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(like this, except instead of a Viking it was a small frog and instead of a book with a lot cool stuff, it was the front grill of a Mini)

(like this, except instead of a Viking it was a small frog and instead of a boat with a lot cool stuff, it was the front grill of a Mini)

Saturday morning. Lets set the timer!

(7:59)

(…!?! 8:29)

1) Phyllis is grateful that I am here because,  (and the reason for the gap in this morning’s timeline), there was a frog in her grill…. good thing I’m from Y Chromia!  god! I’d really be grateful if we could have a laugh track for our days… (you’ll know what I mean in the next grat item),  anyway, I had to go outside and remove the frogae corpus delectus from the grill of her Mini… where apparently the deceased frog’s family decided to send the body onwards   sort of an amphibian Valhalla ceremony

3) That reminds me of a classic bit from the Beverly Hillbillies (an admittedly acquired taste, no, really, I thought the show was stupid when I was  12 years old… any way, here’s a youtube clip)

Click here to view the embedded video.

6) Cyndi…cyndi! Buenos y’all

Click here to view the embedded video.

4) from FOTD Katia (I apparently have a subscription to her youtube channel, which is cool, but this sample jumped out at me):

Click here to view the embedded video.

2) I am glad I got a chance to have a vidchat last night with zoe and Denise… much discussion over a wide range of topics

5) the Book of Secret Rules (aka the Secret Book of Rules)… we all agreed, (in last night’s vidchat), that one of the things that makes this bloghop so exceptional is that we have a BoSRs/SBoRs  Sure, there are other gratitude blogs and blog hops, but none of them provide a resource to, (and a responsibility on), it’s participants the way that the TToT does, what with Secret Rules and all…

7) speaking of exceptional and vidchats…. last night we got to talk about, you know who and we sort of stumbled on a bit of a mystery/controversy  (mystroversy)…. are they the same or have they changed through the ages… sure, we know there are only Seven of the them (because Cyndi told us so)… but  it now appears to be common knowledge that at one time there were 3 female Guard Virgins (aka real Virgins) and 4 male Guard Virgins (aka  yeah, right)… but there was trouble with that ratio and now we have 4 and 3 (new-ratio-of-female-Guard-Virgins-to-male-Guard-virgins motto: “hey! don’t be like that! you’re not the only GV in the world ya know“)  so we have 2 questions:  are they same throughout the ages or do the individual manifestations change over time

8) how many am I up to now? I’ll be glad when I get this list done!

9) I am totally grateful that yesterday is over. However I have to add a hypo-grateful item here:  the work does not stop with the Friday… still  better than being on a fishing boat spending all my waking hours picking up dead fish

10)  Big thanks to Cyndi and Katia for lending their presence to this here list here… tell me they’re not clarks with significant secondary scottian aspects! I dare ya I double dare ya

 

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jeez! I better get typing! Not (just) that it’s getting late, but the damn ‘real’ world is impinging on my naturally fecund, refreshingly oddball, creativity.  No! don’t laugh! I’m serial!

Here’s how it works, I get up in the morning (as early as possible…say 5:30 am), get some coffee and sit my ass down in front of this here computer here. I look at ‘the overnights’  any  traffic (or best of all) late night Comments. Then my morning metaphysics ritual. Solitaire.  Yes, you read that correctly… the card game of solitaire is an exercise for both the mind and the spirit. (Sorry, don’t have time to explain.) (and besides, you know how clarks are like….I don’t know, what’s the polite word for that …precocious girl who is totally outgoing with her affections … all you have have to do is ask and she’s …there. (hell… you don’t fricken even have to ask most of the time…. all you have to do is not ignore her or not make fun and you have a totally loyal and generous friend) and, yeah  that was a double entendre joke/reference. But I’m talking about the darkest part of the worldview of a clark that also happens to be the greatest source of diversion and amusement for rogers and distraction and easy-excitment for scotts.

….anyway, here’s what just happened. I’d planned on doing a re-write of the Post below. The Post is from 2010, and I thought it might be interesting to see what would happen if I tried to re-write it. Sort of an homage to my-own-damn-self.  But then I faltered and instead of writing, I went to my work email (and other online places). And there was a bunch of stuff. Things I have to do today, problems to be solved, opportunities to be opportunitized.  (yeah, I get it, welcome to the world that we all deal with). But when I came back here and looked at the rough draft of this post… what’s the classy, mature and clever way of saying: …my powerful intentions to create a Post that would cause all the Readers to be caught up in the excitement just sort of wilted. (I say wilted, not to be funny. Well, a little bit to be funny. But more to convey the sense that I could feel my confidence evaporate. Not disappear, but evaporate. slowly enough that I could feel bad about it.)

(of course, clarks out there will recognize what has happened. (by visiting the work sites) the world has dragged me out of my head. And it felt like I was in the 5th grade schoolyard and the other kids were forming a circle around me. But, there is a difference now, today. There is the Wakefield Doctrine. This is not, in and of itself, sufficient to not feel as I do. It is sufficient for me to know that it is my worldview that is eliciting these feelings and that I do have more resources than I have ever had.)

Enough. Got to get to work.

Leaving the old post below.

(Octovia 18 2010)

So you want to know how to tell which of the three types of personality you actually are? …well, telling you sort of depends on what type of personality you are…

(To borrow from a 12 Step saying, ‘only you can decide whether you are a clarkscott or roger’.  Now that I hear that, let me just add: ‘ This statement is true only if you are a clark.’)

The basis of the Wakefield Doctrine is that the characteristics that comprise all the three personality types are inherent in each and everyone of us;  male/female, black/white , chinese/jewish, old/young. Everyone one of us. So, if you think you are a clark and scott and a roger, then you are absolutely correct.

All of the characteristics of clarks, scotts and rogers will seem appropriate for you at one time or another. More telling, they will seem familiar. If you read this blog you will understand this, but you want to know immediately, for certain, right now, ‘Which am I’?

Fine, you want to know which you are? A clark, or a scott or a roger? Do ya?

Look around you. Who do you love?  Of the people you work with, who do you feel is your friend? One of them (the exciting one, the one you enjoy getting to laugh) that’s your scott, the other ones are all rogers. (There will only be one scott). The person you now remember that you forgot is a clark.

Like you.

All right, you parents out there. Your spouse is reliable to a fault. At the same time they can be difficult and they seem to take a lot of the day to day ‘trials and tribulations’ very personally. He/She is a roger. You are a clark. Your first born is a scott.

Pretty simple, isn’t it?

(Bonus hints!  If you can’t imagine wanting to, let alone actually watching the same movie more than once, you are a scott. If you think that civil war re-enacting would be an interesting and fun hobby, you are so rogerian. If you can seriously entertain the notion that you might be better off being someone/anyone else, hello clark.)

 

Hey… I edited this thing instead of re-writing it.  (lol  yeah…. “I want to hold your arm! yeah, yeah, yeah’  you wouldn’t’ blame the Beatles, so why the look?)

 

 

 

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We heard from one of our scottian friends, Dyanne, yesterday in the Comments. She wrote,  ”When I read those three descriptions, for the first time, I really see how I am a Scott. Whadya know?”

Whadya know, indeed! There’s a reason that clarks have a great affection for scotts and (why) scotts like hanging out with clarks (at least they do, once the clarks, like, lighten up and be themselves more and stop mumbling and putting themselves down so often, it’s like you want to shake them and shout, ‘hey clark! enough already! you’re a person like everyone else, stop telling people why they should not want to hang out with you’)

(Given that your Author and Narrator is a clark (with a strong secondary scottian aspect and a weak tertiary rogerian aspect), lets analyze and dramatize Dyanne’s Comment!

‘…for the first time, I really see how I am a scott’

a) Note that Dyanne did not say: “When I read those three descriptions, for the first time,  I think/know/realize how I am, apparently, of the worldview of that corresponds to that of those clarks of yours ”

2) Dyanne so did not say: “When I read those three descriptions, for the first time,  although I like the descriptions, unfortunately it doesn’t seem to apply to me, as I seem to be all three at one time or another.”

the Wakefield Doctrine maintains that:   clarks think, scotts act and rogers feel.

this being Wednesday, that most easy-going Day of the Workweek (Wednesday’s motto: “hey, how bad can it be…it’s still only Wednesday!“), lets keep this short.

Funny, as I was searching for an image for today’s post, (among the zillion or so that I’ve already used at least once), I noticed strata of images that would be associated with scotts and the scottian worldview, at various points in time over the last 5 years. Seeing how I’ve been focused on the rogerian worldview ( Worldview motto: “I always get in the last word. No, I do. Now you’re being difficult. Not trying to, just that I thought. Sure, you always say that…but….“) of late, I think it’s time to shift our focus to our energetic little friends… but tomorrow, time to work on the book.

Hey!!  any questions for or about the scottian worldview?  You know that scotts are:

  • focused on the here and now
  • great problem solvers (not necessarily the best people to come up with a stable, longterm, best outcome solution, but they will solve the problem…hey! you want to hear about the moment that the principles of the Wakefield Doctrine came into existence?)..ok ok  a couple of more first
  • energetic and enthusiastic ( scottian energy level motto: “I’m awake! Are you awake? Come on! lets do something, sure it’s the middle of the work day/the middle of the night/the middle of dinner…so what?“)
  • mercurial in temperament  quick to get angry(frustrated is actually the interior experience), quick to forget (ain’t no time to waste worrying  come on! lets do something)
  • alert  (simple fact: with a surprisingly little amount of study of the characteristics of the three worldviews (Outsiders/clarks, Predators/scotts and Herd Members/rogers) you will be able to spot the scott from nothing more than a damn photo… their gaze is that distinctive  (scottian gaze motto: “sure, go ahead tell yourself that I’m asleep in this Acacia tree and my cubs playing in the grass will be easy pickings, if that’s what you want to tell yourself…knock yourself out.“)
  • clever and impatient
  • good friends and scary enemies… natural cops (scottian cops motto: “you’re telling me that I can chase people, drive fast while making as much noise as I can, occasionally I get to shoot a gun and when I capture people I get to tie them up…and you’ll pay me money to do this?!!“)

Enough for today.  If you have a question for our scottian friends ( Dyanne,  Christine or Joy) ask away! If you are confused as to you whether you’re a scott or not… don’t worry about nothin   it will fall into place

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Today’s Post is largely, but not entirely, a re-print Post. The reason (that I’m telling myself) is that I’m on a Quest to discover a simple (and repeatable) process by which I can use my time/apply myself more efficiently in my workday. I am deeming this a worthwhile effort for two very important reasons:

  1. I do have a real world job; more of a business actually, real estate … it is, of course, a business in that I’m an independent contractor, (as in ‘make money, get paid…don’t make money. don’t get paid’)  but as Hyman Roth  (in Godfather I) so eloquently put it,  ’And I said to myself, this is the business we’ve chosen;’
  2. I need to efficiently allocate the supply of written words available to me today, as I’m back on the trail of getting the Doctrine into a book-like form
  3. …as all clarks know, most scotts recognize instinctively (but, by definition, would not express in words) and rogers would not accept (as being redundant beyond ability to distinguish from their personal gestalt): my emotional state is what will determine how well I do today. It is not: the list I write (on yellow-lined pads), the schedule I create (in my Lesson Planner book) or even the schedule I create in my telephone (or tablet or computer)… not sure what I mean?  write us a Comment!

(From October of last year):

 

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You knew this wasn’t going to be a simple, conventional, easy to ‘get’ approach to understanding the behavior of the people in our lives, didn’t you?

To recapitulate briefly:

the Wakefield Doctrine maintains that we live our lives in one of three worldviews (personal realities). That what others refer to as personality types are, in actuality, reflections of our efforts to contend with the world as we relate ourselves to it. Further, the Doctrine would allow that,  if we correctly infer which (of these three worldviews) the other person is experiencing, we will know more about them than they know about themselves. The Wakefield Doctrine is intended to be used as a tool to aid us in these efforts, meant as a perspective (on) the lives and behavior of the people around us that, correctly employed will lead to a greater understanding of why people do the things that they do.  Unlike most other personality systems and ‘theories’, the Wakefield Doctrine offers nothing that you can directly impart to another person. Your use of the Doctrine can only lead to a better understanding of the other person, the Wakefield Doctrine  will not serve you in any efforts to:  convince another person to act differently, treat you better, stop that annoying habit, know you for what you really are, quit smoking, have more frequent sex, show the world the side that you know is there, get ‘A’s, eat less, lose weight, get a better job and, finally start helping around the house. The Wakefield Doctrine is for you, not them.

If you learn and apply the principles of the Wakefield Doctrine to your own life, then you will be in a position to not just improve your life and circumstances. You will be able to improve yourself. As a person. A person who must interact and deal with people who: you work for, who work for you, those you love and those you would love, those you hate and those you would rather not be distracted by, family, friends, the man in the car at the gas pump ahead of you and the girl who delivers the mail. They are all a part of your world today and that is what the Wakefield Doctrine is intended to be used on. And….and! the best thing about using the Wakefield Doctrine as a tool in your efforts to self-improve yourself is: you do not have to do anything that you are not capable of all along.

So, first step:  read up on the worldview of the Outsider (clarks) and the Predator (scotts) and the Herd Members (rogers), now what? Now, the fun. Observe the people in your life. Fact of the matter, if you are still reading, it is a pretty safe bet that you get a kick out of ‘people watching’. Pay special attention to interactions between people. Find one person in your daily life and start with them. You have three personality types to choose from… go ahead and throw out the one you know they are not!… ok! now keeping the characteristics of the 2 remaining worldviews in mind, which seems to be more consistent with the behavior of the person. Don’t worry about getting the answer fast…they are not going to change their worldview. The more you observe them, the simpler the choice will be, no… the more inevitable the choice will be! This is the fun part. Put yourself in their head…go ahead, they won’t know!

  1. does the person seem distant…un-emotional when they should be emotional, emotional when they should not be, do they seem to shy away from attention, do they mumble when you know they are quite capable of speaking clearly, does their fashion sense seem a bit… conflicted?  boots and mini-shirts…too much jewelry, is their posture really poor, are they funny in a quiet surprising way?
  2. no way! they are quick and seem to be everywhere but they won’t know what you are doing, relax…do they seem to probe and challenge constantly? are they funny and aggravating and do they always seem to push it just a little too far? when you imagine ‘being them’ do you feel envious and then excited but at the same time, glad that you are not them?
  3. always have an answer…not in the form of new information, in the form of ‘the last word’, very comfortable to talk to, seem to always be listening, attentive without any curiosity, do they seem to be looking for the right way to act when regarding others or the wrong way to act when others are the center of attention, they nurture without warmth, are seductive without excitement

That should be enough for Part 2.

Ok  now out into the world with ye … gwan! get out there and find the clarks and spot the scotts and relate to them rogers…. check back here tomorrow morning.

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1) thanks to Liz for bringing the Wakefield Doctrine to the City of Venice. Our intrepid Doctrineer, is standing before the Chiesa del Santissimo Redentore.   …very cool.

2) The Wakefield Doctrine’s Rite of Hat1

3) I am glad that I’m in a profession that involves interacting with a remarkably diverse group of people, from colleagues to clients …very interesting bunch a people.

4) Less grateful, am I, for the constant struggle to manage my time effectively.  Not the most fun to find that, the list of things that I sent out to accomplish, less and less complete at the end of a day. (Far worse are the days where I look at a List and suspect that the items on it are not really the important things in living a good life.)

5) My wife Phyllis Commented on a Post this week (perhaps it’s just me, but once the novelty of having a blog wore off, Phyllis developed a fairly strong habit of not reading my Posts. Not that she disapproves or anything, but it, (this blog), is not a major feature in her daily life.)

6) I’m sure glad there’s such a thing as the internet and blogs and such, ’cause I have been able to practice and to self-teach myself to write effectively …and well. I’d be less than truthful if I said that I ever received a grade higher than a ‘C’ in classes through the years: English, English Composition, Grammar, Creative Writing 101, Essays and Life, Gerunds and You (a Primer), Sentences, Diagrams and Parsing, (the Seductive Art). Despite that, here I am writing Posts. As fearless and ambitious as a Fourth Grade boy in puppy-love with his teacher, I keep writing and (somehow trusting) that I’ll get better and better until the day that I win her heart with the Best Essay Ever.

7) Did you know that there normally are 4 Guard Virgins who represent the female species and 3 who are male? There are stories that, during one period in the history of the BoSR (aka Secret Book of Rules), (in pre-internet days), there were 4 Guard Virgins (Strong and Virile) and  3 of the Fair Sex. (These stories are only whispered about, as the conflict that inevitably results from this particular numerical advantage, did not…. end well.) Thought you might want to know, I find these stories both fascinating and, dangerously reflectionary of the individual who has the balls (metaphorical and otherwise) to tell them.

8) The Wakefield Doctrine, of course.

9) I am hypo-grateful for the lack of time that Saturdays seem to allow for writing the weekend TToT Post. I have to leave now…will stop in, hopefully in the middle of the day with some photos of my journeys

10) SBoR 1.3  ( my damn!-why-didn’t-I-figure-that-out respects to Liz for seeing the palindromic nature of Everyone’s Favorite Secret Rule)

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1) the Wakefield Doctrine ‘Rite of Hat’  cited in a Post written in 2010 (read it here, and yes, that is Denise)

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(From October 2011)

There is an old saying,  ”the first 2 things you say about a person (or an idea),  are actually  the least important thing and it is, in fact,  the  3rd  thing that you say that  is at the heart of how you feel” (about an idea..or a person).

(From October 10 2009

…seeing how the age-vector demographic of this blog is shrinking faster than an octogenarian at a New Year’s Day Polar Bear Plunge, I should stick an image of the cover of National Lampoon that was my ‘prompt’ for this Post. In the interest of full disclosure, the image is the property of whatever multinational corporate entity that owns the rights, I would like to say, for the record,  that I bought this very magazine when it when originally published. Unfortunately, it’s long since lost in one of the moves from college dorm to graduate school apartment in 3rd floor walk-up to suburban apartment to our house here where Ola is buried and we’re trying to grow a front lawn.  So, anyway, the following image is from wikipedia and does not imply any claim to rights or ownership, etc.   OK, …the Post, as it appeared in this blog back in the first year of the Wakefield Doctrine.)

‘time for another Post already?!  oh man, no f*ckin way can I keep this up’

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OK. I have it together now. No need to get excited. Just sit here, clear the mind, the content is in there. Just relax.

My compliments to any of you out there who have maintained an active blog for more than 3 months. Jesus, this coming up with Posts all the time is not as easy as it looks. And this from the perspective of  ’as long as there is a new Post once a week’  blogholder. But no one is holding a gun to my head… (‘hey theres an idea for a Post!)

SOMEONE IS HOLDING A GUN TO MY….

Sorry, forget it. Sure, one of the 103,000,000 blog authors in the world today has already done the definitive, ‘Someone is holding a gun to my head’ treatment. Maybe there are some studies that I can cut and paste and fill up some of this white space and then I can call it a day and get back to my real life!

Alright, seriously now. I do mean my compliment to those of you who have the ability and talent, (acquired or learned), to write something new and different and sometimes, even interesting, Post after Post after Post/blog after blog after blog. Not bad. But since I am not ready to give up on this little blog of mine, I had better t t try to get it together and come up with a Post that will keep the crowdlette coming back for more.

Being that this is the Wakefield Doctrine (aka the theory of clarksscotts and rogers) I would do well to keep to the subject that I know best. (See? Right there! I don’t know much about grammar and good writing and all, but that last sentence had at least two tenses, and easily three pulperfects in it. Man, this is worse than the first time I recorded myself playing guitar along with Jimi Hendrix. Suffice it to say, if you were there you would not have had too much trouble telling us apart.)

This writing and grammar thing is really starting to annoy me. It is bad enough that I regret now that I did not take a typing class when I was in high school. (At my current age, in my high school years Typing Class was for people taking a Business curriculum, which meant you were going to be a secretary which meant you were a girl. That simple, end of cultural subtext). But with this damn blogging thing, I am being forced to confront the fact that I do not have mad writing skills.  I should have paid attention in my English classes. (Look, it was the 60s when I was in high school, how cool is that?) But the inescapable fact remains, that the skill set I would value the most this October morning is not how to play the opening riff of ‘Sunshine of Your Love’. Its funny about how people, at least in the current (american) culture, we seem to have an expectation to be able to do certain things well, just because we think we can do them at all. By this I mean singing and writing. Most of us know that we can sing our favorite song in the car, on the way to work, therefore, I think we all equate that with being a singer. Writing, the same. I can, with the help of spellcheck and a lot of proof reading, write a report at work, so how hard can it be to be a writer?

(I have resisted the impulse to hit Preview to see if I’m down far enough on this page to call it a day.) But anyway, you are here because you want to know all about the Wakefield Doctrine. Right?

The Wakefield Doctrine will cause you to see the world in a slightly different manner. Nothing earth-shaking, no flashes of light; ‘oh my god I understand now’ will not be on your lips. What will happen if you read most of this blog and the associated pages will be that you might find yourself saying, ‘that person is such a roger‘, or you might find yourself thinking, ‘here comes so-an-so what a scott he is’ or you could think, ‘shit, I’ll bet I’m one of those clarks the Doctrine is talking about.’

If this happens to you, I have succeeded. If it does not then I have failed. If you have a question about the Doctrine, leave a Comment or email or whatever the hell people do around here. I will get back to you as soon as I finish my Adult Education class, “You too Can Write Like The Prose’, that I am taking at my little local high school.

No, since you mention it, I did not, apparently,  know what a ‘contraction’ was…  lol

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This image, the Escher …don’t that take you back? Freshman year of college for Readers born mid-20th century, probably high school years for those born 80′s plus. Surely one of the first of moments where it dawned on us that there was more to the world than we thought, at least for most clarks. The impact of this art (was/is) also felt by the more artistically-inclined scotts and, we’re pretty sure, the majority of rogers, (but only if they thought they discovered it first, otherwise they would affect to not be overly impressed).

So why the fun image?  To remind us that, when it comes to the puzzle of human behavior and personality types and such, the Wakefield Doctrine is about questions, not answers…. it’s about process not product, it’s about gaining a tool rather than a giant, engraved-leather, big brass clasp, (with a very impressive verdigris on the hinges) and lock (with that excellent keyhole shape opening). This latter is an approach to presenting the Wakefield Doctrine that I am still conflicted on, should I be whispering more* and be more self-promoty  …the better to make people appreciate how valuable this insight really, actually is….

hey, Kristi recently said something about seeing a parallel between something in the Doctrine and in her own ‘real life’ and Christine mentioned, (about a week ago), how much she does not particular relish the thought of learning to experience the world as a clark, caused me to think, ‘damn, dude. you better get back to the basics’.  The basics are:

  • there is such a thing as ‘a personal reality’ (aka worldview),
  • there are three of them (the Outsider, the Predator and the Herd Member),
  • everyone has the potential of any (of the three) we all live in one, the predominant worldview
  • our ‘personality type’ is the result of growing up/maturing/developing as people, in one of these three, (our predominant worldview), it is the way that ‘we relate ourselves to the world around us’
  • we alway retain the possibility of experiencing the world as would ‘the other two’ (these secondary and tertiary aspects… they are a potential, not an inevitability)

That being said, lets remind ourselves that the Wakefield Doctrine is  gender and culture neutral. Whether you are a young male Inuit or a middle-aged Slovenian woman, those of us versed in the Wakefield Doctrine will, nevertheless, be able to infer how you relate yourself to the world around you. While the variety of behavior(s) available to either may vary on the basis of the culture they were raised in, or the gender that they express in, the Doctrine is only concerned with how these two are experiencing the world around them.

(Also a thanks to zoe for sharing her conflicts and disagreements and reservations on the matter of the Doctrine goal of ‘appreciating the world as the other person is experiencing it’… her perspective is beginning to draw out an insight into the role and function of our secondary aspects… very cool. )

 

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* a primary behavior/strategy and totally sure-fire indicator of a roger: you’re in a room and one person pulls aside another (like, there are 7 people working in the room, a big and open space) and begins to whisper (and they’re doing that only if there is not an adjacent room that they can take this person into and close the door to.. all very un-ignorable to everyone else)… that is the rogerian expression of Herd, i.e. “excuse me everyone! I am sharing something with this one person** that although it is unimportant, inconsequential and totally trivial… you are not included.  …because it’s a Herd thing.”

** it’s done only with one person (at a time), if someone picks 3 or 5 people from a group, then there’s a good chance that person is a scott

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“…what did you say?” the Wakefield Doctrine ‘clarks, rogers and invisible language’ http://wakefielddoctrine.com/2014/10/07/what-did-you-say-the-wakefield-doctrine-clarks-rogers-and-invisible-language/ http://wakefielddoctrine.com/2014/10/07/what-did-you-say-the-wakefield-doctrine-clarks-rogers-and-invisible-language/#comments Tue, 07 Oct 2014 11:45:35 +0000 http://wakefielddoctrine.com/?p=23952

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Yesterday’s Post generated this Comment from our friend zoe:

“So, when you look around your world today, remember this simple Doctrine suggestion: ‘see the world as the other person is experiencing it.” ...that implies such a willingness to be understanding which some/most? aren’t readily accessing….but i know what you mean…its the old Hill St. Blues, ” …be careful out there.”  (which was followed by)

I get what you’re saying, but you are a guy who is willing to try to be understanding… some times I’m just a miserable b**** and don’t care about anyone’s experience.”

My Reply was to (re)define the intent of the original statement, i.e. the Doctrine does not necessarily charge us to understand the other person, rather it is about our accepting that there is another reality forming the context for the other person’s actions.

Invisible language? Yeah, you read that correctly. Today we’re talking about invisible language, non-rational references and a number of other, easily mis -construed/-interpreted/-understood qualities of a person’s worldview. Before we get to the fun part, lets review:

  • clarks are those of us who grew up and have come to relate ourselves to the world around us as Outsiders. clarks are ‘apart from‘…. their coping strategies, style of interacting with others is predicated on the notion that a) we are different from everyone else, and 2) it might be best that we not let them become too aware of this fact. To that end, clarks are:  quiet, subversive, funny, intelligent, caring, short-sighted, creative and needy, (we) hate to be the center of attention but we will not tolerate being ignored
  • scotts are the people (you have a best friend who is one) that relate themselves to the world around them as would any good (i.e. successful) Predator would…  scotts stand out from the crowd, this is seen when they are approaching (a) crowd or building a crowd (around themselves). scotts are aggressive and impulsive, loyal and fierce defenders of those they identify as being a part of their pack, they can be the best of friends and the most embarrassing of best friends, mercurial in temperament they are natural problem solvers however their solutions are invested in the immediate return, rather than a long-term solution, they are natural…and reckless leaders, great lovers and terrible enemies… scotts show their personal worldview in their eyes
  • rogers are most people and while their strengths are not exhibited directly by the majority, the principles that they live by isrogers relate themselves to the world around them as you would, provided that you knew that, somewhere/somehow the world makes sense…if you grew up a roger, you were never alone (although you might feel lonely at one time or another), if you are a roger you know that there is a Right Way and a lot of other ways, you never rest unless you know that you being true to your principles at which point, work is no longer a chore, it is the part of you that you share with the world around you… rogers are responsible for a stable society and rogers account for repressive cultures, rogers are both the innovators of science and the forces that resist anything new, rogers are: judges, politicians, engineers and physicians (but not surgeons), firefighters (but not police), Teachers (of those already educated) and leaders of people if only by common consent

What was that about invisible language?  rogers speak (an) invisible language. The vocabulary that we all share is employed, however, there is a dimension to the language of rogers that is: a) invisible to clarks, b) amusing to scotts and 3) essential to maintaining the Herd. rogers speak to others, in the course of their day,  the way that some surgeons choose to have music playing in their operating room. It (the music), is not playing in order to inform the surgeon in what he/she is doing, the music in playing to connect the other people in the operating room (to the surgeon), and so with rogers, they may communicate specific information to others, but the underlying principle, (i.e. that language serves in the worldview of the Herd Member), is to associate (themselves) with the others. These ‘others’ are not, I repeat, not limited to people who are physically present at the time of the communication.   …go ask Ken Burns, Stephen King, JK Rowling, Fanny Farmer, Emily Post,  or Paul McCartney

The point? Referring back to zoe’s Comment thread yesterday, it is not that we would understand, (the behavior of others by virtue of knowing their worldview), in order to approve or disapprove… it is simply to confirm that these differences are real.

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the Wakefield Doctrine Monday (any clark will tell you, it’s the uncertainty of outcome, not the amount of work)…1st day of the Workweek! http://wakefielddoctrine.com/2014/10/06/the-wakefield-doctrine-monday-any-clark-will-tell-you-its-the-uncertainty-of-outcome-not-the-amount-of-work1st-day-of-the-workweek/ http://wakefielddoctrine.com/2014/10/06/the-wakefield-doctrine-monday-any-clark-will-tell-you-its-the-uncertainty-of-outcome-not-the-amount-of-work1st-day-of-the-workweek/#comments Mon, 06 Oct 2014 12:28:37 +0000 http://wakefielddoctrine.com/?p=23944

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Monday! We all have pressing matters, the workweek has just begun! (Except for Melanie  and our other Friends in the Southern Hemisphere, where the Weekend is just getting started, we’ll just say,   “Mahalo E Ke Akua No Keia La!!”)

In any event. Today is Monday for us. So lets start the week with  3 Tips for Using the Wakefield Doctrine:

  1.  the Wakefield Doctrine is for you, not them  ok!… so the alarm is going off for the 5th time. you’re up and you’ve gotten dressed(ish) and you have the coffee on (for the spouse) and the lunches made for the children (for purposes of illustration and this particular example) 3 of them, one of each predominant worldview… no one is doing anywhere near the best they can to give themselves the best chance of having a happy and satisfying and productive day!!!  you begin to get upset. you know that some of them (them: spouse and 3 children) could use a good start to the week, and (some), you know for a fact, are 2 under-the-covers-thoughts away from pleading too-sick-for-school, such is their feeling of not being ready for the world. But you know this, that their reality might be different from your own.
  2. the Wakefield Doctrine maintains that reality is, to a very real degree, personal. As such, it is not just your early-childhood experience of having 4 siblings and 2 parents and 1 bathroom that ‘makes’ you want to believe that, with a schedule that is embraced by all and recognized as the Right Way to start the day, life is Good. That is the reality, not your predilection. (The Wakefield Doctrine says that there are three of these personal realities. We call them worldviews and we all have one (of the three) as our predominant worldview.)
  3. While we all grew up and learned to cope (successfully and not-so-sucessfully) within the context of our predominant worldviews, we all retain the potential, the inherent possibility of experiencing the world as do ‘the other two’. This potential simply allows us to imagine the world as different, we need to practice the skills and strategies that would allow us to be successful in these (other) dominant worldviews. Fortunately, we have the basic drives to relate ourselves to the world around us as would  the Outsider  or the Predator and the Herd Member. The single biggest advantage of the Doctrine as an approach to self-improvement? We only have to be our-(Outsider/Predator/Herd Member)-selves…. if we are willing to accept that the world can be legitimately experienced in these three ways.

So, when you look around your world today, remember this simple Doctrine suggestion: ‘see the world as the other person is experiencing it.’

 

 

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I should write something that’s both engaging and enticing about this week’s (sub)theme…. ‘the Rule of the AutoCorrect’.  I will try, as I need the practice. I need the practice because the First Rule of sales/Teaching/Counseling/Seduction is to get your audience/pupils/client/her-or-him, to ‘identify with you’.  ’You’ being the person: on the stage/in front of the class/seated unobtrusively near-but-not-too-near/moving in for the kill.

What’s this process like? I was thinking about that very thing,  just this morning…(” man! was I tired…I could barely get here on time…oh, is it time already?…..”) the ‘medium of exchange’ for identification are the acts and emotions and thoughts that virtually everyone in your target market experience, ideally at the moment of the attempt to identify.  If you manage to pull this off,  you have a shot.  (hey…. did he just use the words: acts and emotions and thoughts?!!  wait…just..a minute! that sounds like….)

1) I’m grateful for having ideas, however odd or off-the-wall they might be. If I did not, I fear that I wouldn’t be able to get through a list of 10 Items of gratitude more than say 3 times. I lead a pretty bi-monotonous-life.1

2) I am totally grateful for the perspective that I am reminded to appreciate that I have, each week here by all you other TToT participants. Specifically I am gland that today I have (fill-in your choice of modifiers: good, not bad, reasonable, better than before, could-be-worse) health. I mention this because,  just this week one of the people in my office came in to say that their spouse was half-way diagnosed with a way-serious form of disease.2  I deliberately reminded myself that I did not, at that moment, have the medical diagnosis that this person had, (a diagnosis that was forcefully re-writing their lives).

3) I am grateful for Una, as we went for a ride last evening. She enjoys the process as only dogs seem capable of, enthusiastically and without the slightest self-consciousness or…. even more impressively,  without that inevitable, (at least for me), “oh…is it over now? do we have to stop, I was having fun.” Really hope someday to have that level of development.

4) Comments this week at the Doctrine were fun, challenging, encouraging and very cool.  (these were re-written by a clark and a scott and  a roger and a clark…. you’ll need to go back and figure it out for yourself)

5) Video goes here:

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6) oh…oh!!  I made a special TToT Offer in my vid!  damn, almost forgot!  lol…. seemed like a good idea at the time, I am a co-host (from the Great State of Y Chromia) after all…. since this offer involves a secret password, I best leave it be and let those who would sit through god-knows-how-many-minutes of ‘Dog and Cow Fields’  to reap the benefits

7) shit! I’ve totally left behind my ‘hook’ for today’s Post!  what the hell!  Tell you what, I’ll say a little about the subject now, and then I’ll try to come up with something for tomorrow’s….wait!! I’m not on the every-day-schedule!! I’m totally confused at this point. But, I am grateful that I started down this aisle in the great rhetorical supermarket/warehouse supply/adult toys and exotic clothing store that is my mind these days, because I realize I have a couple of more items!

8) I am very grateful to everyone who helped (with Comments) and supported (with Reading) the Wakefield Doctrine 30 Day Challenge. I enjoyed every day of it and, once again, the magic of the Wakefield Doctrine was there… to wit: I got more out of the process than I put into it. And this is largely because of you, the Readers.  Thanks.

9) I should bring this up in the beginning of a TToT Post, but, since I’m already down here, on Item 9, let me say that there are, of late,  murmurings and rumours and whispered talks about the Seven Guard Virgins. Who are they… where did they come from, is that one, second from the left, really as hot as she looks? The normal kind of questions people would have about a group of people wielding as much power as they do… it’s inevitable that this topic should come up, especially with the approach of the winter (“I already wrote three posts about icicles, and puppies in the snow…. I want to write about the 7 Guard Virgins!!”)… more to follow.

10) 1.3 (aka 3.1…. better ask Z)

 

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1)  not a ‘real’ word

2)  all clarks have a hyper-developed sense of privacy, especially as it concerns information that they have about other people… this is a perfect example of manifestation:  all three world views learn things about the people in their world around them… what that experience is, is different according to worldview.

  • clarks  are Outsiders, they do however acquire information primarily because they are good listeners and take the notion of ‘keeping a confidence’ to an extreme… as a result we have nothing to trade in the social economy
  • scotts are predators, often they acquire information as a byproduct of ‘the hunt’ (visual: the lioness trots towards the pride with a full grown antelope carcass, occasionally a leg or forepaw gets torn off…she will usually let who ever had the balls to run off with it, keep it… also, other predators and sometimes even, prey, will offer information as a way to interact with the scott without having a floating sign over their head that says “USDA GradeA” in glowing letters…. it works, for a while.
  • rogers are members of the Herd…. you know about Wall St?  (not the specific elements, the general concept)  like that for the socio-emotional economy of human society. rogers learn about the people and the the things that are going on and they exchange it with others

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