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Future Friday -the Wakefield Doctrine-

September 28, 2024 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

This is the Wakefield Doctrine’s contribution to the most excellent of photo-prompt bloghops, the Unicorn Challenge.

Hosted by jenne and ceayr the rules are quite simple: using the photo/image as your inspiration, write a story using no more than 250 words.

[Note for those of us who enjoy research. If you chase the lyrics, search for Harry Dacre. Eschew the much more famous/popular/admittedly-more-enjoyable version by Nat King Cole. For the moment at any rate.]

“Well, you’ve made your bed, now you have to sleep in it.”

My wife’s aunt repeated the admonition every Christmas we spent with her family, in our all-too-brief marriage.

The old woman smiled when we were presented, like marginal royalty to a decrepit countess. Always in the same sweat-worn tapestry chair by the grand fireplace, she would smile. That was the worst part. A mottled-purple moue, a dying anemone grasping for offal in a brackish tidal pool.

My wife, however, was grace personified. She treated everyone with the kind of natural respect that transformed the jealous into charitable and mean-spirited into kindly.

What’s got me pedaling now, in broad daylight no less, was how the old lady would hold my wife’s hand while locking eyes with me. In an irony possible only to the landed-gentry, passing years had been petrified the family wealth into the antiques that filled the old house. With her passing, the current monetary value of the estate was now available to anyone with the proper legal documents and a moving truck.

Now a widower, I became invisible and a non-threat.

They saw me riding back towards the house, even as the procession drove to the cemetery. Derision for the obviously grief-addled man, blinded the most possessive of the family. Their laughter, behind black velvet curtains of the limo, ate everything human about them, including curiosity. Which might have posed the question: ‘Where is Auntie Em and why is that stupid man riding such an odd bike.”

Daisy, Daisy,
Give me your answer, do!
I’m half crazy,
All for the love of you!

I will stand by you in “wheel” or woe, Daisy, Daisy!
You’ll be the bell(e) which I’ll ring you know! Sweet little Daisy Bell!
You’ll take the “lead” in each “trip” we take, Then if I don’t do well;
I will permit you to use the brake, My beautiful Daisy Bell!

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine-

September 27, 2024 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Hey! Volunteer to be a co-host and we’ll send you something cool.

No, serially! We’re looking for writers and bloggers to sign up for having the inlink code sent each week. The benefit to you? A cool-looking array of thumbnails at the bottom of your TToT post! The benefit to us? More Readers bumping into the fun of the Ten Things of Thankful (TToT) bloghop.

We apologize in advance if this post seems a bit unfinished, frayed on the edges. Trying to establish a routine of posting and linking…wait! Who said that? You’re absolutely correct! I should check and see if’n anyone has posted yet!

thx (lets file that under ‘something, something, Grat#8)

For the Wakefield Doctrine this week, we cite the following Grat Items:

1) Phyllis

2) Una

3) the Wakefield Doctrine

4) new co-hostinae: Denise from girlieontheedge.com and host of the Six Sentence Story bloghop. (Now a regular feature in the TToT)

5) the Unicorn Challenge bloghop. ‘Corn Pick of the Week ‘Daisy Daisy‘. ceayr

6) the Six Sentence Story bloghop: Six Pick: ‘Three Best Friends‘ by Fandango

7) Fern Circle!! see?! We told ya there were fern circles in the woods!

8) something, something

9) Suggestion Box (New Feature! Half-Grat / possible Hypo-Grat. Let us know any ideas you might have that would make this bloghop more user-friendly, interesting and/or fun.

10) Secret Rule 1.3

music vids

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Six Sentence Story -the Wakefield Doctrine-

September 25, 2024 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

This is the Doctrine’s contribution to the Six Sentence Story bloghop.

Hosted by Denise and defined by its numerically-eponymous title.

Prompt word:

WRECK

“I don’t know, I think I wrecked my chances with her.”

“What the hell you talking about man; you went out for breakfast after work so, a) how could you screw that up and, this is a mandatory follow-up question, call it 2), exactly how do you define ‘your chances’?”

It has been said that friendship at the stage of life between immaturity, i.e. late-teens and college years, (provided it’s a Liberal Arts program), and for lack of a better term, ‘practical maturity’ are surely the most intimate of relationships; when true passion is the measure, friendships trump romance nearly every time.

“Well, we talked until three in the morning and she laughed at my jokes.”

Laughing, and thoroughly overlooking the irony, the more experienced of the two friends at the coffee shop smiled with genuine affection, “Dude, given your amateur status, her laughter, though a simulacrum of actual making out, gets you an ‘A’ for sincerity and an ‘A-‘ for momentum, so why the long face?”

“Well, I let her out at her car, drove to the edge of the parking lot and watched in my rearview mirror to make sure her car started; but I don’t think she realized that; oh man, your face says it all… I totally blew it.”

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Short-Wednesday Post -the Wakefield Doctrine-

September 25, 2024 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Not much time.

Fortunately the subject is the Wakefield Doctrine so…don’t need a lot.

(…damn! tried the ‘easier, shorter path’… nothin’. Guess we gotta go old school)

The Wakefield Doctrine is a way of looking at the world around us and the people who make it up. As an alternate perspective on people and our interactions with them, it is more a language than a schedule/chart of traits and behaviors.

There are three relationships, (holds the Doctrine), we might experience. It is the character of those relationship styles that determine what we do and say and respond when interacting with the world.

In one sense, the Wakefield Doctrine is a translator. By providing a glossary of experiences unique to the three individually, the determined person can not only better see the world as the other is experiencing it, they will know more about the other person than they know about themselves.

These three relationships? That of:

the Outsider (clarks) grew up apart from, at a certain (before the age of knowing the rules) became convinced they missed a class: “Being a Member of the family/tribe/society). Assuming the worst, the clark see the world as a treasure hunt that everyone else has one more clue than they. Being different unfortunately has a default setting of ‘un-deserving’ but the Outsider has good survival instincts and keeps it to themselves/maintains a low(ish) profile.
the Predator (scotts) life? You mean today? What else is there? If it’s smaller and moves: chase it. If it’s fricken’ huge and moves: run away. Sleep when tired, When awake listen to the inner shout! Live. Now.
the Herd Member (rogers) The world is a puzzle. Not of information. Not of standards of behavior. It is a puzzle that, while you know what you are doing is the Right Thing, the rest of Life remains insufficiently resolved. You seek the Right Way. And you rely on the attractiveness you maintain among the people around you to guide you along that Path. While you’re doing that, the increase in the number of others looking towards you is your North Star.

There ya go!

Get out there into the world today and when the other person (in an interaction) says something totally non-sensical / outrageous / mean whip out your little Doctrine translator/glossary/Michelin Guide/Berlitz cheatsheet and you will be in a position to respond on the basis of what the other actually meant as opposed to seemingly intended.

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Tuesday -the Wakefield Doctrine-

September 24, 2024 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

(If we might continue?)

iii) The three predominant worldviews, aka personality types of the Wakefield Doctrine are:

clarks (Outsider)

scotts (Predator)

rogers (Herd Member)

So there you go.

What? Define each. Give list of characteristics?

What do you think this is, the Oscar/Meyer ABC schedule?

Here is all you need to complete the picture: ‘The Three Personality Types of the Wakefield Doctrine’: it comes down to relationships, as in, ‘How do I relate myself to the world around me and the people who make it up’. (Hint: We said ‘relate ourselves to’ not ‘relate to’.) Critical point. Like we said, the Doctrine is about (a) relationship.

Second necessary part (for your successful assembly of our little personality types.) Wait. It’s already been provided above. ‘Outsider’? ‘Predator’? ‘Herd Member’?

(ed. Don’t feel bad. A lot of clarks do that. You know, be so excited and in such a hurry we neglect to read every single line of instruction, rather than only the ones that give the impression of ‘getting closer to the Answer’.)

Hate to get rogerian sounding on y’all, but. “The Wakefield Doctrine is not an/the Answer. It is only a Suggestion”.

Suggestion massaged into a Proposition: Suppose everyone lives in a reality that is personal. Nothing weird or gigantic. No flying without planes or total self-acceptance in the here and now. Just personal, in a zone outwards from the mind, the body, the heart. In this zone, things are as the individual’s nature would have them be: a world where thought and reason combined to create belonging; action becomes love and acceptance conveys peace.

like that, ya know?

Fortunately for any New Readers two things happened once this blog saw the fluorescent/LED(ish) light of reality: a) the characteristics of the three personality types became self-perpetuating, to the extent that followers found ‘new’ examples of characteristics consistent with the Doctrine and 2) people found this thing useful, valuable and fun.

what more can we ask for?

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