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RePrint Monday -the Wakefield Doctrine-

October 17, 2022 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

The single most essential to learning and using the Wakefield Doctrine?

What we used to call: intellectual flexibility.

Well the Reprint does a decent job esplaining the concept, so allow us to noodle on the keys here for a second or two.

…nah, let’s just go with the reprint.

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‘of chi squares and video brunches’ the Wakefield Doctrine ‘…don’t worry, this will be over in 3.00687285223 minutes.’

June 20, 2013 By  (Edit)

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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According to Research, the average number of words in a blog Post is 551.25. Today is the kind of day that has more things to do than time to do them. As all writers of blogs know, content is king. And new content is kinger. So I will Post this Post even though it is 6:41 am and I need to leave the house at 7:34 am.

This is what Julie DeNeen refers to as a niche blog, i.e. a specific subject, as opposed to a personal blog which is more related to the Writer’s life and times.

The subject is the Wakefield Doctrine and the purpose of the blog is twofold, a) to present the Wakefield Doctrine as (a tool) for understanding personality types, behavior (our own and that of the people in our lives) to as wide an audience as possible and 2) develop my ‘presentation skills’ written and verbal through these Posts, participation in blog hops and other activities and video chatting.

(damn! this is boring!! and I’ve used up 182 words of my 551.25   shit! (hell with the rules of rhetoric)

hey, have you ever felt on certain days that you were invisible?  no, really!  like you’re with people and it’s not just that they don’t speak to you, but you can see that they are not ‘recognizing’ that you are even there!  or… even though you have on your best outfit, heels ‘n makeup are perfect and you are with a group of people and you can’t buy a reaction…don’t you get this feeling that you really need to hurt something… or maybe you are work, you have an office to run, and there is that one employee who insists on working hard and is nice, no matter what you say… doesn’t it feel good to see the look on his or her face when you lash out and they get that expression of puzzled defensiveness?

If you can identify with any of these here imaginary people here, then the Wakefield Doctrine might, just might be something that will change your day today.  maybe.  if you have the …intellectual flexibility, the confidence in your own reality to try something that says,”‘hey! you want to see something really cool?”

so with the weekend approaching, if you won’t be surprised at finding yourself thinking: “I don’t think I want to go through all that effort to go out…it probably will be a waste of time” or “if that husband of mine would go back to being the guy he was when we were dating, then all this work wouldn’t be so…” or even “how many times do I have to talk to her, I explained why I didn’t find the idea of going there this weekend and spending all that time… I don’t understand what I need to do to get through to her and the kids.”

The Wakefield Doctrine is a unique, productive and fun way to understand the behavior of the people in our lives. Never again find yourself saying, I really thought I knew them better than that!

( 23 words to spare! …damn what should I say…   hey Cyndi! Denise!  Considerer! Michelle! Melanie!  Julie!  video brunch coming up… yeah Terrye! you too! (Hey Christine... Kristi  come on! it’ll be !)

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How did we not use this video below before this?

(yeah, probably have but: 2) the mind tends to, like a clothes dryer filter after a month of flannel shirts, sheets, towels and…. towels? Are there really flannel towels?!? damn…. gather words and such until nothing gets through or a) when the occasion arose we were in a more, ‘be sure not to use anything that a potential Reader might feel offended by…… but. but! damn! kinda funny video)

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine-

September 18, 2022 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

This is the Ten Things of Thankful bloghop(TToT). Founded in 1986 by Lizzi, the TToT is reputed to be among the longest-running grat blogs in the ‘sphere. “Way to go, L!”

For our part, we’re tolerated by Dyanne (hostinae) and Lisa and Pat and Mimi an them, what with our Secret Rules, hypo-sensible descriptions of the people, places and things that inspire, surprise, trick, inveigle and otherwise push us into the empty classroom that has ‘Gratitude 101’ written in yellow chalk on a black blackboard.

So, here ya go!

1)  Phyllis walking from the cottage past (a) regrowth of the ferns (to her immediate right) and a crop of zombie Triffids lurking in the middle of the yard. (If you’ve never encountered these Flora-That-Time-Forgot, they’re from the Mesozoic Era (aka ‘No frickin way a plant evolves needle-sharp antlers to survive, unless they’re native to Planet Nightmare‘)

2) Una (who is watching from the picture window, displaying more sense than her two humans)

3) the Wakefield Doctrine

4) the Six Sentence Story bloghop

5) excellent vid chat with Nick and Denise (stay tuned!)

6) Phyllis’ cottage complete(ish)

7) serial (no, not cereal, serial) stories and how they always have one more thing they want the writer to tell the Reader

8) something, something

9) Friend of the Doctrine Cynthia (we all had a nice chat last night on the Saturday Night Drive)

10) SR 1.3 (from the Book of Secret Rules, aka the Secret Book of Rules)

 

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine-

September 4, 2022 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

This is the Wakefield Doctrine’s contribution to the Ten Things of Thankful(TToT) bloghop.

Conceptualized by Lizzi in 1998 and made available (in a small, road-side stand, complete with hand-painted lettering on the front of the makeshift sign, ‘Gratatude is not the Answer, but it is the Best of Questions’.)

Ok, to the matter at hand. This weekend, here in Oceania, is a holiday celebrating work. (yeah, a touch on the ‘cog diss’ side, ya know?) In any event, when one is lucky, work can be mistaken for recreation and the verse can be vicered. (The emblem above is an artifact from research while writing ‘Almira’. The early days of worker’s rights were fascinating (and horrifying and depressing and, semi-uplifting…the usual response to encountering historic eras of the ‘real’ world.) Fortunately for all of us, there is this blogosphere, where words are spells and history can be fun (or scary) enchantments.

For the Wakefield Doctrine’s contribution to the TToT:

 

1) Una

2) Phyllis

3) the Wakefield Doctrine

4) the Six Dentist Story bloghop (yeah, we kept the typo, hey, what’s a holiday weekend without fillings and such)

5) Bambi and Them

6) escape!  (Phyllis would not have enjoyed just the previous gif)

7) So, (you’re all thinking), what’s the latest on that home remodel project? If you don’t recall, here’s the link to the first ‘Before’ vid

8) good-looking church of the week (maybe we should refer to them as houses of woodshop..worship) This one is on Montauk Ave in New London, Connecticut.

(Who said, ‘oh man! that building to the left… nuns!!*) Sorry about the angle. But then, I suspect many Readers, looking at the brick and large-window (with those humongous pull-down shades and maybe, if you’re old enough, small square transom windows that required a pole with a bronze metal hook at the end to open and close; being asked to execute this task was work of the highest level of honor in the elementary eco-system.)…. sorry where were we? lol

9) something, something

10) Secret Rule 1.3 ’cause why the heck not? Stop. Right now, ask yourself, “If I could impose one, and only one Rule on the world around me, and everyone would comply, it would be…” Now, tell us you don’t think the Book of Secret Rules (aka the Secret Book of Rules) belongs here at the TToT. lol

 

* we kid nuns here at the Doctrine, but we really admire the dedication of many of them…go ahead, ask Phyllis

 

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Wednesday -the Wakefield Doctrine-

August 31, 2022 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Alert and thoughtful Reader, Nick, writes: “Why don’cha write/post stuff that other clarks can take and apply to their own situations and thereby directly benefit from this Wakefield Doctrine in their own lives?”

Full Disclosure. His statement has been paraphrased, the original, actual words that we’re reprinting include:

“…in accordance with… “And, as any clark will recognize, a personal experience, good or bad, doesn’t do anyone any good until it can be shared. “… a certain degree of understanding of the WD…I strongly believe that this msg of yours… should be shared …I am …as an understanding enhancement tool.”

ok. so, not so much on the redacted-but-really-he-used-these-words. More, the spirit of? ok we admit it, we’re trying to convey a sense of what we believe we understood on the basis of how we interpreted the statement that we read, allowing, of course, for a degree of individual bias and a tendency to…

(We really need a tee shirt says, Obfuscate? Who me? Why on earth would you think that? No, I’m really interested in your answer …to this question)

It as been said, in these pages: ‘[A]nyone who comes back and reads this blog more than two and a half times is either a clark or a scott with a significant secondary clarklike aspect or a roger with a (very) significant clarklike aspect.

It has also been said, ‘While being immediately useful to clarks, the principles of the Wakefield Doctrine can be productively employed by the ‘other two’ predominant worldviews.”

…ok, ok still looking for the ‘just between us clarks‘ posts. (Free future hat to anyone who can explain that the likelihood of finding this kind of post is vanishingly small and why that is. Hint: it has to do with (a) clark‘s capacity to endure the inevitable backlash whenever we let our scottian secondary aspect have the wheel say, ‘Fuck scrutiny… gimme a soapbox.. I’ll fuckin tell everone!’*)

of infinite jest, of most excellent fancy

June 12, 2010

Hey, yo clarks…it’s Saturday and the other two have the weekend starting.  They both know this is a time when they are entitled and (in the case of rogers) required to relax and have fun and engage in all things not of the work week.  You, (being a clark) know nothing of this…this is a day as are all other days.  Sure, you may aspire to having the feeling of enjoying some  ‘time off’,  relief from the weeks organised work, hell you may even have a situation in which you have weekends off, but you and I both know that it is not the same (as it is with those other two, scott and roger).So, am glad you are still reading.  I hope you can continue to ‘set aside momentarily’ your inclination to dismiss this blog as something that you have already got covered in your own system of understanding (the world) and see if you cannot benefit from this Wakefield Doctrine thing.  And it is to the clarks that I speak today…”no, scott, no special music videos and nothing of a sexy exotic nature”…just clarks stopping for a moment to see if we can’t maybe help each other out a bit. (As to our rogerianReaders), they are totally into ‘hey! it’s my weekend can’t you see how much I have earned the right to be even more self-absorbed than I am during the rest of the week”? lol Yeah.

OK.  Post for and to the clarks.  Hey! come back I have just started!

I could cut and paste stuff from the clarks page, about how we live in our heads, and think a lot and do not show emotion but we are past that at this point. There simply is not a roger or a scott still reading this…so it is us here.  I know that you know that I know…etc…blah…etc.  Fine we have established our credentials, identified ourselves it is up to me to offer something that you have not yet thought of, or have not been willing to think too loudly, much less try and discuss it with one of the others.
Fine.  I am willing to play.  Here’s the thing…we can accept our low self concept/esteem, in fact it is a point of pride with us…sort of like the person who has overcome a handicap…we own it and accept it and there is hardly anyone in the world that is qualified to discuss this topic (with us).
Sure.
Understood.
I get the knowing/thinking thing.  And I am sure there are clarks who are better than I am at thinking/analyzing even better at describing and expressing what it is to be inside the head of (and therefore to live in the world of) a clark.

Difference is I have experienced the alteration of my clarklike nature. (Sorry no insult intended but for dramatic purposes I have to do the following, even though I know that you know).  Notice and re-read what I just said…I have experienced…alteration…clarklike nature…I did not say:
“I have learned to…” or “I think differently”…I have not even said anything about “discovering something new, a key to understanding…”

I have experienced an alteration in my clarklike nature.  Am still a clark( lol ya think? ) but have something in addition to…

So, welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)…I think we better go find those other two…roger is probably swelling up in emotional intensity…sort of getting wider and lower to the ground with the severity of their sincere and heartfelt nature…and the scotts  lol god knows what they are up to!..I don’t hear any cries of torment, maybe they have found something old and worn to gnaw on…they are such simple creatures… but fun…

So come back when you are ready to Comment…we will be here…I think…ya never know…lol

…fuck that greaser 50s rock and roll or country music that scotts so love that they turn into little pre-teen girls at the thought of, bless their simple scottian hearts…and roger’s idea of music…I’m sorry I do not believe that I am quite qualified, in an acedemistical sort of way to criticise the music that most rogers will beat people over the head with, for their obvious lack of qualifications to enjoy…

(oh before we go…) you know that just because we are self-conscious and mumble and all that sort of thing does not mean that we are not to found in the spotlight…I offer as a closing example a clark we can all be proud of…

 

Hold on…just discussing Doctrine matters with DownSpring#1…and she made a statement about my doing something better than someone else which resulted in my success at “being taken under their wing”…
…now you’re clark…you like the sound of that…”under their wing”…tell me I’m lying.  DS#1 insisted that the choice of words was ‘accidental’ that she did not mean it that way…

If you want to ever have the slightest hope of doing that which you have been trying to do your entire damn lives, you must be prepared to accept the fact that it is always your choice…and it is not the words that matter, it is the fact that the words we choose are the instructions we give to the world out there…instructions as to how we are to be regarded…as clarks
But you are still reading because a) you remember that all people have the potential to be any of the three, a clark, a scott or a roger and b) this potential does not ‘go away’ or wear off it is always possible to add the qualities to what we are and finally c) clarks are the only one of the three that think that improving themselves is not only a good idea, it is a necessary idea…because of d) the central idea of a clark is way beyond the scope of this particular Post…but you have earned another video!!

 

* thanks to Nick and Denise and Mimi and them for standing in view while I do so and holding up (metaphorically) a Magic Marker-written sign: ‘You can always get another set of everyone!’**

** if not familiar enough a reference to infer and enjoy, just ask

 

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Monday -the Wakefield Doctrine-

August 29, 2022 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

We did mention that the Wakefield Doctrine is a tool for self-improving oneself, did we not?

Sure we did.

At the risk of leaving ourselfs open to the totally wonderful, (wish we’d thought of it), observation, “If the only tool you have is a hammer, it is tempting to treat everything as if it were a nail.” (Maslow sorta) we will remind New Readers: the Wakefield Doctrine is an additional perspective on the world around us and the people who make it up.

Enough with the ‘…for now, refer to the syllabus you were given at the start of the class’.

The word ‘perspective’ is also a clue to the (intended) use of the principles of the Doctrine for change and development. The Wakefield Doctrine is predicated on the notion that …

oh dip!* I’ve missed the early morning train to Insightsville! damn**

Be sure to check back tomorrow, we promise to offer useful information and practical applications of this most wonderful of personality ‘theories’.

Note: New Readers? If your first thought is:

“What the hell! I paid tuition. Well, I paid with my time, clicking here… ya know?!!? Though I gotta say the preliminaries are, no offense, pretty obvious. In fact, based on the most fundamental descriptions of the three personality types and the role of how a person relates themselves to the world around them (yeah, pretty clever, inserting that ‘themselves’ in to the more common, ‘how we relate to the world’ adds an entirely personal dimension to the equation) and a couple of other things like ‘personal reality’ and that initially way-weird ‘Everything Rule’ (in the last installment we actually heard Cameron (a total clark) on the wonderful internet video series BlackTail Studio state the Everything Rule, nearly word-for-word). I’ll just go ahead and do some self-study.”

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine. You got this.

 

the Wakefield Doctrine: ‘you’re already practicing the core Principles, you might as well get something for all your efforts’ (…yeah, even some fun!)

March 25, 2013

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

The reason we say,  you’re already practicing the Principles is that, as a personality theory, the Wakefield Doctrine does not start with a person answering questions, filling out a survey or questionnaire, reporting likes and dislikes, lying about weaknesses and strengths, exaggerating the things others like and hate about us. No. In a funny, you-guys-really-are-weird kind of way the Wakefield Doctrine doesn’t really care what the individual thinks their personality (type) should or could or might be. Nope. This here personality theory here does not need to know that.
…as a matter of fact! You don’t even need to involve the person that you are about to know (better, in a way) than they know themselves. You see, the Wakefield Doctrine is for you, not for them.

But I’m getting ahead of us. We’ll come back to this ‘you mean I can know my boyfriend’s, my Teacher’s, my wife’s, my boss’s, my kid’s personality types and I don’t need to ask them to help?’ in just about a paragraph. First, the Principles that the Title of today’s Post says you are already practicing.

The Wakefield Doctrine is all about how a person relates themselves to the world around them. Notice the odd wording, I did not say, ‘how a person relates to the world‘. Because that’s only one dimension, in a sense a description of  what happens as the person goes about their life. We say, ‘how the person relates themselves to the world around them’ because it is not simply a choice (about how to act, what to do, how to feel about it), it is reality. What we refer to as a worldview.
In the context of the Wakefield Doctrine, we all live in a personal reality, aka our worldview. This means that my reality is different from yours. No, nothing weird… no screaming vegetables, nothing shooting across the sky, no flying without the help of technology, but different nonetheless. And it is the way our worldviews differ that we find the value and utility in our personality theory.

The Wakefield Doctrine maintains that we are all born with the potential to experience the world from one of three ‘perspectives’, living in one of three worldviews, if you will. And what most people call ‘personality types’, we know as the appropriate behavior, given the world that a person finds themselves experiencing. (Remember!  personal reality as in ‘real’ and ‘reality’  not  “just ’cause you felt like it, or I think I will choose to act like this, she deserves it….”) The three characteristic worldviews are:

  1. the reality of the Outsider (clarks)  not ‘because’, not ‘well, you should speak up more’, and definitely not ‘well if you didn’t act so weird, people would get to know you and  you would have an easier time in life’  this reality is simply one in which you are here and ‘the world’ is out there. (For our clarklike Readers this last statement is sufficient, the rogers and the scotts might nod and look understanding, but will never get it)
  2. the world of the Predator (scotts) of the three personality types, scotts can be the easiet to deal with- they are energetic and active, enthusiastic and mercurial helpful and very dangerous… the saying here is: clarks think, scotts act and rogers feel’.  scotts are the life of the party and the reason the police get called, scotts are your best friend until someone who they look up to shows up and then your life will be miserable , scotts are the neighbor who will lend you anything in his garage and help build your deck without asking and she is the neighbor with the well-behaved kids (at least they are when she is around, when she is not….ayiieee!), scottsare fun and tiring, loyal and seductive  you have at least one scottian friend
  3. the world as seen by a member of the Herd (rogers) are the reason we have civilization and they are the reason we have repressive societies. they are the personality type that lives in a world of emotion… not just moods and feelings, but where clarks think things and scotts act out, rogers manipulate emotion, in themselves and in the people around them. Ever encounter someone who makes you feel comfortable talking?  ...roger  know anyone at work who is always in the center of things and knows all about everyone?… roger ever find your husband/wife…boyfriend/girlfriend  acting like they had no idea that you had a life outside the relationship?  lol roger  there is a saying around here: without rogers humanity would still be out on the savannah with the scotts roaming in packs, feeding on the giant herds of rogers while the clarks dart among the low underbrush in a desperate attempt to stay alive long enough to invent opposable thumbs

These three worldviews are the ‘core principles’ of the Doctrine that you are already practicing.

Back to the Practical Value….and how you don’t need to involve the ‘other person’ and how this Wakefield Doctrine is for you, not for them.

Today. Observe the people in your life. Infer which of the three worldviews they appear to be acting from, test this against the descriptions of each of the three personality types that you will find throughout this blog. Once you know which the other person is, you will know why they are doing the things that they are and because you know this, you will have the choice of how you would respond, how you feel about what they do, how to shape the message if you need to get them to do what you want. In other words, you will have more freedom of choice than they do.

 

* one of the best ‘tv shows’ available on the internets, ‘Good Place’ we totally recommend it.

** yeah, here… all too often

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