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June 26, 2023 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

First thing this morning, we thought, ‘Lets get back to writing original content.’ And, we were, like, “Dude, the Doctrine, like exists, eo ipso (if’n you need to get technical, and being a cloudy Monday morning, that would not be ill-advised). There is nothing you can make up that is not already inherent in everyone’s favorite personality theory, the Wakefield Doctrine.”

‘Yeah, that’s true.’ was the only sensible retort.

So we searched ‘summer school’… ’cause, for many Readers, it’s Summer. Stumbled on the post below.

(Let you in on a little secret: we will read (and, in fact, make available for Readers) every post in this here blog here but, like everything else alive, the definition and insights into the Doctrine have… not changed… more a matter of ‘have become more accurate, more easier to understand because writing is better and such… lol)

…anyway… what cheered me up this morning was seeing that one of the key phrases in these pages was there as early as this post (2013). That phrase: (dit.dit.dit ‘…how we relate ourselves to the world around us and the people who make it up‘.)

It is key because it focuses on the concept of relationships. And the Doctrine in general and the three predominant worldviews in particular are about relationship if they’re about anything.

better save some insights for tomorrow…

Monday Morning (at) the Wakefield Doctrine (“…like that Rosetta Stone thing on TV, ‘cept more useful and way more fun!”)

June 17, 2013

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

The Wakefield Doctrine is a personality theory, it is a unique, useful and fun way to look at the behavior of the people in our lives. With an understanding of the principles of the Wakefield Doctrine you need no longer find yourself saying, “Why on earth would they say a thing like that? I really thought I knew them better than that!” This ‘Doctrine’ maintains that we all live our lives in personal realities (what we refer to as ‘worldviews’). This is not an overly exotic notion, nothing too metaphysical. All of you out there reading this sees the same world, a world where…

…where the supermarkets have big plate glass windows, the parking lots are full of new-car-paint-scraping-carts; that the world is full of a variety of people in an incredibly diverse range of occupations, with the teachers, the nurses, the hookers in the bad part of town, the politicians in the wealthy part of town, and socially we all see the same associations, the boss out to get ahead, the co-workers who refuse to say anything about the bruises on the new worker, the friends our children make at school, the rejection that happens in our mind on Friday while trying to hope for salvation on Saturday night, and in a very personal way we all share the world of hoping to meet the expectations of our parents, trying to endure the pain of seeing them in a nursing home, we hear the ‘why-didn’t-you-say-something-before’ from our spouse in bed late at night, we bear up under the terrible/wonderful experience of helping our pets at the end of their lives, while at some time in the course of this very Summer we will smile and we will frown at the predictable behavior of our husbands at the annual family cookout…

…the world in common is the same for all of us. What the Wakefield Doctrine focuses on, and where our personal reality becomes personal, is that for all of the above common things, people and situations, the important thing is ‘how do we relate ourselves to them, to these parts of life’? It is how what we think we know about/how we tend to respond to/how we feel about these (and every other of the tiny little aspects of life) that the Wakefield Doctrine is about.

The Wakefield Doctrine maintains that we all have the capacity to experience life in one of three characteristic worldviews (these personal realities we just mentioned). At a very early age we ‘pick one’ and that is the world we grow up and develop in: the reality of the Outsider (clarks), the life of the Predator (scotts) or the world of the Herd (rogers). When you know the characteristics of these three personal realities, you will be able to recognize the three personality types. When you recognize the three personality types, you will know more about the other person than they know about themselves. When you understand the nature of these three worldviews and recognise your own predominant worldview (your personality type), you will have new ways to change the things about yourself that you have always wanted to change but have been unable to change (or have changed for a while…).
It is a principle of the Wakefield Doctrine that we all have one predominant worldview/personal reality but that we never lose the potential of the other two worldviews.

The original topic of today’s Post was to have been the latest developments in the Wakefield Doctrine. And as such, might be of limited interest to the causal reader*. But as DownSpring Molly has said in the past, “Don’t worry too much if they understand what you are saying, clark! If they are interested and don’t understand, they will either figure it out for themselves or ask you.”

But rather than tell you the somewhat esoteric, although totally exciting insight into the rogerian worldview, which holds huge potential to increase our understanding of all three separate worldviews.

With the Wakefield Doctrine you may:

identify your worldview as being a clark (which you suspected since the pretty quick after reading this blog) because for you, ‘there is a whole wide world full of people and things and stuff …’out there’

see that your best friend (the one from longest ago) is probably a scott though there is a roger running a close second

decide that this Doctrine has a thing or two that you might find handy and so decide to hang out

find yourself on a damn international conference call with totally cool guys and remarkably attractive womens and yet, you are comfortable (…clark)

need to remind yourself that the Wakefield Doctrine is gender, culture and age neutral

find that the rambunctious scotts and the charming rogers and occasionally scary clarks are actually kinda fun

learn ways to self-improve-yourself… the way that you want to change, not necessarily the way that everyone says you should change..

(bought a beat-up PC and learned how to type…lol)

*yes, on purpose …a little humor for the Writer

Filed Under: Featured, Psychology, the Wakefield Doctrine Tagged With: personality types, psychology of personality, relationships, self-development, the Wakefield Doctrine

RePrint Monday -the Wakefield Doctrine-

May 29, 2023 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Holiday RePrint Post!

(if a picture ‘is worth a thousand words’ then a song ‘is like a story read by the author’)

Monday -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘so lets start again, but this time with the basics established’

June 1, 2015

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

(no, I have no idea what this photo has to with, adds to or otherwise enhances your enjoyment of this here Post here… ask zoe, she knows of such things*) *but don’t expect an easy answer!

self-consciousness:: “…uncomfortably conscious of oneself as an object of the observation of others” (www.merriam-webster.com)

clarks worry about what other people might think (of them)

rogers are concerned with how they appear (to the people around them)

scotts only care that they are noticed (by people…good bad…. not important)

Most clarks will describe themselves as being self-consciousness. In fact, as a rule, clarks will take the more committed position of assigning the description of ‘introvert’ to themselves, and, depending on the clark, there will be no small amount of pride in their assertion. Most people think of clarks as ‘the shy ones’. If, however, we accept the further definition of ‘self-consciousness’ as “A person with a chronic tendency toward self-consciousness may be shy or introverted. (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-consciousness), we are not immediately dissuaded of this proposition. However, as we all know, a clark with a significant secondary scottian aspect will not suffer being ignored. (‘…a clark will avoid being the center of attention but will not tolerate being ignored.’)

But the lesson of today’s post is in the realm of ‘the everything Rule’ which states: any experience encountered by (any) one of the three personality types, can be experienced by ‘the other two’ and be exactly the same, …except different.
Self-consciousness is no exception. A roger is not concerned with what others think, (which implies the right to act in the manner being considered), because they are of the Herd. Any action, for a roger is, by definition, allowed. It’s all about ‘how well are they doing it, in the eyes of their peers’. That’s how self-consciousness manifests in the rogerian worldview.

scotts? nah… you all know about how they relate themselves to the world around them! (Hint: a scott alone in a room, isn’t).

Hey!! New Reader Alert and Helpful Hint:

Read about how the world looks to the three personality types. try looking around, using each…one will be ‘no way!’ discard that (worldview). Now try the other two… in different situations, one will seem to be ‘clearer’ more ‘comfortable’ that’s your predominant worldview! Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine!

…oh yeah, learning this thing? ‘you can’t get it wrong and you can’t break it!’

…ask anyone!

Filed Under: Featured, Psychology, the Wakefield Doctrine Tagged With: relationships, the Wakefield Doctrine, Understanding Human Behavior

Too/Two/To-sday -the Wakefield Doctrine-

April 18, 2023 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

So, we’re in the midst of wrestling with the issue of how to approach the big Six Sentence Café & Bistro ‘Poetry Slam’ that will be happening at the Six Sentence Story bloghop the day after tomorrow.

You’re all invited to stop by and watch (aka ‘read’) the fun. Or, if you’re so inclined, participate. (We’ll drop a ton ‘o links at the bottom of this post to better spread the word.)

For anyone not familiar with the context of the venue, the Six Sentence Café & Bistro is a virtual …err Café & Bistro? Don’t want to say, ‘metaphorical’ because, while that was the basis of it’s creation and earliest iterations, it has, by virtue of the same magic that, (were you a certain age), and you were driving in your car and saw a sign on a roadside restaurant that read ‘Arnold’s’ or (switching to a more urban setting) ‘Cheers’ (with steps down from a Boston sidewalk) or in the middle of rural america and and came upon ‘the Double Deuce’ you’d know what the inside looked like before you got out of your car.

That, through the mgic of ‘repetition’ in the virtual world is what we have with the SSC&B

It’s a place to go where you can count on it being the same anytime you visit.

But that’s not the original theme of today’s post. (That said, if you need directions or interior descriptions don’t hesitate to feel free to ask: Denise or Mimi or Tom or Nick or Ford or Chris or Jenne for descriptions of the ‘physical’ setting.

but, it’s a short-post morning, so we need to be brief.

The Wakefield Doctrine is a perspective on the world around us and the people who make it up. It proposes that, instead of a menu of characteristics and typical behavior and tropisms that, when assessed will result in a score that puts a person into (a) personality type, the Doctrine relies entirely on the nature of (a) person’s relationship to the world. We have three ‘personality types’: clarks(Outsider), scotts(Predator) and rogers(Herd Members). The parenthetical is the hint as to the relationship, the names are the fun part.

Anyway. We’re born with the three, settle into one, but retain the potential of ‘the other two’. (Still with me?)

The beauty part of the Doctrine is, accepting that a child can perceive themselves as one half of the three relationships, it’s not a stretch to imagine that, when I was growing up an Outsider, the behaviors for interacting with the world would reflect that perception. As a result, one can say, I have the best personality given the nature of the reality I grew up in. (New Readers? That’s where the quality within yourself comes to the fore. If you’re still reading, then one of your traits is to enjoy playing with ideas, imagining things for the fun of it and simple intellectual flexibility. Welcome to the Doctrine. Your friends on the out-wave of the swinging exit door? Don’t worry about them. They’ve already forgotten or decided this was stupid. We’ll just keep with ourselfs, ok?

damn! Still didn’t get to the topic!

The topic was to have been: the role and effect of secondary and tertiary aspects as manifested in the Wakefield Doctrine.

While we said that everyone has one and only one predominant worldview (clark, scott or roger) we retain the capacity to experience the world from the perspective of ‘the other two worldviews’. It is a potential, not necessarily an actual. Some people are all predominant worldview, others a predominant with a significant secondary or tertiary (worldview).

In the interest of time and the fading hope of tying this to the intended topic, in the context of the preceding, I’m a clark (predominant worldview) with a significant secondary aspect (scott) and a weak tertiary aspect (roger).

I’ll be participating in the online ‘Poetry Slam’. And enjoying it.

That is an example of how secondary aspects manifest, when using the additional perspective on the world around us and the people who make it up.

Filed Under: Featured, Psychology, the Wakefield Doctrine Tagged With: personality types, predicting human behavior, relationships, the Wakefield Doctrine

Six Sentence Story -the Wakefield Doctrine- [a Café Six part deux]

April 14, 2023 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

This is the Wakefield Doctrine’s contribution to the Six Sentence Story bloghop.

Hosted by Denise, ruled by a single rule: To use the prompt word and keep it to six sentences in length.

Speaking of rules. If you’re thinking, “Those people at that virtual Café seem to be out for some creative writing fun, and taking part in a weekly prompt-word bloghop what I do, I owe it to myself to check out this ‘Poetry Slam’ next week. I wonder if there’s any special format or pretext or what-have-you.”

Good News: No rules (other the usual limit on sentenceses). Short, free-form poems. Any topic. Length: the written equivalent of a couple of minutes spoken.

One interesting question beginning to surface: ‘Being a Six Sentence Story do we have to ‘write ourselves into the setting (the Café & Bistro)?’ And, (follow-up question), is there any requirement to use a character/avatar or can it be pretty much, ‘Hey! Here’s my poem’.

All of the above.

Let us know in Comments any additional questions or suggestions. In the event you’re planning to attend the Slam ‘in person/character’ and you haven’t read enough about the Six Sentence Café & Bistro itself, feel free to ask: Denise or Mimi or Tom or Nick or Ford or Chris or Jenne for descriptions of the ‘physical’ setting.

The prompt word:

VALET

“Shit! People are actually going to show up here next Thursday…” the tall, thin man looked around at the sea of empty tables half-surrounding the small stage positioned midway along the interior wall of the Six Sentence Café & Bistro;

“The twentieth of April…”

“Thanks a lot, Nick, way to alleviate my sky-rocketing performance anxiety,” both Tom and Nick laughed, the Sophomore, at the far end of the room slicing lemons at the bar, looked up, “What’s so funny…” and Hunga, cocking his head, barked three times, the canine equivalent of ‘all righht!”

“Hello …anyone here?” Frank Hubney called out in a moderately-moderate voice from the vestibule, (after taking a moment to neaten the skewed stack of ‘The WatchTower’s and a handful of ‘SeventhDay Monthly’ covering the top of the cigarette machine, before stepping up to the near end of the bar; “I heard there was a poetry slam here next week and,” the man with a relaxed posture and sharp eyes looked down at the floor before continuing, “Well, I’m kind of a wordsmith and I thought I’d scope the place out ahead of time.”

The tall, thin man jumped up from his chair, “Perfect timing, with your arrival I have a reasonable premise to provide a description of the Café for anyone thinking they’d ‘write themselves into the scene’ when they perform next week.”

“What?”

Tom and Nick, still sitting at the table, were shaking their heads slowly; the Sophomore appeared to be totally caught-up in arraying the slices of lemon he just cut into a perfect crescent; the laptop on the table in an alcove on the opposite wall flared into light and Chris appeared on the screen, clearly deep in thought and from the dark end of the bar, Mimi and Denise stepped into the light, preceded by “No, you tell him or, better yet, if Ford ever gets out of the bathroom, we’ll get him to do it.”

“Wait a minute now, being converted from a granite and brick textile mill, the area is still more abandoned lots, pawnshops and storefront street missions than it is upscale entertainment district, maybe I should arrange for valet parking,” a pause was broken by good nature’d laughter, a goulash of: ‘Get outa town‘; ‘cher, do not worry so much‘; ‘sacre bleu‘; ‘so, I do have the right address‘ and the felt-against-wood thumping of a happy dog’s tail.

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Photo-prompt Phriday -the Wakefield Doctrine-

March 31, 2023 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

So, we got an email yesterday (or, maybe it was today) from Jenne and C.E. inviting us to join them (and others) in their sophomore edition of their new bloghop! Guess they have’t quite had enough of the Doctrine’s brand of wtf!?! writing.

We admit to be honored and confused as one of our hosts pens the most insightful of stories and the other, well there’s no accounting for a skilled writer’s capacity to engage with the ‘Lines?!! What lines… the colors go wherever my crayon touches down… you got a problem with that?!!‘ variety of fictioneer. (lol)

The rules? A photo and a 250 word limit.

It’s fun and you couldn’t ask for better company. Please do not allow our being invited to affect your decision to join in.

Photo prompt:

“No way!”

Moving quickly to either side, careful not to scuff the suitcase, my initial assessment remains the same: Zero-sum game. Over. None of this is making sense and, had I a thicker skin, I’d remove all traces of being here and find my way back.

“Shit!”

Action not only speaks louder than words, it sharpens our eyesight the better to detect novel options almost always hidden in the future. My downfall is far less dynamic, except in its insidious power to push the world to arm’s length; to insist on the distorted information inherent in all memory, distant and ‘what-the-hell’ immediate.

“Goddamnit!”

Ok, ok better. Stay with the ‘un-civilized’ response. That way, like it or not, is the way of free will. Well, not stuck in the same rut of self-destruction, at any rate. The ladder, now moving, appears to be elongating, like one of those trompe l’oeil things drawn by someone with both talent and the Will to try and chart their own course in life.

“Screw this…”

The amount of concrete and masonry did wonders for amplifying the metallic clatter as I walk away. Free Will it is. Even with the distance growing, the aggressively sad part of my mind would not be silent,

‘Did you hear that? It sounded like a voice.’