Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)
Item A: I’m grateful for receiving the following Link to answer Stephanie’s Question on yesterday’s Post. She was asking about Lou Reed: Raised on Radio Post by Lance Burson That I could provide this ‘response’ is a very good example of how cool the internet is. When I realized that I did not feel up to giving Stephanie a proper answer, I thought to myself, I thought, ‘well, who do I know that not only knows music but writes good?’ So I reached out to Jen Kehl and Linda Roy, who reminded me that they have a blog, Raised on Radio that they publish with Lance (and… and! ‘our own’ Richard Rumple). How virtually cool is that?
Item B: Line dances. No, I’m not grateful for line dances, per se, I ‘m grateful to Lizzi for mentioning them in her Comment last night. It totally triggered a flashback to when I played in a band that worked the ‘Wedding Reception Circuit’ back in the 70s. The band’s name was ‘Brass Tacks’ (‘when you’re ready to get serious about music, it’s to get down to Brass Tacks‘ pretty long for a tagline! ) We were a 5 piece band: keyboards, bass, guitar (moi), drums ( he did most of the vocals) and a sax player (which is why we were playing weddings and not bars..lol). Anyway, Lizzi’s Comment about line dances brought it all back. The gigs we played had two objectives: line dances. Actually we played music for people to eat to and immediately thereafter, played music for the ‘hey this is the Bride and Groom’ sort of stuff. Then came the drinking and the dancing… ” hey play Green Dolphin Street!!!”… “play ‘Misty’ for me” we did a standard set of covers including the theme to the Rockford Files (?!?… it was a TV show here listen). Towards the scheduled end of the evening is where we made our money, as a small group would start to demand the ‘Hully Gully’ and other dances for slightly drunk people and the chance for the clarks to get lucky music. We almost always get someone to give us as much for the overtime as we got for the gig. The only regret I have is that I didn’t save the shirt! Flowered! Polyester!!! Colorful!!! I would stand there all flower-shirted and play guitar into the evening and early morning.
Item C: last night’s Wakefield Doctrine Saturday Night Drive Cyndi and Denise were on the call… and it was everything that a call-in is intended to be, good conversation…catching up with the latest about work and blogs and such from the week past and like that.
Item E: looking forward, (in principle), to the coming work week. Huge frickin challenges ( hey, since we’re talking about how old a person can be and still type for more than 40 minutes in a row)… I ‘was there’ when they started screwing with the language, at least when they came out in the open and said: “hey! the word, ‘problem’ lets use the word ‘challenge’ instead…then you won’t get so intimidated and bummed out and such” There were a lot of ‘advancements in the late 70’s and early 80’s in the area of shaping the message. I thought I had a longer, more interesting Item here… apparently not! lol
Item M: glad that I am comfortable just totally abandoning what little structure I thought I had for today’s Post. I will say at this point, there are 10 things in my Post today that I am either: grateful for, look forward to or hate like hell
Item G: grateful for whatever came over me last week to make the conscious effort to get back to Doctrine in my blogging. Not that I don’t reference it in virtually everything I right, but I have of late found myself spending more time writing about the Doctrine somewhat… obliquely, usually in the context of a bloghop. Which is not, in and of itself, a bad thing. But there is something, and this may be part and parcel with having a niche blog (as opposed to a personal blog), that makes the writing more… risky? exciting? something. Bloghops will always be part of what I enjoy, but the Wakefield Doctrine and the effort to present it effectively to as many people as I possibly can, will always be the reason I am out here in the blogosphere. And that I am grateful for (…and the hope of acquiring skills at this ‘writing thing’. What’s the deal with the more I seem to try and learn, the more deficiencies I can find in my own writing? what the hell?)
Item 9: I suspect, but hope not, that I have lost Dyanne and Christine… their input, as good students of the Doctrine will attest to, is distinctive, valued, difficult to appreciate at times… (now, if the Doctrine is worth anything, they will somehow pick up the scent again! lol… no! Christine…that’s a compliment.
Item J: Lizzi’s Comment this morning was very, very… helpful? useful? valuable? something-able. …no wait a minute! I do know what that quality is.. it is a demonstration of possibility. Most clarks hate the word ‘potential’, at least when used in the context, ‘but clark, why are you being that way? you have such potential’. Ayiiee!! arrgg (Warning: the following will not only not makes sense to Readers who live in the scottian or rogerian worldview, it may piss you off.) How many time have we clarks, heard that admonition, ‘but you have so much potential and talent, you’re working against yourself. Why do you have to wear those clothes, hang around with those people, listen to that music, spend so much time by yourself, slouch so much, ignore what we are saying, we are doing this for your own good, must you always be so…. that way.
yes, yes we do. That is not the same as saying that clarks are totally satisfied with what we do, think, try and hope for, but we are trying. Lets put it this way: you’re a scott or a roger, ok? You want certain things, be happy, not be sad, have a family, be loved, earn a living, live a good life…right? And left to your devices you will try and get these things, you will look around you and do what everyone else is doing and get on with it.
…suppose, when you look for ‘the first step’ you saw a hundred, a thousand… a million different sets of foot prints? And this is not really what I am trying to describe, we clarks don’t really see the path to our lives laid out as a myriad of footprints leading into the future…that would be too damn easy. No, what we have to contend is two things: a) it’s always possible that (fill in the blank) and 2) the fact (in our reality) that we are apart from the world, that we are, in fact, Outsiders and the belief that the ‘answer’ lies in something we don’t know/haven’t thought of yet/totally missed and if we ever do find the missing information, then we can be real people.
Number 10: you Readers
Ok need to edit this a little but it’s time for the Video Brunch!!!
Item J is food for thought. I think the only time I would be angered by it, though, is if I were trying to control a clark’s life. It is painful to watch [someone I assume would self-identify as a clark] struggle, and it’s hard to bite my tongue at times, but I do think that everyone (regardless of worldview) needs to be allowed the freedom to make his own path. If a particular decision results in sorrow, then what is needed is sympathy, not an “I told you so,” or “If only you had done it this other way.”
Kristi
I totally agree… I also get that feeling, when seeing a clark struggle within what they believe are their only options, I want to say, “wait!! it’s not necessary that it be this difficult!!” but, being a clark myself, I realize that, as you say, one must makes ones’ own path.
Phyllis I have always a dog here, making up our ‘pack’, I can imagine how difficult it must be to be a parent of a (human) child, to know that there is only so much that one can do for another.
…having said that, I continue with the Doctrine as it appears to be a tool of rare usefulness for some, especially if they are at the stage where they are looking for tools to overcome whatever they feel they must try to overcome.
Item G made me giggle. I don’t know…something about “what the hell?” I find myself pondering that very question a little too often. lol
Cyndi
lol we were laughing about that this morning on the Vid Brunch.. the whole business of increasing skills at the ‘writing thing’ and not getting depressed (me…indulging in ‘I’ll never be as good a writer as…) but then I thought about the famous quote from Jack White (the White Strips), in response to the question of his approach to song writing, he said, “well, I just find get a guitar and pick a fight with it”.
Oh how I too wish you had saved the shirt! It musta been a 70s site to behold! Hey I am still mystified re your comment on my blog yesterday… and being a Clark Im sure it holds the truth to the mystery I am missing in making my life whole… but that couldn’t possibly be so cuz it came from another Clark who also thinks he is missing the one truth…hmmmmm how does that work… anyway …. feel like going back to yesterday to explain? If not … Im okay with it too…. Thanks Clark… It always surprises me when you refer to your lack of writing prowess… yours is one of the blogs I look forward to the most… take that in whatever Clarky way you must. Z~
zoe
I think the reference (I made) that you are referring to, was the place where all clarks find themselves from time to time… the extremely toxic, very frickin near lethal place where the full negative impact of being the Outsider comes crashing down around us… either that or our wacky sense of humor!
(lol) I did that mostly for effect, but there is an aspect to the worldview of clarks, as provided by this here Doctrine here, that, while I have an understanding of it in terms of myself, I am still exploring how to create a proactive conversation about it (with other clarks). This is proving more difficult than I would have thought. A lot has to do with how adept we can be in avoiding the things that we find…non-tenable, but I am finding the conversation beginning, albeit on an altogether sideways approach to the topic…but with even this small amount of sharing, I believe that I see benefit.
is that what you thought I meant? lol
ah the 70s!
Thanks Clark…well, I think maybe… you referred to a “frickin’ awesome place….” or some such thing… I am in a “near lethal place” for someone who generally doesn’t sink much… I don’t think its a social outsider thing as much as a physical sick of shit place… which I suppose can make one feel the outsider as well… funny I don’t think of it that way until you suggest it… maybe you should have been a shrink although real estate , bar tenders, hair dressers… they pretty much are all shrinks… lol.
BTW: I couldn’t make the full reference on my blog but the flying monkey thing is a wizard of oz reference… Michelle (the gal I made it to) and I have a joke about when a specific someone dies what the frig will we do with all the flying monkeys?
zoe
thank you! lol actually I think all clarks have that intuitive thing, which combined with the ‘view from the Outside’ allows us to know much about other people. (Needless to say, I did not use the word ‘understand’ or ‘enhance our own well-being as a result of’ but you get my point.) actually I debated the use of awesome, but I was hedging a bit and one thing the Doctrine has shown me time and again, if you want to play the ‘insightful one’ card, ya got bet it all and do it without reservation, you know what I mean?
Yup I do. :)
I am going to have to join a video date thingy. I need a good computer with video camera. KR’s? She will have to loan me hers next weekend. Let me know when and where. Do you do a Giggle hangout?
Mary
yes…we have been using the google hangout (found in google+) for our video brunches… they are fun and informative and fun… we tend to get together at 9:15 to 9:30 EST on Sunday mornings and talk for a couple of hours… we being Lizzi and Michelle and Denise most weeks with visits from others on occasion.
we are talking about trying something a little different this coming week… we are talking about having a video snack on Saturday or maybe Friday night… say 9ish pm(ish)… the reason being that Michelle has volunteered to show us her neighborhood and it (the neighborhood) being in Singapore…it is 12 hours away. (She ‘stays up late’ for the Sunday Morning Video Brunch). so totally stay tuned… I think I have you in my circle (the Wakefield Doctrine) which makes invites easy but once we have finalized the time, I will let everyone know. (Starting with the change of plans that just happened, I had totally forgotten a commitment I have next Saturday evening, lol)
Thank you so much, Clark! The internet is definitely something I am thankful for every single day. Without it I wouldn’t know the hubby and consequently wouldn’t have those two stinking-cute girls sleeping in this house. I wouldn’t have a platform of just writing about my daily life and what grinds my gears sometimes. And I wouldn’t know about the Doctrine ;-)
Stephanie
lol…
Where did the dog go? I clicked on this post, expecting to see more cute doggie photos and instead there’s a great big wedding! Well, I guess I’ll have to read more posts till I find that dog – that was clever of you!
Yvonne
I’m glad you view it as ‘clever’ (which I can’t take too much credit for) and not….’hey! whats with the trick to get me in here…and what the hell is going on??! scotts and rogers and clarks?!?! )
we have fun at the Wakefield Doctrine and as a ‘tool’ or additional perspective on the way people behave, the Wakefield Doctrine is meant as a way to (enable yourself) to see the world as the other person is experiencing it… stuff like that!
(btw that’s Una our dog…right after a Saturday afternoon bath)
Hey! I’m not lost!
My husband was in Joplin’s first punk band (“Graffiti”) in the late 70s. They did a lot of school dances and some small clubs and bars. He has some pretty funny publicity photos.
Structure, mucture….
Dyanne
(I read somewhere that studies have found that doing puzzles, listening to Mozart and solving math problems delay the onset of declining mental faculties), I will add: participating in the Comment function of the TToT. Especially your late Sunday Comment spree! I find that I know that which you are referring to, but I still have to scramble my way through all (or most) of the Comments I’ve written and sometimes, when you are in particularly good form, I end up reading hold Posts again! Nice work, lady.
I did play in regular bands but only for a couple of years and only on the college mixer, local bar, high school dance level. Glad to have had the opportunity…and you know what they say about women at wedding receptions!
TWO? YOU DID TWO THANKFUL posts this weekend? What a way to make me look even lazier than I am! Sheesh. Also I love love adore item J. Yes. If I had acceptance or a nickel or whatever for every time somebody said “but why? you have SO MUCH _____.” I’d either be rich or dead or confident or something. Brilliant, as always my awesome friend.
If only, if only our brains allowed those things to sink in and become realities. Ironically, I reckon we clarks consider ourselves absolutely the BEST at seeing the common-sense-undeniable TRUTH of brilliance in other clarks…
Clark often does two thankful posts ;)