TToT the Wakefield Doctrine ‘non-long, non-rambling, still about things I’m grateful for, mostly Wakefield Doctrine related’

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1) I’m grateful for the ‘major holidays’ that are looming on the calendar. They make it so easy to discuss, illustrate, make fun of and explore the worldviews of the Outsider, the Predator and the Herd Member  via the Wakefield Doctrine!

2) (and)…the ‘everything Rule’, which is short for the ‘everyone does everything at one time or another Rule‘.  Integral to the use of the Wakefield Doctrine as a tool to help us better understand the people in our lives. the everything Rule reminds us to not get distracted by over focusing  on questions like, ‘is that the kind of thing only a clark would do?‘ or ‘that’s surely a scottian job‘ or ‘only a roger would do something as blatant as that!’. Instead, we keep it simple and ask, ‘How would that particular (life problem, family situation, pick-up strategy) manifest in the world of the Outsider, the life of the Predator, the reality of the Herd Member. If you know your worldviews, you’ll know more about the other person than they know about themselves.

3) ….work: stressful and satisfying, stressful and fun, stressful and profitable. plus, when I’m being smart, I get to go look at nice houses. Example: Yesterday an agent who works in the Watch Hill market came to me and said, ‘I have this property I’m trying to list, you have the time to drive over there and see it?’  (My grat item here actually is this: I had more work than I could handle and was facing an afternoon of being buried in paperwork, but fortunately, I thought about when I first got in the business and said, “yeah! sounds like fun!”) Besides visiting a remarkable properties, it was fun and relaxing to spend an hour or so driving around and learning about which famous family sold which house to this other family. (knowing the people who make up the social order in a market such as Watch Hill matters as much as knowing about what has sold for how much, it was fun and relaxing to hear about the people, as it was looking at the houses).

4) an[other] agent in my office showed me the family tree/genealogy project she was working on… what made this especially interesting is that she is a clark with a secondary rogerian aspect. (I know what you’re thinking!  at first I thought the same thing! ok clark…not so much into the family history, surely this is her secondary rogerian aspect exerting itself… but then I remembered…. hey!  ‘the everything Rule’!! lets try to apply it to this example of a personal interest in family histories)

5) Una has been sleeping better of late. She’s never been comfortable with nighttime… and living in a rural area, no telling what kind of lifeforms have occasion to walk past our house in the wee, small hours…. when they do!  Best way to describe it, Una explodes into barking…. very loud, very serious  (dog for: ‘hey! humans!! wake up!!! something is out there!!!!   hey!! whatever you are out there  get the hell out of here!!!”)  Lately though, we’re down to maybe 2 episodes a night, which is a definite improvement. (as a clark with a dog, my strategy during these events is to first remind Una that she is safe with us indoors, then get her to get on the bed (facing the window, of course) and compliment her on her excellent guard dog skills….it tends to work and she falls right back to sleep)

6) lets consider the Book of Secret Rules (aka the Secret Book of Rules). Is this not one of the coolest things about the-blog-that-Lizzi-built? Now I don’t get out to a lot of other bloghops (not being a female-based person, it’s only natural that I hangout pretty much exclusively here), but I can’t think of a tool/insight that is more beneficial (and fun ) than the BoSR/SBoR  A big part of what I like about it, it’s not a free hall pass…. totally not a ‘do whatever just because you don’t feel like following the Rules’.  I know from my own experience, if I’m in a spot, can’t complete all 10 or maybe need to get creative with the organization of my post, the Book demands what is probably amounts to more effort than I would have had to have expend if I just wrote the damn thing out ‘1 to 10’.  lol

8) ‘Parks and Recreation’  I don’t seem to find much on ‘TV’ worth watching, I loved ‘Deadliest Catch’ for the first few seasons, but then the marketing guys got to work on the show (“…what the Viewers want to see is whiny men, with mean attitudes and preferably a few missing teeth!”)  but last year I stumbled across this show ( Cable Company motto: “...you have the channels memorized?  wait! there…they’re all different and mixed up now…don’t worry! there’s one channel where the shows are listed in between the ads that wouldn’t fit across the bottom of your screen when you find your show…  you’re welcome”) and am a total fan.

 9)  digital photos! (the photo at the top of today’s Post is from last week…. that’s the moon (to the left of the green highway sign)  rising gigantically as I drove north on Route 1  (you know how, on just a few special nights (usually Summer or early Fall), and the moon is still only 10 or 15 degrees up off the horizon, you see it so big and bright that you naturally think, “oh shit! the Sun’s gone nova and there’s about 45 minutes until the blast wave circles the globe to get around to me here on the night side”  (And you think to yourself), “…how to spend my last minutes on this earth? ok, the first thing is roll down the windows, find a good college station on the radio and head for the ocean. try to reach Phyllis on the phone, but she doesn’t pick up, and then think about Ola and smile, because she was the best thing in your life (and she would have answered the phone, well, if she had opposable thumbs, which she didn’t, but she would have, at very least barked at Phyllis to answer the phone… like the time Phyllis and Ola were home during a severe lightning storm and Ola herded Phyllis from room to room, until finally, Ola got her to sit in the car in the garage and they waited out the storm, safe on the rubber tires), and I smile and….) wait a minute!! am I still typing??!”

9.5) New Readers?   kind of happens, nothing to be concerned about, I’m back… Christine or Kristi can explain  (I’d suggest Dyanne, but she’s facing winter and she’s a scott so, tread carefully)  of course zoe and Denise and our Miss Lizzi know…

10) grateful for the nature of the Wakefield Doctrine, in that I discover new ways to use it as a tool for self-development nearly every damn day!  (example? why of course!  I called an attorney on a real estate transaction yesterday. he opened the conversation with, ‘I’m glad you called! Your associate left me a long, rambling voicemail and I was getting concerned about what the problem was‘   We talked, I explained what was going on, everything back on track. My insight? the ‘associate of mine’  who left the ‘long and rambling voicemail’  is a clark  and I was able to reflect… ‘note to self: watch out for the leaving of long and overly comprehensive voice mails….  but there was a certain… difference in how I felt about this reflection on one of my characteristics. I wasn’t embarrassed (I have no need to tell the associate what was said), but I took it to heart.  Because I could identify with the other clark. This aspect of the Doctrine is incredibly promising for clarks… there is an old saying around the Wakefield Doctrine, “…only a clark can be learned from by another clark

 

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Well, what exactly do you want to know? Whether I am a clark or a scott or roger? If you have to ask, then you need to keep reading the Posts for two reasons: a)to get a clear enough understanding to be able to make the determination of which type I am and 2) to realize that by definition I am all three.* *which is true for you as well, all three...but mostly one

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  1. fangboner1 says:

    Hmmmmmmm… I like looking at new houses and long drives. I did get into ancestry for like two weeks. I traced both sides back to Ireland. Which I really already knew and said good enough.

    • clarkscottroger clarkscottroger says:

      lol

      I found talking to the agent (mentioned in the item) that ancestry, while attracting rogers like, well like scotts to décolletage anyway! for rogers the family tree manifests as validation, confirmation and celebration of the Herd while a clark will see (in the results of the effort) stories and tales of people, both real and imagined! and there’s no such thing as information that is not attractive to a clark

  2. valj2750 says:

    I love the ancestry thing. Oh the stories of peoples’ lives so long ago. Very interesting. I guess that’s Clarkish. But I truly love the family connections – that we are all one. I’m glad you could help an agent just starting out – putting off paperwork is great. Nice week, nice list.

    • clarkscottroger clarkscottroger says:

      Val

      …yeah I got a lot from the break (from the grind) and being that I was looking at houses, I didn’t have to feel guilty about not doing my job lol

  3. Parks and Rec? Treat Yo-self! Oh, my gosh. I first discovered it on Netflix and totally binge watched the entire thing, got my kids hooked, and began referencing Lil’ Sabstian. My husband worries.

    • clarkscottroger clarkscottroger says:

      Both Phyllis and I work the crazy hours, so, on the rare occasion where we can sit and watch a little TV the Netflix is excellent and it would seem that we have only seen about 1/3 of the episodes!

  4. Oh my goodness, Una seems to be a little dog terrorist. I kept telling Violet (the kid who got me out of bed 5-6 times a night over a course of several months) that intentional sleep deprivation is a form of torture. I’m glad you’re getting more restful sleep as Una is getting used to her surroundings (finally). I’m not into those sort of shows, but actually appreciate the “I travel the world and eat weird stuff” show.. As long as I’m not pregnant :-)

    Have a wonderful weekend, Clark!

  5. zoebyrd says:

    love the ola ,una stories…

    (not being a female-based person, it’s only natural that I hangout pretty much exclusively here)…for a theory that claims non-specificity in the gender department… there seems to be a lot of this… maybe that’s just guy-who’s-writing-it stuff?

  6. You had me at “Parks and Recreation” a great show. I’m sad its gone (I just googled it — maybe it’s not gone) but either way glad we can find it all over the place.

  7. Kristi Campbell - findingninee says:

    Somebody once emailed me to tell me that my voice mail message was more than three minutes long. That’s all that was in his email. Oops. I haven’t watched that show – these days, I’m binging on Breaking Bad when I have a few minutes late at night to binge properly. YAY for saying fuck the paperwork and going for a drive to see a cool house and get um yeah whatever something about history or something that is gone from mind because boring. :)

    • clarkscottroger clarkscottroger says:

      it was fun…. it’s the off season, so we’d just drive up to these estate-type homes and walk around, natchal as can be…. amazing what you can get away with when you don’t care…. lol

  8. Lisa @ The Meaning of Me says:

    I love how you are always grateful for your work or some aspect of it, Clark. I find that especially important now as I desperately try to get this self-employed thing working.

    • clarkscottroger clarkscottroger says:

      it grows with time and can (and must) be nurtured… because the reinforcement has to come from within (at least initially) and then, with success and growth, the satisfaction of the clients

  9. lrconsiderer says:

    And yet given that we’re all one thing at some point or another it stands to reason that NOT only a clark can learn from another clark, as evidenced by the fact that I’ve had scotts who purport to have learned from me. There’s no teaching rogers, though.

    I’m glad you thunk back to the beginnings of the point of the thing and went out to see the house and have FUN with your job. Sounds like all the knowing is a big part of the sell, and the buyers who cared about that kind of thing would be rogers or scotts.

    I thought I’d type this bit with my eyes closed to see what happens. I’,m pretty tired.

    Ummm.

    Fuck history.

    • clarkscottroger clarkscottroger says:

      specially with the (very) high end, second home properties, as found in Watch Hill and Weekapaug. very much self-contained communities…

      I was talking to Denise about this… the incredible potential in the peer group of clarks…. not because of the information that we can share and swap and exchange, but more with the identifying with each other… there is something that happens (among clarks in certain circumstances) that I really need to understand and appreciate more….

      • lrconsiderer says:

        High end second home? *cringes* Okay…not gonna soapbox.

        A peer group of clarks could (I think) achieve almost anything they set their minds to. In the end. It would be messy but worthwhile.

        • clarkscottroger clarkscottroger says:

          but so high end as to become…abstract, which makes it easier. this particular community is simply on another plane, a curiosity.

          as to the peer group…. ‘be messy but worthwhile’ lol totally hold that thought! It will be contradictory and complementary, aggravating and frustrating… everything that we hope for and everything we hate (in ourselves)… yeah, count me in!

  10. dyannedillon says:

    Christine takes the whole winter thing waaaaay worse than I do.

    #3? I live in one of those neighborhoods. I live in the old Butts house. The Butts family hasn’t owned it since the early 1970s. Nearly every house in my neighborhood (known as Snob Hill) carries the pedigree of the previous owners, and the houses date back to the early 1920’s.

    • clarkscottroger clarkscottroger says:

      did you know that it is a fact (physical, psychological, philosophical and medical) that scotts are totally, way prone and susceptible to SAD? I think I’ve mentioned it before, but nearly every scott I know suffers from it and, on the plus side, every single one who goes south for just a brief time turns it all around!

      yeah… the houses that have names that people know better than the street address!

  11. Whoo…take care there, Clark, no lifeforms should visit unannounced!! Hey to Una, and let’s hope she continues to sleep well next week!

    • clarkscottroger clarkscottroger says:

      lol yeah, I agree… but no one was in residence and they (the owners) were ‘in discussions’ with the agent as to the possibility of putting the property on the market, it was fun even if, for the most part, the community was deserted (in Palm Beach or one of the more temperate climes), all that remained where the groundskeepers and other trades working on this and that …we waved

  12. susanzutautas says:

    I’ll have to see if Park and Recreation is on Netflix. I don’t watch that much TV because I think most of the stuff is terrible these days.

    • clarkscottroger clarkscottroger says:

      I agree! and I’d even say 99% of the stuff on TV is worse than terrible, it’s offensively bad…. having said that, you gots to try Parks and Recreation!

  13. Vanessa D. says:

    I’ve only just started watching TV again – for 2 years I worked in a vegetable pack house. The hours were long and I only had time to come home, eat, fall asleep and do it all over again the next day – 6 days a week.

  14. christine says:

    Parks and Rec is a great show! I haven’t been able to watch it in a long time, but it was funny when I used to watch it. :)

    I don’t think I could handle having a dog who woke me up barking that many times each night. I hear from houseguests that our dogs bark all night long, but they are outside. I don’t even hear them anymore unless they are really mixing it up with some trespassing critter.

    I, too, am looking forward to the looming holidays, but it has nothing to do with the WD. Sorry.

    Sounds like a great idea to forget the paperwork for a while. I love driving around and looking at big, beautiful houses/properties. It was also nice of you to treat the new guy the way you wanted to be treated when you were a young up and comer.

    Funny that you liked Deadliest Catch, seeing as how you lived something similar. What did you like most about it?

    • clarkscottroger clarkscottroger says:

      Christine

      anyone who would do that job (or go out on a trip more than once)….gets off on the extreme environment… I loved the episodes when it was bad weather (reminded me of a few times and therefore…)

      …the thing about holidays and the Doctrine is that they provide such a good context for illustrating the three realities (of the Wakefield Doctrine)…. for a scott Thanksgiving is one experience, (and for the clark sitting down at the right hand corner of the dining room table it’s an entirely (well, nearly entirely) different experience and for the roger it is so an entirely (in this case totally entirely) different experience. that is the wonder of the Doctrine, if you can imagine that reality comes in three varieties, then you will have insights into the lives of the people around you that would not be available otherwise…. and lets see the prey escape you then!

  15. Kristi says:

    I’m also excited and thankful for the upcoming holidays, but that really isn’t a surprise.
    Family history seems to be one of those hobbies that transcends worldviews.

  16. I love that stream of consciousness about the dog herding the human to safety! And I can appreciate the times of the moon’s most close-to-Earthness. Usually I know because I’ll see something about the Harvest Moon or whatever the other one is called when the full moon is closest, but a couple times I didn’t know and was driving. It was really difficult to concentrate on the road, it looked like I was on the Highway to the Moon. But I didn’t have enough toll change, so here I am, stuck on stupid Earth.
    Glad you got to see another area’s big ole houses. That IS fun. I can’t look at big houses too much, or mine seems so much smaller by comparison, but it is REALLY nice to see how some live. And it’s always nice to know, thanks to the doctrine, WHY some are the way they are.

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