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Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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So lets continue last week’s Too-sday motif, with this re-print (from one of the Pages) in this here blog here.

 

With apologies to Jeff Foxworthy, we’ll borrow his
‘If you… then you might be a redneck’   

 

If you immediately stop surfing the channels because you come upon a show that uses only black and white documentary photos and film…you might be a roger

If you love Christmas lawn decorations and cannot imagine having too many lights… you might be a scott

If you find a flier stuck under the windshield wiper of your car and you take the time to read it… you might be a clark.

When asked virtually any question, you preface answer with “that’s interesting because in the beginning…”  you might be a clark.

Someone gets your name wrong and you answer to it without correcting them… you might be a clark.

As a child building model cars, you made sure that the leftover, extra parts were put back in the box along with the re-folded instructions for future safekeeping…you might be a roger.

You think that Slacker was the greatest movie made in the 90s...you might be a clark

You think that Borat was one of the funniest movies of 2006…you might be a scott

You think that the 107 episode,  Directors cut, 15 DVD un-abashed edition of the compilation (with Writers notes (including what he had for breakfast) and voice-over reading of the credits by someone who knew someone who was a re-enactor who actually got hurt at an event) of all Ken Burns films, PBS episodes and commercials that last longer than most readings of the Iliad is the greatest film of all time…you might be a roger

If you have any inclination to wear hats for a fashion statement (and you are a guy) or a ‘fanny pack’, or, for that matter, any clothing designed specifically for riding a bicycle (branded or un-branded)…you might be a roger.

If you happen to be at a golf tournament and feel that it is expected of the members of the gallery to yell anything (including, but not limited to. “get in the hole!!”)…you might be a scott.

If you are contemplating a project of any sort; a new deck or a term paper, writing a resume or planting a garden:

  • you look forward to making the list of things you need to buy/gather/acquire first more than anything else…you might be a clark
  • you need to check at least 2 Seasons of your favorite ‘do it yourself’  that is what you want…you might be a roger
  • CONTEMPLATE? PLAN? I JUST FINISHED IT! FUCK YOU ITS DONE NO THIS IS FINE THE WAY IT IS… you might be a scott

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Seeing as, this Summer, we have not a few Readers who are quite conversant, (some even approaching fluent), in the Wakefield Doctrine, I thought I would try a series of posts that focused on real life situations.

New Readers? the Wakefield Doctrine is simply a perspective on life that offers (an) insight that is unique, useful and fun. The Wakefield Doctrine is not an ‘Answer’,  rather it is a ‘what if’ question applied to …well, applied to everything!  Learn to use this Wakefield Doctrine and you should never again hear yourself say, “My god! I don’t believe they just said that! I really thought I knew them better!” All that is required is a confident sense of curiosity and a healthy imagination. Everything else will follow, provided you are able to accept that:

  • there are three worldviews (personal realities) that everyone lives their lives in, regardless of age, gender, culture or patience
  • these three are: the world of the Outsider(clarks), the reality of the Predator(scotts) and the life of the Herd Member(rogers)
  • we are all born with the potential to live in one of these three, which we do by age 5 or so, however, we never lose the capacity to see the world as do ‘the other two’
  • through reading the Posts and the Pages (of this blog), you learn the characteristics associated with each of the three personality types sufficiently to recognize them in the people around you
  • by observing the behavior of the people in your life you will be able to infer how they, ‘relate themselves to the world around them’

that’s all you need to get started. (Tip: when trying to decide which of the three personality types a person is, immediately throw out the ‘yeah, no frickin way‘ worldview, that will leave you with only two to compare and contrast.) Read the Posts and, especially, the Comments, as these are from people like yourself who stumbled across this blog and didn’t have the good sense to keep moving on. (Encouragement: If you are still reading this, your chances of ‘getting’ the Wakefield Doctrine have risen from 0 to 47%.  and…and! if you read three more Posts and come back here and still find the Doctrine intriguing, then we want to hear from you, so write us a Comment. Your initial impressions are important to us, they would be appreciated.)

Case Study #1

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(with) rogers, we can often see what, for the partial purpose of being confusing, is a certain… quality that we call their Expression.*  (This) Expression is the objective edifice of a roger’s personality, it is their ‘purpose’ to/within the Herd. Often it manifests as (an) occupation or profession, (scientist, accountant, prosecuting attorney or judge).  It can also be an avocation or hobby (i.e. cabinet making, stamp collecting, genealogy or ship-in-bottle builder). It, (this Expression), can even be something as fundamental as: keeping house, maintaining a family life or staying in touch with relatives (near or far). a roger, as a Rule (ha, ha), does not consciously set out to find and develop an Expression. (This is not to say that there is not a predisposition to a certain type of activity that becomes their Expression, it’s just that they are not thinking, “Now… what do I want for my Expression”). Having said that, there are certain values, qualities, characteristics necessary in this Expression.  For example,  a roger’s Expression must be perceived both as a value to others (in the Herd) and a manifestation of the virtue of disciplined effort (on the part of an individual). One way of confirming (a roger’s) Expression is the ‘everyone knows’ test.  ’Walter is such a talented woodworker, everyone knows how good he is’ or ‘Martha is so focused on family, anyone who meets her senses that right away’

In Case Study#1 we have a roger with an Expression of musical talent, technical musical skills, music. This means, very simply, that had you the capability of visiting this roger at any time throughout his life, you would have seen a guitar somewhere in the scene. The circumstances (and the guitar) might be different at various times, but it would always be there.
I need to introduce another concept at this point:  context.
‘Context’ is (a) reason, (it is) the need, the opportunity that roger would have in his life, (at any given point in time), to manifest his Expression. This/these contexts  might consist of being a member of a band, or having a recital as part of a class in a community college, it might simply be helping a friend, (filling in for an absent musician). The key to these contexts is that there is a need, for roger to play. And, this need, is from those around him, not simply a subjective demand to play, (which, in turn,  is a different aspect of the Expression) . ( If you are now thinking, ‘ …you’re talking about the Herd, right? the people around him who are identified as Herd Members?’   very astute! good!)

…what happens when there cease to be contexts?

(to be cont’d)

(hey, I wrote most of the above yesterday. When I got up this morning, I thought… ‘jeeze! clark  you better spice that Post up! ever body be snoozing by paragraph 2!! ‘cept for zoe and that’s only cause she a professional…. any good teacher  or presenter…. or speaker-in-front-of-more-than-one-person-er  knows that!!

so here are three jokes, please insert them in the place of your choice in today’s post

    • Julius Caesar walks into a bar. “I’ll have a martinus,” he says. The Bartender gives him a puzzled look and asks, “Don’t you mean a ‘martini’?”
”  Look,” Caesar retorts, “If I wanted a double, I’d have asked for it!”
    • So Jesus walks into a bar and says, “I’ll just have a glass of water.”
    • A blonde(clark), a brunette(roger) and a redhead(scott) were stuck on an island for many, many years until one day they found a magic lamp.
      They rubbed it hard and out popped a genie. He said that he could only give three wishes so since there were three girls, each would get one wish. The redheaded scottian female went first. “I hate it here. It is too hot and boring. I want to go home!” “Okay,” replied the genie. And off she went. Then the brunette rogerian woman went. “I miss my family, my friends and relatives. I want to go home, too!!”And off she went.The blonde clark started crying and said, “I wish my friends were back here!”

* to be confused with a ‘rogerian expression’, which is a form of rhetorical aggressiveness (usually spoken, but possible as the written word) that is characteristic of this worldview.

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1) the lead picture: gift envelope from my friend zoe… (as a rule, I have never been a fan of receiving mail, seeing how up until the last year, all I got was/were bills). But here I am, getting envelopes from foreign countries and, even Massachusetts!

2) …contained in the (above) envelope was a gift (also from zoe, which should be no surprise, as she was the one who sent the envelope) a card holder… as in business card.  very cool

3) I am grateful for whatever it is that gets me to jump up and include a piece of my ‘real life’ in a blog Post.  Let me re-phrase that: I am grateful for the friends I have here in the ‘sphere,  because I am, apparently, quite comfortable including pretty much any strange-ass thought/impression/occurrence on these pages.   An example: so, like, a few minutes ago, I’m cable-surfing and stop for a second at the Weather Channel because I hear someone say, ‘Indiana‘… naturally I think, ‘hey, thats where Christine lives!’*  The whether guy says, “…a threat of thunderstorms into tonight, and we have to mention, of course, that there is always a chance of tornadoes in or around or near the center of this area (a red blob on his whether map), there is a 3 out of 10 chance** of possible tornadoes!!  So you should be prepared with your NOAA radios or apps and standby for any  ’life threatening warnings‘!”  I laughed.

4) I am grateful that I don’t live with Dyanne (well, not grateful that I don’t live with her…that might not be awful, just not in Tornado Junction OK (or Missouri or wherever it is she and I do not live together at)… I was raised on the 1940s movie, ‘Wizard of Oz’, and even though I have never seen a tornado in person, I find the very concept totally frightening. Now, I’ve stood on the beach as the eye of a hurricane passes,  but tornadoes? …way too identifiable, personal, specific …scary storms.

5) hey, older Readers!! anyone of an an age to have seen and enjoyed watching ‘The Wizard of Oz’, allow me to recommend ‘Tin Man’  this is a most excellent re-telling of the original… you should look it up and watch it, you’ll be glad you did. (Hey hey! according to my reading of the the BoSR, (aka BoR) this counts as a paid-forward-gratitude-item!)

6) glad that this bloghop enables me to make movie recommendations! My reading of ‘the Book’ says that if you take my advice, watch the movie and enjoy it, then next week you should have a 10% easier time writing your TToT!

7) I am grateful this week to my wife Phyllis for writing our Guest Post Thursday Guest Post this week…very nice work, quite rogerian  (the rogerian weeks are coming to be my favorite of the three cycling Guest Posts)

8) I am hypograteful for the progress of the current Summer season. I am, of course, glad the days are long and last almost until night, but I am one of those people who, when asked by some scott ‘Hey!  hot enough for ya?!’  will answer, sincerely and truthfully, ‘why no, no it is not hot enough for me’. I see ahead on the calendar… scenes of Eskimos raking leaves and gathering food for the long, cold and not warm winter season. In fact, when I leave the office in the middle of the day, and my car has been sitting in the sun for a couple of hours, I enjoy putting both hands on the steering wheel and feeling the warmth, sort of a 29.3 mpg sauna, ya know?

9) …that so many of my friends online go on vacation….Lizzi this week, Christine last week, Dyanne the week before and…and Joy the week before that, I enjoy the concept of ‘going on a vacation’ and so get a kick out of hearing about their time, at the shore, in the woods, on the road.

10)  …oh, yeah! I am grateful for all the new Readers and Participants at this here bloghop, here  ( like Pattie  and Val  and NaPR  and Jen… Summer can be busy and often the ‘regulars’ have activities that draw them away during these weeks. (Sort of how, if you had to had to go to Summer School, you might get to know people you only saw in passing during the normal school year).  …and I enjoy watching people come here for the third time and see it dawn on them,  ”you mean you can make up Rules, as long as they are clever enough?”  or  ” so, if I see someone say something to someone else in a Post, it’s not rude to, like, totally interrupt?!?”  even,   “GuardVirgins?  what the hell kind of bloghop have I stumbled in to?!!?”  not to worry…  if anything too weird seems to happen, you can always ask zoe

 

 

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Welco…

hey, it’s causal Friday. no!  no need  to be formal, take your cap(ital letter)s off…leave the grammiticon at the door. it’s a Summer Friday …er day.  …as Friend of the Doctrine, Glenn might say, ‘don’t worry ’bout nothin’

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hell, I might even drag out a case of comic sans, things get mellow enough, ya know?

Anyway. Big thankation to Phyllis for helping us continue the increasingly popular series, Thursday’s Guest Post Thursday Post. She provided us with a very good/interesting/fun Post.  It was all that I have come to expect from rogers, interesting and engaging in an odd, (but pleasurable), way.  you know, like a full-on diorama in a first class museum…with, like prehistoric family scene (not the Raquel Welch…or even Barbara Bach version…. maybe the Rae Dawn Chong version)… you look and notice all the amazing details and can’t help but wonder (at least the clarks do) what they might be doing to pass the July afternoon up in the Dordogne part of France…

as a matter of fact, just last evening, I was talking to the progenitor roger about the series and I made the statement, “…of ‘the three’, the rogerian Posts have somehow been the most Guest Post-ly”. Meaning that scotts, hell! their Posts are like their real lives: fun, outrageous, un-un-noticable. clarks… their posts are kind of a, I don’t know… ‘pain-in-the-neck, aggravating… but the rogerian Posts have totally been, ‘oh, I see. how interesting’

speaking of clarks, scotts and rogers… we all remember that this Doctrine is meant to be used as a tool, right? not just a ‘tool to help better understand the people in our lives‘ but, (also), a tool to better understand our own-selfs, to be used to self-improve ourselves. The idea is, of course,  that by understanding, appreciating and accepting the different realities of the three worldviews, we are less likely to get trapped, (and therefore limiting our choices of actions), by misunderstanding how the other person is experiencing the situation. This approach to self-development is better than anything because, as we all know, while you have only one predominant worldview, you always have the potential of being able to see the world as do ‘the other two’.

…anyway. quick question:

if I decide to do a series of Posts that uses a real life problem/challenge/opportunity-to-improve as an example of how the Wakefield Doctrine might be an effective tool, should I:

  • use a problem that is common to most people (and not just olden ones) but is a fiction, made up…not nearly true (not even a story done with the skill of our Ms. Rogers….where you have more trouble believing her when she ends the story with ‘This is Fiction’ than you do giving up your involvement with the character in (her) story), you know, a composite situation    (or)
  • my own stupid life, I’m sure I can find something to put up in print (though the character might end of being a bit boring and likely to cause you all to scream at your computers/phones,  ”what??!?! are you nuts?!?! you don’t see what a self-setup that is ?!?!   jeez!!!  don’t forget to run down the battery in your phone and throw your car keys in the woods before you walk into the abandoned building (metaphorically speaking of course)  hey, don’t destroy the illusion for us, you don’t really fall for a rogerian trap like that, do you?….come on!”
  • roger (the progenitor) has a potentially interesting, albeit a problem that will require 4 or 5 thousand words of set up, life situation that I personally believe would be very useful of this purpose, but it is his story….
  • volunteers from the Readership… give us a situation that you have encountered (directly or as observed in a person in your life), and lets see what we can find in this here Doctrine here to help

seeing how Friday this Post is, lets leave it at that… tell us what you would find interesting enough to follow and we’ll start a Series.

 

 

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Our guest Post Writer on this week’s Thursday Guest Post Thursday is Phyllis. She is a roger, a chemist (a decidedly rogerian profession) and she runs a large environmental lab (full of rogers). Phyllis does not have a blog. She is, nevertheless,  fluent  in the principles (and application) of the Wakefield Doctrine. (She is responsible for identifying an ‘artifact’ from  the rogerian worldview, ‘ to lead from behind’).  This week,  instead of citing Posts and providing links, listing awards for writing and recognition from the blogosphere, I will tell the story  behind the above photo.

The dog is Bella. She was Phyllis’ dog, (Phyllis was alpha in our pack-of-three, which meant she was the center of Bella’s world). Bella had health problems from the very beginning, but this story is not about how Phyllis made Bella’s life all that a dog could hope for. Bella’s health failed in the last year of her life, but this story is not about how Phyllis did not give up on her dog, instead finding a way for her to have an additional year of good quality life. Rather, this story is about Bella’s last day on earth.
… one day, on a startlingly beautiful day, in early Autumn, Bella’s health took a sudden turn for the worse.  we knew that it was ‘a perfect day’.  Bella still felt good, active and walks (albeit short ones) were taken in the woods that she enjoy, she had one of her favorite meals  (Dinty Moore) for lunch, Bella was tired but clearly very happy to spend the day (a weekday, no less) with her pack. The family vet was called to the house and, eventually, we all sat in the yard, waiting for the time.

Did I mention that Phyllis was a roger?  …rogers live in, and of, a world grounded in emotion. (They can be loudly emotional, at other times, they might be quietly and intensely emotional. rogers can seem consumed by (their own) emotions and occasionally they will overwhelm those around them, such fundamental things (are these) emotions.)

That day in September, as Phyllis undertook the most difficult task that a person with a dog can be asked to do, the (emotional) atmosphere among those in our backyard was one of peace and calmness. I could feel it. Bella felt it. On her blanket she radiated that amazing sense of poise that dogs exhibit when they are among ‘their pack’.

Phyllis?

A guest post.

 

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Items on my desk make me a Roger

·        Picture of RI governor and me at previous job (reminds me how important I must be)

 

·        Picture of Mom and me

Rogers believe in pictures of families, especially dead ones.

The only thing I specifically requested from Mom’s house was her desk with all the old pictures.

I added Clark’s dead relatives to it.

 

·        Mini Cooper computer mouse

Did I mention that my sneaker laces match the color of my mini? (What a Roger).

 

·        Picture of Ola (First Dog)

 

·        Picture of Bella (My Rogerian Dog)

 

·        Coffee cup with Una photos (not used for coffee – just for decoration)

 

·        Collage of Clark, Bella and me

 

·        Lots of mounds of paper (to make me look important)

 

Redemption (also known as exhibiting my Clark-like attributes)

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I IRON CLARK’S SHIRTS!!!!!!

 

  • For the past year, I have ironed Clark’s shirts and it brings me the biggest chuckle.
  • If there was a category: most unlikely to iron shirts, I would be top of the list. And yet, I iron Clark’s shirts.
  • For those who believe in miracles, very miraculous.
  • My mom taught me and my sister how to iron. She was a Roger, and we also learned how to set a table for 12 courses.
  • I grew up thinking that “I will NEVER EVER be subservient to anyone. I will never clean, cook, and definitely not iron.”
  • Yet I iron Clark’s shirts.
  • When we first became a couple, in the fall of 1982, Clark asked “Will you iron my shirts?” I said “No, thank you”
  • Thirty years go by, and my Mom gets sick and dies.
  •  I get her iron – deluxe model.
  • I find I miss her a lot. One day, out of grief, I start to iron – makes me smile each and every time.  

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(ed.note: the above vid was picked for a Post topic that has since been discarded, still works, no?)

hey! Readers between the ages of  30 to 40 …quick!! what performers are the 18 to 20 year olds in college listening to right now, today?  …don’t laugh, ’41 to 60 y.o.s  what are the names of the three highest drawing live music acts that will bring out the 13 to 15 years old set?  ok, good, …don’t get too confident!  golf fans!!! yeah, you!! who is the current top seed male tennis player?  (hell, lets make it easy on the golf fans… hey! golfers!!! who recently deposed the (previous) top player on the LPGA?   …no, I didn’t think so.)

People sometimes have difficulty ‘getting’ the Wakefield Doctrine and the leading reason for this is the concept of worldview (aka personal reality).  The Doctrine is predicated on the notion that we all live in a reality that is personal. The ‘personality types’ of the Wakefield Doctrine are simply markers for the (characteristic) worldview that a given person grows up, develops and lives their lives in, day in and day out. Rather than ask you, the Reader, a series of questions and then seeing what category you fit in, the Wakefield Doctrine would have you try to infer how a person is ‘relating themself to the world around them. If you can do that, then you will know more about that person than they know about themselves. And the way we get to the point of being able to correctly infer the worldview of a person is by a thorough understanding of the characteristics of the three worldviews:

  1. the reality of the Outsider that results in a clarklike personality person, (…sitting invisibly next to you through 4 years of high school, dreaming of the chance of being normal and you expect him to believe that washing your hair is the only reason you can’t go to a fuckin football game… or giving the freshman rogers their first look at  MC Escher and Maxfield Parrish prints only to be left sitting there on the single bed with the macramé wall hangings and the ‘hang in there, baby’ poster taped to the cinderblock wall as he just about runs out of your dorm room because his girlfriend from high school decided she would entertain a further apology )
  2. the life of the Predator, who survives growing up in a world of Predator and Prey simply is that person (male or female… yay!! for the female…woohooo!! scottian women…. the stiletto  shoes industry bows before your plunging neckline…. and male scotts??  hell, how else was I ever expecting to end up in the Principals office/local police station/soldout concert in Boston with 3 dollars in gas and 40 minutes to get there?!?!  of the three personality types, who better knows that life is all about today?)
  3. the orderly, predictable, quantifiable and there-is-a-Right-way-to-do-things world of the Herd Member, rogers to the right of you and rogers to the left of you, they are all around, always, simply because the roger lives in the center of the herd….which herd? does not matter… why are they of the herd? didn’t you hear me? they are in the center of the herd, with rogers to the left and rogers to the right…what more do you need to know? male or female, they are there, wherever you go, unless you are stranded on a desert island and, you start to think, ‘well, I’m here alone stranded on a desert island, so I guess there are no rogers around’ and then you realize you are talking to a decorated coconut….and you are not alone)

ok…out of time today.  Molly’s Rule?  go ask her… here’s her Facebook page  (she’s a friend of the Doctrine and so, probably won’t have you blocked for stalking her…but you never know, better go ahead and tell her the Doctrine sent ya)

 

Don’t forget!!! tomorrow is Guest Post Thursday’s Weekly Once a Week Guest Post….Thursday   rogers!

 

*once we were talking about writing on one of the Saturday Night Drive calls…and I was asking the same old question: how to better get the Doctrine across to the Readers, and Molly, who knows her way around story writing said, ‘you don’t need to give them every possible fact or information, assume they are intelligent enough to get it and if they need more information, they can ask‘  (or words to that effect). I try to keep the Rule in mind, and sometimes even manage to apply it.

 

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Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Yes, for those of you who smiled at this Title? I am proud to know you, you are well versed at our little personality theory. Anyone wondering why:

  • one might have guessed and/or not been surprised
  • how you could have known that

just ask one of the Readers, like Lizzi or Cyndi or zoe or Christine or Kristi or Dyanne or Michelle… some of them will give you a straight and serious answers, but, some of them will kid you a bit, before telling you what you think you want to know.  While you’re working up your nerve to write a Comment/question, here is the aforementioned re-print Post  from…. November 13 2012

‘and a thousand telephones that will not ring,  the Wakefield Doctrine: the theory of personality predicated on three characteristic worldviews’

Question: If your husband is a roger and you are a clark, is it true that they never accept how much you have changed over the years, since you first met?
Answer: Too true1

(Welcome to ‘ya shoulda just asked Tuesday’! We will be presenting some common questions and the semi-comprehensive answers…along with a little commentary, mostly to let us get away with dividing the page into block quotes.’)

Question: My best friend is funny and fun to be with, but sometimes when we are around other people he gets like, mean even goes and picks on me. But this happens only with certain people, this big kid that (my friend) knows. What gives?

Answer: Chances are your friend is a scott and the person that, when they’re around, your friend starts acting mean?…well, that other person is a scott too, but they are what we call dominant (to your friend). So your friend, even though he is picking on you, doesn’t mean to hurt your friendship… it’s a pack2 thing, you know?
Answer: jeez, if you say so

(This question deals with the changing pack order (from the scottian perspective) and it’s effects on the behavior of a scott. Note: this question (and by implication, the experience cited), will most likely be posed by a clark. Do you know why that should be?)

Question: My fiancée and I are getting close to the Big Day. When we first got engaged, we both agreed to keep the ceremony and everything on the quiet, low-key side, but lately, ( the wedding is in 3 months), she has been talking more to her sisters and some of her old friends and it seems like the guest list is getting bigger and bigger. What gives?

Answer: She is probably a roger. Forget about changing her mind. It means a lot to her, in a way that you will never understand.  So relax! Sneak a couple of your friends that she might not have approved when the guest list was small, she probably won’t even notice now, and if she does make an issue of it, say the following to her (word for word): “I understand how important family is to you now. And even though I am not close to my family, you have shown me that my feelings3 of friendship with (fill in the names of you friends) make them like family. Won’t you let my family join your family …darling?

(And there are those who would say, ‘Hey Wakefield Doctrinaires! Sure you have a uniquely clever take on personality types, but what about practical applications? Huh, what about those?‘ Well, here ya go! Who cannot not identify with this situation? …not counting the rogers, of course!)

Question: My boss is nice enough, but it seems like he tries too hard to be, like my friend or something! Every day it is ‘how are you doing?’, “is there anything I can do to make your job easier?” I mean, all the time! I can’t get any work done when he is in the office, he is always offering to ‘help’! I might be able to deal with this, except that every time I do get some work done that he needs to sign off on, he always finds  fault! And if I come up with something on my own initiative (he likes to say that he wants me to try to ‘think outside the box’) he is either totally negative or acts like he is amazed that I actually did it myself!  Should I quite my job?
Answer: Probably.4

(This Question deals with a scenario that is all too common. And, although we do not propose that all bosses are rogers, we will say this, ‘If your boss is a scott you have: a) a good time everyday up until the day he decides that it is time to change careers or b) a lead pipe cinch of a sexual harassment lawsuit, so the day you get tired of her shenanigans, ‘it’s sayonara see ya in court’
If your boss is a clark, then we know the following: a) if your clarklike boss is female then her boss is a roger, if your clarklike boss is male then his boss is a scott!  and b) they (clarks) make great bosses, will stick up for you totally against all opponents, but jeez! enough with the leadership by consensus! Get a set, yo.

That music referenced in the Title of today’s Post? Totally weird. I’m sitting and watching TV and a commercial comes on and before I can hit ‘MUTE’ I hear the music in the background (of the commercial) and I’m off to the great and omnicient google… and here we are

 

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1) rogers are about consistency, if they are about anything at all! The worldview of the herd (rogers) maintains that history, tradition, continuity…consistency is of the greatest good! The worldview is also one in which the individual’s relationship with the world-at-large manifests primarily in emotional terms. So when a (lasting) relationship forms, the details of ‘the other’ person are important, in a sense, manifesting the emotional investment. So, as time goes by, even though people change and grow and develop, the roger will still insist on seeing the ‘original person’

2) scotts, in the initial behavioral metaphor: like pack animals, i.e. wolves, dogs, lions and such. The social ranking in the pack is one of simple dominance, an alpha at ‘the top’ and everyone else in order of strength/prowess/capability downward from there. It is a primary characteristic of the scottian personality type to establish ranking when entering a new (social ) environment. Literally going from person to  person, figuratively pushing them on the shoulder in order to establish ranking

3) emotions! always play the emotion-card when dealing with rogers!

4) you could try to…nah, don’t even bother.  Maybe if you got to the Doctrine sooner, you might have learned enough to invoke your own rogerian aspect to re-configure your work relationship… but too hard, too frustrating, easier to get another job. But then again, most bosses/middle managers/supervisors/Principals are rogers!  so maybe you should be asking about the Wakefield Doctrine School of Self-Improving Oneself…school

 

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(I normally would spend a lot of time here,at the top of the Post, trying to avert misunderstandings on the part of Readers for the following, by pre-explaining and/or qualifying statement that I think might be mis…somethinged. But, today  no. Not this time).

clarks mean well. clarks try so very hard to:  do well, to live up to their potential, to not let their parents (and families down), to be good students, to not disappoint, to learn and be like others, earn a good living and support their families, to not be too distant and be the person that their spouse deserves, to learn how to act like others and not be so strange, (clarks) want to be accepted and will work and try without reward or reinforcement, towards this goal, needing only to not feel that they are being looked at and laughed at for being that ‘strange one’.

Had an interesting experience/reaction today. I often, when in a situation that carries the threat of un-wanted attention or un-earned rewards, find ways to sabotage myself. How I sabotage myself varies and is so innate that, in some circumstances, you would think I was doing it to myself on purpose! (lol*)  In any event, for reasons unclear to me, on this particular morning, I got mad at this self-sabotage. Now, I know what some of you are thinking, “…don’t you mean, clark, that you were getting mad at yourself”
Only at first.
And then, I was angry only just enough to disrupt the cycle, (which is often, but not always, possible to do). But that is not what prompts me to write this Post. What prompts me to write this Post is that shortly after this occurrence , as I continued to drive along in my car, I thought about my living with this kind of thing.  And, then I thought of the/a young(er) clark, experiencing something that while clearly a self-induced ….’thing’, and despite knowing that it is/it was,  all in my mind, (it) still happens.

…and a surprisingly strong feeling of sadness came over me.

not for myself, driving along in my German luxury car, working in a business that is challenging, enjoyable and rewarding,  but for that clark that I was.  and, (being in possession of the Wakefield Doctrine), for all the other clarks out there who have a similar experience. It really was quite a remarkable 30 minutes or so (see? I’m back to normal…I described it as remarkable).

As I sat behind the wheel, letting this emotion have it’s way, I thought   ‘how un-necessary’.  In the special mental/emotional shorthand we all have, I knew that somehow this self-sabotage was directly a result/consequence/offshoot of my efforts to learn my way out of being ‘the Outsider’.  and, while I do not, for a second, devalue the efforts that I have put towards this end, (as does every clark, everywhere to one degree or another), I felt sad that I could not somehow reach back to my younger self and say, ‘don’t worry, even though being an Outsider is not necessarily your first choice, you are doing good work and you can feel proud of the effort, independent of whether anyone else in the world acknowledges it. you are a good and sufficient person’

…this Wakefield Doctrine, man!  

(oddly enough, I was talking to Denise last night about how the Doctrine offers so many different ways to aid in the effort to self-improve ourselves, and that I have not even begun to scratch the surface, in these Posts.)

I debated with myself  whether adding a favorite music vid, (thinking,  ’Werewolves of London’) would be too much of distraction from what I wrote, a typical clarklike effort to ‘hedge my bet with the world’… as much as the ‘smile of a clark‘  which we all recognize, the pressing of the lips together, a glance out of the corner of our eyes, all to make sure we aren’t smiling where we are not welcome.

…and I decided that it was.

 

* lol: ‘laugh out loud’ I am told that use of this…expression marks me as out of: date/touch/cool/current blog writing practices. too bad)

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Mid-Summer Edition of the 10 Things of Thankful.

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!)  Joy Christi for giving of her time and not inconsiderable talent on Thursday’s Guest Post Thursday Guest Post. She is a scott and we are very grateful that she consented to writing for our weekly series. While there is no pre-set theme or ‘organizing view’ being imposed on our Guests, there is nevertheless an understanding, on the part of Readers of all these Posts. The Doctrine maintains that it is possible to appreciate the world as the other person is experiencing it. Consider each Thursday an opportunity to see through the eyes of another, who, we are being given the advantage to know, is an Outsider(clark) or a Predator(scott) or a Herd Member(roger). Kinda like Doctrine practice, but with jokes and pictures and other things, but without, unfortunately team uniforms.

@) vidchats enjoyable chatation last night. Lizzi and I opened the evening on a more formal note, with her just in from a night on the town, still in evening dress. we were joined by Denise (going old school with audio only) then, a rather pleasant surprise…Jean!  followed by Laura  and zoe (all too briefly) and Michelle (from tomorrow) and finally Joy. fun, informative (we did hear from Christine who reported that she was either: a) driving on a van on vacation or 2) sitting in a Formula1 car, waiting to start the race…wasn’t too clear on that…

#) Cars

$)      dogs (Una, of course)

%)              video phones

^)                         and an enthusiasm  for an idea, (the Wakefield Doctrine), that overcomes all sense of what is ‘interesting to others’ (as opposed to) what is ‘interesting only to me’ (for a sleeker look to today’s 10 List…here is link to vid)

&)  (as I alluded to in this week’s vid entry (Item Number ^ above), I am constantly and permanently grateful for the fun that Lizzi and the 9 hostinae bring to this weekly exercise in finding the better side of life. In fact, I believe I made this point in a Comment to someone last week, to the effect that, though the idea of a gratitude-based bloghop is not unique, the attitude and fun that permeates the TToT is

*)  Secret Book of Rules (aka Book of Secret Rules)  I mentioned to L last night that there are more and more new participants this Summer. Which is a good thing. The questions about the BoSR are not un-expected and, in fact, welcomed.  ’The Book’ is full of useful, fun, potentially-backfire-and-make-you-look-silly, clever and, at times life saving rules, exceptions, provisions and conditions that can be employed in the process of writing a TToT list. The only caveat, is that there are (said to be) Seven GuardVirgins who hold the power to judge the appropriateness of a Rule. Lizzi and zoe are our resident experts on these….. er  personages. Best check with them.  (you know the most fun about a lot of this bloghop? it’s discovering and coining words and such. I’m thinking of Sarah who, unless I’m mistaken, has made popular the reference ‘SGV’…. seems like a little thing, but cool nonetheless)

()  as always, I gotta cite my personal sine qua non…. the Wakefield Doctrine

!))  Hey!  new people!!  free tip on the BoSR (aka SB0R)….SR 1.3   (which states, in part: the completion of a list of Ten Things, may, in fact, be included and cited as an item of that selfsame list; provided that it isn’t used every week and gets, you know, like old….)

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here is the video that you are so incredibly intrigued by the alluring reference, back there at the TToT Post July 19 2014

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