Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)
A couple of things: 1) good discussion this Saturday night past, in particular on the efficacy of the concept of ‘how we relate ourselfs to the world around us and b) damn! that was quick(er) than (usual)… had an idea for number 2, gone!
Probably turn up.
The one thing we did retain, the 1), will be of especial interest to the clarks out there. It has to do with the phenomenon of amnesisa and intent. Sometimes referred to as the New Year’s Resolution Effect. We come to the point of deciding to change, (something within, a trait, bad habit, self-destructive indulgence, like that), and, all charged up with righteous ambition and confidence we… forget the list by the third week of the New Year.
Except, here we’re talking about the Wakefield Doctrine and clarks. We acquire a new perspective on the world, the people who make it up and our ownselfs. We identify with other clarks.
Surely that is the primary miracle of this little personality theory, seriously! We’re not listed, (in the Doctrine), as ‘the Outsiders’ merely because all the cool personality type(s) labels were used up, right? Sure, ‘Warrior of the Shadow Society’ would sound cooler and maybe even relate (motto: ‘Stalking the fringes of well-adjusted people, they almost participate in a valued manner!’) to our people. But we’re the Outsider. (“Say it loud! I’m an Outsider and I’m Proud! hunh!”1)
Sorry, we were saying: the factor of having others, (of our kind), to identify with is huge. Hell, it’s arguably, in and of itself, justification for all the posts and insights and examples and such*
Anyway, lets make our point and close up.
Every clark has had the experience of deciding to no longer: (fill in the blank with whatever self-identified behavior might be highest on your list of “Things-I-Would-Change-So-I-Don’t-Say-(to myself) ‘Why did I do/Say/Fall-for-That again!!”). We clarks set out in the morning with steely (and, admitted only among other Outsiders), somewhat invigorating optimism to be the person we know we have every right to be.
Then, two sentences into our first interaction, we forget.
Not to worry. The Doctrine has a trick to help you to not forget what you resolve to remember.
… you know the thing we always say, when asked ‘What’s the Point of this Wakefield Doctrine thing’? It is, of course:
“…to understand how we relate ourselves to the world around us and the people who make it up.”
ProTip: we did not say, “how we relate to the world…”; we said: “how we relate ourselves to the world…”
Consider this, meditate, cogitate, reflective-tape this little seven word phrase and you will be far more likely to see the opportunities to act in your desired, new-and-improved, ‘Finally! I don’t have to leave interactions with a bunch of ‘why-didn’t I’s’!
Go ahead. Try it today!
(Warning. like most things in ‘Life’ there’s a lot of learning to make this work real good. Mostly about the characteristic behavior of the three predominant worldviews of our little personality theory.)
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here, from the movie Slacker**
** Seriously. If you want to identify the scotts and rogers in your family… oh, alright…make that: in your small group of friends. Put on Richard Linklater’s movie ‘Slacker’.
If you’re a clark, you’ll simply love it. The rogers in the room? They will leave before the clip is over. They might, if the demographics of the room is right, get mad first, then leave. scotts? they’ll laugh. Watch it with you. Get bored and find something fun to do/chase/
1) No. Way. …they wouldn’t!
Yes. Yes we would.
