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W. -the Wakefield Doctrine- ( ‘of clarks and contronyms …and other general insights’)

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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A Comment from Linda yesterday, included the observation that we (are), “…attracting a group of individualistic minded peeps.” I replied,

 “It was a ‘tentative article of faith’, in the beginning of this blog that, by virtue of what the Doctrine is, the readership would have to be those with very robust imaginations…and, more importantly, people who enjoyed playing with the new…”

…’tentative article of faith‘ (?!)
New Readers? Here at the Doctrine we talk about personal realities. More precisely, we talk about living in one of three characteristic personal realities (aka worldviews): that of the Outsider (clarks), the Predator (scotts) and the Herd Member (rogers). What may not always come across strongly enough in these Posts is the fact that these are real realities. One of the primary differences between the Wakefield Doctrine and other personality type systems/schema is that we do not focus on what a person tells us about themselves as much as we focus on appreciating how a person is ‘relating themselves to the world around them’.
In fact, if there is a single statement that best describes the Wakefield Doctrine (and it’s value),  it would be, ‘using the Wakefield Doctrine as a perspective, we infer how a person (or ourselves) are relating themselves to the world around them and, by virtue of this understanding, be able to see the world as the (other) person is experiencing it.‘  And in order to pull that off, you need to be able and willing to imagine that:

  • …reality is, to a certain, but very real extent, personal. nothing weird, like singing pencils or the ability to turn invisible (no, wait… that is possible in the clarklike world view)… lets say, the ability to flying without the aid of technology
  • …there are three characteristic worldviews (personal realities)  that of the Outsider, the Predator and the Herd Member
  • …we are all born with the potential to experience life in any one of these three realities and that, at an early age, we settle into one, (our predominant worldview), however, we never lose the capacity to experience the world as do ‘the other two’
  • …what other people refer to as personality types (and imply is, in part or in whole, a simple choice of the individual to act a certain way), the Wakefield Doctrine describes as ‘the most effective strategy for dealing with the world, given the nature and character of the world….you know, the world of the Outsider, the life of the Predator, the reality of the Herd Member
  • …using the Doctrine is as easy as your imagination. Know the characteristic of the three worldviews, observe the people in your life and (correctly) infer how they are relating themselves to the world around… (as Lizzi would say), ‘Boom!’  you now know more about the other person than they know about themselves
  • …it’s fun to be able to see the clarks and the scotts and the rogers in your life! …and, at times, initially, it can be a little spooky. If you persist with the Doctrine you will have the experience of interacting with a person, they will act in a manner that you find yourself thinking, ‘she is so a clark‘ or ‘jeez! not too much a scott!’  or  ‘oh man! he is such a roger‘  the spooky part is that you’ll then realize that the behavior that prompted this response was not among the descriptions or examples or characteristics that you read here… they’re just acting the way they are supposed to

so, have fun today. Tell us about any characteristic of (any of) the three worldviews that you may observe today. Remind me tomorrow to get started on the topic of secondary aspects. thank you

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T. -the Wakefield Doctrine- ( writing in more than one sitting…. Take 2)

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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I can’t believe that I just threw away a Post that I had nearly completed, ready to Publish. …the topic was: is it possible for me to write a Post in stages over time, as opposed to writing it ‘in one take‘.

Guess that means the answer is, ‘no’

What you, the Reader, missed, that I sorta regret having to throw away, was:

  • a Comment from Kristi about wanting to stop writing ‘rough drafts’
  • a question from Cynthia regarding staying ‘on task’ when a writing project necessarily requires an extended period of effort (writing and publishing an eBook)
  • a description of the clarklike worldview of Post writing, (it involved the image of my having an imaginary conversation with imaginary Readers)
  • a statement of explanation for the New Readers about how the Wakefield Doctrine maintains that, though we all live in our predominant worldview (the personal reality that you woke up in this morning), we retain the potential of ‘the other two’ ways to experience life and, that, is some cases, people have significant ‘secondary and tertiary aspects’… Kristi was a good example
  • a little riff on how clarks are so….  clarklike with our Outsider natures…unless we have a significant 2ndary scottian aspect, and then we write the hell out of it
  • mostly, I regret having a Poll…. hey!  wait a minute!! The Poll should still be available!!   so lets salvage some of the last 93 minutes of my life and publish this Poll:
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M. -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘sure, we all would like a hint how to use this Doctrine on the first day of the w. week’

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Given that all you Readers are sitting in one of three worldviews as you read today’s Post, it’s only right that I make it clear which worldview I am talking about when I present a hint, isn’t it?

Well, actually no. It’s only right in the context of one of you. But that’s not important right now. Right at this moment, most of you Readers are at the start of your Monday, so on with the Doctrine hints:

  • clarks will be the ones most likely to get up early, followed by rogers and, (yeah, maybe a little surprising)…scotts are the last to rise and shine
  • clarks will be remarkably (and suspiciously) optimistic and talkative
  • rogers will not
  • scotts (who are still in bed) will begin to see that getting the other person back into bed is the best approach for everyone involved ( by ‘everyone’ we mean, of course, the scott)
  • clarks will look forward to the day the way that a person with a horrible toothache will look forward to going to the dentist
  • rogers will look forward to their day…in detail  with no need to share or express their concerns for the upcoming day
  • scotts will still be in bed
  • clarks sometimes feel anxiety about ‘the start of the day’  not necessarily the events that they anticipate happening, but rather, the point at which forward momentum begins
  • rogers will become more animated and energetic, but unless the other person is also in the same line of work, this brightening view of the coming day will remain inside their heads
  • scotts will (finally) get going… the least amount of preparation for the day of the three (consistent with their roles in the work day)
  • clarks and breakfast?  what, are you insane?!?!
  • rogers and breakfast?  well, we always have (fill in the blank precisely, please)
  • scotts and breakfast?  yeah sure… come on!  lets get going!!

That accounts for ‘our’ morning. I have every intention of returning to this here Post here at noon today and provide us with a look at the tipping point of the first day of the work week.  Unless you have a coment.

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Ten Things of Thankful #81 -the Wakefield Doctrine- first TToT post of the New Year

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Why honey! You don't have a single gratitude item and it's Friday! Sometimes I wonder how I put up with you!

“Why honey! You don’t have a single gratitude item and it’s Friday! Sometimes I wonder how I put up with you!”

1) (oh…kay  so this first TToT may not be headed directly for the Gratitude List bloghop Hall of Fame ( motto: ‘you’re welcome!‘)

One of us is sexier than the other, can you tell which? If you can't, you can't be much of a man/woman, can you?

” As anyone can see, one of us is sexier than the other, can you tell which? If not, you can’t be much of a man/woman, can you?”

2) There is an under-current of gratitude here. I just know there is, it’s only that I haven’t found my ‘hook’ for this week’s List. I admire my fellow TToT’ers those who, week after week,  write direct and simple and heartfelt lists of 10 Items. And not just people like Dyanne or Christine, (they have the advantage of being scotts). There are others that I read each weekend that are insightful lists, that use (the writer’s) personal life examples, what’s impressive about many of these Posts, is they are written with such skill that the gratitude they express becomes transferable and I feel a greater appreciation of the things in my life.  Having said that, lets see what’s next in the way of a photo/image!

If you are of a certain age, you will recognize this person… a high jumper named Dick Fosbury who changed his sport in a fundamental manner as possible. (Look him up)

If you are of a certain age, you will recognize this person… a high jumper named Dick Fosbury who changed his sport in as fundamental a manner as possible. (Look him up)

 3) Now there is creative and there is creative. (Yes, this is the Wakefield Doctrine, and properly speaking, I should have a third ‘creative’ in this item to account for all three worldviews.) There are three ‘kinds’ of creative because there are three characteristic worldviews. rogers are creative in the sense that they can re-assemble parts and components, basic building blocks and techniques into new configurations and forms. scotts are creative  too…. (lol) and then there are clarks! for clarks creative is literal, they are the ones that build, discover, find, assemble and dream the things that simply never existed before…. oh, yeah  that’s right, I am grateful that I am a clark)

(...of course, despite depictions in movies, in real life the Tower of Babel was probably like as imposing as the Target store that's stuck at the end of the local Mall.)

(…of course, despite depictions in movies, in real life the Tower of Babel was probably, like, as imposing as the Target store that’s stuck at the end of the local Mall.)

4) I’m grateful for the circumstances that I am in, by virtue of the technology of the day, able to communicate with, get to know and, above all, be allowed a glimpse into the very real lives of people who I would otherwise have had zero chance of ever knowing. However, everything comes at a price. While I can laugh (in admiration) at Christine’s totally excellent sense of adventure that creates the family road trips that I follow along with, I am also privileged to share the sadness of loss, as I did  last week, when Susan lost her dog, Bruce. In a way, the latter was more powerful of the two, I do not have children (but still know that road trips are fun),but I have had dogs and do know how incredibly integral to a family they can be.

I was saddened to hear that Joe Cocker died recently… a remarkable voice.

I was saddened to hear that Joe Cocker died recently… such a voice.

5) man!  this captioning thing, while fun is a lot of work!  Lets take a Reader’s request!  Kristi! yes?  Vacation Slides?  Absolutely!  Well, no, I can’t do it without captions… well, I’ll try

the Wakefield Doctrine…on the Road in…Arizona!

the Wakefield Doctrine…on the Road in…Arizona!

6) I am grateful for Phyllis and Una and the home that I am fortunate to share with them. (if you are thinking, ‘oh good, he’s getting back on track towards whatever passes for normal for those nice, but decidedly odd people at that Doctrine place’  hate to disappoint you, but…)

(him: "No, I don't think I look like a mermaid") (her: "maybe not, but that hat makes you a lead pipe cinch for being a roger")

(him: “No, I don’t think I look like a mermaid”)
(her: “maybe not, but that hat makes you a lead pipe cinch for being a roger”)

7) what?!

"Don't worry! I'm an angel"

“Don’t worry! I’m an angel”

8) Work is something I am constantly grateful for, whenever I remember to stop living in the past or the future and, instead, simply enjoy the variety, excitement and satisfaction of my profession. While stress is a recurring aspect of work that involves: people, deadlines, risk, very large investments of money and high levels of emotional involvement, it is my belief that stress in not mandatory or inevitable, rather I chose to believe that stress is, in fact, fear dressed up like a really hot woman.

…damn (remarkable photo, still trying to find attribution, was not given on the place that I found it.)

… (remarkable photo)

9) to paraphrase Real Estate 101: ‘underneath all there is the Book of Secret Rules (aka Secret Book of Rules)’. The premier unique feature to this, the blog that Lizzi built, the SBoR/BoSR is a challenge to us as writers, disguised as licence to cut corners. The coolest thing about this TToT is: a) simply by participating, you have, in fact done it perfectly and 2) in the very beginning, before the acronym and before the linkup, Lizzi engaged in the practice of writing a gratitude lists as Post at her blog… at a time when not only were things …quite difficult, but at time when there were only 6 or 7 Comments for any given Post…  she did, in fact, persist and wrote her lists. very cool.

Ola

10) is this not an excellent dog?

(ed note: for the benefit of New Readers, the dog above is Ola. She was our first dog and was a perfect lifeform.  the photo says it all, “big teeth, big smile”)

 

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…in with the few, the blue the new!!! that’s it! -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘rise and find, binyons!’

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

sure, it's not Sunday morning, but this is my boy  Edward H

sure, it’s not Sunday morning, but this is my boy Edward H

…trying a few things different with today, ( Anno Dominoes 2015), starting with conveying my hopes and wishes of the best of all possible timelines for the next 12 months to all of the Readers, fans, followers, DownSprings and friends of the Wakefield Doctrine.

Since I have not yet reduced the next year of my life into a concise, reasonable and surely-will-come-to-pass-provided-I-think-it-through-carefully-enough-and-pick-the-perfect-set-of-words, including bulletpoints (bulletpoints motto: ‘hey! we’re the scotts of ….of  word arrangement!‘)( hey!!)  and, maybe, block quoted sections of referential information ( I’d don’t really need to do a ‘block quote motto here, do I? yeah, I know that you know what I was going to do).

There!  I just stumbled upon the theme of the Post and only 106 words in….!

The coming year here at the Wakefield Doctrine….

  • learn more about the nature and, more importantly, the effect of secondary (and tertiary) aspects
  • remember how to be outrageously funny…. yes, you’re correct!  bring back my scottian aspect in writing (at least in some of these Posts)
  • appreciate the level of understanding of this here Doctrine here being enjoyed by the Readers, and write Posts accordingly
  • despite that (the previous point), I will get back to the basic goal of this blog: to present the Wakefield Doctrine in such manner that anyone reading it the for the first time can understand, appreciate and apply the principles of the Wakefield Doctrine and get an immediate benefit, even if it is only to have a little fun, that very same day!
  • apply the principles to my own context

OK… short and to the point, (come on!!  scottian aspect!)

(I’ll return later in the day and add to this post, as one of my projects for this year is to see if I can increase my flexibility in how I go about writing Posts. To date, it’s pretty much been: one sitting, early morning. It would be useful to be able to write at different times of the day and, in more than ‘one take’.)

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