel so isolated from people in general. And the irony of this is not wasted on me! I accept now (as I did back then) that this is just another aspect to the weird world that I inhabit.
In any event, back to the ‘personal side of the creation of the Wakefield Doctrine, I knew back then that I had two things I could count on: having a small circle of friends who ‘got me’ and living with a pervasive, never-ending sense of lacking something… fitting in, being a part of, knowing what I was supposed to be doing in order to be like everyone else. Call it what you like, it is this certainty that ‘I am different from’ and because ‘I am missing something’ that defines who I am and once I figure out what (or where) that missing thing is, I will no longer be different from everyone else.
I suspected then, (as I now know for certain) that the thing I needed to understand was right in front of me, but not having a clue as to what it was like, the only thing to do was try to watch everything.
Watching is not exactly synonymous with living, ( lol a joke for the clarks reading this) and so I would settle for watching as I knew that the life that I thought I was in was not really the ‘real life’ that everyone else seemed to be enjoying.
Finally, the moment described above, the scene in the music store. That I would make the leap from what I observed to what I knew, what I concluded (about reality and people) was nothing less than a total frickin gift… if I had a stronger rogerian aspect, I imagine I would go on at length about inspired insight, or serendipity but I do not have that strong a rogerian aspect. If the truth is not obvious, I have a strong (barely restrained) secondary scottian aspect. But that is a whole ‘nother Post.
So as the Lady once said, ‘that’s how it began’.

OK!! Time to close the Post, unfortunately on sad note…as I know that most of you already know, Robert Hegyes passed away late last week. So we will close with the theme song to his, chef-d’œuvre

You looking for the Bonus Inset? Right this way, yo. This is a clip from a Post written last July, very good explanation of the clark, scott roger thing! We figured, hey this layout really needs shaking up, so lets do an overlay Title/new Content*

The Wakefield Doctrine has 3 personality type categories: clarks, scotts and rogers. You are mostly one (of these 3) but you still have the other 2 in background.
…and when we say personality types? what we mean is, “What kind of world do you walk out to every morning”? Because this Doctrine is not about your likes and dislikes, favorite colors or foods, interests, hobbies, avocation or inspiration. It is about the nature of your reality.

Yes, you read that right. Reality. Each of the three types of personality in the Wakefield Doctrine experience a different reality. Nothing weird or earth-shakingly different. No crystals or herbs or inner vibrations required either. Just this:

clarks exist (in the world) as the perennial outsider. They are normal in every other respect, it’s just that they know that they don’t belong, they are not like other people. But, at the same time clarks are the quiet, creative, funny (except you have to really pay attention or you’ll miss their jokes), self-deprecating, hardworking people that are there all around you all this time;

scotts are so in your life (and you will get this description only if you are not a scott) but they are the natural leaders, natural salespeople, natural entertainers… you getting the theme here with this personality type? natural. scotts are the people who live life by the moment without restraint, consideration, forethought, it’s a wonder they live as long as they do

rogers (you know who you are, and right now you are denying it) rogers are the everyday, friendly, easy to talk to people that populate every workplace and classroom and corner bar. rogers will be the person you turn to when you have a secret and rogers will be the one you turn to when you want to learn the latest gossip, they are the engineers, the lawyers, the doctors and heart and soul of every PTA and neighborhood watch program in the world.

The Doctrine is different from all the other mainstream and respectable personality and self-improvement systems out there because we insist that it is not just you, it is the world itself that accounts for your life, it’s trials and tribulations, good times, bad times (we know you’ve had your share).
What sets us apart and the reason you should spend time here, is that the Wakefield Doctrine offers everyone a set of tools that is specifically meant for not only your personality type, but (these tools) are meant to work and be useful in the world that you are living in today!

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RePrint Monday -the Wakefield Doctrine-

January 24, 2022 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Quick re-post.

So, you ask, “Excuse me Mr-and-or-Ms Wakefield-Doctrine, is there a methodology to your selection of posts for these reprint (aka, back in the days of television* as ‘re-runs’) posts or is it totally random?”

Yes. Both. Today, a combination. We searched a phrase, ‘another set of everyone’, got three returns. Re-reading the first, came upon footnote 4 and said, “Hey! We’re going to the dentist this morning! Cha-ching!”

the Wakefield Doctrine Open Enrollment Day!

September 22, 2012

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

For reasons that I do not understand, we have a Post today. Perhaps it is simply that the pattern is established, i.e. that I write a new Post every other day (or third day) at minimum. Maybe it is because I have a feeling that the body of knowledge that is the Doctrine is going through yet another ‘growth spurt’. It might even be that I know that there are some Readers out there, who are on the edge of taking the leap and writing a Comment.

Whatever¹

So lets keep this short. Here’s the thing:

The Wakefield Doctrine is a way of looking at people, the way they act, re-act and inter-act. The Wakefield Doctrine is a way of understanding our relationships: (with) our spouses, our friends, our jobs and the gigantic bunch of strangers that comprise the world. The Wakefield Doctrine is a tool, one that we can learn to use on ourselves to make the good things that we do better and the bad things that we do… better. The Wakefield Doctrine is a way of looking at the day to day world that will provide us with amusement, insight and understanding. Most of all, the Wakefield Doctrine is good for:

getting your noisy boyfriend to not shout when you are standing in a slow line

convincing your girlfriend that while purple really is ‘her’ hair color, that just maybe, for her job interview she might want to go natural

realizing that even though your boss always finds mistakes that you have made, that you know that you can do the job better than anyone

convincing your husband that, while it is important to research all major purchases, perhaps taking 6 weeks to decide on lawnmower brands is a bit much

The Wakefield Doctrine is predicated on the idea that we all live our lives in what can best be called individual worldviews (a less threatening word for personal reality) and that all people are born with the potential to live in one of three distinctive worldviews:

the ‘world’ of the Outsider, where there is a gap, a critical difference between us and the rest of the world, especially the people, those who exist in this worldview, we call clarks

the reality of the Predator, this world is characterized by the predator-prey existence that we see in nature, those who grow up and develop in this worldview are designated as having the scottian personality type

the world of connectedness, the world of belonging to the group, sometimes referred to as the herd this person, referred to as a roger develops a personality type that is predicated on the world being a quantifiable place that is subject to discernible Rules

At an early age we pick one of these three and that becomes our personal reality. We call this the predominant type. And a big difference between the Doctrine and ‘mainstream personality systems’ is that we look at the reality first and the personality type second. Makes much more sense.
Finally, while we all live our lives in one (of three) characteristic worldviews, we never lose the capacity to see the world as the ‘other two’ do. In fact, in some people, one of the other two ‘aspects’ is developed to the point that it influences the choices and actions of that person. For example, I am a clark because my reality, the world in which I grew up and developed my ‘personality’ is that of the Outsider. I also have a highly developed secondary aspect, that of the worldview that we call a scott. That shows in some instances and, in a sense, it accounts for some of my ‘personality’ that is not strictly the result of living on the fringe. However, that does not mean that everyone develops their ‘other two’ aspects to any degree, some people are pretty much all of the type of their predominant worldview, showing no signs of the other two. According to the Wakefield Doctrine, all people relate to the world consistent with the world being one of the three: clarks, scotts and rogers. We know all the stuff we do about people simply because we are able to see the world as they see it.

Hey! you people who are ‘on the edge’ of writing your first Comment? Here is your opening! I want…no, I need you to add to the list above (of the things the Doctrine is good for)… I know you got something. Come on! S. and H, I see you out there. and MJ and D and the rest of you scamps⁵

1) as the kids² would say

2) by kids we mean people who are:

not as old as us³

confident enough to use whatever slang word they think is appropriate ( clarks )

sure enough of themselves to know that they are ‘tuned in’ to the ‘young people’ and can talk to them like they want ( rogers )

just don’t care what words they use, they will capture your attention no matter it they have to set their own hair on fire ( scott )

3) which is most everybody it seems, we can say that ’cause this is the internet⁴

4) which being a virtual world, allows us to pretend that we can appear to be anything to anyone simply because we are not likely to run into them at the Dentist’s office or the health and supplement section of the grocery store

5) we are a little weird about privacy here, most of us use a damn pen name (French, ‘Nom de Bic‘ ) so you can sign in however the hell you want.