Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)
Lets start with a few questions, in the form of multiple choice Polls.
Well, that was more work than I remember! (Creating a Poll, that is.)
OK everyone answer the Poll? Great! Good work everyone…. (no, scott you can’t go back and change your answer…one vote per Reader. alright… the next Poll you can use capital letters in your answer, we promise).
The Second Poll has to do with which of the ‘other two’ personality types do we focus on first. Lets put that a little clearer… you are a clark or a scott or a roger. fine. you live with (or near) clarks, scotts and rogers, you interact with all three personality types everyday (and every night). You would like to know how you can change the tone, the feeling of, the outcome to, the process of, these interact
Sorry… getting too clarklike
hey, which of the three personality types do you want to concentrate on first?
Great! Thank you for the input. What we will be doing is, based on the result of these two initial Polls, looking at the three personality types from the perspective of ‘the other person’…which will be you…or us or me… you know what I mean. And we will work through all the combinations so no one will be over-looked. This will be presented in an on-going series, not sure if it will be on certain days of the week every week or just one day of the week or what…lets just see how it develops.
So lets see some Voting with today’s 2 Poll Questions so we can get started!
(what? Janine, did you say something? well, no that you mention it, that does sound like a good idea… no, I don’t think that the scotts will get mad)
Hey everyone, before you go…one more question…an Essay Question!
( now Terrye stop that! Janine was just being helpful… yes she does like to write, no, that doesn’t mean you can do that… just answer the Essay Question… no, leave the pencil at your desk)
ESSAY QUESTION: (please use your Comment section)
I would like the Wakefield Doctrine to show me how I can:
pencils down!…Amy!! Cyndi!! Melanie, yes, I know, but you have to stop now…it’s time to go to recess…
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Oh fun poll and seriously always love your shout-outs (totally put a smile on my face!).
@Janine
well even though this is totally serious self-improvement personality types stuff… I need to be able to have fun with the friends that I am finding out here in the blogosphere, non?
This is fun, I love polls and surveys :-) Answered questions rock!
@Jen
(who was it who said, the test tells more about the test designer than the test taker’?) lol well we’re off to a good start… we gonna get some practical value out of our favorite personality theory, if it’s the last thing I do!
Voted! :-)
@Joy
Thank you!
I’m a newbie so I may not totally get it, but I thought I was a Roger, until the Rogers started raising their voices :-)
@Katia
…lol the persistent, low-grade, toothache-like group protestation of the rogers* how can we not mistake them. I suspect that you are doing fine with the Doctrine, it is a lot like an art, you know it it’s more a matter of gaining confidence on your knowing…it
* I know this because you identified the rogers in the plural… good work
I would like the Wakefield Doctrine to show me how I can: access the other areas of my personality (particulalrly Scott, which I think I am least like) in order to manage different social situations to my advantage.
@Considerer
good timing! while this information is spread out among/over/throughout the 774 or so Posts, we are about to embark on a series to address just that issue (along with other concerns). I think it will help to take a multiple response approach, meaning: Posts (on the topics) and answers to questions because this Doctrine being so a matter of personal perspective, I think it will be helpful to err on the side of redundancy… and provided everyone is willing to ask questions which more often than we realize is a common question that may remain unasked.
..also I am also doing the skype thing, in case anyone is too long distance (time zonistically speaking) to call in on the Saturday Night Drive I will be happy to discuss on online any questions, topics and issues.
Hey! here’s a thought: the Comments on this blog are moderated, so if you have something that are sure is a silly question but feel like helping everyone else out and ask it anyway, write in your Comment ‘Do Not Print’ and I will simply response by email…or something like that
This was fun! Enjoyed the questions. Hmmm…I would probably like to learn how as a Clark I can get on better with the other two personalities, Rogers and Scotts. Something like that. Have a great weekend! :)
Here, here! I’m excited to read future posts answering all these questions. I’ve been working on communicating/emoting with rogers…..more like a roger than the clark that I am! I am trying to not listen as a clark LOL
You know what’s sad!? I LOVE taking polls that reveal more about myself. HAHAH. I used to frequent some quiz website that would analyze your personality type according to different criteria: Myers-Briggs but then there were others. I just eat that stuff up like cake. HAHA.
I hope you have a great day!
@Cyndi
we’re clarks! we are all looking to learn what it was the day they taught “how to be a normal, happy human’ …(I think we deliberately stayed home that day ’cause we thought there would be a test…or worse a ‘in front of the class presentation’ we’re all playing catch up (to the thing that we already have)
look at the bright side… we get to design the tests (from the Doctrine perspective) so guess who gets all As? lol
Oh, fun polls!
I guess I would really like to know how to manage these scotts effectively without getting all worked up and out of whack. Do you know what I mean? I stay all calm for the most part and then they push and insist and try to tell me what I think (even though I know quite well what I think and it’s not what they want me to think)….and then I get mad and very direct and maybe a little more assertive than I am comfortable with. It takes me another two days to calm down after such a confrontation. Can you tell I just had such a confrontation? It’s three days later and I’m still thinking / analyzing / worrying about it. And I’m sure the Scott in questions never gave it a second thought!
(You did request an essay, so there you go!)
@Amy
thank you (for that Essay Answer). As we begin now to present the Doctrine in terms of how to apply the principles to real works problems and issues, I am glad to hear everyone make suggesting as to ‘how to… I replied to Considerer last night that I think I will end up answering questions directly (in these Comments) and then (sort at the same time) make them (the questions) the basis for a Post.
the thing about dealing with scotts is that it takes as much energy to shape our response as it does to actually dealing with their behavior. The thing about scotts is that they are about being active, which in the case of the social dimension, means getting a reaction from their environment, …any kind of reaction. Which is the first thing that is helpful. They are looking for a reaction/response if it is yelling or if it is gentle consideration… it’s all the same. You probably notice that up until they push you ‘too far’ they are not listening. Think about puppies. Calmly reasoning with them hardly ever works. It does not necessarily mean that you have to swat them with a newspaper, but! like any other pack member they will respond to a dominant personality. If you are not dominant then they are either just playing (for amusement) or they think they are in a contest to establish ranking in the particular situation you are in. The thing about us clarks is that we do not go for the dominant position, at least not at first. We prefer to reason with people, help them to understand.
This is not to say that the scotts you are dealing with are deaf to reason or that they are mindless pack animals but, I betcha once you got into the state (that clarks go to when pushed too far) they did not negotiate a surrender, they would have simply rolled over and submitted.
The thing that the Doctrine tells us is that for scotts being dominant or being submissive is not a qualitative thing, (for them) it is not ‘good’ to be dominant and ‘bad or less than’ to be submissive. In fact, if you watch the social behavior of a scott, the first most important thing for them in any situation is to establish their position in the pack, where they are in the ranking… they are genuinely uncomfortable until they know where they stand.
But you, as a clark, not only view this as a waste of energy, this tussling and competing and all, but when you are put in the position have having to take action it is exhausting.
Not because we do have what it takes to establish dominance over scotts, but because our energies are so devoted to things other than ranking and dominance.
You know the worst part of what you describe? If you think about the final resolution, when you finally generated the energy to bring our your scottian aspect… they were happy with it! They may not have said anything outright, but didn’t you get a sense that after you set things right, those scotts gave the impression that they were happier with you than they were when they were being annoying.
Definitely a Post on the issue of clarks dealing with the after effect of contending with scotts