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(ed.note: the above vid was picked for a Post topic that has since been discarded, still works, no?)

hey! Readers between the ages of  30 to 40 …quick!! what performers are the 18 to 20 year olds in college listening to right now, today?  …don’t laugh, ’41 to 60 y.o.s  what are the names of the three highest drawing live music acts that will bring out the 13 to 15 years old set?  ok, good, …don’t get too confident!  golf fans!!! yeah, you!! who is the current top seed male tennis player?  (hell, lets make it easy on the golf fans… hey! golfers!!! who recently deposed the (previous) top player on the LPGA?   …no, I didn’t think so.)

People sometimes have difficulty ‘getting’ the Wakefield Doctrine and the leading reason for this is the concept of worldview (aka personal reality).  The Doctrine is predicated on the notion that we all live in a reality that is personal. The ‘personality types’ of the Wakefield Doctrine are simply markers for the (characteristic) worldview that a given person grows up, develops and lives their lives in, day in and day out. Rather than ask you, the Reader, a series of questions and then seeing what category you fit in, the Wakefield Doctrine would have you try to infer how a person is ‘relating themself to the world around them. If you can do that, then you will know more about that person than they know about themselves. And the way we get to the point of being able to correctly infer the worldview of a person is by a thorough understanding of the characteristics of the three worldviews:

  1. the reality of the Outsider that results in a clarklike personality person, (…sitting invisibly next to you through 4 years of high school, dreaming of the chance of being normal and you expect him to believe that washing your hair is the only reason you can’t go to a fuckin football game… or giving the freshman rogers their first look at  MC Escher and Maxfield Parrish prints only to be left sitting there on the single bed with the macramé wall hangings and the ‘hang in there, baby’ poster taped to the cinderblock wall as he just about runs out of your dorm room because his girlfriend from high school decided she would entertain a further apology )
  2. the life of the Predator, who survives growing up in a world of Predator and Prey simply is that person (male or female… yay!! for the female…woohooo!! scottian women…. the stiletto  shoes industry bows before your plunging neckline…. and male scotts??  hell, how else was I ever expecting to end up in the Principals office/local police station/soldout concert in Boston with 3 dollars in gas and 40 minutes to get there?!?!  of the three personality types, who better knows that life is all about today?)
  3. the orderly, predictable, quantifiable and there-is-a-Right-way-to-do-things world of the Herd Member, rogers to the right of you and rogers to the left of you, they are all around, always, simply because the roger lives in the center of the herd….which herd? does not matter… why are they of the herd? didn’t you hear me? they are in the center of the herd, with rogers to the left and rogers to the right…what more do you need to know? male or female, they are there, wherever you go, unless you are stranded on a desert island and, you start to think, ‘well, I’m here alone stranded on a desert island, so I guess there are no rogers around’ and then you realize you are talking to a decorated coconut….and you are not alone)

ok…out of time today.  Molly’s Rule?  go ask her… here’s her Facebook page  (she’s a friend of the Doctrine and so, probably won’t have you blocked for stalking her…but you never know, better go ahead and tell her the Doctrine sent ya)

 

Don’t forget!!! tomorrow is Guest Post Thursday’s Weekly Once a Week Guest Post….Thursday   rogers!

 

*once we were talking about writing on one of the Saturday Night Drive calls…and I was asking the same old question: how to better get the Doctrine across to the Readers, and Molly, who knows her way around story writing said, ‘you don’t need to give them every possible fact or information, assume they are intelligent enough to get it and if they need more information, they can ask‘  (or words to that effect). I try to keep the Rule in mind, and sometimes even manage to apply it.

 

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Yes, for those of you who smiled at this Title? I am proud to know you, you are well versed at our little personality theory. Anyone wondering why:

  • one might have guessed and/or not been surprised
  • how you could have known that

just ask one of the Readers, like Lizzi or Cyndi or zoe or Christine or Kristi or Dyanne or Michelle… some of them will give you a straight and serious answers, but, some of them will kid you a bit, before telling you what you think you want to know.  While you’re working up your nerve to write a Comment/question, here is the aforementioned re-print Post  from…. November 13 2012

‘and a thousand telephones that will not ring,  the Wakefield Doctrine: the theory of personality predicated on three characteristic worldviews’

Question: If your husband is a roger and you are a clark, is it true that they never accept how much you have changed over the years, since you first met?
Answer: Too true1

(Welcome to ‘ya shoulda just asked Tuesday’! We will be presenting some common questions and the semi-comprehensive answers…along with a little commentary, mostly to let us get away with dividing the page into block quotes.’)

Question: My best friend is funny and fun to be with, but sometimes when we are around other people he gets like, mean even goes and picks on me. But this happens only with certain people, this big kid that (my friend) knows. What gives?

Answer: Chances are your friend is a scott and the person that, when they’re around, your friend starts acting mean?…well, that other person is a scott too, but they are what we call dominant (to your friend). So your friend, even though he is picking on you, doesn’t mean to hurt your friendship… it’s a pack2 thing, you know?
Answer: jeez, if you say so

(This question deals with the changing pack order (from the scottian perspective) and it’s effects on the behavior of a scott. Note: this question (and by implication, the experience cited), will most likely be posed by a clark. Do you know why that should be?)

Question: My fiancée and I are getting close to the Big Day. When we first got engaged, we both agreed to keep the ceremony and everything on the quiet, low-key side, but lately, ( the wedding is in 3 months), she has been talking more to her sisters and some of her old friends and it seems like the guest list is getting bigger and bigger. What gives?

Answer: She is probably a roger. Forget about changing her mind. It means a lot to her, in a way that you will never understand.  So relax! Sneak a couple of your friends that she might not have approved when the guest list was small, she probably won’t even notice now, and if she does make an issue of it, say the following to her (word for word): “I understand how important family is to you now. And even though I am not close to my family, you have shown me that my feelings3 of friendship with (fill in the names of you friends) make them like family. Won’t you let my family join your family …darling?

(And there are those who would say, ‘Hey Wakefield Doctrinaires! Sure you have a uniquely clever take on personality types, but what about practical applications? Huh, what about those?‘ Well, here ya go! Who cannot not identify with this situation? …not counting the rogers, of course!)

Question: My boss is nice enough, but it seems like he tries too hard to be, like my friend or something! Every day it is ‘how are you doing?’, “is there anything I can do to make your job easier?” I mean, all the time! I can’t get any work done when he is in the office, he is always offering to ‘help’! I might be able to deal with this, except that every time I do get some work done that he needs to sign off on, he always finds  fault! And if I come up with something on my own initiative (he likes to say that he wants me to try to ‘think outside the box’) he is either totally negative or acts like he is amazed that I actually did it myself!  Should I quite my job?
Answer: Probably.4

(This Question deals with a scenario that is all too common. And, although we do not propose that all bosses are rogers, we will say this, ‘If your boss is a scott you have: a) a good time everyday up until the day he decides that it is time to change careers or b) a lead pipe cinch of a sexual harassment lawsuit, so the day you get tired of her shenanigans, ‘it’s sayonara see ya in court’
If your boss is a clark, then we know the following: a) if your clarklike boss is female then her boss is a roger, if your clarklike boss is male then his boss is a scott!  and b) they (clarks) make great bosses, will stick up for you totally against all opponents, but jeez! enough with the leadership by consensus! Get a set, yo.

That music referenced in the Title of today’s Post? Totally weird. I’m sitting and watching TV and a commercial comes on and before I can hit ‘MUTE’ I hear the music in the background (of the commercial) and I’m off to the great and omnicient google… and here we are

 

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1) rogers are about consistency, if they are about anything at all! The worldview of the herd (rogers) maintains that history, tradition, continuity…consistency is of the greatest good! The worldview is also one in which the individual’s relationship with the world-at-large manifests primarily in emotional terms. So when a (lasting) relationship forms, the details of ‘the other’ person are important, in a sense, manifesting the emotional investment. So, as time goes by, even though people change and grow and develop, the roger will still insist on seeing the ‘original person’

2) scotts, in the initial behavioral metaphor: like pack animals, i.e. wolves, dogs, lions and such. The social ranking in the pack is one of simple dominance, an alpha at ‘the top’ and everyone else in order of strength/prowess/capability downward from there. It is a primary characteristic of the scottian personality type to establish ranking when entering a new (social ) environment. Literally going from person to  person, figuratively pushing them on the shoulder in order to establish ranking

3) emotions! always play the emotion-card when dealing with rogers!

4) you could try to…nah, don’t even bother.  Maybe if you got to the Doctrine sooner, you might have learned enough to invoke your own rogerian aspect to re-configure your work relationship… but too hard, too frustrating, easier to get another job. But then again, most bosses/middle managers/supervisors/Principals are rogers!  so maybe you should be asking about the Wakefield Doctrine School of Self-Improving Oneself…school

 

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(I normally would spend a lot of time here,at the top of the Post, trying to avert misunderstandings on the part of Readers for the following, by pre-explaining and/or qualifying statement that I think might be mis…somethinged. But, today  no. Not this time).

clarks mean well. clarks try so very hard to:  do well, to live up to their potential, to not let their parents (and families down), to be good students, to not disappoint, to learn and be like others, earn a good living and support their families, to not be too distant and be the person that their spouse deserves, to learn how to act like others and not be so strange, (clarks) want to be accepted and will work and try without reward or reinforcement, towards this goal, needing only to not feel that they are being looked at and laughed at for being that ‘strange one’.

Had an interesting experience/reaction today. I often, when in a situation that carries the threat of un-wanted attention or un-earned rewards, find ways to sabotage myself. How I sabotage myself varies and is so innate that, in some circumstances, you would think I was doing it to myself on purpose! (lol*)  In any event, for reasons unclear to me, on this particular morning, I got mad at this self-sabotage. Now, I know what some of you are thinking, “…don’t you mean, clark, that you were getting mad at yourself”
Only at first.
And then, I was angry only just enough to disrupt the cycle, (which is often, but not always, possible to do). But that is not what prompts me to write this Post. What prompts me to write this Post is that shortly after this occurrence , as I continued to drive along in my car, I thought about my living with this kind of thing.  And, then I thought of the/a young(er) clark, experiencing something that while clearly a self-induced ….’thing’, and despite knowing that it is/it was,  all in my mind, (it) still happens.

…and a surprisingly strong feeling of sadness came over me.

not for myself, driving along in my German luxury car, working in a business that is challenging, enjoyable and rewarding,  but for that clark that I was.  and, (being in possession of the Wakefield Doctrine), for all the other clarks out there who have a similar experience. It really was quite a remarkable 30 minutes or so (see? I’m back to normal…I described it as remarkable).

As I sat behind the wheel, letting this emotion have it’s way, I thought   ‘how un-necessary’.  In the special mental/emotional shorthand we all have, I knew that somehow this self-sabotage was directly a result/consequence/offshoot of my efforts to learn my way out of being ‘the Outsider’.  and, while I do not, for a second, devalue the efforts that I have put towards this end, (as does every clark, everywhere to one degree or another), I felt sad that I could not somehow reach back to my younger self and say, ‘don’t worry, even though being an Outsider is not necessarily your first choice, you are doing good work and you can feel proud of the effort, independent of whether anyone else in the world acknowledges it. you are a good and sufficient person’

…this Wakefield Doctrine, man!  

(oddly enough, I was talking to Denise last night about how the Doctrine offers so many different ways to aid in the effort to self-improve ourselves, and that I have not even begun to scratch the surface, in these Posts.)

I debated with myself  whether adding a favorite music vid, (thinking,  ’Werewolves of London’) would be too much of distraction from what I wrote, a typical clarklike effort to ‘hedge my bet with the world’… as much as the ‘smile of a clark‘  which we all recognize, the pressing of the lips together, a glance out of the corner of our eyes, all to make sure we aren’t smiling where we are not welcome.

…and I decided that it was.

 

* lol: ‘laugh out loud’ I am told that use of this…expression marks me as out of: date/touch/cool/current blog writing practices. too bad)

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Mid-Summer Edition of the 10 Things of Thankful.

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!)  Joy Christi for giving of her time and not inconsiderable talent on Thursday’s Guest Post Thursday Guest Post. She is a scott and we are very grateful that she consented to writing for our weekly series. While there is no pre-set theme or ‘organizing view’ being imposed on our Guests, there is nevertheless an understanding, on the part of Readers of all these Posts. The Doctrine maintains that it is possible to appreciate the world as the other person is experiencing it. Consider each Thursday an opportunity to see through the eyes of another, who, we are being given the advantage to know, is an Outsider(clark) or a Predator(scott) or a Herd Member(roger). Kinda like Doctrine practice, but with jokes and pictures and other things, but without, unfortunately team uniforms.

@) vidchats enjoyable chatation last night. Lizzi and I opened the evening on a more formal note, with her just in from a night on the town, still in evening dress. we were joined by Denise (going old school with audio only) then, a rather pleasant surprise…Jean!  followed by Laura  and zoe (all too briefly) and Michelle (from tomorrow) and finally Joy. fun, informative (we did hear from Christine who reported that she was either: a) driving on a van on vacation or 2) sitting in a Formula1 car, waiting to start the race…wasn’t too clear on that…

#) Cars

$)      dogs (Una, of course)

%)              video phones

^)                         and an enthusiasm  for an idea, (the Wakefield Doctrine), that overcomes all sense of what is ‘interesting to others’ (as opposed to) what is ‘interesting only to me’ (for a sleeker look to today’s 10 List…here is link to vid)

&)  (as I alluded to in this week’s vid entry (Item Number ^ above), I am constantly and permanently grateful for the fun that Lizzi and the 9 hostinae bring to this weekly exercise in finding the better side of life. In fact, I believe I made this point in a Comment to someone last week, to the effect that, though the idea of a gratitude-based bloghop is not unique, the attitude and fun that permeates the TToT is

*)  Secret Book of Rules (aka Book of Secret Rules)  I mentioned to L last night that there are more and more new participants this Summer. Which is a good thing. The questions about the BoSR are not un-expected and, in fact, welcomed.  ’The Book’ is full of useful, fun, potentially-backfire-and-make-you-look-silly, clever and, at times life saving rules, exceptions, provisions and conditions that can be employed in the process of writing a TToT list. The only caveat, is that there are (said to be) Seven GuardVirgins who hold the power to judge the appropriateness of a Rule. Lizzi and zoe are our resident experts on these….. er  personages. Best check with them.  (you know the most fun about a lot of this bloghop? it’s discovering and coining words and such. I’m thinking of Sarah who, unless I’m mistaken, has made popular the reference ‘SGV’…. seems like a little thing, but cool nonetheless)

()  as always, I gotta cite my personal sine qua non…. the Wakefield Doctrine

!))  Hey!  new people!!  free tip on the BoSR (aka SB0R)….SR 1.3   (which states, in part: the completion of a list of Ten Things, may, in fact, be included and cited as an item of that selfsame list; provided that it isn’t used every week and gets, you know, like old….)

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here is the video that you are so incredibly intrigued by the alluring reference, back there at the TToT Post July 19 2014

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I want to thank Joy for her Guest Post Thursday’s Guest Post (‘scottian style!’)  as is clear both from the number of visitors (‘in the 100s’) and the Comments (‘OM-lol-G!’) yesterday was all that a good scottian Post can and should be… fun, exciting (‘…and a hint of come hither‘).    cool

Today is Friday. Friday is one of the days of the week that clarks love, fear and hate,

  • we love that it is neither weekday nor weekend
  • we fear that we will get swept up in hope (and we hope that we can let ourselves forget that we are letting ourselves be swept up in hope)
  • we fear that our expectations will be held against us

(Did I make it clear enough in the Title that today’s Post was really meant for clarks and any poor scott* or roger with an overly expressive secondary clark?)

Most of the time, at this point in a post-like-this-one, I’d be all qualifying and explaining and ‘hey-don’t-think-I’m-all-depressed-and-such. No, today I will not indulge in that. For one very good reason: a) the Title was clear enough for any Reader and 2) any of us who are not included in the ‘target audience’ understands the Doctrine sufficiently to not be overly concerned.

Since there is no such thing as a 265 word Post (at least not around here, anymore). Let’s end this Post on a positive note (lol, yes, new Reader that is a setup).

I was thinking,  about Sarah’s concern, expressed in a Comment earlier in the week, about (her) not ‘getting’/not-wanting-to-be-assigned-a-worldview/not-feeling-a-member-of-a-herd-that-she-felt-a-part-of this Wakefield Doctrine thing. I was trying to find the correct way to express the information that I knew would let her understand this thing and I found myself stopping (myself) and thinking, ‘stop it! there are three worldviews, remember, clark?‘. If Sarah were a clark, she would not be asking the kind of questions she is asking. then she must be either a scott or a roger. and, no matter which,  information is not what will help her with this matter.
The Doctrine tells us that we all live and think and act and feel and hate and fight and get confused in one of three worldviews. The Doctrine tells us that ‘it is about us, not them’.   This very simply means that, I need to put myself in her worldview in order to understand her question/concern/misunderstanding/feelings about the Wakefield Doctrine.
That is one of the implications of ‘the Doctrine is for me, not them’ that is often overlooked.   (I was talking to Michelle and Lizzi one Friday vidchat and, for god knows what reason, we got to talking about Michelle taking her father out to lunch. Her father is, according to Michelle, a scott. Michelle was saying how he seems to feel differently about going to a restaurant than she does, and I said, “when you are both standing across the street from the restaurant, the restaurant is experienced differently for both of you. the building (you are both staring at) manifests one way for you, the roger and another way for your father, the scott“)

…one of the main benefits that is the result of a proper understanding of the principles of the Wakefield Doctrine is that I know that you may be experiencing the same thing  I am, only differently and if I want to, I might be able to see the world as you are experiencing it.  This is not only the secret to understanding the other person, it is the secret to understanding my own life.

I mentioned a music vid. Johnny Winter died yesterday. So I’ll put up one of my favorite Johnny Winter tunes (from the early….yes, early) 1970s

Click here to view the embedded video.

* don’t worry Christine… it’s** not permanent, your world(view) will re-solidify after a while, as you get healthy’ed-up…and, yes! of course you will retain some of what you found (in your world) during your couchtime

**  your clarklike aspect coming forward making you see the world as a, ‘my-god-everything-is-something-else-sometimes-but-the-same-thing-other-times-how-the-hell-do-these-people-get-out-of-bed-in-the-morning?!?’

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Today’s Guest Post Writer, Joy Christi  is a self-admitted scott* who, interestingly enough, I first met at one of Lizzi and Michelle’s Friday Night vidchats.  (…have you ever had the experience of being at a party or hanging out with some semi-friends and you’re getting kind of bored and you make a joke or say something just for the hell of it and you get total zero response….except for this one person (who is not even standing in the immediate circle of people you are in? like maybe you’re at a table and a girl(or guy) sitting at the bar laughs?)

Kinda like that with Joy. I mean, I knew her from the TToT, she writes the blog, ComfyTown Chronicles and no one coming across that blog doesn’t notice it.  Funny about some scotts…. you think, ‘ok straightforward, confident and fun-to-watch predator’ but then they get all kinds of multi-creative on you….photos, cartoons, the whole shebang!  and you’re like, “damn! this girl has some chops!”   Joy  does that at ‘Comfy.  And then, her first appearance at the vidchat!  … I didn’t know you could pull off a noir vidchat… but there was Joy, sitting in a semi-dark….someplace in her house, not saying much (not being overtly mysterioso, just being there) and then… (this is my favorite part), she’s like.. “hey, hold on, I gotta go outside for a smoke”  !!  (I hope this really happened and Joy wasn’t playing with us with some insane CGI thing because that is way cool).   …how scottian is that?  This, all on the basis of, maybe 3…5 max vidchats (and a bunch of ‘OTs).  scotts do tend to make an impression….no?

(remember back in the day when sitcoms decided to insist on how  funny they really were, so there was always this announcement at the start of the show, “…was filmed before a live audience”?….  here at the Doctrine we’re always trying to move forward in self-developing ourselfs, so the following:  “…this introduction was written, knowing that our Guest Writer is a scott, entirely before even downloading (much less reading) our Guest Writers’ Post”)

Joy?

Not A Great Scott

I was asked by Clark to guest post my Scottian point of view. I am totally honored and thrilled to do so, and extremely tempted to post something absolutely outrageous, ala pictures of my internal or external organs, though that was done fantastically, or mayhaps my Husband’s Pipe….but I did that Sunday on my own blog.

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I was hoping Outrageous Inspiration would strike before the deadline because I haven’t been my usual…. Scott-ish self lately. Sure I bang out a knee-slapper of a post once a week, but I haven’t been the entertaining, witty Scott I used to be. Maybe I should wear a kilt and drink beer from a giant stein. That couldn’t possibly be a bad idea, no matter what happens.

After reading Clark’s description of the 3 personality types months ago, I quickly diagnosed myself a Scott. I’m a tomboy, I often leap before I look, I’m an extrovert to anyone casually watching. I usually introduce myself and am always talking, joking, generally being a jackass, usually in a non-threatening way. I’m guessing this based on people’s reactions to my asshattery.

I have learned to use humor as a defense mechanism in any situation, whether I’m feeling unsociable, or the chatter in the room has grown too serious for comfort, or in the case of the never-ending fighting all around me growing up. Tense situations were always easily diffused by The Jester, or Class Clown, or whatever my shrink at the time called that particular character when he explained about the different roles people play in alcoholic families. This usually works fantastically even outside of a family dynamic.

However, lately I haven’t felt that way. I’m curious to get Clark’s input on whether it’s a temporary issue, or some personality paradigm shift.

The reason I started blogging a year and a half ago was partly for adult interaction. I am alone with my children and other people’s children *shudder* for 11-12 hours a day. I love being right where I am, don’t get me wrong, but being the Sole Adult in a house full of small children and rebellious teenagers can quickly suck the funny out of a person.

Being the parent means changing from having all the fun, to the person constantly shutting it down because it’ll stain the carpet.
Or someone will get hurt.
Or your face could stay that way.
As if, I know. But you try to talk to a 4 year old who keeps crossing her eyes at you. It’s cReEpY.

Before this work-at-home life, I had no issue meeting new people, making conversation, wooing clients, impressing middle management and the like.  A friend of mine used to invite me to her client events for my ability to make (fake) small talk, anything and everything from weather to sports to politics, without getting too heavy or emotional. I was a Corny Joke factory. My old man had a million of ‘em.

“Oh, your foot fell asleep? Now it’ll be up all night.” And so on. Forever.

I did the same thing you’re doing now, rolling your eyes almost out of your head. If you hear these zingers enough times, they just come right out when the opportunity presents itself. Then the people you tell them to groan, but they find themselves telling them. And so on. It’s Personality Herpes. It sure beats awkward silence, though, I’ll tell you that.

Chit chat seemed to be second nature, it came easily and wasn’t anything I had to even think about. I opened my mouth and the right words and questions vomited right out.

Lately I’m not as chatty, I don’t find myself full of jokes. My husband will say the classics before I even think of them. And most embarrassing, I’m so afraid of having another awkward encounter I tend to over-think before speaking. I wind up avoiding having to speak to anyone but my children.

I’ve blogged about an awkward encounter with a neighbor who was having a His & Her Divorce Garage Sale, I was at a total loss for words. People who have known me a long time find that hard to believe, but there it was. 2 days ago, yet another awkward neighbor encounter. I’ll get into full story next week on my blog, it was getting way too long and it’s not very relevant to this post.

 

The moral of that story is, as most of my stories are lately:
A mildly awkward situation is made worse by inability to find and form words.

Why does this keep happening to me?
Why is my brain downgrading?
I’m not watching reality television, or drinking excessively, okay not really excessively.
I read, I write…ish, I eat fish and vegetables, I take vitamins and fish oil, we lead a relatively healthy life. I don’t do drugs, I try to get a lot of sleep, I go outside, we play card games and do puzzles. What up with the what up?

Mayhaps I am just lacking confidence, causing me to over-think.But wait, don’t Clarks think, and Scotts act?

Maybe a person’s secondary trait can become more dominant as they age.
Perhaps I was never really a Scott, I just played one on TV.
Mayhaps this is just the way things are going to be.

Do I see a Clark-moon rising?
Is there a Roger in my 7th house?
Is it just a matter of interacting solely with children for the last 4+ years?

 

Meh, whatevs. Gotta go watch cartoons now, L8R G8Rs.

 

 

 

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Joy Christi writes Comfytown Chronicles, which is sometimes a blog about a mother of 3 just doing her best, but mostly is about silly humor, cussing, day-drinking, binge eating and other things she won’t go to meetings for.

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…not the actual, specific exact photo sent in with post… so we (no! don’t laugh)…made it bigger to compensate

 

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* like, has anyone out there seen a scott who has been the least hesitant to claim their scottian worldview?  …sure, it might take them a little while to ‘get it’…. they like to bat the prey around, stir it up, have some fun, but once they’re confident in their understanding of the Doctrine…. ain’t no hesitating.

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Seeing how we have a Guest Post Writer on tomorrow’s ‘Guest Post Thursday’a Guest Post’, I wanted to write a quick little Post to get in front of y’all, just in case you did not know, about:  a) the Guest Post Thursday or 2) the fact that you will get a kick out of it, being a writer with a scottian worldview.  Reading this, (as I write it), makes me think I should be talking about scotts  in this here Post. But then again, (I think, as I consider what my own response to what I read, having just written it), I’ve gone to all the trouble to find a Post from a couple of Summers ago, to run as a re-print and besides, what can I say about scotts that I haven’t already said?

All right, if you insist.

What we call the scottian personality type, here at the Wakefield Doctrine, is simply a term, (and, a rather cool one, at that), for a person who has grown up and developed and matured in the reality of the Predator.  scotts are quite easily identifiable, first and foremost by what we refer to as ‘the gaze of the scott‘….male or female, it is unmistakable. (think of every nature film you’ve ever seen…the ‘sleepy lioness’? eyes seemingly  unable to keep themselves open?  surely she is about to collapse unconscious, right?  yeah, right. who wants to run up and steal a cub?  come on!! she’s half asleep!!)  This is not to say that scotts walk around with their eyelids half shut, they do not. This is to say that scotts are never not paying attention to whats going on around them in their immediate environment.

(As a people), scotts are fun and funny, sexy and stupid, energetic and prone to sloppiness, great friends and horrifying adversaries. In a crowd or at a social occasion, the scott will be on the move, constantly, however they will stop from time to time  and gather a circle of people (the scotts in the center, of course!). they are the ‘super moms’ and the guy who will get the cat down from the tree (even if that means climbing the tree and dragging the frickin thing down by the scruff of the neck), scotts are natural dog trainers, but  prefer cats to dogs for companionship, they are hard workers and natural leaders, action is the preferred response…to everything!  There is an old saying, ‘a scott alone in a room, isn’t’.

You want to know how cool this Doctrine is?  You want to know how we seem to be comfortable making claims like, ‘with the Wakefield Doctrine you will know more about the other person than they know about themselves‘?

If you’re a scott reading this, your second response, upon recognizing yourself in this Post, is to ‘look around’….literally or metaphorically  you will check out your environment to see if this is some kind of ‘set up’. You are now smiling, but in a way different from when you read the preceding… you definitely are interested, but you have this desire…no, make that need,  to challenge  the writer or anyone available….just to be certain (of who or what you are dealing with).

…you know, like that.

So stop by tomorrow, for Guest Post Thursday Guest Post

 

 

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Some people come here and before the end of their first visit, ‘get’ the principles of the Wakefield Doctrine personality theory. Other people read and read, they know there is something here, they enjoy the company of the other Readers but, nevertheless, struggle with the concept.  It’s funny, how, very often, the ones that struggle at first? …end up getting further into the use and application and enjoyment of a new idea, than do those who pick it up easily and without difficulty. I’m thinking about Val and Sarah, who have recently written comments expressing a certain… frustration or (semi)-aggravation at knowing the principles but missing out on the fun. To them, (and anyone else out there encountering difficulties with our little personality theory), I want to say, ‘Thank you!’

I used to remind myself (and have myself reminded at by the people* who were here when I started the blog), ‘if the Reader don’t get it, it’s my fault’.
Meaning, of course, it was my responsibility to present the Wakefield Doctrine in manner that would allow anyone having the slightest interest, to read, understand, use and enjoy the Doctrine. It’s funny about  blogs, how we start out with a certain goal or idea or image of what it will be like when we have Readers but, somehow as success comes along, some of the fun (and aggravation), risking taking (and embarrassing early attempts) and adventurousness leaves us… we become content that we have what we set out to get, often we are fearful (to some extent, sometimes great, often small ways) of taking chances. (“Hey! careful there!  don’t want to alienate any Readers!!”  ”…are you sure you want to take that approach?” “Dude! don’t screw it up, you know how you always sabotage yourself.”)

I will repeat, ‘Thanks Sarah and Val!’ Thank you for reminding me of the most important thing:  a) that I present the Wakefield Doctrine in terms that all of us can read and learn and enjoy and 2) I remember to have fun. ( “It ain’t a college elective we’re writing here!! it’s the damn Wakefield Doctrine.”)

So today I’ll try to present the Doctrine in 2 ways: written and aural***

the Wakefield Doctrine has one simple requirement: the willingness to imagine that we all live in one of three worldviews (these are personal realities… that little portion of reality that is ours alone) and that by (our) growing up and developing into adults in the context of these three worldviews, our personality types are manifested. These three worldviews are: the life of the Outsider(clarks), the reality of the Predator(scotts) and the world of the Herd Member(rogers). We are all born with the potential to live in any of these three, we all settle into one (the predominant worldview), but never lose the capability to experience the world as do ‘the other two’.

the Wakefield Doctrine is best learned by: reading about the characteristics of the three worldviews and learning (for each of the personality types) a person’s likes, dislikes, phobias and failings, strengths, weaknesses and (preferred) strategies in relating to the world.

  • Once learned, look around and they will be there.
  • Once learned, observe the behavior of the people in your life and infer how the other person is ‘relating themselves to the world around them‘.
  • Once you have reached a certain level of familiarity (with the three worldviews), be prepared for people to act like clarks and scotts and rogers with a spontaneity and genuineness that may first creep you out (like how did they know to do that) and then you will see behavior and traits that you know you didn’t read about here, but you are certain is a characteristic of the worldview.  (at this point, you will laugh and thank us or you will swear to never go near ‘those people and their Doctrine’ again).  oh, yeah,…. by the way? if you get to a certain point in learning the Doctrine to where you can see the clarks, scotts and rogers in your life?  you…er  may not be able to not see them,  ya know?

The rest is having fun and writing Comments and contributing to the understanding of the Wakefield Doctrine… like I said, fun stuff.

 

(as promised:  Video Supplement )

 

 

* Denise and roger and glenn and jennifer and… Molly (who I saw in the Comments yesterday, she was the total (home)school marm, whenever I would express my misgivings on some point of presentation… as Denzel would say, ‘Laura Engal ain’t got nothin on her!!**)

** no, I don’t think she would say that, but I liked the quote and, somehow, in the way that these things have, the photo I encountered fits just fine for today’s Post.

*** well, not rising to the level of a true rogerian expression, I still enjoy the look of that word choice

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