Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)
I was taking out the garbage this morning, thinking about the Wakefield Doctrine. I was concerned that I’d be late getting the trash down the long driveway to the curb, because the recycling company had changed the pickup schedule and I was running about 15 minutes behind. As I took off the lid to the plastic garbage can and slid off the top of the recycling container (the first was a rounded-square shaped top and I simply popped it off the plastic ‘garbage can’, letting it fall to the ground; the second was a rectangular lid that I slid off, carefully so that it remained leaning on a slant against the end of the container), when, for no apparent reason I thought about:
- the Wakefield Doctrine
- manifesting1 in the three worldviews
- …if I hurried, I might get these thoughts to turn into a Post
Please allow me elaborate on each of the three bullet points, showing how each thought connected to the other and hopefully, the resultant Wakefield Doctrine insight becomes one that will prove useful to one of you today.
…disappointment: more akin to losing hope in goals, than it is feeling let down by others. This thought was represented (to me) as ‘the falling buttered toast’. Does it land butter side up? does it not… ( ‘…man it always lands butter side down’). For reason unclear, this lead me to think about Christine and zoe. One was posing a hypothetical question about adolescent boys and the other was reminding me that I needed to get more organized with the presentation of the…
…Wakefield Doctrine: Now, in this context, since my mind was already running down the path of buttered toast and how it represents the way a clark invest(s) (ourselfs) in goals, particularly the ‘public goals/amibtions/bids-for-inclusion-in-whatever-group-is-important-at-the-moment.2
What the Wakefield Doctrine would say about goals and disappointments was immediately modified by remembering Christine’s Comment, if there is a better form of presenting the Wakefield Doctrine, it must include specific examples of it’s principles being applied to everyday life situations. And so, I thought, how to understand why the child is seemingly more upset (or, perhaps, upset for a longer period of time than seems appropriate) at a disappointment, which lead to….
…manifesting in the three worldviews: the person3 is disappointed:
- clarks feel/experience disappointment as a judgement of insufficiency (it was not that they lost because they raced against faster runners, they lost because they were not good enough runners)
- scotts feel/experience disappointment as stimulation…. (the 12th girl of the night to tell him to go to hell could only mean two things: the next one was surely going to say yes or now he could enjoy a quiet evening with nothing more than a Coke, a bag of Oreos and a good book)
- rogers feel/experience disappointment as evidence that something is not right… their Opponent (who won this time) clearly trained better, had better equipment, knew the inside scoop on conditions at the track, the loss is actually an enhancement of the roger’s efforts…. the importance and value in training is made all the greater… there is no question about if they can win, it is simply what they must do in order to win.
1) ‘Manifesting’ is the term to indicate that the same experience for each of the three personality types is experienced differently.
2) you definitely get points if, on reading this, you found your eyebrow trying to crawl to the top of your forehead, (the better to try to signal the others in the room….. “hey!! guys!! did you just hear what he wrote?!! we got him now!”)
3) your 16-year-old boy coming home from the track meet; your 17 year old daughter coming into the house after cheer… from the track meet; your husband returning to his family from the staff meeting that was called to make a big announcement; your wife standing at the mailbox after opening the long anticipated envelope