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Monday -the Wakefield Doctrine- (this space reserved for interesting topic suggested in comments from weekend)

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

While we wait for the questions to begin, consider the concept of ‘fluency’.

No, wait. How about this?

Totally advanced Doctrine discussion followed by an easy, fun and rudimentary* description of the (principles) of the Wakefield Doctrine.

 

 

* the use of this word will help illustrate the three worldviews, in two contrasting contexts:

as the writer:

  1. a clark will, should the word come up, take a moment to look it up (including the inevitable comparison to ‘elementary’) and enjoy every minute of the process.
  2. a scotts already done with the post and is out the door; if that particular word was handy it went in, of not, he/she assumes we’ll figure it out
  3. a roger, with a core vocabulary already in place before sitting down, will use the word if it fits (think: jigsaw puzzle piece); they will, in all likelihood get upset if you ask him/her if they’d considered ‘rudimentary’ as opposed to what they did use*

as the reader:

  1. a clark will breeze past it, confident in their ability to apply the context which will serve to smooth out the comprehension process. (think: the chain on a bicycle, maybe it has a shiny-new link that’s not as broken-in as the original links. Not to worry, as you pedal, (the new link), will make the journey over the sprocket or hub or whatever-the-hell the round-toothy part on the wheel is and, soon as pie** any roughness or hesitancy is immediately eliminated
  2. a scott will actually remember (your use of the word) and, (when you finally caught up them), would laugh and (probably) punch you playfully on the shoulder “You fricken clarks you!”
  3. a roger will worry, and, depending on whether or not they thought anyone was ‘watching’ they might go look it up. (Those ‘watching’ can, and often do, include the 3,290 other people who ‘the Kindle’, says have read and possibly highlighted the word).***

* almost for sure ‘fundamental’

** a semi-rogerian expression

*** In keeping with ‘the Everything Rule’ in the matter of intellectual confidence1: a clark is to a roger or a scott as

  • a scott is to clark or roger in matters of personal, one-on-one nose-to-nose dominance or
  • a roger is to a clark or scott in comprehending the precise interaction of small parts that make up larger mechanisms (this, by the way, includes culture and society).

1) for our advanced Doctrine discussion: it is accepted that a male scott is not intimidated by intellectual prowess however, quite frequently, a scottian female is.

For extra credit: Compare and contrast the typical manifestations of the predatory character of a male scott and a scottian female. (Examples encouraged)

Times up! Pencils on your desk, please.

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TT (‘like the lady says’) ‘oT -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘autumn noir’

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

 

Every weekend, door’s unlocked. Kristi’s joint is open. Once the dark repossesses the day, (and, no matter what your timepiece says, it’s 1:00 am somewhere), the crowd gathers like russet leaves on your car’s windshield after a nor’easter. The patrons? Well if blog-drifters full of thankfuls and virtual-world pen-jockeys are your style, this is the place to be. The jukebox is still ten cents (a quarter will get ya three); songs that’ll make you feel like a kid again and glad that you’re not. The regulars here, Mimi and Pat and a new blogger, Ana. They gots a way with writing a grat list that fills the joint with murmurs of appreciation like the ‘oohs‘ and ‘ahhs‘ at a 4th of July fireworks show.

yeah, thanks Kristi.

1) they say, ‘the dog is man’s best friend’, I ain’t gonna lie, it’s true

2) I got news for ya, ‘they’re also a woman’s best friend’.

3) sure, you could say Phyllis and I are married, thing is, we’d have this same thing if we just washed up on opposite shores of a desert island

4) I just might go on with this effort to write pulp-style. Who knows, even if I clear the joint, I just might get a little better at word-slinging.

5) Speaking of serial stories with a flash fiction pace, take a minute and get caught up with the story ‘Interlude’ ( Chapter 1 and Chapter 2)

6) You know, the work I do, it ain’t glamorous. The people who come to me always have a real big problem and, though l can’t say I always solve it the way they want, it keeps the electric for my computer on.

7) …had a dame come in a week or two ago, nice person, but messed-up all kinds of bad. Sure, she looked good on the outside, but one look at her eyes and you knew that when she looked in the mirror instead of the Hermès, Louboutin, Dior framing a million dollar smile, what she saw looked like well-trained Afghan with a zirconium collar after a ride through the QuickE Wash ‘n Buff, down on the corner of ‘Hopeful’ and ‘Self-Delusional’. Good kid, though, so I  wrote a link on one of my cards and stuck it under the cellophane on the pack of Luckies next to her drink, where she couldn’t miss it. It was to a place a friend runs, ‘Intuitive and Spiritual’. If anyone l know can get her back on the Path, its Cynthia

8) Sunday Supplement

9) THIS SPACE AVAILABLE

10) they got this house rule at Kristi’s called SR 1.3… no, it ain’t on the wall, not blue-thread-needle-point in a nice oak frame. If you look real hard past the neon sunset over the upper row of bottles behind the bar; it’s an old, type-written square the far held on the mirror with tape so old it looks like some Egyptian stuck it there…. behind the dusty bottles of Diet-Rite, Tab and Metrecal… the rule is real simple. You get to number nine, thank Kristi and move on…. there’s one more butt than she got a stool at the bar for the TToT

 

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Wednesday -the Wakefield Doctrine-

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Practical Tips:

  • If you have a rogerian manager (like, and, who doesn’t?) never walk up to him/her and start a work discussion when in a public space. Always request some future (preferably their choice) time to meet
  • If you have a scottian boss* remember: ‘noun-verb-object’; state your problem (resist the temptation to provide a solution) and ‘hoped for’ outcome and step back
  • If you have a clarklike boss have your ultimate, preferred outcome already in mind, ask for assistance, take a chair and if she/she seems to be heading towards an solution not to your liking, don’t be afraid to make it personal.

Tips on worldview identification:

  • count the pronouns. mostly first person (except when invoking authority)? consider: roger
  • count the pronouns. mostly third person (even when they’re referencing themselves?) probable: clark
  • count the pronouns. hardly any at all (as you run along after them, trying to keep up, lol) hey!: scott

Out of Time!

Hey! Got a Question? Have a situation at work/home/play that you’d like to get the Wakefield Doctrine take on? Tell us, already!

 

* thats part of the secret wonder of the Wakefield Doctrine. Even without knowing a lot of the details, the difference in the use of the words ‘boss’ and ‘manager’ to refer to a scott and a roger respectively, just sounds right.

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Tuesday -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘the hardest thing to do? thats easy!’

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

You want some simple, un-impeachable evidence to support the assertion that I have a secondary scottian aspect? Allow me to say,

“You are living in a perfect world.”

“Everyone works as hard to get things in life as everyone else.”

It’s true! Unfortunately, the scope of the discussion required to support my provocative assertions is just a wee bit beyond a Tuesday morning post.*

The Wakefield Doctrine is a perspective. An additional perspective. And, as such, can only add to our capacity to understand the world around us and the people that make it up. (And, no, you don’t want to put the emphasis on ‘make it up’. Were you to do so, we would be all, “well, since you brought it up.” lol)

The second-greatest obstacle to employing the Wakefield Doctrine is accepting the idea that when we speak of ‘the reality of the Outsider’ or ‘the world of the Predator’ or the even, ‘the life of the Herd Member’, we are not merely referring to a category of observed behavior. I grew up in the reality of the Outsider. The ‘conditions and character’ of the reality I found myself in was that of an Outsider. I did not choose or decide or otherwise pick a world in which I was apart from; for reasons not understood, I found myself there and, as most organisms do, I adapted and learned and developed strategies for interacting with the world (and especially) the people in it. As best I could.

Didn’t think I’d find the hook to bring in the subtitle, but there it is! Three personal realities. Three styles of interacting and living in the world we find ourselves.

The hardest thing in the world:

  • for a clark (Outsider) is to live in the emotional matrix of a roger (Herd Member)
  • for a scott (Predator) is to remain sane in the reality of a clark (Outsider) where everything is variable and changeable from one day (or minute) to the next
  • for a roger (Herd Member) is to be happy in the life of the scott (Predator), roaming the world, hunting to live and living to hunt, associated with others in a pack on a basis of mutual convenience, not mutual validation.

 

* Hint: it’s grounded in one of the fundamental concepts under-pinning our theory of personalty, i.e. the notion that all reality is personal. On a personal level, of course. But before you laugh, consider: what is more personal than the world as you experience it? Right?

I’m standing with a friend, looking across Bleecker Street (in Manhattan) (see photo above), at the glass front of the Cafe Angelique. You call me up and say, “Put your friend on the phone.” I remain standing next to my friend and try to ignore the masses of people flowing past us in either direction. On occasion, like a rogue wave careening down a mountain stream, a group of people slow almost to a stop, then breaks apart, some passing to my front, others to the back.

“He wants to talk to you,” my companion says, by way of explaining the cell phone, suddenly two inches from my nose. Across the street, like a vertical Syclla and Charybdis, the crosswalk light shouts, Stay! Walk! Stay!

“From what your friend says, you’re about to have a really great lunch. Tell me what you see.” The voice from the phone is calming to my ear and reassuring to my head.

I describe the plate glass window, barely containing the diners within, like the famous small-car/multiple-circus clown stunt, only in a convertible. I mention the maroon awning with the establishment’s name in white lettering and end with the vacant white bench.

“Is there any one sitting there?”

I reply, “In the restaurant?” My phone turns into inanimate plastic and metal, it’s smooth surface mocks me.

“Of course not! Cafe Angelique is one of the Top Ten places for lunch, according to the Times. The bench. Are there people sitting on the bench?” There was an up-lilt to the voice on the phone reminiscent of a child asking about Santa Claus as the family heads to the mall for Christmas shopping.

“No. Its em… wait a minute, a couple is standing in front of it. Looking in through the window. They’re waving at someone inside. Ok, there is someone sitting on the bench.”

“Thats where you’ll be having lunch today. It sounds as good as everyone says. Bon Apetit.”

I can’t wait to leave. My lunch companion has to be dragged out of the place, totally at home the minute we stepped through the doors, (somehow, after a brief conversation with the maître d′, we were waved into the cafe. The attractive couple remained on the bench. Smiling).

 

That, for the Wakefield Doctrine, is what personal reality is about. Nothing magic or mystifying, simply that the world, reality, our jobs and the people we interact with in our daily lives are…. subject to interpretation.

So, the perfect world? Well, that kinda involves a little more imagination. Suffice to say, our experience (of the world) are influenced by our history, our selfs and so, tend to reflect our hopes, expectations, fears, ambitions and secret dreams buried under childhood years. Now, we didn’t say ‘An enjoyable world’ or, even, ‘A good world’. We said ‘A perfect world’.

 

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Monday -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘of fear, worry and the here and now’

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Well, this certainly is a topic germane to the sociocalenderistic environment! Whether it’s the book report due within hours or the yearly review at work scheduled bright and early in the morning or the simple fact that you are insisting (to yourself) that, ‘this week things have to be different’, welcome to Monday! (Monday motto: “Thought it would be different, didn’cha? Nope. Not different, just …..more.”)

We’ve been spending time in the first half of the last few weeks writing Wakefield Doctrine posts that should serve both as refresher courses in the basics of our little personality theory and, at the same time, provide a reminder that the Doctrine is so…. er true? Seriously, I personally guarantee that you will know it was worth your effort, on the very first occasion when you remember enough of the Doctrine to correctly identify another person’s predominant worldview* while you are out and about your daily world.

Sorry, running out of time.

The topic? Damn…. ok, ok lets try this:  throw a scary fear-doll into a room with a clark, scott and a roger. scotts will attack it, rogers will look for the exit (as the scott is attacking) and the clark will be busy in thought deciding if: a) any of this is real; b) if it is, does it matter or have the other two claimed it as their own and maybe it’s not appropriate to get involved, at least at the moment.

‘Worry’ is the used-to-be-really-hot, still-kinda-slutty sister of fear. It is, for a clark, an irresistible indulgence, for a roger the wrapping paper on a gift of unknown value and a scott simply a distraction.

 

 

* which are (if you’re a roger with a secondary clarklike aspect? absolutely permissible to have three of those little index cards, one for each of the three) a:

  • clark (the reality of the Outsider) One who looks different, either in a studied-disheveled way or a startling-contrasty way, ‘bright-and-sparkly accents in a gothic motif’. There’s always the temptation, when observing a clark, to think that maybe they’re putting you on… a nice power-tie worn with a leather coat and mis-matched shoes. They mumble and, at times sound like they’re grabbing words out of burlap bag thats been dragged behind the car all the way back from the Vocabulary Factory. There is a connection, not always helpful, always there.
  • scott (the world of the Predator) These guys are as un-mistakable as a Doberman at a ‘Cutest Kitten’ festival. And not in a bad way…well, mostly not in a bad way. Easy identifiers: Exclamation points like the silvery tinsel on the lower branches of a Christmas tree in a house full of five-year-olds. Hair-trigger reflexes and, most of all their eyes. Surefire identifier: the eyes of a scott. Always alert, usually attractive, never not paying attention. Total standout-from-clarks-and-rogers.
  • rogers (the life of the Herd Member) If there is a tough-to-be-sure-of-in-the-first-five-seconds, its rogers. They are confident as a scott (but use more personal pronouns), almost as smart as a clark (but will always make sure you notice) and they are meticulous. Even in their conversations. If you come back from a vacation, your rogerian manager will ask you about it while providing an easy to reply, multiple choice list. No, really! Just try it. “Where did you go. Where did you stay. What were the rooms like. Did you enjoy it……”
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