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1) Today started very early. I am, apparently,  a ‘morning person’. Given a choice of getting up extra early or staying up extra late, I’ll pick the former every time. So, today,while not particularly unusual in (my) getting-up-time, saw me out on the road extra early… as the photos indicate, about sunrise.

20150123_071440_resized …20150123_071437_resized20150123_071433_resized…I was driving –>  on my way in to my office. Good to have technology to be able to grab the photos as I drove.

2) (I’m really determined to write a normal, orderly TToT Post this week. Not that anyone is suggesting or otherwise attempting to compel me to do so, it’s just that for me it’s difficult and therefore accomplishing it would be a good thing. I am grateful to Christine and Dyanne and the other co-hostinae who are skilled grat list writers, for their encouragement and, in their own contributions here each week, demonstrate of ‘how to write a grat list… here and now style’!*

3) Phyllis had a birthday recently and, as a present, I thought….’hey! real people send flowers to loved ones at their place of work as a surprise‘. The pleasure of such gestures is, by all appearances, enhanced by the public-ness of the gift receiving process. I suspect that this is a X Chrome thing, as it seems to be all about… the ‘awwws’  Of course, I am a clark, which would have become totally obvious had you the opportunity to observe, as I went online to the FDA online florist site (FDA online florist site motto: ‘ You’re at home in your bathroom with a cup of coffee… you can afford to be extra romantic!‘). But, flowers are not really something I understand (other than their ‘aww’ producing qualities), so I thought, ‘a plant for Phyllis’s office would be nice… bonsai plants are pretty cool and slow-motion zen an shit… get her something Mr Miyagi would approve of!‘ and so I did and I am grateful for the opportunity to do so.

4) I am grateful for the new plant I have on my desk at home:

20150123_185651_resized… if it weren’t for the fact that only girls and rogers name things like cars, and plants and such, I’d call it ‘george’ (or ’ジョージ’)… but being neither, I guess I’ll just take a photo and maybe come back to it from time to time on these weekend posts. It’s not that Phyllis did not enjoy my gift, it’s just that she’s not a plant person… so we’ll see.

5) (I’m actually still within the last 7 day period with my post here!) Allow me to go a little generic, and say I’m very grateful for the non-snow infested winter season that we’ve been experiencing here in southern New England. Granted it’s been cold, but, (the lack of snow), is worth at least 10 degrees of outdoor temperature.  and…and! it’s like still light at 5:30!!

6) I spend a significant amount of time in my car everyday. The lack of snow has made this much more enjoyable. I’m more inclined to try and take photos as I drive:

20150120_103641_resized is it just me, or does this cloud formation seem a little odd. (That special kind of ‘everyday unusual’… like walking into kitchen and seeing a clean plate on the top of the stove, obviously the result of a major distraction…. nevertheless it can be a bit …un-nerving, teetering between funny and creepy… these clouds? They could go either way.)

7) As always, I’ll cite the Wakefield Doctrine as one of the most significant aspects of my life. No, seriously… were it not for this fun and unique and helpful theory of personality, I would not be here, writing this Post! 

8) You know Christine did something at ‘the coop’ this week that might serve a grat item prompt, if I may borrow (and mutate her idea)… i.e. to tell a story from the early days of my life in the ‘sphere. It ties into Item # 7, the role of the Wakefield Doctrine in my (online) life.   So anyway… a couple of years ago (stop me if you’ve already heard me tell this story!) I was doing a FTSF** and I came across this small blog, ‘Considerings‘. I liked it immediately… very intense, personal and rather well written  and clearly there was a clark on the other side of the computer screen. So I started ‘hanging around’, reading each week on Fridays and then other days and, finally, I started commenting. (This act of commenting is a testament  to the Doctrine, in that many of the Posts were dealing with difficult situations, (in the life of the author) and, although I didn’t know the author (our Ms. Rogers, of course), I did know that she was a clark and therefore I felt comfortable enough to respond as I would to a person I already knew. Because, in a sense I did.
Anyway….!!   so, I was writing comments at Considerings for, probably a month or two when, totally out of the blue, I get a Comment at the Doctrine from a woman living in the Midwest. It was an interesting Comment,  ‘I found your post interesting…. I’ve seen you at my friend Lizzi’s blog and I wanted to introduce myself’.  I sat back in my chair and smiled, as I immediately realized that a) the comment writer was a scott and 2) she was checking me out. her purpose was simply to make sure I wasn’t some kind of un-desirable, stalker kind of person, and so, I smiled. I smiled because of the value of the Wakefield Doctrine in understanding people (including total strangers), and I smiled because that is what a scott does when they have a clarklike friend… Christine did not need to ask Lizzi if she needed help, Christine did what a scottian friend would do.  Naturally we got along splendidly right from the start.
I am grateful for the Wakefield Doctrine.

9) Hey! Always grateful for the Book of Secret Rules (aka the Secret Book of Rules)… it represents the kind of attitude that makes this bloghop the excellent thing that it is… ‘rules without force’ the manifestation of the sense participating in this community, according to ‘where we are, on a given weekend’  Very cool

10) Lets close with the photo I took as I headed back to the office to finish my day today:

20150123_160859_resized…I was driving <—- and the sun was beginning to start to set.

 

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* both Christine and Dyanne are scotts and that’s where they live, in the present, immediate and real world… ( as they might say, ‘hey! grab for the brass ring… you only have so much time here!!’)

** ‘Finish The Sentence Friday’ my first bloghop… and still a favorite, though I have not participated in a while, Kristi was one of the hostettes…

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Early day today… want to put some content up, thought that, other than ivy (tbfkaz)* who arguably is the Margaret Meade of the Wakefield Doctrine sub-culture-to-be, most people have not read the following Post. I’ve been writing this blog for nearly 5 years or so, and when I came across the Post that is today’s content,  as I read it yesterday, (admittedly with a little ‘oh-shit-!-a-Post-from-the-first-year!’, I was relieved to find that it’s a surprisingly fun and minimally embarrassing example of early Doctrine Post. (To put it in a historical context, today’s reprint-Post was written at a time when the only comments on a Post came from a person I knew in real life.) My driving ambition was to present the principles and convey the simple fun of our little personality theory.  (Seeing how old most Readers these days are not… the woman on the lower left is Diane Keaton, from her Annie Hall days (she was nothing less than the Patron Saintessa of all clarklike female women… ), I often use clips from that particular movie because she is such a clark.

Enjoy yourselfs.

Wakefield Doctrine Field Guide

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( …”so if we establish the outward more obvious characteristics”… )Oh, hello!  Did not see you come on line…be right with you  ( …but the “fun factor” got to find a way to present the damn fun of this thing… ) just one more aside and we can get today’s Post started ( …good frickin job there, you just telegraphed your last remaining hook… goddamn it… ) Let me just try and put this little journal down. There.Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)!. This week we are starting to present the whole Doctrine in a simple, logical and easy to understand manner.  ( …sure keep up with the asides…is there nothing you won’t resort to in order to get through one of these Posts?…they know what you are doing, they ‘get’ it, dude…this is so over done…)  Yesterday we started with a clark, as subject of discussion. But let’s keep with the topic a little longer… ( … ’cause clarks are sooo interesting. ) clarks are the creative ones and as such…( …Hola Miguel, ¿qué pasa con el director Clark? No se ve tan bien, y creo que él está hablando a sí mismo … vamos que el hallazgo señorita Sullivan y Britney… )  ( …man! are you so totally shameless!   roll out the ‘Spanish exchange students’,  just to keep this Post limping alone?)I believe I was suggesting that we continue to look at the personality of clarks. Hell, since this Post insists on slouching towards ( …Yeates, I can’t frickin believe that you are so desperate to get done that you will pad this thing with a literary allusion that a sophomore high school student would be too embarrassed to use… but hey, who am I to criticize… ) Well, let’s get the words on the page, put in some pictures and get the hell out. ( …the way this thing is going you are likely to pander to the scotts and put some frickin childishly exuberant music just to draw a reaction. )

Ahem! as we have said before, the clarklike females are fairly easy to identify. Outlandishly dressed, creative with the make-up (with special attention to the face/eyes) and, to a woman,  something fairly strange on their feet. If you are trying to identify which of the three types a person is and you are thinking, possible clark, then concentrate on their eyes.  (The eyes) of the female clarks are quite distinctive, mostly in an un-mistakeable ’not-of-this-world’ intensity. Often (and unfairly) characterized as either the ‘ditsy broad’ or  ‘snooty/aloof/what-does-she-think-she-is-too-good-for-us?’, the clarklike female projects this image simply because they are distracted. A state common to all clarks, there is simply so much going on inside their heads that they barely have time to keep track of what is going on in front of their noses. If you find yourself  talking to a clark, watch their eyes. If you pay attention, you will see as (mentally) they go from topic to idea to implication to ramification (back to the conversation taking place) to how to conclude the interaction to implication…etc

In the spirit of turning this trainwreck into a valid Post about identifying clarks, let’s cut and paste some of the characteristics (found on the clarks page) and get some music and get out… after all there is a real world out there and it is totally full of clarks, scotts and rogers. And there is nothing more fun than going out there and seeing the Wakefield Doctrine “demonstrate itself”.
New Readers? It might seem difficult to figure who is which today, but take our word for it, this Doctrinething is a lot of fun.

 

Just to get you started, here are some photos of known clarks  

or  or maybe       …ok, we’re sure you get the idea, now get out there and find ‘em!

(DS#1 says we should stick with the ‘topic’ of female clarks) because they are out there in the everyday world and you can spot them with only a little practice. And who are we to disagree with the DownSprings? (the DownSprings are the life of this Doctrine, whatever they want they will always get), so let’s try to come up with a “Field Guide”:

Wakefield Doctrine Field Guide

scott
(male):   picture that Tasmanian devil on the cartoons……or Joe Pesci in all of his movies
roger(male):  they’re frickin everywhere, watercooler? check…Fireman? check…look for the easy-going comfortable smile, inviting conversation…
scott(female): Ginger on Gilligan’s Island, the green chick on Star Trek (the 60′s version)
clark(female): read the damn Post! you can find the clarklike females
clark(male):  the office geek except without the marketable technical skills, probably under-employed, very funny, usually interesting, (in small doses), cannot do enough for any person who merely recognises their existence, never mind actually be nice to them
roger(female): tough call under the best of circumstances, examples Kathy Bates, most wholesomely attractive women (with an agenda), think Carrie Nation in SUV…

There you  have it, the Wakefield Doctrine  Field Guide (to spotting) clarks, scotts and rogers..

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Seeing how, of late,  we’ve been all studious and learning the use of the Wakefield Doctrine to self-improve our own selfs, lets kick back and have a mid-week break! You all deserve it*.

Lady Godiva took pity on the people of Coventry, who were suffering grievously under her husband’s oppressive taxation. Lady Godiva appealed again and again to her husband, who obstinately refused to remit the tolls. At last, weary of her entreaties, he said he would grant her request if she would strip naked and ride on a horse through the streets of the town. Lady Godiva took him at his word and, after issuing a proclamation that all persons should stay indoors and shut their windows, she rode through the town, clothed only in her long hair. Just one person in the town, a tailor ever afterwards known as Peeping Tom, disobeyed her proclamation in one of the most famous instances of voyeurism. In the story, Tom bores a hole in his shutters so that he might see Godiva pass, and is struck blind. In the end, Godiva’s husband keeps his word and abolishes the onerous taxes.

Most of you will not need me to tell you whats going on with this most…. civic of fairy tales (cautionary tale?… fable? morality play?… whatever). I will, however, address the New Reader.

New Reader? The fun (and real value) to be found in the Wakefield Doctrine lies not in being able to immediately identify Lady Godvia as a roger, her, kind-of-a-jerk, husband as a scott and …and poor Tom as a clark. It does not. The real fun (and value to ourselves, as people trying to better understand the people in our lives), lies in accepting that we have the qualities of all three of the characters in this story. ( One would represent our predominant worldview, and ‘the other two’ as our secondary and tertiary aspects, which, of course, our potential to be better (or worse) people.)

(While the more experienced Readers giggle in the back of the class and compose their smart-assed, but nevertheless perceptive interpretations of this Tale, lets review the three personality types of the Wakefield Doctrine):

  • clarks are the ‘personality type’ that results from growing up as ‘the Outsider’. Through no fault of their own (though, they will go through life suspecting that there was something that was their fault…but that’s a whole ‘nother Post), clarks seek to learn how to live the best life possible, they place their stock in understanding the world, and believe that what they think is missing (in their lives) is knowable and rational. They are very creative, funny and (they) see the rules of social order as just another interesting thing about all the real people around them
  • scotts are identified by the coping strategies that have allowed wolves, lions, dogs and other predators to thrive through history.  scotts are impulsive and decisive, mercurial and sentimental, for them the world is very simple: wake up… eat, protect the pack, be alert to threats and opportunity in the day, reproduce (of course! metaphorically as well as literal! knucklehead!) and sleep. scotts are the first pick for captain …of the other team (lol…. no, think about it a little….) (if you’re reading this you were in the other team… not the first team)  they are great best friends and scary adversaries
  • rogers are the people who grow up and develop their coping skills knowing that they are ‘a part of’, they belong. rogers live (and thrive) in a world that is quantifiable, understandable, predictable ( in an unpredictable way) and above all has Rules…. rogers live searching for the Right Way (to do things) and will go all out to help others engaged in this task… the Yearbook Committee?  pretty much all rogers (with one clark or so to do the stupid work)

ok.

You now know what is necessary in order to understand why we are identifying our three main characters as we are….lets open the Post for Comments.

(New Readers?  the real fun lies in what is really required to successfully  identify another’s worldview, i.e. you need to see the world as the other person is experiencing it.  So…. Lady Godiva’s husband?  so he says, ‘sure, I’ll lower taxes if you ride naked through the streets of town’…. bet that guy had a supply of banana peels, seltzer bottles and whoopee cushions around the palace and, that naked part?  And Godiva?  issue a proclamation (aka a Law)… that she would ride naked (implying that she would be exposed to all) but then say…. ‘you can’t look’  god! how many times in high school did we have to deal with that kind of behavior!  … Tom?  clarkclarkclark  oh man, dude! you don’t have to make things so difficult for yourself… she doesn’t care!)

 

* did we mention how the Doctrine is predicated on reality being personal?  that last sentence is the perfect example of what we mean by personal reality.

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Friend of the Doctrine 'Mel' with a hat in 'Michigan' (from our series: 'Didn't I see the Doctrine in…')

Friend of the Doctrine Mel, with a hat in ‘Michigan’
(from our series: ‘Didn’t I see the Doctrine in…’)

(Towards the end of last week’s Posts, we began to look at a ‘problem’ reported by our friend, Cynthia:

Outsider. This could be my motto for life. I’m surrounded by rogers and um…ya know…have figured out that the office environment…well…let’s just hope the rogers don’t gang up on me and kick my ass.

this ‘problem’ serves us well, both as an illustration of the Doctrine as a tool of understanding and as a tool for self-helping ourselfs. By this I mean, (that) when we feel uncomfortable in a social context, the source (of the feeling) is ‘without’. We are charged by the Doctrine* to never forget that the responsibility (for the feeling) is ‘within’.

… the answer to the question posed in our subtitle?

( Here’s a funny thing. In answer to my rhetorical question,  I started to write: ‘it depends on a person’s predominant worldview..’  Which, of course, would have been a followed by an explanation of how, of the three personality types of the Wakefield Doctrine, clarks are the only ones who need the insight that is available.  But then, I stopped. And I thought to myself, I thought, “Wait a minute!! You’re about to be wrong!! The benefits of the use of the Wakefield Doctrine, as a perspective on the behavior of those around us, is not limited, constrained, defined or otherwise affected by a person’s worldview! It’s the same for scotts and rogers as it is for clarks.)

the Wakefield Doctrine is one more way to perceive the world we live in. It is not the Answer. It is not (even) an Answer. It is way that allows a person to come closer to seeing the world as the other person is experiencing it.

If you are inclined to feel apart from the world, wonder if there is something that everyone knows that you do not, then the you might be living in the personal reality of the Outsider (clarks);
If you are impulsive and emotional (without taking people….personally) and yet are surprised (but not overly concerned) when people get exasperated with your suggestions to ‘do something/anything’, then you might be living in the personal reality of the Predator (scotts) and
If you are living and, the odd thing is that you’re curious about this Doctrine thing, in a world that, while challenging is and can be quite satisfying, even with the seeming reluctance (and, at times it seems, stubbornness ) of those around you to do it the Right Way, then you may very well be in the worldview of the Herd Member (rogers)…

all three of these perspectives are the ways that people relate themselves to the world around them. Consider that, ‘the other person’, today is dealing with the same situation (as you are), however, they are experiencing it from one of these three perspectives. But remember, although knowing this does not change them, knowing this might change you.

 

 

* the Wakefield Doctrine is for you, not them

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…there’s a ton of birds in this photo…. you might need to hold your computer up to the light to see them.

1) To be able to type up this here List here by voice dictation

2) To be able go out into the world today and work and find items (for the rest of this list)

3) To be able to record via the technology available the following items:

(your weekly rustic)

(your weekly rustic)

4) To  be willing to accept that  this weekend bloghop is just that, a weekend bloghop. Nothing that I’ve read in the Book of Secret Rules (aka the Secret Book of Rules) says that a post need to be complete in order to join in, (it just needs to be complete before the end of the weekend).

5) To be willing

6) To be willing

7) To be ready to

8) To be ready   (totally recommend the movie, ‘Predestination’… it’s got Ethan Hawk in it (and I suspect he’s a clark with a secondary roger)…anyway, it’s based a short story by one of the giants of science fiction, Robert Heinlein  (Robert is, hands down, the total, time travel story master… I won’t try to cite an example, cause either it would a) give away the fun or 2) not make any damn sense, seeing how I am not the ‘describe the time travel Master’s story’ ….master.  ya know?

9) To be ready

10)… I would say this: from time to time we see a person write, ‘I just can’t see that I have anything to include on list of 10 Items’. My response is always (in my head, or typed as a reply): one of the reasons this TToT is the cool thing that it is, is that it is the involvement of the person that earns, creates and/or garners the benefits. (yes, I really do think like that… you know those ’thought ballons’  in comic strips? they’d be way, way to big to fit in one of those little panels….  anyway… I suspect that you will be reading a somewhat incomplete (no, not inchoate lol) TToT Post this week.

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

courtesy…(we hope!) of Bill Watterson

courtesy…(we hope!) of Bill Watterson

And, yes, it would have been simpler to a) filled in the missing Items from yesterday’s Post, thereby making good on my promise to come back and complete the Post or 2) just write a whole new Post for today, seeing how only one is necessary for participation in the TToT. (well, apparently that is not overly true, since I am nesting this Post into the Item in yesterday’s Post). Be that as it may, If I may….

10) I’m trying this ‘graphic experiment’ within Item 10 of the original Post for the very good reason that the thing I am most grateful for is the sense of community that has been created here at the TToT Weekend bloghop ( TToT Weekend bloghop motto: ‘what? sure! really? why not!!’ )

9) I will always be grateful to my co-hostinae for being included in their tiny army.   ( the ‘TToT tiny army’ motto:  ‘teach a person to eat and they’ll ask for desert, teach them to write a blog and you’ll never hear the end of it.’)

8) I can’t say that I quite understand the numbering logic this week, except it has something to do with: that movie I saw, time travel stories in general, MC Escher ( MC Escher Poster motto: ‘helping clarklike college students get semi-lucky since 1969‘)

7) Since I ‘still’ have to experiment with font size in this Post, I had better move down one more level…

5) I am grateful that this block quote within a block quote actually seems to work!  Maybe there’s hope for developing my rogerian aspect, as this effort required I focus my attention on learning and following an established procedure…very, exactly as it must be done. Not that clarks have any trouble with following directions….  ha   ha

4) sure…why not try a graphic!

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3) of course I had to try for one more level… even if it becomes un-readable …what part of ‘he’s from Y Chromia (Y Chromian co-host motto: ‘if it’s worth doing, it’s worth over-doing! … no wait!!    ’more is more!!’….  one more!! no don’t go!! ‘one more, this is the last time I promise’)  lol

2)  sorry lost track….

1) Back!  well, sorta

There! that wasn’t difficult!

 

I don’t believe I’ve missed a weekend Post yet and,  maybe it’s a Y Chrome thing or not but the consequences of breaking a streak are not something that I take lightly.

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Outsider. This could be my motto for life. I’m surrounded by rogers and um…ya know…have figured out that the office environment…well…let’s just hope the rogers don’t gang up on me and kick my ass.

Thanks go out to our friend, Cynthia, for the ‘Friday Post Prompt’ (Friday Post Prompt motto: ‘thank god!! a coherent thought to base a Post on!!!”)

Is there any, more common reason, (for a clark) to like the Wakefield Doctrine, than it being a resource in figuring out how to deal with the rogers in their lives?  No. Well, maybe. No, yeah, but that business about how we can rest our brain even for a minute…. that qualifies, right?  (I remember being in a conversation one evening  with a group of people. We were having a good time with the Great Questions of Life.  There came a moment when the question of ‘communication between people’ rose to topic-level and, when there was one of those pauses in the give-and-take, (when the rogers are preparing their rebuttals and the scotts are calculating their chances of getting lucky after the intellectual  activities ceased), I made the following statement:  ”I’ve always wondered what it is that real people do, with all that time in-between sentences.”  Had there been a person to throw a handle full of pins, everyone would have come up with the same number, …someone whispered, very loudly, ‘oh man!! what is it with this guy!!’ His tone was not negative, it definitely had a certain quality of ‘wonderment’… this was followed by good-natured laughter.

I identify with Cynthia. We are fortunate to have rogers who are of such a mind as to be willing and able to share with us their perspective, (thinking of Kristi and Michelle and Phyllis and even, accidentally Sarah), however, the solution to ‘Cynthia’s Problem’ is not in learning what the rogers want. The solution to the problem is for Cynthia to know what she wants.  You know how we have this saying for the New Readers, ‘the Wakefield Doctrine is for you, not them‘?   There is an extensionary thought* to be derived from this,  ’It’s about us, not them.’
A clark lives in a reality where things should make sense, that there should be an understandable reason for everything. Where we clarks often get into trouble is when we project this (quality of understandable-ness) and believe that the ‘correct answer’ will be possible only with the participation of the real people in our world.   (Now, stay with me….)

We don’t believe us.

(That’s not fair. I should say: as clarks we don’t believe that what we understand is sufficient, unless it’s supported, corroborated, validated, confirmed and otherwise approved of, by the people around us.  You Advanced Readers are now looking around and waving your hands. “I know!!! I know”….  lets let the New Readers have a moment to figure out what is it about clarks that cause them to get trapped , despite the clear fact that they are thinking everything through in an organized and rational manner.)

I’ll be back a little later in the day.**

 

* an attempt at a rogerian expression1

** yeah, right

1) not to be confused with a person’s ‘rogerian expression

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Fun Post today. Will try to keep it simple, while, (for) one half (of the themes) that’s pretty likely, the second half… no way.  Unless… To my constant, yet grateful chagrin, I find myself underestimating my Readers.

Following are two short clips from TV shows. One stars a clark and the other a scott. (Sometimes New Readers say, ‘but clark, they’re playing a character, why would you think that you’re seeing their personality type?’ to which I respond,  the Wakefield Doctrine maintains that what you might observe of an actor or actress, politician or clergy, teacher or self-help guru in any context will be an accurate reflection of their personality type because, one of the few tasks that the Doctrine charges us with is, to ‘observe the other person and infer how they are relating themselves to the world around them‘*.

So watch our two ‘reality’ TV show stars. (and… yes, I will make a predict the reaction of some of our readers, but I’ll put it down at the bottom of the Post ** , so as not to spoil the fun)

 

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damn! I need to limit my word count for mid-week Posts, we’re at 507 words,  and I really don’t think I can properly address the second half of the today’s  Post theme.  Hey, what the hell! it’s Wednesday and, rumour has it, the average Reader understands the Wakefield Doctrine way better than I appreciate so lets try this:

clarks, are Outsiders…we all know that. But what we might not appreciate is that (most) clarks don’t realize that everyone around them know that they’re Outsiders. The biggest problem with clarks begins with the notion that we have to keep people from ‘knowing too much about us’. As a result, many clarks will spend way too, too much time, ‘trying to pass’  …as a real person.  And the reason underlying that… that’s the core issue. Most clarks, on one level or another, suspect that we are Outsiders because there is something bad/wrong/off/not-acceptable-to-real-people about us. And the real, this-time-I-mean-it-real problem underlying that is that we leave it …un-determined. Maybe we are ‘wrong’, not qualified as people to be included in the pack or in the Herd… but we’d rather keep hiding, (in very plain sight), rather than deal with this core issue. Unfortunately or not, for many of us clarks, the decision is made (way, way early in the game) that it’s better to not know for certain, because, for a clark, un-certainty allows for possibility. Certainty locks the door.

That’s all the time we have today!

* we have fun with words and language around here, but this phrase is one of the few examples of where the exact wording is essential to what we are trying to convey. We are not saying ‘…how a person is relating to the world around’… that has an entirely different connotation.  The ‘extra’ word ‘themselves’    ’how they relate themselves‘ tells us that, if we are open-minded and imaginative, we can ‘see’ the context from which the behavior is springing… i.e. the person’s worldview

 

** scotts, like Christine and Dyanne will laugh, look around (either literally or figuratively) try to find someone to punch on the shoulder while saying, “am not!”… and yet, if we were an invisible 3rd party watching this reaction interaction, we would be paying very close attention to the eyes of the scott… they would reflect a very close paying of attention… the better to see if the other person is taking the fun in the right way…. ya know?   clarks, on the other hand, (people like Lizzi or Cynthia, Denise or zoe,) their first response will be to smile…. and immediately pay even more attention to the person in the vid… ‘holding their breath’ until they assure themselves that the character is aware of the possible reactions of the viewers and does not care (about the reaction), in other words…’are people in ‘the audience’ laughing with her or at her   rogers… not so sure about how they might respond…. Kristi?  Michelle?  any help?

 

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This Wakefield Doctrine is not just a fun thing to do while you are:  at work/and are supposed to be working, at school/and really should be paying attention, waiting in the checkout line at the grocery store/ and really need to be thinking how to better provide for the family, making love/and how can you possibly be thinking about that problem at work, apologizing to your boss/when you know that were it not your family you would be telling him to stick the job in an inappropriate spot, sitting in traffic/and unable to let go of the past… nope! absolutely not the only thing that our little personality theory is good for!

The Wakefield Doctrine is a very useful tool to aid in that increasingly difficult and frustrating task of ‘being a better you’. Sure, you have a great track record working on the obvious things, the ‘lose that Holiday weight’, the ‘get into  better physical shape’, getting better grades, earning more money by working overtime, etc…etc and etracetra. But, what about the things in your head, in your heart… you know the kinds of thing (about yourself) that you barely speak of to anyone else (and if and when you do, it always comes with a laugh line). What about those?

The Wakefield Doctrine is very useful with these …issues. Starting with the fact that ….issues (like these) are shared by others, even when, by all appearances, they. (these other people who you know… your friend, your spouse, that woman who seems to have it so together, what with 5 kids and a job, your relative… even your kids and spouse!) What the Wakefield Doctrine offers us is this:

  1. we all start life with the potential to experience it in one of three ways: as an Outsider (clarks), as a Predator (scotts) and as a Herd Member (rogers)
  2. that at a rather early point in our lives, we settle into one (of these three) and it becomes our reality (personal reality, nevertheless real…reality)
  3. our ‘personality type’ is simply a reflection of the coping strategy that is best suited to the reality that we are experiencing as we grow up
  4. …we never lose the capacity to experience the world of ‘the other two worldviews’

…so when you look around and wonder how on earth does that other person act like they don’t have a care in the world, cheerful and enthusiastic each day, …despite their dead-end job, or that women with the sick parent and the ill children, looking peaceful as she waits patiently in line or that young man who sits 3 cubicles away quietly working, always with a kind thought…when he thinks no one is looking. They are all experiencing life in one of three personal realities… as clarks or scotts or rogers and you have that same capacity.

….coolest thing about the Wakefield Doctrine as an aid to self improvement and ‘jeez! I got to stop doing this to myself!’ ?  You don’t have to learn anything new. All you need do is ‘see the world as the other person is experiencing it‘. Know that what they seem to find simple, is also available to you.

* (this was what started me thinking, yesterday, that I totally could write a Post a day ahead… I was wrong! lol  however, I still like the sound of the subtitle with this expression in it, so in keeping with the Truth in Blogging Law, here is a (preliminary definition of the term): handpuppet friend, (n) you’ve been friends for as long as you can remember, but increasingly over recent years, it takes you to ‘make the call’, (once the conversation starts, it’s just as it’s always been…like no time has passed.) You wonder if it’s worth the effort, sometimes you berate yourself for continuing the charade, but there was so much history and still, even when you know that it’s only because you insist on holding onto the past, you enjoy the interaction…. letting go is an option, not a requirement.)

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Susan isn’t feeling well this weekend… so, I thought… maybe if I put a Post up into the TToT, then she could simply Comment! (Comments on un-authorized TToT Posts’ motto: ‘what are you insane? who said you could do that??! …the BoSR? oh, never mind then.‘)

clarks are very good at working behind the scenes (translation: avoid outright blame) so what I thought I would do is Stick up some Items and publish the Post… what harm can come of that?   (lol)

Item 1. Photos of Nova Scotia…  crustaceans, who doesn’t love those little carapace’d creatures?

(from Everything Susan: Sunday, September 21, 2014)… the title is 'lobster magnet'… you worked on that title all night, didn't you?

(from Everything Susan: Sunday, September 21, 2014)… the title is ‘lobster magnet’… you worked on that title all night, didn’t you?

Item 2.  (damn!  forgot to to put in the title of the blog! yeah, minor detail…clark!)  the proper Name here is ‘Everything Susan‘…. but, I knew that! because otherwise how could I assume to write a ‘standin Post’…

Item 3. Photos of…. (see Item 1)

Item 4. Susan is, at this point, no doubt, sitting back and thinking, ‘countless ages of Wisdom inherent in the Book of Secret Rules (aka the Secret Book of Rules) and… and we have Antonio Banderas as my Grateful Item #4? …hmmm’

Item 5.  NO GUILT hop

Item 6. Community who support in spite of not being able to join in, 

Item 7. Online Scrabble to distract

Item 8.  Having the Facebook (to allow for additional Items thank you L)

Item 9.

Item 10.

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you might have to click on the photo to enlarge it enough to see the temperature on the dashboard…14F

…you want to hear something weird? As I sat down and started writing this Post, I had a flashback to when I was a kid in the 1960s when the Catholic Church introduced Saturday evening Mass. There was a movement in the Roman Catholic church to liberalize the faith, (perhaps better to say, ‘liberalize the practice of the faith’,  and please now don’t hold me to the chronology …it was the 1960s), but I think the progression was: changing from all Latin Mass, removing the prohibition against eating meat on Fridays, and then having a Mass on Saturday evening that ‘counted as going to Sunday Mass’. Now, I’m not saying that Posting on Friday evening is the same as going to Saturday Mass, instead of Sunday morning Mass, but….   you know I was very much a clark, even back then, at age…say 5 or 6… I seem to recall reacting to (these) changes with thoughts along the lines of concern.  It’s interesting, this sensitivity to change in a clark, something you would associate with rogers.  (I recall taking piano lesson when I was about 12. Being a clark, naturally, I was semi-precocious, and I took to the lessons pretty easily. The drawback was that even then, as a clark, I thought of learning to play the piano as a ticket (or at very least, a socially-negotiable skill) to acceptance. I would daydream about playing and impressing people. (clarks reading this will recognize the poignantly incorrect use of the term ‘impress people’… that it was not to make them feel envious of my skill, rather it was to trade my efforts (to acquire it) for their acceptance of me as a real person.)

Anyway….here we are Friday night. Not that there’s anything wrong with writing a TToT Post on a Friday Night!! It just so happens that I have amore (no!! no!!! a more than busy day…. a more! that’s what I meant!!)  so it’s good that I can get this post out of the way early.

1) the photo up at the top? that is, I believe, Monday morning in my car, on my way back from Hell Hollow Rd (Voluntown CT). It was very cold. But there was no snow on the ground and so my opening Grat Item is: no snow….at least up until today.

2) hey! Una and I went for a walk today!  (I managed to get home before dark and thought, well, why the hell not?) Here is the vid:

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3) as I mentioned in the video, I feel like doing some video Items, so lets start out with one of the first TToT video Posts…last Summer (or maybe that was the Summer before)

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4) I am grateful for ‘the youtube’ for the car videos… now just so Christine doesn’t feel that it’s just me …what with the driving and filming and such, following is a video from a couple of years ago, on a Saturday Night Drive… there were two real people in the car with me and 2 people, ‘in the dashboard’…

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5) [This place reserved for a photo taken while on the road tomorrow…. requests are being accepted….only requirements: unlikely place, found in New England, interesting, but not too girlish…]

6) Working with a young, new agent at the office. (By ‘new’ I mean, in ‘the business’ about a year or so… by ‘young’ I mean 24 years old…by ‘working with’ I mean the kid’s a clark… aiyee! I’m learning (against my will and otherwise) a lot about myself…lol  but, that’s what this personality theory of ours is for, right?

7) Some might call this too inconsequential to be on a grat list, but:  I’m grateful for knowing people like Lizzi, (though any number of you out there might have come up with something as fun as the expression), ‘Thursday’s kind of the Tuesday of the end of the week.’  (…from ‘the Facebook’ this week).

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9) (Hey! that second video? In it, I believe I stated that #9 was ‘sense of direction’ as in being grateful for the clark’s natural sense of direction…

10) Got to say I’m so grateful for the Book of Secret Rules (aka the Secret Book of Rules)… as the old saying goes,  ”If it’s not in ‘the Book’ then you must be mistaken!!”   lol… yeah, getting kind of late, will have to get up early tomorrow and finish this here Post here.

 

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