Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)
Today we rejoin (or would that be trejoin) our old (as in the length of our relationship, not the age of the hostinae) friends (not that there’s anything wrong with being old), at the Finish the Sentence Friday bloghop (well, I’m not prepared to say that being old is as good as being young, it’s more the implications of the word ‘old’ that might give me pause), as they (being the pretty-amazing-even-for-an-imaginary-woman-in-a-virtual-world) Kristi and Roshni and Ivy Walker, (though, in the interest of Full Disclosure, I do know this Ivy person, except by a different name, zoe which, I suspect tells you everything there is to know about this rather prolific and clever writing ‘person’)… Roshni, I know from seeing her out in the internet and, every week she can be found at that other bloghop, the TToT, (pretty good blog, if I say so myself). This Week’s incomplete Sentence:
“I can’t believe it took me so long to realize that…”
…that everything written and posted and, otherwise found on the internet (in general) and in the blogosphere (in particular) is so autobiographical. Not that that’s a bad thing. But the realization, like so often happens when we have a chance moment of insight into the nature of reality (or, for those of us of more modest ambition) our selves, can cause us to totally run away. It’s not that people don’t want to learn about themselves, everyone does. And… and! it’s not even that people tend to not want to know about the parts of themselves that is not what they would want to see, we all have mirrors in our house and, despite our complexions or weight or hair style, we keep them there (yeah, the mirrors too). No, it’s neither of those insights that we recoil from. The self-knowledge, the insight into ourselfs that is most likely cause us to recoil in denial is ‘how we relate ourselves to the world around us’. Note that I did not say ‘how we relate to the world around us’, I said ‘how we relate ourselves to the world around us’ there’s a difference. And the really cool (or awful or horrifying or ‘this-is-the-worst-adolescent-fantophilosophysing’) thing is that the key to all lasting change, at least in the sense of self-improvement is to be found only in the appreciation, understanding, acceptance (and, possibly, the Will to change) this relationship. Hell, we’re all aware of our bad points or our good qualities or the things that we should stop doing or the bad habits that we know we’ll change someday. What is so central to what we are, and therefore at the heart of what must be dealt with is, ‘what we are in relation to the people, places and things that make up that world out there’.
the part about autobiographical everything? even what I write that is meant to disguise me is identifying me. And, even that’s not a bad thing. It’s who I am.
*hey I really enjoyed this. It is such a ‘Bridge of Sighs’ looking day, that I’ll put the link (rather than post the link to the video that I used a few years ago).