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1)  vid chats…. (which, L and me like, totally ground broke along with Michelle and zoe and D and them) interesting conversation with Joy and z and Lizzi last night)

2)  I am comfortable listing an item of hypo-gratitude (for):  the freezing cold mornings in this Year without Summer.

3) the Wakefield Doctrine (yes, that is such an obvious thing, however, allow me to share my latest insight that makes me (semi)glad to be a clark). Everyone enjoys the basic time travel fantasy. i.e. ‘If I could go back to 1973 when I was still 20 (or so), I would do (fill in the blank with favorite life activity) differently’* In any event, while all three personality types find this an enjoyable diversion, clarks find it an especially engaging daydream, many of us going so far as to include, ‘…you know, it might be possible. So, this afternoon as I drove along, I thought about what I would do if I were able to go back to 1973, and I caught myself and thought, with a certain amount of ruefulness, ‘better keep working on it, clark, you haven’t yet figured out how to get back there!’  Out of nowhere thought came to me, ‘damn!  maybe I have managed to figure out the secret of time travel and this is a far back as I could get!’

4) work…work…work (I was asked by a client if I still enjoyed my work and I was able to say, ‘Yes, yes I do! It allows me to do something that is not boring and no one controls my time or my) whereabouts’)

5) …have I mentioned being grateful for the TToT?    shit!  I think I have.  Wait….wait!  let me add a hypo-grateful aspect to my role of co-host**  Here I am, typing like a fiend, it’s 5:44 Saturday and I’m trying to decide who to throw in with, the devil on my left shoulder who says, ‘come on! clark, it’s late take it easy and besides, this is a sloppy, hastily written Post, it’s more of an insult to your talented (and at bare minimum 5/9ths totally hot co-hostinae to submit something as ‘on the fly as this thing‘, or the angel on my right shoulder who says, ‘no! you have a responsibility to these people and you better not mess up, and don’t you dare hit send without double…not, make that triple proofing it.

6)  (no dogs were in the car for the filming of the following video…)

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7) Why yes, I have thought about the SBoR (aka BoSR) but, I’m in an old-fashioned/guilt-ridden mood, so I’m only going to use 1.3

8)  SR 6.7.3

9)  SR 6.7.3

10) I will conclude with SR 1.3 (with the SR 6.7.3 the infamous ‘tripler rule*** to wit: if a writer of a TToT list invokes the 6.7.3 Rule, then the explanation of said Rule, combined with the Grat Item (being tripled), must meet or exceed the word count of the two Items being….er   tripled. This word count must be of an amount that the average Reader would judge to be a sufficient to state, explain and justify, the Items that would have been written, were it not 5:44  5:54 PM EDST

 

 

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* the standard Time Travel fantasy has the fantasizee retain all life experiences and knowledge while returning to a time when everything was new and young and seemingly inexhaustible.

** well, if you insist   …with the most!!’

*** aka nagging mother rule, as in, ‘if you put half as much effort into simply doing the job as you do in avoiding it, you could be outside playing with your little virtual friends right now!

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GPTGP à scott the Wakefield Doctrine *Postponed* http://wakefielddoctrine.com/2014/08/28/gptgp-a-scott-the-wakefield-doctrine-postponed/ http://wakefielddoctrine.com/2014/08/28/gptgp-a-scott-the-wakefield-doctrine-postponed/#comments Thu, 28 Aug 2014 11:11:26 +0000 http://wakefielddoctrine.com/?p=23484

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Hey! I just realized… this here photo here is a ‘selfie’ sent to us in October 2011, before the whole fad got to the Herds on ‘the Facebook… leave it to a scott! All we said was, “Alex, the Wakefield Doctrine hat (for your damn head) is nearly free. All we ask is that you take a picture of it, in front of something interesting.”

This Thursday’s scottian Guest Post Guest Writer is Alex Crabtree. We met Alex back around Fall of 2011. (as is often the case of scottian friends, you can never quite remember if you introduced yourself or he just walked in the door while you and the family were having dinner… both, of course, are reasonable, given the scottian worldview).

I just got a note1 from Alex, expressing his regrets and disappointment that he is not be able to Guest Post for us today. The death of a (significant) relative, occurring  between the time that I invited him to write for our GPTGP series and early this morning has made it impossible. Alex promises to join us on a Thursday, perhaps on the next scottian GPT, but today was, unfortunately, not meant to be. We extend our sympathy and best wishes to Alex and them.

Were it not so early in the morning, I might, at this point in the Post, write, ‘is there a scott in the house?‘ … or perhaps, if I were at a RL social occasion, I might jiggle my cars keys… or, (if I were a clarklike female) I might say in a fairly loud voice, “this place is boring , I guess I’ll go home to bed and read a book.”

But, I guess not. The hor’douves   (hey!! what the hell WP Spellcheck?!! I knew that I could not spell hors d’œuvre without looking it up, but I tried anyway and failed…but! the popup said  ’No Guesses Found’   who the fuck said I was guessing at a word? WP is supposed to be the leading blogging software and that’s what they think of their clients?  That we’re sitting around ‘Guessing’ at words?! ) The hell with that. I’m a damn clark and if I don’t know a word then I will do one of two things:

  1. I will look it up (typing an approximation of the word into ‘the google’ and reading the entries that result… could take an hour or more, ‘specially if wikipedia gets involved)
  2. I will make up a word (and why the hell not? creative writing applies to what, the mere order of words? the novel placement of correctly used words? I think not! if that were the case, then all songs would simply be snatches of melodies strung together like a late 80′s hip hop record…. the writing is about the ideas and if I think I have a better word than frickin Webster, then guess which word I’ll use? Oxford University, my ass…. if they spent half as much time on dental hygiene as they do on silly black robes on a bunch of guys who sit around and mis-spell wourds to load up their Theasaures Rex the world would be a better place….

… er,  is there a scott in the house?

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1) For the benefit of those new to the Guest Post Thursday Guest Post series, I should perhaps explain how the Wakefield Doctrine might differ from other, more…traditional blogs, in how we do Guest Posts. An invitation is extended, with the instruction to ‘write whatever you feel like writing. It could be about the Wakefield Doctrine or how you use the principles of the Wakefield Doctrine to improve your life, or it could be about a person who:  ”…played in a soccer game with a bunch of 7th and 8th graders.  That in itself isn’t dumb, but playing like it was the final game of the World Cup.” or if you would rather, write about how:  “The ultrasound technician told me to take off everything from my waist down.”  if those topics seem too impersonal, a Guest with a certain strong secondary clark might contribute one of the more significant worldview artifacts2 as did one Guest with, “ Without the structure of expectations, I am a bit lost.  I think my secondary, yet significant, clark-like tendencies also play a role;…
The point being, the Guest Post series has been a free-form experiment to see how the Doctrine expresses, when a skilled writer/blogger comes to the site and writes about whatever may (or may not) be on their mind.

2) a ‘worldview artifact’ is the term we use to designate an insight into one of the three worldviews that might not have been predicted (or even anticipated) by the Doctrine.

 

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before the Thursday feature…. the Wakefield Doctrine (a few short-thoughts as the house lights dim) http://wakefielddoctrine.com/2014/08/27/before-the-thursday-feature-the-wakefield-doctrine-a-few-short-thoughts-as-the-house-lights-dim/ http://wakefielddoctrine.com/2014/08/27/before-the-thursday-feature-the-wakefield-doctrine-a-few-short-thoughts-as-the-house-lights-dim/#comments Wed, 27 Aug 2014 11:18:30 +0000 http://wakefielddoctrine.com/?p=23477

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Tomorrow’s post will be a Guest Post by a scottian guest post Writer! As is the way of Guest Post Thursday’s Guest Post, I have not a single clue as to what he will be presenting us (the point of hosting-a-guest-post-day-as-a-way-to-self-improve-myself, is that it requires me to do what I am not normally inclined to do:  relax let someone else take the spotlight and trust the Readership). If a slightly twisted stomach lining is an indicator of successful learning, I’m getting total ‘A’s!!

in any event, it will be fun.

while we wait for the houselights to go down… for the record, I haven’t been in a movie theatre since… when did ‘Risky Business’ come out? then… I took Phyllis to see Tom and Rebecca in the early days of our relationship (soundtrack cue: 10cc).

Speaking of movies and the Wakefield Doctrine.
I was watching a movie last night, ‘Battleship’  written and produced by the Hasbro Brothers ( in the wake of their wildly popular, ‘Potatoheads in the ‘hood’).  The movie is about the board game, which, in turn, is about strategies of war. So, naturally,  it was against the backdrop/context of the military… i.e. rogers. What brought this home to me was the scene where the protagonist, a hot-headed junior officer, ends up on a ship where the chain of command had just been wiped out by the aliens, the ship is pretty busted up and the bridge crew is standing around doing nothing at all when our hero asks where the Captain is and someone says, ‘you’re the ranking officer now, you’re the Captain‘.
(Just in case the point has not been made, the bo’sun says,  ”What are you orders, sir? Tell me what to do! I don’t know what to do if I don’t have orders!“).   There is one more scene in which the XO comes to find the new Captain standing in his cabin looking all angsty and saying shit like, “I can’t do this! I’m not a Captain”  and the (scottian) Executive Officer says, “Those bars on your shoulder means you are the Captain! The men need you to be the Captain. The ship is lost is you don’t“)

…and I sat in my living room and laughed (…I am a clark) and thought, ‘the structure of the military is such a clear illustration of (the) essentiality of organization in the rogerian worldview! I really should write a Post!’    Though I am almost out of time, consider: not only is the military a manifestation of the rogerian worldview, but how clearly is the Herd dominant to the individual… the men (in the movie) were willing to die following orders because of the ‘referential authority’ of rank. Of course, this applies to business, religion, politics and cattle ranching. If you need to get a roger to do something, you had better damn well not forget to invoke a referential authority.

…speaking of clarks. I was driving around Saturday and got a call from a real estate agent about a property of mine. I suspected ‘clark‘ when she started to speak… there was a slight question-lilt to her voice when she said, ‘Hello?’  But it was her choice of words:  ” I noticed in the MLS that you are listed as the Showing Agent for…

lol  clarks!  ( New Readers: a roger would have chosen the words: ‘the MLS says that you are the Showing Agent’  and a scott wouldn’t’ have bothered with any of it,  ’hey! I need to see…’)

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lets have a little encore Post today!

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(from the year, Two Thousand whatever!)

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

What is it we mean when we say that the scottian personality lives in the reality of the predator? Is the Doctrinereally suggesting that those who identify their predominant worldview as that of the predator are:

avaricious, carnivorous, predacious, bloodsucking, grasping, larcenous, marauding, pillaging, plundering, foraging, sexy, voracious, voluptuous, vulpine, lupine, canine, supine, teasing, pleasing, quick, snappish, nippy, nasty, pugilistic,, sharkish, aggressive, ravening, ravenous, mercurial, temperamental, tempestuous, predictable, trainable and fun  (courtesy of http://freethesaurus.net  …sort of added a bunch of my own)

hmm, guess I’m gonna go with, “Yes, yes it is!”

Now you should know, that we know that the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers) is not for everyone! The ‘everyone’ that it is ‘not for’ includes:

those with a rigid worldview, the people who know what the world is like with certainty that precludes questioning, humorless people, those with limited language skills,  those who think of the Dictionary  the way that the sporadically religious think of the Bible, those who feel that there is a right way and there is a wrong way, those that believe that some things are best left to the professionals, people who take the little warnings at the bottom of virtually every TV commercial as a reassuring sign that the world is protecting them, people who think that language is a powerful weapon and it is not a toy, anyone who says: a little knowledge is a dangerous thing, waste not want not, measure twice cut once, loose lips sinks ships, ask not what you can do for your country, father knows best, listen to your mother and, finally,  the Wakefield Doctrine is not for anyone for whom the term ‘flexible intelligence’ produces a visual of Nadia Comaneci in a Cap and Gown.

What has been totally gratifying is the increasing number of  people are reading and learning and Commenting on the Doctrine (and) wearing hats and DocTee(s)! …and!  …and they are turning out to be the kind of people with the kind of minds that let them hear the term  ’predator’ and say, “damn! you’re right. My best friend, she appears to totally have it together and yet it is all about the here and now for her! Try and talk about the ‘what ifs and she goes all blank…and then laughs or gets mad!” (or) “I know what you mean! My friend is surely a scott, he is funny and loves young children but is a relentless tease!” (or even) ” I have never seen anyone who focuses so quickly on a problem, very clever but if the lawn mower refuses to start..watch out! He’s as likely to throw it across the street as he is to fix it”.

So read this here Doctrine here and have some fun. Remember, the really cool thing is that the Wakefield Doctrine works itself! No lie! If you learn what the world of a clark is like (the Outsider) enough to know the major characteristics of the type and if you see how the (Predatory) world of a scott results in people who are quick to act and yet totally confident in appearance, generous to a fault yet the totally mercurial, and if you come to be able to imagine living in a world of rules and predictability, connectiveness and certainty that is the (Herd-based) reality of a rogerthen you can go out into your daily world and you will see them out there. You will not need us to say, “Now remember if a man wears a beret, smokes a pipe and holds forth on the works of Ken Burns, then you have a roger”  You will see them.

…a little spooky, but what the hell, eh?

Don’t forget y’all,  the Day after Wednesday* is Guest Post Thursday with a Guest Post written by a scottian Guest Post Writer!

 

* the most inappropriately pronounced Day of the Week!

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TToT the Wakefield Doctrine (‘if I write tomorrow’s Post today, does that give me an extra day of life or does it use one up?’) http://wakefielddoctrine.com/2014/08/22/ttot-the-wakefield-doctrine-if-i-write-tomorrows-post-today-does-that-give-me-an-extra-day-of-life-or-does-it-use-one-up/ http://wakefielddoctrine.com/2014/08/22/ttot-the-wakefield-doctrine-if-i-write-tomorrows-post-today-does-that-give-me-an-extra-day-of-life-or-does-it-use-one-up/#comments Sat, 23 Aug 2014 02:09:10 +0000 http://wakefielddoctrine.com/?p=23449

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Yeah, one of those TToT lists. ( “…he could do much if only he would/could control the flights of fancy and just apply himself to the simple task of writing a list of 10 Things that he is Grateful for, you know” …a couple of un-named scottian friends… in the interest of privacy and anonymity, I will not single anyone out, though I will give you a hint: their names rhyme with: Christine  Dyanne)

1) I am grateful to Katia Bishofs for writing yesterday’s Guest Post Thursday’s Guest Post… (last train to clarksville).

2) I feel a certain degree of gratitude for a homelife situation that forms the basis of this, Item 2. (the following was a nearPost from yesterday, you know, you get an idea for a fun and/or catchy title or thesis or opening sentence, you know there is something there, but job or family or life draws you out just as you get started, resulting in optimistic disappointment  (like hearing your parents pull in the driveway just as you are making some headway with your girlfriend/your roommate calls to tell you they finished the conference early and you have to invite your guest to leave…way, way too early.) In any event, I started with the following block quote.

“…if you think that that will make him more manageable and result in benefitting our interests, then go ahead and email him.” (from: ‘the Wakefield Doctrine: Tales of Practical Application of a weird-assed, totally-inspired theory of personality.’)

Backstory: trying to have major and significant landscaping done to the property, being a clark and a roger. first rogerian landscape architect I interviewed and failed to make a connection, second rogerian landscape architect both of us interviewed and we were more successful. However…

3) Lets talk about the BoSR/SBoR (aka Book of Secret Rules/Secret Book of Rules), if this is not clear evidence of the creation of an actual, viable community existing among the participants of this here bloghop here, then I don’t know what is! The Book of Secret Rules (aka the Secret Book of Rules) is being learned, appreciated and applied, by new members and old, to their advantage (and) at their own peril! While I  appear to be citing ‘the Book’  as ‘Item 3′ on this week’s Grat List, it is actually the (successful) creation of a community of like-minded people of good intent, i.e. Lizzi’s original mission statement.*

4) Learning from those more skilled (and not feeling self-conscious). Nearly every time I read a Post, I also make a conscious effort to see what the author has done to make it (an effective Post).  For example, yesterday’s GPTGP, I took note of the fact that Katia ended her Post with a Question. (we in sales and marketing refer to as ‘a call to action’). She did it seamlessly. And it was effective. You know?

5) That it is only 6:43 am Friday August 22 2014 and I am at Number 5!

6) Hypo-gratitude Item: it’s Friday and I think the ‘hop has already started! (not that that’s a bad thing!) it’s just that Saturday is a busier workday than most weekdays and my opportunities to get on line and read and Comment is limited to morning and later in the day.

7) the Wakefield Doctrine. this week I appreciate the benefit of developing my sense of perspective, which, as we all know, is at the core of the Doctrine. More specifically, I will say I am grateful for all the little insights I gain from looking at life and the world through the lens of the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers.  Case in point: I was taking out the garbage this morning. This involves picking up the garbage can in one hand and the recyclables container in the other. As I walked up the driveway towards the road, I thought, ‘man! I gots to exercise more’. For whatever reason, I thought about the incident that I wrote about in last weekend’s TToT Post (carrying buckets of water down a ladder). and it occurred to me, ‘the fact is, I will never make deliberate, formal exercise (like 30 minutes a day kind of exercise), but the episode last weekend…. that was not just about the lifting of the bucket… hell, the punchline of that story was about my leg muscles, so maybe it (the effectiveness of that activity as exercise) was about my state of mind/concentration! I then thought about most of the time I try to do deliberate exercises… I’m alway in a hurry/counting reps/looking forward to putting in my time so I can get on with the day. So, I thought… ‘lets carry this garbage can and this recyclable container like my life depended on my walking with no sense of strain or urgency, lift them out to the side at a set angle and do not vary from that angle until I’m at the end of the driveway and, at the same time, not think about them as carrying heavy weights, just make that the way I need to walk’.

8) lol… no! yeah, really!  Number 7? That was not just a long, oddly-interesting-but-still-odd introspection, that was actually what went through my mind this morning at about 6:58 am

9) Una Video at 10!

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* if she had written out a formal Mission Statement**

** which she did not, I believe***

*** which does not preclude me from using this as a point in today’s Post, does it?

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This week’s Guest Post Thursday(‘s)  Guest Post Writer is Katia Bishofs.
I met Katia a couple of years ago on (the) Finish the Sentence Friday bloghop. My first thought reading Katia’s blog, IAMTHEMILK, was, to employ an archaic expression, ‘this person really has it together’.  We  hit it off and IAMTHEMILK became one of my first stops on the ‘Friday rounds’. This is the truly cool thing about the ‘sphere, that I get to meet people from all walks of life, from all parts of the planet… and Canada!  Katia has a pretty damn remarkable presence among blogs, being printed/published and re-printed in more sites than I read!  So, when the time came to ask another clark to write a Thursday Guest Post, I realized asking her would be a perfect opportunity to demonstrate, in a small and disguised way, the efficacy of the Wakefield Doctrine as a tool of self-development!

(Yes, that is a Wakefield Doctrine docTee in the photo above.)

Without further adieu…. hey! Katia has a second site (no! not sight…site! well, maybe both, as it is a well established fact that, when it comes to intuition and near-creepy sensitivity to the thoughts and feelings of others, clarks are the masters!), it’s a website totally full of helpful and valuable information and advice for mothers (and others) engaged (or contemplating engaging) in a job search: the Recruiter Mommy.

 

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Top Five Best Things About Being an Outsider

I’ve been involved with the blogosphere since 2012. Due to kids (mine) and life circumstances (also mine) my relationship with it is no longer monogamous, but whenever I do visit the blogosphere, I follow Clark’s doctrine with great interest.  With his help via comments on my blog, I was able to confirm my suspicions that out of the three personality types the doctrine identifies, I’m a fellow Clark. When I read about Clarks, one aspect that I find particularly fascinating about them is their overly developed sense of outsiderdom.

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I once had to come up with one of those awkward third person bios for a website I was featured on. This one read:  Katia was born in a family of immigrants. She always felt like she didn’t belong, so one day she moved and switched continents so she could ‘not belong’ for a good reason”.

Up until I immigrated my outsiderdom had been an emotional state rather than a biographical or social fact confirmed by my surroundings. That well kept secret, however, would occasionally overflow and spill over to the outside at times of emotional tide and vulnerability, making itself potentially noticeable.

After moving from Israel to Canada my sense of outsiderdom finally received a reason. Seven years into my immigration, I rarely feel like an outsider anymore. I recently attended a blogging conference, where a hilarious post was shared by Meredith Bland at Pile of Babies. That particular post inspired this one, as it made me examine what would be perceived as a disadvantageous situation in a different light. Sure, immigration was one of the toughest things I’ve ever had to do, but I can’t say that my new status of immigrant, a.k.a. outsider by choice, didn’t come with its set of perks. I give you immigration’s top five advantages:

  1. Weird behaviours are totally acceptable – scratch that. They are actually expected of you. Want to drink creamer straight from the bottle thinking that you’re treating yourself to your first ever bottled iced coffee? Want to do all of that publicly? Go for it. It can all be chucked up to cultural differences.  True story.
  2. Geographical idiocy is acceptable as well –let it be known that my inner compass is not just off, it’s set to “Trust your gut” which never fails to lead me in the wrong direction. Guess what? Move countries and with your new permanent residence you’ll also get your permanent “Get out of judgment jail” card.
  3. Your “weird behaviour immunity” extends to your kids and covers them as well– when your toddler is outside screaming “mama bum!” No biggie. Cultural differences and stuff, remember?
  4. No one’s that surprised if you start a sentence but don’t finish it –                 (see?)
  5. Political opinions are a Nice To Have – Call me apolitical. I’m from the Middle East and I overdosed on news in the first thirty years of my life. Let’s see you drag me into a political conversation after that!

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Have you ever felt like an outsider?

 

 

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Wed nes day the Wakefield Doctrine ‘…of shared expectations and stainless steel serving dishes’ http://wakefielddoctrine.com/2014/08/20/wed-nes-day-the-wakefield-doctrine-of-shared-expectations-and-stainless-steel-serving-dishes/ http://wakefielddoctrine.com/2014/08/20/wed-nes-day-the-wakefield-doctrine-of-shared-expectations-and-stainless-steel-serving-dishes/#comments Wed, 20 Aug 2014 13:44:08 +0000 http://wakefielddoctrine.com/?p=23423

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Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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2 reasons for today’s Post:

  1. new Readers
  2. tomorrow is Guest Thursday’s Guest Post… (‘…key-lark day’)
  3. rogers and expectations

Second Reason:

GPTGP: nothing novel concept, invite people to write a Guest Post. Ask representatives of each of the three ‘personality types’ to write on a given Thursday, still not ground-breaking, at least introduces a certain degree of expectations (on the part of Readers). My instructing all Guests: “write anything you like. Have fun, no topics suggested, no minimum nor maximum lengths. pretend that you have a new blog, it’s not only already set up, but it has a readership and they do not know anything about your regular blog. write and have fun. email it to and I will post it”  I will say without reservation, the result has been more than I had anticipated. Not ‘more’ in the sense of ‘more exciting’ or ‘generating more visits to the Doctrine’ not even, ‘produce more questions about this little personality theory of ours.  Rather, it has provided a weekly illustration of the three worldviews of the Wakefield Doctrine.

  • clarklike GuestWriters  that have us (commenting), “wow!  who would have thought… what a creative approach… how cool is that?”
  • Guest Posts written by our scottian friends,  I can hear the laughter and appreciation of Readers, “I couldn’t stop laughing…. I can’t believe she wrote that…. god, what fun these Posts are”  (and)
  • our rogerian friend’s Posts… there is something very special going on there. They (the Posts) are so….engaging, personable…. interesting in a way that is at once comfortable and yet presenting a viewpoint that challenge(s) the Reader.

So each Writer, with or without intending to, has allowed us, to see the world (from a certain Doctrine perspective), as they experience it.

(content deleted…even though I spent a good hour last night writing a ‘brief intro to the Wakefield Doctrine’… gotta stay under 1000 words)

So this Doctrine is about helping us understand the behavior of the people in our lives, right? Ok then, you want an example?

clarks and rogers.
as a pair, this combination has the advantage of stability (at a price) and, at the same time,  allows each to relax a little within their respective worldviews. Not the most high-energy combination (certainly not to the dynamic levels of a clark-scott or a scott-scott(!), but also not the quiet-symnetry of a clark-clark or the ‘who-can-build-a-structure-of-expectations-of-life-first’ of a roger-roger), but not bad. That being said, one area of conflicts between clarks and rogers is found in the area of expectations.*

Now, as the Rule of ‘Everyone Does Everything A One Time or Another’ asserts, there is nothing that is the exclusive domain of one of the three worldviews. The ‘worldviews’ are not bubbles of reality, distinct in the quantity and quality of the things that make up one’s world. Even something as  ….subjective as ‘expectations’ is manifested in each of the three worldviews, differently in each. Today we’ll focus on the expectations (as manifested) in the reality of the Herd Member, rogers.  A little true-life anecdote should serve our purpose.

Years and years ago, the Progenitor roger and I were talking about buying a business. Knowing what I did about rogers (both the individual and the personality type), I suggested that he consider something in the food service industry, you know, like a restaurant or cafe or such. Somewhat surprisingly, roger enthusiastically agreed! He went on at length how he had been thinking along those very same lines and was, in fact, researching the restaurant business. (A little backstory here: this is mid-eighties and in our area barbecue wings ‘burst on the scene’ in cafes and restaurants, sports bars… like that.)
In any event, I made the statement that ‘the restaurant business is incredibly competitive, how tricky it must be to succeed in the business’. To which roger responded:I’ve spent a lot of time on this, looking for the difference between success and failure in a restaurant that serves wings and the key to it all is ….stainless serving dishes.” 

stainless steel serving dishes.’

This phrase has become a fun ’shorthand’ for the particularly rogerian focus on a single element (of an otherwise complex subject). And no, this is not making fun of rogers (ok, a little  but not in a mean way), rather this phrase serves as a reminder of how very real the personal realities of people can be. So much of what we experience in our day-to-day lives is subjected to a personal shorthand… incredibly intricate, involved and complex ideas…reduced to four words. We (clarks, scotts and rogers) all do it.

the problem that arises, (and the prompting for this post),  when two people are engaged in a mutual effort, no…let me call it ‘a process shared’. It might be working on a project with a co-worker or maybe a science project in school or even something simple, like a home improvement project. Two people with, not only two images of the outcome, but two different ideas of ‘the best way’ to: get from start to finish/the surest way to get ‘an A’/ this is how you handle the sub-contractors to get that addition built just the way you wanted it.

stainless steel serving dishes’

it’s not that I was more realistic or that roger was more practical… it was not even that he was right and I was wrong… however, if I did not translate ‘stainless steel serving dishes‘ into my own, personal equivalent of  ’this is what I feel is the critical piece of an otherwise large and complex effort’  if I do not do the translation, then I cannot expect to understand.

Many systems of insight, personality theories are designed to enhance our understanding of the people (and their behavior) in our lives. In this, the Wakefield Doctrine is not different. Where the Wakefield Doctrine is different, is that we don’t  suggest that, in our example today, that roger did not have a realistic understanding the restaurant business, we are not even suggesting that you accept that ‘maybe he just doesn’t get it’…. what the Wakefield Doctrine is saying is that, ‘living in a different worldview as he does, roger may very well be experiencing something that does not exist for a clark or a scott.

 

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Momentarily Monday the Wakefield Doctrine …(self-limitations and insights) http://wakefielddoctrine.com/2014/08/18/momentarily-monday-the-wakefield-doctrine-self-limitations-and-insights/ http://wakefielddoctrine.com/2014/08/18/momentarily-monday-the-wakefield-doctrine-self-limitations-and-insights/#comments Mon, 18 Aug 2014 10:48:38 +0000 http://wakefielddoctrine.com/?p=23405

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DownSpring Lizzi has this thing she does, from time to time, where she writes provocative and engaging story that seems to be about herself, only to inform the Reader, at the very end, that ‘this is fiction’.

Today’s Post is sort of like that…except in reverse (or maybe, converse). The story that follows is real enough, however the ‘point’, or ‘lesson’ or even ‘moral’ of the story may not be immediately apparent.  And,

Yesterday I had a property that had a heating air-conditioning system emergency. An air-handler in the attic malfunctioned and water (condensate from the ac) was leaking through the ceiling into the bedroom below. I tried, without success, to get the plumbing and heating company to answer my calls to make a weekend service call, unfortunately they were nowhere to be found.  Staring at the water dripping off the hardwired smoke detector in the bedroom ceiling I realized that I had to do something. I decided to turn off the power in the house, as  house was on a well,  at least I could prevent any additional water from adding to the problem. The air-handler sat in a metal pan, in order to contain any condensate created when the system was in cooling mode. The pan was overflowing, the source of the water dripping through the bedroom ceiling. My plan was simply to empty the pan. Access to the attic was by a pull-down staircase. I took a plastic drinking cup and a 5 gallon bucket, climbed the stairs, flashlight in hand, and starting bailing out the water. There was a lot of water. At least 5 trips down the stairs, with a full bucket. Now, the thing about pulldown staircases is that they have normal shaped steps from the bottom to about 3/4s of the way up, where they, (the steps), become more like ledges. You can put your full weight on them, you just can’t stand on them the way you normally do with stairs.

The operation took about 45 minutes. It was successful, provided the definition success was, ‘less water available to leak through the ceiling now than there was before I started’. I left the property and returned to my office. Getting out of my car at the office I felt my legs do that ‘tremor’ thing, you know, over-exertion total muscle exhaustion. (Like when you were a kid and someone dared you to do 50 knee bends as fast as you could?).  Mind you this was the first time, (that morning), I felt that way. Each of my trips up and down the attic ladder, flashlight providing the illumination, with 5 gal bucket in one hand, were anything but tremory. In fact, each step I took was very deliberate as I did not underestimate the potential of slipping and falling out of the attic of an empty house.

But as I walked across the parking lot,  I felt like I had run 8 miles. And I laughed (I am, after all, a clark). I laughed because I could see how effectively I limit myself.

Like most Readers, I try to stay healthy. I understand that exercise is a necessary component to a healthy life style and I make periodic efforts, in good faith and with sincere intentions to stay in shape. Nothing unusual there. (And) when I am in exercise mode, I will work hard, striving ‘to feel the burn’, whether it requires 30 minutes on a stationery bike or, of late, my two mile ‘run’, I am trying my best to exercise my muscles. Yet, prior to yesterday, I can’t remember the last time I felt that my legs were made of rubber. Tired out, winded, tight feeling in back of legs, sure, but rubbery? no. Clearly I have been nowhere near the limits of my physical strength/condition/capacity in a long, long time. And I was not aware of it.

That was the insight that made yesterday’s work adventure worthwhile.  What we tell ourselves, about ourselves is, by and large, intended to maintain the status quo. The insidious-ness of this is that not only can I have ‘good intentions’…. (stay healthy-exercise! learn more-study! find romance-take showers!)  but I can ‘take action’… (run 2 miles- boy that was tough! get a B- hey my studying paid off! find true love-I can get used to a person who uses double negatives!).  All without knowing my true capability/capacity/talent really.  Because of the tales we tell ourselves.

 

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TToT the Wakefield Doctrine “…how did he do that??! comic sans title!??! my hero!!” http://wakefielddoctrine.com/2014/08/16/ttot-the-wakefield-doctrine-how-did-they-do-that-comic-sans-title-my-hero/ http://wakefielddoctrine.com/2014/08/16/ttot-the-wakefield-doctrine-how-did-they-do-that-comic-sans-title-my-hero/#comments Sat, 16 Aug 2014 11:59:23 +0000 http://wakefielddoctrine.com/?p=23387

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Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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1) to celebrate the ego this weekend, I will make each of the following items something that: a) I try to bring from my rogerian aspect and 2) makes me (the predominant clark) totally cringe

2) I had a great week! And this, despite all the resistance I met, between clients not listening, the lawn mower blade refusing to cut the grass…just so and the girl at Dunkin Donuts who spilled some coffee down the side of my coffee cup, making it sticky to the touch, so much so that I had to get a damp paper towel when I returned to the office, where I had several great deals to finish the paperwork on!

3) pretty impressive work with the Title of today’s Post, isn’t it? (it was nothing, all you had to do was think about it and in all modesty, it was obvious, at least to me,  how to do it, but then , that’s just how I approach things)

4) I want to thank everyone for their great responses and out-pouring of support for my campaign to attract more rogerian Readers! I know it sounds like an impossible task, but I feel I kind of owe to all the followers and readers who look forward to the Posts that I write here at the Wakefield Doctrine.

5) I want to thank one of my biggest fans, she had a really great compliment and I was, to be quite honest, pleasantly surprised when she wrote, “I think the Wakefield Doctrine posts are really outstanding and I find something in each one that I read that helps me every day. How you manage to have such insights is beyond me, but I am grateful that you do!”   …well, I’m not making any promises, but I’ll see what I can do!

6) I’m glad that I have such a wonderful and satisfying job and home! You know, and this will probably come as a surprise to you, sometimes when I think about how nice my home is and how, with all the support I get from everyone here at the house, I get a little emotional, at the idea of how many people in the world would give anything to have as good a life as I have made for myself here.

7) I want to thank my assistant hosts for all their help in putting together this bloghop, I can’t imagine how much more difficult it would be if I didn’t have them all helping and pitching in wherever they can. What a great bunch of gals!

8) Looks like I’m almost out of space! You know, considerering* how well things are going, maybe we should have a Twenty Things or Thirty Things each week!

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10) below there is, what is becoming, our traditional Friday evening walk with Una….at least until the days get too short to go for a walk in the evening.

 

* ‘considering’ you know… that would make a great title for a Post! Maybe I should… nah!  too many people are depending on my producing the Posts here at the Doctrine, not that I couldn’t, but I don’t think it’s really necessary

** unless, you know, you didn’t find anything wrong with it, in which case we need to talk

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‘Friday-potluck’ the Wakefield Doctrine ‘it’s Weekend Eve!’ http://wakefielddoctrine.com/2014/08/15/friday-potluck-the-wakefield-doctrine-its-weekend-eve/ http://wakefielddoctrine.com/2014/08/15/friday-potluck-the-wakefield-doctrine-its-weekend-eve/#comments Fri, 15 Aug 2014 11:49:14 +0000 http://wakefielddoctrine.com/?p=23374

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I would like all clarklike Readers to go over to Lizzi’s, (if you haven’t already) and read  her Post. Needless to say, this is not a call to cheer her up, there are plenty of scotts and rogers already there doing that, rather, I’d like you to go, read her Post, come back and comment here…about her Post. No! wait… this is not as weird or intrusive as it sounds! Well, maybe…ok ok! I’ll accept intrusive…maybe even…. no! not weird. The fact of the matter is that, this little exercise is a way for clarks to realize a benefit from knowing what you know about the Wakefield Doctrine. And no, this is not a ‘there but for the grace of god’ thing…. (the topic of Lizzi’s Post), I’ve gone there, if you’re a clark, you’ve gone there…. hell!  if you’re a roger or a scott (with a sufficiently strong secondary clarklike aspect), you have felt like Lizzi feels (in her Post).

So, just get over there and come back and comment and I’ll make my point, titled ‘Lizzi and the exceptionalism of the Outsiders (or ‘too much good, does a clark bad‘)

Other items and matters at hand.

Good Comments from everyone on the matter of age and clarks   ( “I think I’ve been old since childhood…at least.”  zoe     ”I grew up in a friggin’ nursing home. AND my brothers and sisters range in age from 12-22 years older than I am. I never had a chance to “be my age.” :P”  Cyndi   and   Denise:  ”So now, when I’m old, I can know that I wasn’t the only kid who felt at times like her contemporaries were ….silly. LOL Where was the Doctrine when I was a kid!” ) I can only say, ‘is this a personality theory or is this a personality theory?’
To be serious for a moment, if I ‘m going to attract our rogerian brethren (and I’m talking about the very rogerian rogers, not just the enlightened rogers such as Michelle and Kristi
 those two are, frankly, the exceptions and we are totally grateful to have them in the conversation that is this blog.) Nope! I’m talking about socially-connected, engaging conversationalists, perfectionist, by-the-book-edness, know-instinctively-what-everyone-will-be-wearing-next-season, every hair in place, rogers! Despite their kind accounting for 2/3s of the human population, they can be hard to find…at least as individuals. They prefer the comfort and company of their kind and do not have much free time to spend on visiting a zoo. (lol)  However…..

…we do have scotts around here, and rogers?  they loves they scotts. That’s all I’ll say on the topic, for now. Dyanne wrote a Comment that is metaphorically so illustrative of the clark-scott relationship (you know,  coming up with a ball, dropping it on your foot, looking at you, looking at the ball, looking at you….) I’d re-print the Comment, but I think it might be best for you, if you are curious, to go to yesterday’s Post and read all about it.  But, scotts are fun and, like our rogers, we are grateful that we have people like Christine and Dyanne and Joy and Stephanie coming around. (In case the cops show up…or things get boring and we don’t care if the cops show up… that’s what scottian friends are for!)

ok…. here’s a vid that I found amusing yesterday.

here’s an impromptu  vid postlette from on my way to work…

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