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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine- “…a tale of parts and the whole.”

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

‘Black dog on a milk chocolate couch with a nougat quilt’ (Jigsaw that, Phyllis)
(Landscape orientation)
Una is sitting in the middle of a leather upholstered loveseat that is in backed-up to the front picture window in our living room. The window itself is not in the photo. The effects (of the location) and the wear on the loveseat’s location are.
The top edge of the back of the couch are washed out by the light coming through the un-seen window. The cushions of backrest nearest the camera are indented and crushed out of shape, as if a weight had been placed on the top of cushions. Looks to be a weight of about fifty-four pounds, squeezing the top edge down to the middle of (the cushion).
Una is sitting facing the camera but looking to her left (the camera’s right). Given that the only thing to Una’s left is the crushed back cushion and the picture window, it would appear that she is thinking that there is something outside that requires barking at.
Una is sitting in the classic sphinx position (two front paws straight out in front of her, hind legs bent and folded in the back and her head aloft and alert. Her snout is point towards the camera and, as we mentioned, her eyes are looking to her side and we only just noticing, one of her ears is aimed in the direction of her eyes. No, seriously. Her right ear if a slightly-rounded black triangle, we can see just a hint of lighter colored hair in her inner ear. But her left ear is a wedge shape. The open part of her, at right angles to us appears a flat plane and the wedge is the concavity of her outer ear.
Her ears are independently aimable.
As implied in the title, the leather is a soft, milk chocolate and the comforter thats draped over the back is like, a light butterscotch. An anemic yellow, if there is such a color.

Given the subtitle that showed up this morning, experience has taught me to keep it moving. Hey! Josie, thanks for the invite and keepin the old clubhouse all ready and available. We all appreciate it.

Item (1) the Wakefield Doctrine. ’cause, well, sine qua, right?

Item (2) the virtual world. it’s not like the Doctrine wouldn’t exist without it. because there was a ‘theory of clarks, scotts and rogers‘ from, like 1984. it’s just that I get to meet so many more people ‘in here’ than I would ‘out there’1 And, with the numbers, the odds of meeting remarkably talented and caring people (not always qualities found in the same person) increases, exhibitiously.*

Item (3) grateful for the fact that those who come here more than once, on purpose, are those possessed of the kind of mind that enjoys the occasional ms from more far-flung realities.

Item (4) go back… three is/was a double

Item (5) the underlying theme today: self improving oneself and 15andmeowing. (Wait! This will make sen…. well, wait anyway). We all know that the Wakefield Doctrine is, among other things, a particularly useful tool for self-improvement. (Hint: while we all live in one and only one of the three characteristic worldviews, i.e. Outsider, Predator and Herd Member, we retain the potential of the other two. Thats not to say that I can pass for a roger just because I feel like it. That is to say that sometimes, under duress, I will look like a scott in how I react to a situation, or as if I were a roger. What all this means is that I already have within me the ‘improvements’ that I seek.)

(…ok, I’m getting to it.) So 15andmeowing, on one of her posts a while ago, had a link to one of those online jigsaw puzzle sites. Kinda fun. She mentioned her time (to complete the puzzle)  uh oh.… so, naturally2 I tried again. And, equally naturally, I found a site and started playing. I mentioned this to Phyllis (Item (7)) and she started to play as well. She immediately became better at the game than I was. I thought, not surprisingly, ‘What does the Doctrine say about this?’3

Anyway… the self-improvement part. I find that when I’m trying to assemble a jigsaw puzzle, whenever I just move pieces together, without thinking, I am very much quicker. The lesson? Don’t think, trust the self. aka, ‘get out of your own way’.**

Item (6) Una. My role model. To live and act in the here and now.

Item (7) Phyllis. A roger with a significant secondary clarklike aspect.

Item (8) THIS SPACE AVAILABLE! (Now, this is usually meant as an option for anyone not yet ready to post a full-on TToT but would like to get their electronic toes wet…. (eww some how creepier than I would have thought).

In any event we have a Commentation situation developing with our hostinae, Josie. Who hasn’t felt that sinking feeling after writing one damn fine comment and seeing some lame-ass computer generated message about how ‘You can’t do that’. Josie emailed her comment, which we are proud to present, uncut, unedited, in its entirety, in the our little BLOCKQUOTE Theatre.  (Be sure to get over to and make sure she knows we got her back, commentistically-speaking.)

Thanks, it is my pleasure to be able to provide a place where we can meet up and exchange our thoughts on gratitude each week, it must be one of the most positive web addresses that there is!

I love stopping by your blog, it is always an experience in another reality that challenges my mind to keep up and makes me smile.  I suspect that at times you are smiling as you write and annotate too!

This is such a beautiful photo of Una, perfect blend of colors for us to see her well, and you are right about dogs (and cats) teaching us to live in the now, not stressing about yesterday or tomorrow, accepting life as it comes, and accepting us with all our faults and flaws… that’s a big one, something people find much harder to do!

The virtual world is my favorite place to hang out, all my friends live there, and what an eclectic bunch it is!  I think that’s the fascination and satisfaction of the experience… meeting people in far-flung places and discovering that we are more alike than different. 

The Doctrine is a very cool thing that is indeed useful in putting things in perspective. I loved the commentary on Clarks and puzzles… right on target.  We really can’t just take anything at face value and the boring order of routine, so it takes us longer as we toy with possibilities.  Finding new apps to try and to share is one of the things I love about the Internet. We get to try new things and improve skills on old ones.  Who would have thought we’d one day be doing jigsaw puzzles online or creating pottery late at night as Zoe and I sometimes do with the pottery app she found.  It’s all fun, and it’s all a step toward self-improvement, as is the efforts we put into our writing.   I also play “Scrabble” much better now than I did when I first started on Words with Friends, it’s great for exercising my fuzzy brain.

As always, I smile when you refer to the infamous BOSR or SBOR in your posts. It takes me back to a time when SSS was quite a social hangout and the drive to come up with that tenth item was strong enough to inspire creative ways to accomplish same.  I think all facets of life should have BOSR’s that we can add to and imiplement as needed.  If there must be rules, why must they be inflexible?  Hence my determination that “my blog… my rules” and I shall use an ex word for the X post in the A-Z Challenge.

Thank you for faithfully sharing here each week and giving us things to think about, you are an original and I like that a lot!

Item (9) The Book of Secret Rules (aka the Secret Book of Rules) which states, in part, ‘…a participant, cognizant of and amendable to the imposition of the rules pertaining to presenting a List of Ten Things of Thankful, may [p]rovided the words ‘Thankful’ (substitutions of grat, gratitude or ‘landscape orientation’ permitted) in said list, can use pretty much anything that wanders into their awareness, like a child into their parent’s bedroom at midnight…op cit, ibis. (ed. 2018)’

Item (10) Secret Rule 1.3

 

1) hey! think you might be a clark but not sure? (and really crossin your fingers…please come out scott or…roger) try this: you wake up in the morning and the world takes shape around you and you think, ‘ok we can do this thing… lets get out there and deal with the world’ good morning, clark!

2)  not to say that only those of us from Y Chromia see the mention of a completion time as red a flag. it’s just that part of my genetic code (‘AGCTGGCAT’, to be precise) lol says ‘You better do better than that!’

3) rogers will always be better at jigsaw puzzles than clarks (and scotts) because the reality that they (rogers) exist in is a reality in which everything is related. If everything is already related then all they need to do (playing a jigsaw) is remember how the pieces go today. A clark, on the other hand, sees that parts all spread out on the screen and tries to use the parts to create a picture.

*  my modest attempt at a rogerian expression

** kinda advice for clarks, as opposed to rogers and scotts, ya know?


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Finish the Sentence Friday -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘I’ll finish it, if and when I decide’

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

“You’re all still here…*”

Lets get to the instructions from our two favorite ladies-in-waiting, Kristi and Kenya.

Hey all! This week, we’re doing a listicle of “10 things I hate more than anything.” Feel free to make your list about things you don’t like, things you wish you could change… once I saw it again, I texted Kenya saying “uhhh, what were we thinking?” Her advice “You have to be kind of cranky.”
The linkup will go live Thursday night at 10pm eastern time and will stay open through late Sunday night.
Link up with Kenya here: https://www.kenyagjohnson.com
or me (Kristi) here: http://www.findingninee.com/

So hope to see you there!

Ayiiee.

I have long been of the opinion that Finish the Sentence Friday is the most subversive of the bloghops. (As a clark) I am, of course, genetically-predisposed to play my cards close to the vest. Not that there is anything invasive or prying in Finish the Sentence Friday prompts. They’re just words (or list topics or incomplete sentences) that, like a certain candy-and-cake encrusted house in the forest, wait for those of us who spend an inordinate amount of time in the virtual forest at the end of each week.

Ten Things I hate more than anything….   ten things….   hate….

Wait, no, I’m good. Just need to organize my thoughts (no, I don’t think consolation in the form of the percentage of writers who find themselves unable to write is really overly helpful) I. Am. Not. Embarrassed. Just give me a second.  One…. right here. Ok 1) … (They say going in the opposite direction is the best way to proceed when self-blocking)….

-1 the Wakefield Doctrine (’cause not only does it allow you to know more about the people in your life than they know about themselves, it will actually allow you to predict future behavior)

-2 the blogosphere (because thats where the friends who enjoy the contemporary me hang out)

-3   …. no, this reverse shtick is never gonna last through Ten

Wait, stop with the clever, reverse/negative numbering ‘list’ thats so like pretending-to-almost-dance-while-standing-behind-your-friends-at-your-first-high-school-sock-hop, clark.

I hate to admit it, but either I don’t have anything that I really hate or I have succeeded in putting the negatives far-enough-under-the-bed as to no longer be distinguishable from the old sneakers and box of memorabilia or… I’ve broken my outrage. (I suspect that last thing. Not so much that I no longer feel outrage, god knows there’s no shortage of things to feel outrage at, it’s just that I’ve made a conscious effort to put the real me (if there is such a thing) out of reach of the general world so that I have as much energy for the real things in my life.)

…or I’ve gotten too old and jaded to work up a decent outrage.

Now that would piss me off.

 

 

 

 

 

* borrowed from one of my favorite songs, ‘Hollow Moon’**

**reproduced below for your listening pleasure, provided (and this is the all-too-considerate-warning) that you’re good with adult language and/or swear words. Only one, but it’s a good one.

 

 

 

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Monday -Wakefield Doctrine- “…of self-improvement, stage fright and the perfect Doctrine post.”

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Remember a couple of weeks ago, I posted a draft of an article for the newsletter (of) the writers group I belong to? I got my copy this morning of this month’s newsletter and there it was; well, that’s the ‘butterflies’ reference in the subtitle today. I’m surprised and pleased at how uncomfortable I am.*

One of the interesting side effects of this article is only today becoming apparent. Since I reference the Wakefield Doctrine in it, there might very well be visitors to our favorite personality theory blog. And, per the classic 50’s and 60’s TV trope:  ‘My god, you didn’t say that you’d invited (Father Ryan/ Mr. Dithers/the Mayor) to dinner! This place is a mess!’ I am, at the moment, all,  ‘Damn! why didn’t I set aside time to edit and re-write some of those Pages on clarks, scotts and rogers!”

No, not that there’s anything to the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers that needs to be changed or updated,  just that my writing was… early-in-development. (Can I get a ‘oh man, what a clark you’re being!’  thank you, zoe)

Back in the day, posts ’round here used to run in the 300-400 word range; 600 words would be the exception rather than the rule. Of course, I was writing a post a day with topics ranging from ‘chilled pickles’ to ‘music used as background music in TV commercials’.

My goal then, (as it is now), was to write ‘the perfect Wakefield Doctrine post’.

The perfect Wakefield Doctrine post would be something a Reader could read once and immediately experience the world and the people (that make up our worlds**) from the perspective of the Wakefield Doctrine; to begin see the clarks, scotts and rogers. With the understanding they would acquire from this one post, the Reader would know more about the people in their lives than they did prior to reading, ‘Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine’.

Still trying to write that perfect post. Today seems like a good day to try (again).

The Wakefield Doctrine is a tool that affords us a way of seeing the people in our life through a perspective that will amuse us, depress us and maybe even cause us to say, “Of course! If they’re acting that because they are a clark or a scott or a roger, then that means it has very little to do with what I said or did or implied. That makes perfect sense!”

How? Imagine that everyone is born with the potential to experience the world (with) three distinct and characteristic natures. The reality of the Outsider(clarks), the world of the Predator(scotts) and the life of the Herd Member(rogers). At a very early age, we all settle into one (and only one) of these three realities. We develop our social strategies, styles of interpersonal relationships, in reflection of the world as we are experiencing it. Our ‘personality types’ are, at once, both an insight into what we see and a reflection of our best efforts to make the most of life as… and Outsider, a Predator or a Member of the Herd. (While we all live in and experience one of the three worldviews, we never lose the capacity to respond as if we were in one of ‘the other two’. At times, usually under duress, we can exhibit a response not typical of our ‘normal’ selfs.)

That’s all it takes! Learn the easy indicators of the personality types, (clarks: bad posture, electic sense of fashion, wild-creativity and a tendency to mumble self-denigration) or (scotts: impulsive, attractive, decisive and explosively mercurial temperament) or (rogers: charming, sociable, fastidious and good with numbers (or any other aspect of the world that one would hope remain constant) and go out there and watch.

Warning. It’s been found that once a person has learned enough to recognize the clarks, scotts and rogers in their world, they kinda can’t not see the clarks, scotts and rogers.

 

* I’m a firm believer in the wisdom of ‘what doesn’t make you hide under the bed, makes you better and stronger’. In the early days of this blog, a lot of things caused me to have that classic approach-avoidance struggle of ‘what if they hate it/maybe you’re pushing it’. In any event, it’s there and so am I.

** I might argue that, from the perspective of the Wakefield Doctrine, reality is mostly ‘the people in our world’

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine- “0f road trips and music…step out of February”

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

‘A Wakefield Doctrine hat in Salt Lake City’

My other favorite bloghop, the Finish the Sentence Friday, is on ‘Photo Share’ in their rotating-themes cycle. So I thought… man, that was fun reminiscing and, seeing how I have the song in my head, lets stay with it.

Hey! Josie Two Shoes Sorry about dragging half the contents of my car’s back seat up the walk, onto the metaphorical porch and all… (A proper Grat List must start at the beginning  or ‘in principe incipere’, as they say at the roadside stops.)


‘A Wakefield Doctrine hat at ‘the Grassy Knoll’

I’ll let everyone have the fun of identifying the locations (where necessary) in some of the photos this week. They are all remnants of road trips past. They also, as I referenced in the Finish the Sentence Friday post yesterday, are, with a couple of exceptions, examples of the Rite of Hat. I have a link in my FTSF post yesterday that explains the Rite of Hat (based in part on the Treaty of Tordesillas) and everyone’s favorite personality theory.

1) (the blogosphere cause… well, you know!)

2) the Wakefield Doctrine (the extra piece to the puzzle that most clarks spend they lives searching for… ironic, how it, (the Doctrine and everything), is not really information or knowledge, at least, not merely information and knowledge. The missing puzzle piece appears to be the place we can get to when we have the ‘information and knowledge’ that is inherent in the Wakefield Doctrine.  ya know?)

The Stanley Hotel (just before) being claimed by Rite of Hat

3) something something

4) back to the Doctrine… so, you say, ‘sure that Wakefield Doctrine gives you the knowledge that allows you to better understand the world and the people in it. big deal… show me something impressive.’  video at the bottom of the page: me in a video. clarks are the archetypical photophobes.  (Wakefield Doctrine Guide to Identifying the Personality Types, Quik Tip #89: ‘at the summer get-together, family reunion? see a group of people clustering together for a group photo? the one taking the picture is your clark.)

‘A famous corner in a town in the high desert of Arizona’

 

5) Technology which allowed me to take video that accounts for Stanley Hotel trip (at the bottom)

7) {THIS GRAT SPACE AVAILABLE]  (Not yet comfortable writing a whole post? Still a bit self-conscious about coming up with a TToT post that people won’t laugh at ( er…have you looked around this post here yet?!! lol)? Place your Grat in Comments and I’ll be happy to post it.

8) Sunday Supplement:

‘Still Life with Laptop and Salad’
(Landscape orientation)
In the left half (back) Phyllis stands at the kitchen counter putting saran wrap on a white bowl that contains a fresh salad for her church’s monthly social. (Monthly social motto: “Even God needs to eat his veggies. What kind of congregation would we be if we didn’t suffer the spinach and carrots?“)
Phyllis wearing a white sweat shirt and black pants. The cabinets are an light-oak stained wood and the countertop is a light, faux butcher block formica. There is a white canister-looking appliance on the near edge of the counter (to Phyllis’ right). It is a humidifier. Very necessary in winters, not simply because of the dry air, but because the experience of temperature is diminished in lower humidity. Have it on from Halloween to Easter.

9) Phyllis and Una (well, duh!)

10) Secret Rule 1.3

 

 

 

 

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Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

 

the Wakefield Doctrine…on the Road in…Arizona!

 

Here we are again. Friday. That means only one thing, (blogistically-speaking), time to participate in (the) Finish the Sentence Friday bloghop. Hosted each week by Kristi and Kenya, this is the first of the bloghops I participated in when I took to exploring the virtual world. Times change and the format of this ‘hop is now an interesting rotating format, this week being the photo format.  Here, lets hear it from our hosts:

Hi all! We’re on this week (LIVE, tomorrow, Feb. 22 at 10pm eastern and open all weekend long) with Photo Share Friday. Simply share a photo, tell the story behind it, and link up with either Kenya or me.
Easy peasy, right? Hope to see you there!
https://www.kenyagjohnson.com
Or
http://www.findingninee.com/

 

So, about this here photo here.

Starting in 2010 (and ending in 2013), I had business meetings to attend in Dallas (in September) and Salt Lake City (In March). While the whole, ‘this is part of what is required to do your work’ thing was surely significant to my decision to attend, what actually motivated me to make these trips was… the Wakefield Doctrine. (yeah, I know. knock you over with a feather.) No… seriously, wait, I have a reasonable explanation.

At the time of the first trip in 2010, I’d been writing this blog for a year (started in Jun3 ’09 first Doctrine Field trip Sept11 ’10). The premise (jn regards to the business trips) was: demonstrate the Wakefield Doctrine as a tool for self-improving oneself. And so, as a clark, (with all attendant self-consciousness and fear of looking out-of-place and incompetent) I set out to see if’n I could use our little personality theory on myself. And…and! to prove I could bring myself to do the whole business-convention-rooms-full-of-rogers-and-youthful-enthusiasm-and-stand-in-reception-rooms-and-mixers-and-whatever-the-hell-other-Herdcentric-activities-a-real-estate-convention-can-concoct. I knew I could do it. Hell, I realized with the first post, the Wakefield Doctrine somehow made me willing to do all sorts of uncomfortable things in the name of getting the idea out. You know, writing blogs, chatting to strangers, ignoring grammar and other glaring newbifacs that were the hallmarks of my posts in my first few years.

The real goal was …could I have fun doing it?

Not so much with the convention-Herd-mingling part. Fortunately, there was something about getting the Wakefield Doctrine out there in the real world, literally and physically. The idea was to get a photo of me and my Wakefield Doctrine hat in front of as many people (and places and things) as possible. (This is referred to as ‘the Rite of Hat’. This link will take you to the first video from one of these trips. Adult language advisory (well, ‘adult’ in the sense of an F bomb, not in the sense of the speaker’s maturity lol)

Anyway. The photo above is me at Meteor Crater, Arizona. (I smiled and asked a total stranger if they didn’t mind taking the picture of me an my hat. Really!)

Salt Lake City (on business) flew to Phoenix (instead of directly home) rented a car, drove to Meteor Crater, Winslow (well, because, it’s got this corner and), onwards to the Petrified Forest. Whereupon I immediately got back in the car and returned to Phoenix. Flew home.

Fun. Self-improvement. Wakefield Doctrine.

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