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February 5, 2024 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Found it!*

*The post we referred to in last week, this one; about how, in the early days of this blog, we’d find ourselfs prompted by the oddest of things to write a post.

the Wakefield Doctrine ‘Always Chilled…Never Heated’

May 3, 2013

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)Finish the Sentence Friday.

(a ‘blog hop’ that is being: sponsored, promoted, hosted by, enticed-into-by-the-charms-of, held-in-a-metaphorical-gymnasium-on-a-Friday-night, on-the-list-of-charming-old-homes-to-tour, the central feature of the blogosphere and experienced as the high point of the week at the BB&G, courtesy of the Doctrine’s three favorite Bloggarini : Janine ( Confessions of a Mommyaholic), Kate (Can I have another bottle of Whine…), Stephanie (Mommy, for real) and Dawn (Dawn’s Disaster)

“If I were stuck on an island, I would like to have…”

…the following in no particular order or emphasis:

Ginger and Maryanne

an internet connection

the body of a 19 year old (gender optional)

the mind of my present age

1 of my childhood friends

3 of my adolescent aged friends

1 of my teenage years girlfriends (real or imagined)

my first car (1964 Chevy Bel Air station wagon in faded-to-orange-blue paint)

a contract to complete the Wakefield Doctrine book (currently in ‘pre-write’)

the physique to wear shorts without looking: a) silly, b) old or d) excessively gay (not that there’s anything wrong with being gay)

an endless supply of BLTs (despite the climate there is always magically un-adulterated mayonnaise)

a boat (just for sitting in and looking at the Island from the middle of the lagoon, with Maryanne waving and what I would swear looks like Ola in a clearing in the jungle)

Hey! Somehow I have this little darling up at the beginning of the eponymous Friday morning…. hey! don’t be afraid to call in tomorrow night (if you find yourself in a place at 8:00 pm EDT where you know where the kids are, and they seem to be happy and quiet or you have no plans and you feel like something that will challenge your beliefs and amuse you in ways that you haven’t been amused since…oh I don’t know… since, before girlfriends and boyfriends, husbands and wives, children and favorite pets became the central organizing feature of your reality. call and you might find yourself enjoying, or not who can really say for sure?

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Wellll!

That certainly was fun.

To get a jump on this week’s Doctrine posts, we’ll be continuing our discussion of fluency.

For our purposes, the term fluency denotes the understanding of the principles of the Wakefield Doctrine; like with a second language, i.e. an advanced degree in facility in the use of the language of the Doctrine.

Should be a fun week,

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine-

February 3, 2024 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

This is the Doctrine’s contribution to the Ten Things of Thankful (TToT) bloghop. Founded in 1893 on the shores of Crime Lake on the outskirts of Manchester, this Grat Blog has been persisting ever since. The current hostinae of the TToT, Dyanne, is, by both legend and reliable roumor, a direct descentdent of the charwoman (and her neer-do-well ‘usband, Mortimer Cottswold) who tended to most of the cottages lining the lake. Collectively referred to as Daisy Nook, it was the preferred summer retreat for the hoi polloi throughout the late Victorian Era. The most damning evidence of this storied progéniture is a birthmark born by the host that many have said is a perfect map of Crime Lake. (go ahead, ask her… we dare you)

1) Una

Not! See Grat #4

2) Phyllis

3) the Wakefield Doctrine

4) a moderate Winter (not another word! (ok one word: dearth of frozen water in semi-aerosol form))

5) the Six Sentence Story (Fave Six of the week, ‘Two Writers‘)

6) the Unicorn Challenge (fave ‘corn story of the week, ‘Accidents‘)

7) continuing insights into an understanding of the principles of the Wakefield this week past (passed?) we spoke about levering one perspective in order to broaden (and deepen) our understanding and appreciation of ‘the other two’ predominant worldviews (the Post). We will be continuing our discussion next week. The focus will be narrowed-down to, ‘What?!!’

8) approaching business opportunity/timeline-mod (yeah, vague yet-cloyingly-intriguing… lol is this your first time here at the Wakefield Doctrine?)

9) something, something

10) Secret Rule 1.3

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Wednesday -the Wakefield Doctrine- “…of fluency and worldviews, the lever of insight.”

January 31, 2024 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Had a epiphany(ette) yesterday morning as I drove up the highway:

If I can acquire even the smallest appreciation of a secondary aspect it should be possible to leverage the resultant combination to gain a much deeper understanding of the tertiary aspect; an effective linkage to the tertiary (aspect) will yield an insight into the secondary. All of which will increase one’s fluency (in the individual language of the three predominant worldviews.

Cool, right?

lol

New Readers? A brief Doctrine Primer.

We are, all of us, born with the potential to experience Life from the perspective of an Outsider (clark), the Predator (scott) or the Herd Member (roger). In current Doctrine terminology: we establish one of three relationships with the world around us and the people who make it up; that of a clark (Outsider), scott (Predator) or roger (Herd Member) at a very early age. And it is this personal reality that is the context in which we mature and learn to deal with the world and develop social strategies to aid us in getting through Life.

cool?

Everyone develops in one of these three, what we call predominant worldviews. They are our ‘personality types’. However, we retain the potential of ‘the other two’, i.e. non-predominant worldviews. We refer to them as secondary and tertiary aspects. This potential can be ‘inert’ and unaffecting on our lives or they can, to varying degrees, be significant, exerting an influence on us. Mostly in our behavior, but usually to a limited scope and degree. This is often** the reason for a person new to the Doctrine to ask, “I know I’m a clark. But there are times when I’m a roger or a scott. What’s up with. that?”

For most of us with significant secondary and tertiary aspects, their character usually remains dormant, to appear only when under duress or in the throes of excitement. Of course, it is possible for a person to simply be a scott or a roger with no significant clarklike aspect. But you’re not likely to ever be having a positive, productive or, for that matter, enjoyable discussion with them about our little personality theory. We’ll leave the ‘Why’ of this for anyone wanting to write their own Doctrine post.

But sometimes, it takes less duress to cause a secondary (and less frequently, tertiary) aspect to the surface.

Friend of the Doctrine Cynthia is a perfect example.

New Reader? Doctrine Etiquette maintains that one does not state the predominant worldview of another to the world at large, without prior consent or agreement. [Doctrine Rule, from the early days states, in no uncertain terms: no one has the authority to designate another’s personality type or otherwise represent with any authority another’s predominant worldview. At least, not with the magisterium* of the Wakefield Doctrine.]

Where were we?

Ah! Cynthia. So the thing was we met Cynthia on the Facebook way back in the 2010-2011 (or thereabouts, clarks can be chronolexic so don’t hold us to those dates). She had a site, Pictimilitude. And she did a lot of things on that there site there, painting and writing and well all kinds of stuff. But at some point she decided to branch out into ‘live’ video posts. (quite the avant-garde impulse at the time). In her first vid, on walking meditation, we got ten seconds into it and said, ‘Yow! She is owning the camera. What is she, some kind of scott?!’

lol.

no. but there was clearly a significant secondary scottian aspect in evidence.

Damn… so much for a brief review.

Ask us, after the bloghop section of the week, (that is the Six Sentence Story ‘hop with Denise tomorrow and the Unicorn Challenge hosted by ceayr and jenne on Friday) to return to the topic: Translation among the Three Predominant Worldview and Challenge to Become Fluent.

* hey, cool wordage, no? magisterium. Was gonna go with ‘color’ as in the color of the law. But, and this might be a reach, but we might be able to pull off a mitre, as a fashion statement.

Hey, speaking of virtuoso/virtuosae, how ’bout some Guthrie Govan? (the Aristocrats)

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine-

January 13, 2024 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

This is the Doctrine’s weekly contribution to the Ten Things of Thankful (TToT) bloghop.

1) Una

2) Phyllis

3) the Wakefield Doctrine

4) writing for fun and de-confusioning* (see Grat Five and Six)

5) the Six Sentence Story

6) the Unicorn Challenge (with ceayr, jenne, Pensitivity 101 and them)

7) discretion being the better part of valor… the rain washed the bridge (photo in Grat 1 and 2 above, taken in more temperate climes)

We considered moving the bridge back into place before the flood waters had receded. In theory, less effort to float it back than to lever it back. So we waded into the water, thigh-high and reconsidered our ambition. It was not the depth of the water, not even it the strength of the current. It was the temperature of the water. As we observed our leg muscles getting all Gordian on the knee and ankular regions, standing in the shallow section. (There is a reason for the bridge, not so apparent in either of these photos, but there’s a channel, not deep, say only three feet or so… when the pond is at the summer level illustrated by our photogenic canine and human. That said, the water was over our knees… on shore. lol While we laugh at danger, we haven’t needed jumper cables for any of the automobiles for so long. Well, let’s say we decided that it would have been a pain in the neck to go dig them out from wherever they are if the water remained as cold as it reached our upper torso.

The good news is we will have a Cro-Magnon Challenge by next week when the water recedes! The rules are: only muscle and the simplest of machines, the lever; in the form of small tree trunks which we have an abundance of in the woods.)

the ‘After’ photo for the bridge at the top

8) rain (both as hypograt and as anti-snow)

[Hey! In the interest of setting the scene for the Bro-Magnon Challenge next week, here’s a photo of the Bridge-Too-Far with the water levels down today.]

9) something, something

10) Secret Rule 1.3

* not a ‘real’ word but clarks, of course, will sense the meaning, if not the application

music vids

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January 12, 2024 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

the setting: the Unicorn Challenge bloghop

the players: jenne and ceayr and a cast of tens

the premise: beginning with a new photo prompt, write a story

the rules: maximum word count is two hundred fity (250)

(While we accept that this particular bloghop format does not, actually, encourage the telling of serial tales, there are times when the temptation exceeds self-restraint. If there is need for proof of the existence of a ‘Muse’ for those who would write, then characters are incontrovertible evidence. We have, all of us, found ourselves in the company of characters that, to use the vernacular, ‘write themselves’. This week, we indulge our selfs. The two protangonists in this week’s contribution to ‘the corn first showed up: <click here>. What can we say? They write themselves)

“Don’t worry, I’m a natural-born trapper. I can follow the prey anywhere!”

The woman, dressed in shades of gray and ebony that made her indistinguishable from the alleys and lanes of the less-travelled parts of Glasgow, jumped slightly, the better to cuff her companion’s ear.

“We had ’em coming out of that wine cellar! Are we home enjoying dinner?” The tilt of her head produced a curious reversal, surely it is in human relationships that trompe l’oeil found their natural environment.

“No! We are not!”

For his part, the slightest of shrugs prevented any serious injury, which was never a concern of his for any of the countless years the pair had been together.

The urban canyons and abandoned wine cellars had provided sustenance for the two since…well, since either of them could remember. Somehow, the night was betraying the two as their prey continued to remain ahead of their patient stalking. This unexplored country for the pair who, as subjects of whispered tales of fearful parents to innocent children were simply the Crone and the Stone. Cautionary bedtime stories to keep them out of harm’s way

As they crossed the small wooden bridge, the forest around them blazed in artificial light. LED suns tethered to trees, the better to kill fairy tale monsters

The man, larger than he wanted to be, looked down; the woman, smaller than she felt with him, looked up with no regret,

“We twa hae run about the braes,
and pou’d the gowans fine.”