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Reflection on 2014 -the Wakefield Doctrine- enirtcoD dleifekaW eht- 4102 no noitcelfeR*

December 31, 2014 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

2014. the Year of the clarks

that’s it. to elaborate on that statement would be to indulge in a clarklike need, (which everyone knows, is not a choice of the individual, rather it is the character of their reality), to understand. Which is is kinda ironic, as the word, ‘understanding’ has the sense of finality to it ( “ah! I finally understand!” “I just don’t understand you!” “Why can’t you understand, I’ve changed!“) and clarks are many things, ‘final and established’ are not on the list of the things (that)…. (clarks) are. So, I will leave it to you to enjoy today’s Post in a manner that is the only manner available to you, according to your predominant worldview, like it could be any other way:

clarks: ” but…. but!! granted I had better days and less horrible days this year… oh wait, I see what you mean yeah sure cool maybe no, you’re right, this is not the time or place…”
scotts: ” you fricken’ clarks! of course it was your year, you had us around way more than ever (and, for the record, even though I know that you can’t help with the running yourself down (and running into doors in your haste to make up for something)…. cut it out.”
rogers: ” well, it’s been…. no wait, what the heck (… lol, you’re welcome)… just what the heck have you started with this rogers with secondary clarks…. but thanks for balancing, or, at least, trying to balance the negative and the positive… even though the clark worldview is, somehow nearly un-workable in terms of quantifiable correctness, it’s a start”

screw it! here I am, worrying about leaving anyone out, if I went with the ‘mention-the-high-points-of-the-year-past ( the fact of the matter, for all of my living inside my head, the things that happened in 2014 that are memorable and significant in my life, issued from people, both real and virtual), but that would be so… clarklike…. so, the only fair way to approach this is to see what comes out of the next 7 minutes of typing….

lol…. er, I remember…. wait, lets get a category (honestly! this never happened before!… no, don’t tell me it happens to nearly all bloggers at one time or another) the

2014 brought about: seeing the benefit of knowing other clarks, I wouldn’t call it a community, we clarks are way too …clarklike for that! but I am convinced that my knowing other clarks (as clarks) has improved my life, Lizzi’s efforts to create a community totally manifested this year at the TToT, Cynthia (tbfkac**) graduated er…graduate school lol, and continues to show us what/how clarks can do to improve their own lives (and by doing so, the lives of others), Christine for demonstrating the peculiarly fun relationship between clarks and scotts, Kristi (K2), not only for participating as a roger, but demonstrating the value and impact of secondary aspects, zoe (and her little dog, too! not only for her technical insight into personality and behavior, but her demonstration (of the benefits) that derive from living by the adage ‘to thine ownself be true’…she does that, in very trying circumstances, better than most….and she has a secondary rogerian aspect, but we’re not holding that against her, are we?
(man! try to deliberately do a stream of consciousness and all of sudden, I go all Roberts Rules of Order*** on this here Post here)

…. Kristi (not only for being a good person, but being a clark who takes it to the world… we all ‘helped’ her get ready for that ‘Voices of’ thing last spring…. and she did an amazing job, despite that!)… and Tucker, for being a person who is growing up in front of us… no, seriously! start blog: small child, write this post: a friend of mine’s kid (ok not so good at describing the subtle changes in childhood)….

“…continue Hey I’ll fight tunee securely on the edge hello ok so maybe this dictate as a matter means way of writing a blog postwill require practice I will continue while driving my car stock stop”

back at the keyboard. The above, of course, is me playing with toys, in this case, the dictate-into-the-tablet-as-a-way-to-write-Posts… a thanks to Denise who over the past year has been constantly suggesting that I write down whatever random thoughts I might have while driving, she also deserves mention as a clark-doing-amazing things…. hey! that’s what this Post is all about!

2014 has illustrated the huge potential of a new kind of context, one that is of the real world, with scotts and rogers but with the emphasis on …not supportive (that’s not possible if you’re an Outsider) not really nurturing ( ’cause that’s what all clarks try to do, except with everyone other than themselves)…. identification yeah, that’s the touchstone word for this year past, for this inter-something of clarks, along with scotts and rogers!

Instead of needing (from the other person) and without demanding (from the people around us), if I simply identify with you, I gain without taking and (somehow) as a result, can give without being indebted…

sure! ‘2014 the year of identification’ among clarks and scotts and rogers, because, as we know from the Wakefield Doctrine: we live our lives in one personal reality (the predominant worldview of the Outsider/clark, the Predator/scott or the Herd Member/roger), but we always retain the potential to see the world as the other two are experiencing it.

(* yes, I did use that reversing site on a TToT Post in the Year past… (a point to your clarklike nature for noticing it, a point to your rogerian nature if it seems important to let everyone know it)

** tbfkac: the blogger formerly known as Cyndi

*** no, that doesn’t make sense, but I smiled as I typed it, so it fricken stays

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lets take a little Survey! -the Wakefield Doctrine- (year-end kind of thing, you know, everyone loves a fun survey!)

December 29, 2014 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

(no, I will not be making a predictable joke about the endless stream of survey postings on ‘the Facebook’ ( “hey! I got child molester! what kind of repressed urges type are you?” … “I’m a Type 2 recovering glue chuffer, it’s fun and makes me feel a part of the crowd!” … “I got purple!….no, wait! that was puerile! what color is that?”)

Three parts to our Post today. Well, 4 parts, if you actually participate.

First: the Wakefield Doctrine personality type (aka predominant worldview) Assessment. After you’ve taken the test, come back and Answer our quick and easy Survey Questions! (Comments are optional. Of course, we already know what you will say in your Comments, once we see how you scored.)

The Assessment. (…no, you have to click on it! here! what, no, don’t go back…ready? (no, you don’t need a No.2 pencil)… all you have to…. if you have to, we’ll wait…. are you back yet? ok… no! you can’t be done already, you haven’t gotten to the link. Sure, you are well-behaved. Everyone ready now? what!?!!? no, there is no study guide…. yes, this is an open book. now, take you cursor and): CLICK HERE

….times up!

Now the fun part!

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‘show, don’t tell’ Monday -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘no, it’s not your average life-hack/personality theory’

December 22, 2014 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

see the man in the photo* below:

like we need to tell you which of the three personality types….

Any questions?

The ‘show, don’t tell’ reference? I spend a lot of time explaining the characteristics of the three worldviews and try to provide pointers on making an identification of a person’s predominant worldview ( is he a clark, does she exhibit the signs of being a scottian woman…. oh man! what a roger!), but then there are moments such as occurred this weekend, when I opened the boating magazine, turned the pages and came upon the above photo. at the risk of ‘telling’ and thereby depriving Readers of the direct experience (of ‘seeing’ a roger), I will simply say, the article that the photo is a part of, was about the boat, not the man.
So I came upon the photo and I stopped. Then I took the magazine into the kitchen and, without a word, held it up (open to this photo) in front of Phyllis and said nothing. She laughed.**

…god! I love this here Doctrine here.

* courtesy: Alan Weitzman Soundings Magazine January 2015 no rights being claimed and god knows, no money being made from the use of this photo

** and… added an insight, Phyllis said, ‘rogers are always looking at the camera in photos’***

*** good point, Lizzi….. ‘scotts are looking at the photographer….’ lol

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine (“why, no, it ain’t too pretty, but Lizzi has done so much for this ‘hop, it’s the least I could do”)

December 20, 2014 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

nah, we hardly ever read directions … or take directions, for that matter. so lets stick some cool photos, a list (without items) and see if we can’t jump start this here bloghop here.

the church just before Hell Hollow Rd

(got at least one more coming later…very cool… from Hell Hollow (I kid you not!)

1, 2, 3, grat sure family and such, 5 damn! forgot 4 (lets make that grateful for catching the mistake) …where was I? 6 and 7, 8 and (just in case this doesn’t work: Lizzi, zoe, Christine, Kristi and Kristi, Dyanne, Michelle, Sarah and Lisa aka the co-hostinae)

ok everyone stand back… lets crank this one up and see what happens!

err…. ok so it kinda works…. hey, what the hell if you click on the links to the co-hosts you can get to their current Posts…. somebody try adding yourself to this post…. I’ll keep working on getting rid of the icons from last weekend’s TToT …. shit! if I don’t figure this out, the next thing I’ll hear will be a voice from Indiana (or Oklahoma) saying something to the effect, ‘Mr Doctrine, if you’d put half the energy you’re putting into getting out of the assignment and just follow directions….’ boy! am I gland that hasn’t happened!*

(6:38 am) !?#*^%& inter &*$*# net (*)$@ all I want to do is be able to is…. Hey! Item 2 above? make that: ‘I’m grateful for appreciating how difficult it is to do ‘implied swear words’ in a Post. No, I’m serious. I tried just holding the shift key down and playing a riff on the top row of my key board, but more often than not, what’d I get would look harmless, even funny, like a Japanese birthday greeting, ” You know what makes me mad? It’s those ^?^*(*!! key board tricks‘

See what I mean? not very (implied) offensive, is it? Alright back to working on this link thing.*

* I don’t need to mention to anyone that I hail from Y Chromeville, do I? just because my efforts to fix the link up for this week, has not exactly…what’s the word, ‘worked’, does not mean I’m not going to keep going back to it… lol

(7:44 am) alright! this attempt totally did….. not work! (shit!)….. oh, yeah…forgot!! Gratitude Item #3! I am grateful that my efforts to fix things have totally failed! (sure, clark… they all be buying that! no, really I’m turning over new leafs and will be totally a well-behaved team player!… ) (lol this weekend is going to end up looking like a room in which a 6 year old is sent to wrap presents, with the proviso that for every 2 that is wrapped, one is allowed to be opened)

(8:01 am) lets call this Item… #2! I am grateful for the internet and digital cameras for 2 reasons: a) I could take the photos of the churches above and 2) I could look up and clip a quote from a book I was forced to read in high school, ‘Ethan Frome’.
the quote:
“When I had been there a little longer, and had seen this phase of crystal clearness followed by long stretches of sunless cold; when the storms of February had pitched their white tents about the devoted village and the wild cavalry of March winds had charged down to their support; I began to understand why Starkfield emerged from its six months’ siege like a starved garrison capitulating without quarter…“ (I’m thinking that I’ll have to re-read this thing tonight!)

holy shit! I have a totally genuine gratitude item!! I just looked at the Date…..

that’s right! It’s the last day of Winter!!! yeah!!! (call it number(s) 3, 7 and 10)

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Val at My Virtual Vineyard

Denise at Girlie on the Edge

Jen at Driftwood Gardens

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Cyndi from Pictimilitude

‘fangboner’ from ‘chronicallysickmanicmother

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zoe! re-written

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Romi ‘In the Way Everlasting’

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Kristi ‘Thankful Me’

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-the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘of popularity, self-promotion and ‘the everything Rule’

December 19, 2014 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

A little ‘light reading’ for this, the most lightest of Workweek Days…. Friday (courtesy of the gang down at the Wakefield Doctrine)

The question is this:

can a person become popular without the talent/capacity/capability to effectively self-promote themselves
(“...what does this have to do with personality types, Friday and, since we’re asking extra credit questions, what the hell is ‘the everything Rule'”)

Great question!

Allow me to answer the Second (and totally un-authorized) question first: the ‘everything Rule’ (short for: ‘everyone does everything, at one time or another’) is a reminder, to those of us who would use the Wakefield Doctrine as intended, (and not as way to figure out our kids, get our husbands to stop with the constant….or get lucky in study hall), to remember that the Doctrine is predicated on the notion that we all live in one of three worldviews. For example: I grew up (and developed my skills and strategies and interpersonal coping mechanisms) in the worldview of ‘the Outsider’, as a result, if you were to observe me today at work, you would come to the conclusion: ‘hey! he’s got one of those clark personality types that the Doctrine warned us about.’ One of the cool things about the Doctrine, is that we do not need to know about traits and tastes, habits, hobbies and interests in order to assign a personality type. Instead, we observe a person’s everyday behavior and infer how that person is ‘relating themselves to the world around them’.
The goal is to determine which of the three worldviews one is living in, (the Outsider/clark or the Predator/scott or the Herd Member/roger), once I know this, I know more about you than you know about yourself. All without a single survey question! Cool, non?
….anyway, the ‘everything Rule’ simply states that, while we all live in the same common world, i.e. the world of Nightly News with Brian Williams/the world of 19 year old Checkout girls who look at you and even answer a direct question without ever, for a second, actually seeing you/the world of surly car mechanics/the world of oppressively kind in-laws/the world of hopes that exceed any possibility of being realized yet cannot be let go of because what would your life be then/the world of the internet and websites that are flashy and full of banal, insipid advice on how to live life without the slightest hint of an original idea to distinguish it from countless other popular websites… our personal experience is…well, personal. Of course, this being the Doctrine, we take that common sense observation and say that the very reality that I live out today in is different, that although we clarks live in the same world with scotts and have the same things happen to us as do rogers, how these things ‘manifest’ is different for each of us.

manifest: (ex.) Christine and Lizzi and Kristi are riding in a car one night after going to see a really great show. Suddenly the highway behind them is filled with flashing blue light… (common enough experience, right?) . The experience that unfolds for each of our three friends is going to be different. No, really. How this encounter manifests is distinguishably different for each of them, from start to finish. The experience will manifest according to the character and nature of their respective worldviews.

damn! off on a tangent again.

popularity:

for clarks it does not exist, it is knowable and observable, but it does not exist
for scotts is a fact of life, it is useable and enjoyable, but, in the final analysis, of no account
for rogers it is necessary, essential and expected…like saying to a person, ‘hey beautiful child you have there, isn’t the gravitational attraction of the Earth great today?’