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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine- “start with Item 1…”

July 11, 2015 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

“Dances with Balloons”

The brainchild of Lizzi Rogers, the TToT is a celebration* of the benefits of the effort to become aware of, and share Ten Things of Thankful. (That there are (usually) things (and people, places, processes and stuff) in life for and about which we can feel grateful, and share them with this here group here. For my part, I will List the following:

1) this bloghop

2) the ‘Hurry up and Weight’ Gravity Challenge and those who are participating ( Kristi and Val and Lisa and Christine and Alex and Joy)

3) the calendar (for the decency of having July follow June)

4) technology as manifested in cell phone cameras and, of course, these electrical computers

5) the Book of Secret Rules (aka the Secret Book of Rules) because, when you get right down to it, isn’t life about our individual best efforts to find, learn and apply Rules to help make the best of the decisions that we encounter each and everyday? And maybe, due to personal choice and/or upbringing, the set of Rules that we have available are kinda staid and one size-fits-all, so when there is an opportunity to find (and learn and apply) a Book of Rules that no one has quite pre-written, well, that kinda cool, non?

6) Una and Phyllis

7) the simple, easy to take for granted, fact that I am able to work and move about the planet, both in response to er…. responsibilities and for fun and recreation

8) something something

9) (see?!?! that! right there…. Number 8! I will take the position that while there seems to be incredibly liberal ‘rules of participation’ to this here ‘hop, the underlying attitude of participants is the basis of allowing it to be as opened ended as it is.) English translation: we are all free to submit Posts of any sort to the TToT and sometimes Posts are not exactly 10 Items, despite the very name of the bloghop. However, almost without exception, when a person does participate, they demonstrate the spirit of this exercise. I would go further and suggest that, when there is a Post in which the writer throws up their hands in frustration or, simply states that their week did not abound in gratitudinous events, that is what this bloghop is all about.

10) 1.3 (likely the first Secret Rule discovered early in the TToT), SR 1.3 is probably the better definition of what I was after in Item 9. Sometimes, (often for some of us), putting together a List of 10 Items can be…. difficult, and not necessarily because good things were in short supply, but because, sometimes (our) ability to perceive the good things is compromised and sometimes, some of us, struggle. SR 1.3 states (in part): “the completion of a List of Ten Things of Thankful, can, ipso facto, be used as an Item on (that selfsame) List….baby”

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* 2 of the 4 definitions in wiktionary:

The act, process of showing appreciation, gratitude and/or remembrance, notably as a social event.
A social gathering for entertainment and fun; a party.

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine- “of photos and Summer and train wreck Posts”

July 4, 2015 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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… oh yeah! damn! the TToT List! wait …wait!

The first photo (no, this is serious, I’d really like to know what kind of plant this is….any of you hortiologists out there can ID this thing?):

…I’d really appreciate it. Hey! #1 0T!

2) Clearly I was exhibiting some innate and underdeveloped gift of prestidigitization when I (sub)titled this Post last night, so I will also include a (Semi)closeup of the mystery plant later in Item 6 of this Post.

3) Una and the Rose Bush*

4) Our Founderette, Lizzi (not only for this bloghop, but for speaking a foreign language that her people have persisted in referring to as ‘English’) ex.

“The 7 GuardVirgins are responsible for guarding the Book of Secret Rules (or Secret Book of Rules) and if you can’t think of a Thankful, you are at liberty to dance for the 7 and if they give you the book, you can use a rule to justify your lack of actual thankful.

Rule 1.3 is an old favourite – that having got to item ten on the list is its own thing of thankfulness. :D”

…last time I checked there was no ‘u’ in favorite! (now that I think of it, have then they, a different spellcheck demon over in Metric-ville?)

5) …but we still love her, so, everyone? lets don’t tell her she has misspelled the word ‘favorite’, in her Reply to Samara in the Comment thread at Considerings, it’ll be our little secret.

6) speaking of little secrets, here’s another photo of the mystery plant…actually it’s the junior version of the plant in the lead photo…sorta reminds me of that episode of Star Trek, look on this!

7) so there, above, close-up of flower with a Bumble Bee

8) Seeing the increasing numbers of people new to this, the-bloghop-that-Lizzi-built, I’ll contribute my own opinion re: the Book of Secret Rules (aka the Secret Book of Rules)… it’s the best thing ever to happen to a bloghop. The simple reason is, whenever there is a theme, inevitably there develop limitations (self- and group-imposed) that, while not inherently bad, have the effect of encouraging the ‘what is expected effect’. And while I personally admire the more… sensible and well-written Posts that are seen here every week, it’s good to know that I’m still encouraged to participate. Having said that, the TToT remain a bloghop focused on the sharing (and appreciation) of the positive things in our (group, individual and collective) lives. …the cool thing is the very clear feeling in all the Posts that appear here each week…whether it’s a photo Post, or a clearly delineated list or a wildly meandering stream-of-consciousness thing… we’re all here by choice. This is probably an unnecessarily long-way around to say that what we have here is community.

9) I’m grateful for having work that involves driving around and having properties that are located on totally cool names, such as:

10) 1.3 (metric v. 3.1)

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clarks and the danger of ‘uniqueness’ -the Wakefield Doctrine- a brief interlude

July 1, 2015 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

It’s understood that a significant portion of the effort behind (understanding, developing and applying) the principles of the Wakefield Doctrine is specifically intended to help clarks.

Which is not to say that clarks need the Wakefield Doctrine more than scotts or rogers. Wait a minute, we do say that. Which is not to say that clarks are the only one, (of the three), to see in the Doctrine the possibility of direct benefits, impacting their daily lives. Wait… we do say that. Which is not to say that the Wakefield Doctrine offers insights and perspectives that our scottian and rogerian friends cannot, and, in fact, do not benefit as a result of coming here and reading and commenting and such. Wait! we do say that? Well, I guess that leaves us where we have always been:

the Wakefield Doctrine is a unique and useful and very much (a) fun way to look at the behavior of people. the Doctrine is a perspective that offers us (an additional) opportunity to better understand the people in our lives. employing this tool, we all can gain an insight into the world, ‘as the other person is experiencing it’, and, because of this increased understanding, we need never again say, “how could they go and do such a thing? I really thought I knew them better than that!“

But we already knew that, didn’t we? Lets, then, broaden our understanding of this here Doctrine here, shall we? We all know that the personal reality experienced by clarks is referred to as, the world of the Outsider. As a person who grew up and developed (their) personality in the worldview of the Outsider, clarks are creative and introspective, funny and hardworking. Because they live in the personal reality of the Outsider, clarks are subject to a seemingly endless cycle between (near-unrealistic) hope and soul-crushing despair (survival being an indication of an inner strength that, were it not expended on surviving what would seem an un-justified and un-necessary level of self-criticism-doubt-fear, would be, like, totally impressive). Thats simply the nature and character of the world as experienced by clarks. scotts and rogers have no picnic-of-a-life either. But today is about clarks.

So what is it about clarks that makes today’s post interesting? Well, to appreciate that, we first must understand the double bind that lies at the core of every clark, and that is: a) clarks maintain that the only path available to them is the intellect, the ‘knowing/learning’ of things and 2) they, (the clark), are Outside(r)[s] and c) there must be a reason for their being different. (I sense that those Readers who are not clarks and/or those Readers whose secondary clarklike aspect is developed only to the degree necessary to find this theory interesting, but not developed enough to imagine the world of the Outsider (at least be able to imagine it without being forced into a reflex sympathy response), are beginning to drift off, so lets get to the point.)
The problem with being an Outsider (who is) trying to understand their way, ‘back to being a real person’, is that, ‘an Outsider’ is, by definition, unique. As in…. only one of a kind. If I am the only one of a kind, then how can I gain a perspective/understanding of the world that is anything more than what I already possess? If I’m ‘the only one of my kind’, then how can anyone tell me anything that genuinely applies to me? And, besides, if I spend my life looking for ‘the Answer’, then how can I know more than I (already) know?

see what I mean?

gots to cut this short. work calls. if there are any clarks (or, hell, scotts or rogers) who want to know what I believe the answer to this conundrum is, the answer is: identification I’ll have to follow-up, later in the day to this tease-ending. tempus fugits, yo, tempus totally fugits

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TToT Live! -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘…in video veritas’

June 27, 2015 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

1) Technology… obviously

2) insufferable over-estimation of effectiveness of humor to an extent as to make a 11 year old say, ‘well, yeah, clark maybe that’s a bit much’

3) secret ego* that will proceed with the ‘script stage directions’ theme to today’s Post …a least enough to get through most of this list

4) FADE IN:

EXT. co-host’s house in southern New England – Morning
writing the week’s TToT Post finishing non-blogging
related work prior to vidchat

DISSOLVE TO:

INT. home office/ banquet table desk/computer

CLARK

5) ok, I’m grateful that I was willing to try for the screenplay version of the upcoming TToT Live but, too much work, not enough time. (that btw, describes a characteristic event in the life of a clark. (In the course of trying to pull off Item 4, I went out and found a few sites that discussed/talked about/tried-to-sell books on screenplay writing. And, naturally, I found it pretty darn cool. Not just the very specific format/language of a screenplay, but the way that it (screenplay writing) seemed to make it quite simple to describe a scene… made me think that maybe I should try that…screenplay writing. I know! but, for you scotts and rogers out there, that is a quick insight into the world of a clark

6) one more:

UNA (O.S.)
‘ruff! ruff!! bark!!! Bark!!!

7) I will say that this bloghop has never ceased to amaze me. Not just that it’s still running, not just that it still has the fun… the ‘what-the-hell-lets-try-that‘… it’s that there are still new people participating each week. Especially of late, the percentage of new bloggers is pretty impressive. (I say impressive in the sense that, and this has nothing to do with an Y Chrome inherent competitiveness …really! But, that for a bloghop to grow and attract new Readers and Writers requires that those participating not only maintain their enthusiasm, but that they enjoy welcoming new participants. Hell, on the internets, anyone can gather a group and establish a club mentality. To establish a community and have that community be attractive to passersby, that is the special thing that our Miss Rogers and her co-hostinae have pulled off. v cool).

8) speaking of New Writers here in Mayberry…. I’m getting in the mood for more Secret Rules, courtesy of the Book of Secret Rules (aka the Secret Book of Rules)… (talk about a bloghop that has something that no one else does!)… but that’s for next week!

9) come on! one more Screenplay reference?? pleeassse ok. oh, wait! thanks to Val and Kristi and Alex (zoe and Christine) for the 2 Mile Run thing ( ‘2 Mile Run thing motto: “god! I hate this running shit… what the hell, do great one day, the next awful and still hurts the same! what is this marriage?!!”)

10) 1.3 (Metric: 3.1)

* the secret ego of clarks

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(Part 2)useday -the Wakefield Doctrine- (“…let’s pretend to agree that today’s still Tuesday, ok?”)

June 24, 2015 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

…in our last Post we left two thoughts started, but not completed:

a renewed appreciation for the skills that allow something that has so much potential for being confusing to be made simple enough to allow for the ‘parts to connect’
that the key to reducing stress and anxiety for clarks is to re-frame ‘the questions of the world’
and cognitively dissonant jokes are a lot of fun! (hey! this is the damn age of instant communication, right? wanna see something funny? yeah, no! wait… I’ll do a self-video I do this every chance I get, out there in the ‘real’ world!)
video joke:

…while we wait for the cameras to warm up, you want to know an interesting way to tell if you’re talking to a clark? (btw this only works if you’re a clark too!) ‘bumping into each other, conversationally’. You know, you’re like, talking with this other person and you’re always both stopping and starting statements at the same instant.

Bullet Point #1: the three worldviews, i.e. the personal reality that you are living in at this moment, (more critically, the character of the world that you, as a very small and young human found yourself having to develop coping skills and strategies to stay alive and flourish in… it is the ‘style’ of coping that characterizes the three personality types):

the reality of the Outsider aka clarks. a clark is simply (yeah, right) a person who developed a set of social skills, (did I already use the ‘yeah right!’?), that are best suited to living in a world where you are the Outsider. you know that you’re different from everyone (… everyone), and your primary drive is to learn whatever it was that you missed, because when you look around, everyone around you seem ‘to belong’ and you’re pretty sure it was something they were taught that you weren’t. You still have to make your way through life and while you know you have something special, (the things inside your head), you are totally certain that you need to keep it to yourself… just in case, …’cause you realize there’s a possibility that you’ve been cast out/into this world, for a reason
the life of the Predator aka scotts your basic human! a Shelby cobra: powerful, agile, no radio (so of course you should sing loud!), handles really well (hey, you look like you need a hug), funny (pull my finger!), at times uncomfortable (he doesn’t want to understand!! but you, you’re different, you’re smarter than him). But the truth is, the person who grows up in the personal reality of the Predator acts first and reflects when he/she has a spare moment which is…. hardly ever!! Mercurial in temperament, loyal without being slavish, the scottian personal coping strategies reflect a world where life is to be lived, is too short for spending time inside one’s head reflecting and regretting… it is a strategy prone to errors in judgement for the consequences of impulsive action, you know, a natural leader! (hot, too! it’s that directness, the animal magnetism thing)
the world of the Herd Member aka rogers ‘a certainty wrapped in tradition coated with confidence‘ rogers are like scotts in that there was no question as to the meaning of life and what they (as individuals) should be, rogers belong. hey! you want to know something about rogers that they don’t know about themselves? When rogers write posts and blogs and such? while they appreciate comments and reactions, (to what they write), they don’t really care if they get one comment or 2 thousand. why? because rogers ‘are of the Herd’, this means that, in their reality, there is always a Herd (of like-minded/similar-in-a-way-beyond-the-need-to-understand other people…and things) and the Herd will read their post. rogers know this on a level beyond conscious knowing…. sort of like when you walk down a flight of stairs, you don’t need to think about whether ‘down is that way’…. it’s simply down. so the mere act of writing ‘in public’ includes the reading of this writing (by the Herd). hence their inconceivable lack of concern for feedback!