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“what do you mean, it’s Thursday, not Friday” -the Wakefield Doctrine- the fun of being a clark

July 2, 2015 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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It’s Muddy Waters, of course…. will post something by him at the bottom of the Post for your listing pleasure

… no! come back!  we’re done, (for the moment), with the deep and word-tangly reflections and exploration of advanced Wakefield Doctrine!  After all, 1/3 of the description of the Wakefield Doctrine has always been: fun. And, while I may argue that yesterday’s Post was fun… it was also semi-gigantic and it’s Summer Time which is much less conducive to musings on ‘the gigantic’.

hey…. today’s title? Totally serious. I was so completely chrono-dislocated that, even after spending, like, 15 minutes visiting Posts of friends, (like Kristi and z, and Val and them), searching for the prompt for ‘Finish the Sentence Friday’… I still remained in Friday.  But enough about my bout of hypo-calendarism… lets talk about the Wakefield Doctrine!

(funny thing about this blog), given that there’s only one topic/theme/subject and given that I’ve spent countless posts describing the three personality types (how to recognize them, what to do with them, how to avoid getting eaten by them), to this day I still would rather read a new description of clarks, scotts and rogers than re-read an old one. That’s certainly not very efficient! In any event, here we are again.  Hey! I know (or remember or recall), why don’t you tell someone today about the Wakefield Doctrine…. no, wait, I wrote about that once before… hold on, let me try to remember… ok, got it!  Before you go out and tell another person, one who has never encountered the Wakefield Doctrine, be sure to read the following:

  • clarks: you’re the most likely, (of the three), to want to tell someone else and you are the most likely, (of the three), to have it, (telling someone else about the Doctrine), bite you on the ass
  • scotts: you’re the least equipped (intellectually and temperamentally) to tell someone else and you’re the one (of the three) most likely to have a willing and receptive audience
  • rogers: you could fully intend to follow this directive to tell someone else and you’re the one (of the three) who will forget…forget to tell someone, forget that you even read this post, but you’ll still know that there was something about other people and you in today’s post

So, since I have an extra day this week, I’d best get out there and do something about it. (I love this Wakefield Doctrine. I mean, sure, I write the posts and I’m a clark, but I don’t think about how being a clark shapes and forms the message, until, that is, I stop and reflect on what I’ve written, (happens way less frequently than you’d think… very funny, zoe… you’re right. lol), but I just re-read this paragraph and the 1st 19 words of this paragraph… pretty much tells you all you need to know about what it’s like to be a clark, to live in the worldview of the Outsider… ya  know?

Hey!! Speaking of scotts  and Mysteries (yeah, as if)… someone find Christine and tell her that, at some point, she’ll need to reveal the ‘Secret of the Missing scott’. We have two entries:

“Ah, but without the van (because it was waiting to be towed) did she just simply walk to the place to flag down the tow truck? Why not take her phone and vid chat via that?”
~Lisa (the Meaning of Me)

 

“…she walked down to the end of the long long drive, and she was ON HER PHONE – SHE WAS ON HER PHONE GIVING DIRECTIONS which is why she couldn’t vidchat on it.”
~Lizzi (Considerings)

…still time to submit your answer

 

the promised music vid:

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clarks and the danger of ‘uniqueness’ -the Wakefield Doctrine- a brief interlude

July 1, 2015 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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It’s understood that a significant portion of the effort behind (understanding, developing and applying) the principles of the Wakefield Doctrine is specifically intended to help clarks.

Which is not to say that clarks need the Wakefield Doctrine more than scotts or rogers. Wait a minute, we do say that. Which is not to say that clarks are the only one, (of the three), to see in the Doctrine the possibility of direct benefits, impacting their daily lives. Wait… we do say that. Which is not to say that the Wakefield Doctrine offers insights and perspectives that our scottian and rogerian friends cannot, and, in fact, do not benefit as a result of coming here and reading and commenting and such. Wait! we do say that? Well, I guess that leaves us where we have always been:

the Wakefield Doctrine is a unique and useful and very much (a) fun way to look at the behavior of people. the Doctrine is a perspective that offers us (an additional) opportunity to better understand the people in our lives. employing this tool, we all can gain an insight into the world, ‘as the other person is experiencing it’, and, because of this increased understanding, we need never again say, “how could they go and do such a thing? I really thought I knew them better than that!“

But we already knew that, didn’t we? Lets, then, broaden our understanding of this here Doctrine here, shall we? We all know that the personal reality experienced by clarks is referred to as, the world of the Outsider. As a person who grew up and developed (their) personality in the worldview of the Outsider, clarks are creative and introspective, funny and hardworking. Because they live in the personal reality of the Outsider, clarks are subject to a seemingly endless cycle between (near-unrealistic) hope and soul-crushing despair (survival being an indication of an inner strength that, were it not expended on surviving what would seem an un-justified and un-necessary level of self-criticism-doubt-fear, would be, like, totally impressive). Thats simply the nature and character of the world as experienced by clarks. scotts and rogers have no picnic-of-a-life either. But today is about clarks.

So what is it about clarks that makes today’s post interesting? Well, to appreciate that, we first must understand the double bind that lies at the core of every clark, and that is: a) clarks maintain that the only path available to them is the intellect, the ‘knowing/learning’ of things and 2) they, (the clark), are Outside(r)[s] and c) there must be a reason for their being different.  (I sense that those Readers who are not clarks and/or those Readers whose secondary clarklike aspect is developed only to the degree necessary to find this theory interesting, but not developed enough to imagine the world of the Outsider (at least be able to imagine it without being forced into a reflex sympathy response), are beginning to drift off, so lets get to the point.)
The problem with being an Outsider (who is) trying to understand their way, ‘back to being a real person’, is that, ‘an Outsider’ is, by definition, unique. As in…. only one of a kind. If I am the only one of a kind, then how can I gain a perspective/understanding of the world that is anything more than what I already possess? If I’m ‘the only one of my kind’, then how can anyone tell me anything that genuinely applies to me? And, besides, if I spend my life looking for ‘the Answer’, then how can I know more than I (already) know?

see what I mean?

gots to cut this short. work calls. if there are any clarks (or, hell, scotts or rogers) who want to know what I believe the answer to this conundrum is, the answer is: identification  I’ll have to follow-up, later in the day to this tease-ending. tempus fugits, yo, tempus totally fugits

 

 

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of stampeding cats, fireflies on the floor and a Live TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine- (that certainly should be enough for 1 Post)

June 26, 2015 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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Regrettably, I do not possess the skills with cellphone camera that makes the Facebook what it is…. all those totally cute and candid snapshots and video clips that are the result of whipping out the cell phone* capturing a transient, but fascinating life-moment,  to be shared with the hordes of stimuli-hungry people who populate the internets. Nevertheless, I had two incidents that I was fortunate enough to observe recently, and, while I’ll leave the import and life-enhancing insights, (inherent in these moments of frisson), to be judged by the Readers, permit me to relate them to you… in print… yeah, sort of like your grandparents, talking about how wonderful the ‘Days of Radio’ were and how much more satisfying it was to listen, instead going to see one of those new-fangled motion pictures.

  1. …so I’m driving through farmland in rural Connecticut yesterday afternoon, talking on the phone. Suddenly I see a bunch of cows…running away from the section of field nearest the roadway… must’ve been 23 or 24 of ’em, semi- galloping towards the far side of their pasture! In nearly the same instant (…in that open-to-the-wonders-of-life-instant, the ‘wtf!?’ moment), a cat ran across the road in the opposite direction. The cat was looking smugly satisfied, so naturally I thought, ‘damn! a cat playing with the rogers!’ The moment (less than 45 seconds, surely), concluded as I looked back at the pasture and saw the running cows re-join the herd, mixing in with barely a sign of the excitement that just galvanized their afternoon. Couldn’t help but laugh and say, ‘what a Doctrine!’
  2. I’m sitting in the bathroom, early early this morning, the door is open and I spot movement on the floor of the hallway. I do not like bugs and other more-than-4-legged-creatures and tensed, staring at the movement, pre-deciding if I need to take action. Then the back-half of this thing blinked a light. a firefly! walking, for god-knows-what-reason across the wood floor of my hallway. no, no insight into the Wakefield Doctrine this time… but I did smile when it occurred to me to incorpate this odd little moment into a post.

neither time did I have my cellphone available to preserve a record of these little adventures. so you get to picture them yourselfs

Speaking of picturing-them-yourselfs!  tomorrow is the First Annual TToT Live!  It will be on google hangouts starting at 10:30am EDT and ending 11:30 EDT  I need you to join us!  Not quite sure how you get there… lol  actually  watch the Facebook and I will be pasting the link to the hangout on the Facebook …at the TToT group and my own place.

…it’ll be interesting and fun and such

before I leave you, a word for any New Readers:

glad you happened by. most readers of blogs, coming across the Wakefield Doctrine, will scan it and find it interesting… in the ‘old bookstore/curio shoppe/ that table-over-in-the-cafeteria-where-no-one-you-hang-out-with-ever-sits, but-the-faces-of-(those who do)-seem-familiar-but-you-can’t-remember-a-name’, sort of way and move on. if you find yourself curious enough to think, ‘did I read that right? 3 personality types for everyone?!’ then you might be one of the people we’re looking for. don’t worry about understanding how this Doctrine thing works, just read and assume that you’re ‘getting it’   (we have a saying**  ‘when it comes to learning and apply the principles of the Wakefield Doctrine,  ‘you can’t break it and you can’t get it wrong’…so enjoy yourself!’)
cliffnotes: we all go through life within a personal reality that represents how a person relates themselves to the world around them: clarks (Outsiders) scotts (Predators) and rogers (Herd Members). These three ‘behavioral paradigms’ are meant as fun and entertaining and totally exaggerated illustrations of the behavior of people who developed their personality in the context of these worldviews:

  • clarks: …slouching, mumbling, non-eye contacting people with oddly compelling fashion choices and a sense of humor that you will think to yourself, ‘if everyone else knew how funny they are, they wouldn’t be so by themselves’ and they are kind… kind to a fault.
  • scotts: are lionesses sitting in trees, puppies holding onto the toy so single-mindedly that you can lift them off the floor and they’re always in a good mood except when they get mad and then it’s full-on fight to the death and then back to happy-to-be-alive, you think to yourself, ‘he/she is my best friend, the trouble and embarrassment is part of the price of friendship, it’s still worthwhile and they are sexy… sexy to a fault.
  • rogers: god they display the characteristics of the personal reality that they live in more than both clarks and scotts combined. relentless in being friendly and aggressive to a fault when being kind to others, living in a world that is quantifiable and comprised of ‘Right Ways’ to do everything, it can’t be easy to be a member of the Herd when everyone (in the Herd) is trying to be perfect, and you think, ‘they need to lighten up, not take things so personally and everything would be so much better’ and they are organized… organized to a fault

 

 

 

 

* you didn’t think I could let this classic line from Blazing Saddles, go un-posted did you?

** truth be known, we have a lot of sayings! lol

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine- “…dispose the Day.”*

June 13, 2015 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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1)  that I have a bloghop to be a (co)-host for/to, which conveys a certain sense of belonging and, at the same time, a responsibility to  participate each week

2)  … grateful for the..something about the TToT that makes it exceptional, especially the very basic yet often under-emphasized principle (of an exercise like a gratitude blog) that maintains that the primary, initial value is the act of engaging in the exercise…  it’s not just writing 10 items that would appear to demonstrate a thankful for  attitude towards (one’s) life… it is (for me), the fact of doing it anyway. (Something our esteemed Founder demonstrated even before this ‘hop got started more than 2 years ago

3)  hey!  new TToTeers!! have you heard about hypo-gratitude? (yeah, there is such a thing!)  There are times and there are things that may possess a quality that, while overall is a good thing, at the same time there is a feeling associated with it…. that you don’t feel so grateful for… ambivalence might be a better word to describe it…

4) 2 Mile Run   I am genuinely grateful that today is Saturday, ’cause we have tomorrow (Sunday) off!  We don’t have  to run on Sunday.

5) I would say ‘gratitude’ for my work… but this has been one of those weeks that the term hypo-gratitude was coined to describe.

6) BoSR/SBoR   Hey!!!  anyone new to the TToT out there?  ask about the Secret Book of Rules (aka Book of Secret Rules) it is simply one of the most fun thing about this here bloghop here… so ask already!

7) SGV  ( you might want to check in with Lizzi or zoe/ivy )

8) Hey!!!!! don’t forget  TToLive!!  June 27 2015  You will be one of the people who are there… (oh oh!  Feel a Kenneth Branagh  speech coming on….  TToT a ‘household word’ indeed, “…we happy few, we band of bloggers“)

…(update!  I realized that I should have included more information!  TToT will be Live on Saturday June 27 2015 starting 10:30 EDT and ending 11:30 EDT… further details available, i.e. dress code, menu, assigned topics etc  stay tuned!

https://wwwyoutube.com/watch?v=A-yZNMWFqvM

9)  sweat; sweatiness; excess temperatue  I’m totally grateful for it.  (You know that old saying, ‘hot enough for ya?’… my answer is always, “Why no, it is not (yet) hot enough for me.”

10) * footnote for subtitle   I figured I better put the explanation here rather than at the bottom, because you will have just finished the vid clip and that phrase is, of course, one of the very last lines

 

 

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-the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘lets try that one more time!’

June 11, 2015 By

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Topics for today:

  • the Wakefield Doctrine for the First Time Reader
  • for clarks (kinda more than the other two), ‘engaging the world’

First Time Reader?

Totally glad to see/infer/assume/hope that you’re here, ready to learn about the Wakefield Doctrine. I will say without hesitation or reservation that you, in your capacity as a New Reader, possessed of a certain curiosity, access to the internet and a little time, are the second most important thing to us here at this blog. From the beginning of this blog (but not the beginning of the Wakefield Doctrine) (or to be more precise, the beginning of the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers) the goal and ambition has been to write ‘the Perfect Wakefield Doctrine Post. The Perfect Wakefield Doctrine Post is one that a total stranger, here for the first time (remind you of anyone?), can read and understand this personality theory well enough to apply it to their own life and see and/or appreciate the fact that everyone around them is a clark or a scott or a roger. Further, and this is where the real benefits begin to show, this First Time Reader, by employing the perspective that is the Wakefield Doctrine, becomes able to see the world as the other person is experiencing it.

…because that is what the Wakefield Doctrine is for, to better understand how our world is experienced by the people in our lives.

…different day, different perspective (on this topic):

If you’ve always had this… feeling about new ideas, call it a permanent curiosity about the odd things, in an undeniably odd world, if, when someone does something unexpected, (and annoying and/or aggravating), you always think to yourself, ‘…really thought I knew them better than that, what did I miss?!’  then you’ve come to the right place.

The Wakefield Doctrine is a way to understand the behavior of the people in our lives. Depending on your interests, the Wakefield Doctrine works as:

  • a system of personality types (clarks, scotts and rogers),
  • an anecdotal personality theory ( developing coping strategies in response to growing up as ‘the Outsider’ or ‘a Predator’ or ‘the Herd Member’ )
  • or a metaphysics/’hey what if?’/framework for questions and assumptions

… but most of all, as today’s version of this Post (started yesterday) infers,  the Wakefield Doctrine is a perspective. It is not:

  • the Answer (to why you can’t get a date, lose some weight or get a promotion)….  wait a minute! I take that back… the Doctrine can help with those life challenges
  • the Right Way to live your life (the major religions sorta have that market tied up… unless all you’re interested in is learning to understand the people in your life better each day)
  • a way to stop feeling so…  different (oops… dropped the ball on this bullet-point-contrasting-list of qualities thing…. the Wakefield Doctrine is totally a way to (begin) to stop feeling so…alone)

Lets shorten this up. There is a new Reader out there feeling like she isn’t ‘getting’ this Doctrine thing the way that the others are… ok. Hey! New Reader? If you came back here more than twice…relax! you’re getting it. Don’t compare to the others, identify with them. This Doctrine can be useful, but mostly it’s fun. (“hey! did you see what they came up with for a Post photo yesterday?? that guy is fricken nuts!”  “…and then he, like out of nowhere said the meanest thing, you think that’s what they mean by a roger?”  “…she so crazy! make sure your insurance is up to date, the mace canister is not showing an Expiration Date…and go and have fun!”)

The 3 worldviews will coalesce with time. Not to worry, you’ll get it eventually. Actually, if you want something to worry about, worry about the very real fact that once you do start seeing the clarks, scotts and rogers in your world, you may not be able to not see the clarks, scotts and rogers in your world. That’s something to be concerned about!

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