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Monday -the Wakefield Doctrine- “Well, write something!’

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Woke up thinking, the Winter being near over*, we might take on a long avoided task of editing this here blog here.

No, not the posts! Too many of them, and they’re kinda fun, in whatever state of ability and/or skill they are executed.

Will start with the ‘About’ page and work our way down through the list.

…ok, one, short, little reprint.

Got one.

(Thanks out to Mimi and Frank the others who, with the kindest of intentions and graciousness have said, “No! Reprinting the old posts is good. They’re no different than recent posts. …ok, maybe you weren’t overly comfortable with high-end rhetoric techniques such as, well, contractions and maybe a few less parentheticals… but still, we weren’t here to read them, so they’re new to us?”)

if you insist. (Will figure how to use whatever success we achieve in our editing project and follow-up with y’all. Betcha we find a way to repackage it into a ‘new’ post.

sun don’t shine, the gods look down in anger

(Well, oh kay… interesting note to start a Post on… but stranger things have happened in and about the Wakefield Doctrine)

(…”this just in”…’clark…the seventies…were…thirty…plus…years ago’…stop…’please, stop’…)

Hey Reader! Yeah you!
Do you believe that your (personal) history defines and (pre)determines your future or what? Is there such a thing as the momentum of habit. (The ‘momentum of habit’  is the notion that what we are is simply a more elaborate form of what we have always been.) (Cheery thought, no?)

Well? Do you think it does?  (Don’t you dare touch that “Back” button.)
(in a fairly creepy, sudden shift to a calm tone…)Do me a favor, (After all, you know something about us here at the Doctrine because of the information we are throwing out into the world by way of this blog.)…

…Look back on your life. Try and recollect the things you have done, the places you have lived, the people you have known, since as far back as you can.
Now, erase the names of the people, delete the addresses of the locations and take off the labels of the things you have done (job title, education, religious designations). You can still remember your life, can’t you?
Even with names and labels removed/deleted/eliminated, you know that you have been alive, with a life that is yours and yours alone. You know, even without the names, you lived in one place (or many different places), you knew some people (or a lot of people) and you spent your waking time doing this (or doing that).
Your ‘life story’ runs from the first (and often sketchy) times you remember as a child through and right up to now.

Pretty goddamn ‘straight’ line isn’t it?
(Come on roger, stop protesting. You what I mean. You are capable of this.)
Look at your life in terms of how many different interests and activities and ways of investing your time is evidenced. How different was your life when you were 7 years old compared to when you were 17 years old?(…or 27 or 77…)
(Yeah, yeah scott, I get the, ‘I gots the girlfriends/boyfriends, thing’ Does not matter. Lose the names, and they (still) are people you shared yourself and your time with, no different than a best friend in second grade or a spouse in middle age or the person in the bed next to yours in the nursing home.)
What I am trying to get across here is that the important thing  is not the names of the people, places and activities that comprise(s) your life.
Rather, I am asking you to consider the question, what did they (seem) to add to your life, why did you give them your time!?

I want the Reader to consider their lives without the qualification/rationalization/justification that we all impose when we reflect on our lives.

… ‘he was a great friend, even though he was an asshole’… ‘I really liked spending time with her, but I had to because she was family’ … “of course we are happy together! We have beautiful children and a nice home’… ‘I know this is a boring job, but I will stick with it, because otherwise, what will I do?…’maybe I can still pray and maybe its not too late for me…”who will take care of me if I get sick?’…

(These little quotes barely  hint at the myriad of ways that we employ to make the fact that what constitutes ‘our lives’, the essential nature and character, if you will,  is the same today(as you read this blog) as it was on your very first day at school.)

So?
So what, what is wrong with that, at least I have a life that I can look at and say, ‘hey I’m not doing so bad’!

(You are correct, scott. roger you can come back in the room, we have stopped talking about life as if it were totally unpredictable and un-certain. We won’t talk about interchangeability any more.)

Well, that was fun, wasn’t it?  (Yes, I am seriously getting ready to close out this Post for today.) (No, I actually don’t have a more satisfying denouement for todays Post)

(writer leaves, house lights stay off…)

Alright, alright. Seeing that we have some new visitors (from Italy and Sweden and Ghana to name a few) and, of course, Sloveniaaa  is in da house!! I will try to impart or at least ‘duct tape’ some kind of coherent point to this Post.

If pressed, I would have to say the point of this (Post) is that our essential natures, (clarks, scotts and rogers), will determine how our lives are experienced and will force a consistency throughout the years (of our lives).
Having said that, I will remind everyone that the Wakefield Doctrine is predicated (yeah! he said predicated, he must be back from wherever…) on the idea that we all have the full range of potential, we are all (potentially) clarks and scotts and rogers.
And, despite how this Post reads, we always have the potential to feel, act, or think in the manner of the other two personality types. In fact, that really is the purpose of the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers).

So, if this Post doesn’t get the Progenitor roger to write another comfortable and enjoyable reading Post, I don’t know what will.

 

* Summer beginning, as it does most every year on the twenty-second of December

 

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine-

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

This is the Doctrine’s weekly contribution to the Ten Things of Thankful bloghop. Founded in 1834 by a now-long-lost splinter group of the Order of Lilith, the first principle was (and remains) to develop and embrace alternative perspectives and incorporate gratitude as an enhancement on day-to-day efforts. And, as an old, departed sales manager friend of ours was fond of saying, ‘(Do that), and you cain’t never go wrong’.

1) Una (is a good supervisor)

2) Phyllis (is a good Christmas tree tech)

3) the Wakefield Doctrine is one of the better additional perspectives on the world around us and the people who make it up.

4) the Six Sentence Story bloghop. a place to read flash-fiction and to practice writing flash-fiction

5) Sunday’s TwoG-and-G Livestream a forum for the kind of conversation that is usually relegated, by social tides and the host’s effort to keep the party lively and accessible to all, (try Nick’s FB page here or on the YouTube) the downstairs rumpus room or back porch, weather permitting. See you at 2:30 ET be there or assume the characteristics of a figure composed of four sides at 90 degrees to each other respectively.

6) oh yeah! almost forgot… we got another Instagram thing going. It’s prompted by suggestions at work (Grat 9 below) but, if’n you feel like following along, it might be interesting (lol… so, while somewhat surprised at how many clarks there were in social media and determined to try to keep our world separate, I went down ‘What the Heck Lane’ (at the corner of …It’s the Doctrine, they Should be Happy to Encounter Us Drive) and went with clarkfarley.csr as my identity lol

7) something something

8) the above reference occupation/business of real estate… certainly, weekly pay in exchange for flexibility in nearly all regards

9) Grat/Hypograt (dependent on how we do on today’s Livestream.  Hey! Dyanne! You totally need to do a quest spot on ‘2 Guys & a Girlie’ It’d be fun!

10) Secret Rule 1.3 ‘if you have to ask, then we’ll need to see two forms of identification and a written note from your sensei…’

 

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine-

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

This is our (weekly) contribution to the Ten Things of Thankful (TToT) bloghop. Founded in 1957, codified in 2013, it is ranked among the top 1% of ‘Gratitude ‘hops’ six years running by the InterGratOrg. The bloghop that Lizzi created continues to this day, inviting all of good intent to write and submit blog posts on the theme of gratitude.

1) Una

2) Phyllis

3) the Wakefield Doctrine

4) serial stories

5) the Six Sentence Story bloghop

6) the Livestream, TG&G (coming to a computer display near you today at 2:30 ET at FB or YT)

7) home projects: the Walkway: Before

8) home projects: the Walkway: During:

9) The fun of procuring building materials: (the clay for the base of the walkway)

10) Secret Rule 1.3

 

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Wednesday -the Wakefield Doctrine- “yeah, we should be working our Six Sentence Story… but!”

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

You know one of the cool(er) things about the Wakefield Doctrine, in general, and its description/definitions of its personality types (aka predominant worldview), specifically?

No matter how frivolous and provocative the labels and behavioral predictions they not only prove to be accurate, but they’re fun to imagine in application to the people around us.

Take the predominant worldview of the Outsider (please!*). At first glance it’s easy to pronounce, ‘Hey! Dude, all you gots there is what the legitimate personality systems would call, introverted. (Or as the Oscar Myers Briggs folks might say, “Clearly that is an IYHN …or maybe an ENee or, on the other hand, possibly MEnee…. I got it! a Meeneemo Type“) (lol. We kid the Kukla Fran ‘n Ollie folks. they’ve been fans of the Doctrine since, around, 1947)

Where were we?

oh yeah! clarks.

The Wakefield Doctrine is primarily concerned with the character of the relationship of the individual to the world around them (and the people who make it up). And, it would not be wrong to say that clarks tend to be what many would say, a little, …unassuming.

But, (in the category of ‘Fun with Brain Science’) the Doctrine offers:

clarks abhor being the center of attention, but will not tolerate being ignored‘.

Fun, right?

But introversion is not the topic of today’s post. As the subtitle rightly notes, Wednesdays are usually the day we spend trying to come up with something interesting for the Six Sentence Story bloghop.

So why the diversion?

Well, there’s a project abrewin’ backstage before the surgeon picks up the…. (“Attention! Attention! Metaphor Spill in Paragraph Eleven… read with careful caution.“)

But serially, Friend-of-the-Doctrine Nick and Downspring Denise have been working behind the scenes on a little online thing for this Sunday.

So! Be there or run the very real risk of being characterized as having a superfluity of ninety-degree angles when introduced to a stranger.

 

 

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Tuesday -the Wakefield Doctrine-

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

The Wakefield Doctrine is a perspective on the world around us and the people who make it up.

The core premise is that we, all of us, are born with the potential to experience the world in one of three characteristic ways, as does the:

  • Outsider (clarks)
  • Predator (scotts)
  • Herd Member (rogers)

… interrupted by an unsuccessful word-verification search. Will continue tomorrow on the subject of the Wakefield Doctrine in which we clearly outline…

SPOILER ALERT!!! We will be saying that personality types in the context of the Doctrine is, in the simplest of terms, the best adaptation to reality as experienced by the individual. There are three characteristic relationships (above bullet points) everything else is in appreciating how we relate ourselves to the world around us and remembering that what the other person is experiencing might very well be different from what we see. So, in a sense, the value of the Doctrine lies in it’s capacity as a translator! (Also: we grow up and live in one and only one of three, though we might enjoy certain benefits of the innate capacity offered by ‘the other two’ worldviews.)

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“want to know the most dangerous, toxic, corrosive word used by a clark?” …the Wakefield Doctrine (‘publish or perish, yo’)

 

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sorry to off-load an earworm this early in the week, but one strategy, (horrifyingly characteristic of the twisted social mentality of too large a percentage of mankind), is to share it. misery, as we all know, is always down for a par-tay!

 

 

 

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