Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)
I never understood what the big deal was about…
…living in my head and dreaming of life, rather than taking chances and interacting with real people and risking pain and disappointment… at least until the Wakefield Doctrine showed up, then it was all, “holy shit!! I can understand why I thought and felt and acted the way that I did through much of my life! It was because I grew up in a reality in which I was, in fact, and actually, ‘the Outsider’. It makes sense to me now!” (For ‘an Outsider’, making sense is the most important thing), and the living inside my head? well, that is the best, most appropriate response if you are a clark. I mean, for crying out loud, we’re people too…we have dreams and hopes and desires and frustration, it’s just that, because we are not like other people (not anyone!*) we’re hardly going to stand out and make ourselves noticeable! That would be crazy… things are going along just f…. reasonably… as they must, we stay in the background because it’s there, being un-noticed, that should allow us the time to watch the people around us as they live and fight and have fun and be rude and obnoxious and, if we watch and learn and think enough, we should be able to discover what it is that they have or do or think that we don’t and then we can stop being Outsiders.
…until then, don’t think that this is so much less a life, it isn’t, it’s what we need to do, at least for now… until we understand better, we’ll stay in our heads and watch and hope.
the Wakefield Doctrine presents
Lizzi and Michelle and them’s fun Friday vidchat….
(their motto): just for fun and conversation, no taping and using it for self-promotion like some of those rogerian vidchats!
tonight at google hangouts…. 7:30 EDST check in with us on ‘the Facebook’ if you don’t see your invitation in google+!
‘be there or resemble a four-sided figure with equal length sides joined by 90 degree angles‘
https://plus.google.com/hangouts/_/7ecpj12nv3bd9lk7oc0scaeguc
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They Made it Through to the End of the First workweek of the AY tu ZEE Blog Challenge. Lets give them a great big …encouraging smile!
Lizzi: she is a machine! theme of (writing) styles, no less!! For today, our Angelic Angel has: Diary (7 Q Takes # 69)
zoe: a clark after my own heart, with her small little encyclosnacks of information, like pizza for Friday schoollunch today: What’s in a dog’s (name) Let us count the ways!
… jen-ay: (I will hope to possess the quality of today’s Fictionary entry for the letter D(regger)
…and, an hour into the past, Doctrine Friend Dyanne has Daily Routines all we’ll say is #5 and #14 (did we mention that our friend is a scott?)
*except as we have come to realize, other clarks and that makes every damn bit of difference…to a clark
About clarkscottroger
frist!
yow! you beat Janine… which to those of us in the know, is no mean feat (as opposed to mean feet, I guess)
I think we all need to live in our heads a bit from time to time and don’t see anything wrong with that either. And damn Jean beat to first here today!! Happy Friday and thanks for joining us again!! :)
wow….she beat Janine?
yeah! damn
hey you gonna stop by the vidchat 2night? be kinda early (7:30) and I need to leave early
(what? that sound?? wait I hear it too!! people chanting… hold on… it “oo pp…..OLd…ppp “old people Old people)
lol yeah a long way to go for a throwaway joke
goof…did you guys meet? I got home and online to do some paperwork at about 830 but being old… ahem… I am going to bed… YES its only 9 … Its been a rough day…. yeesh…
I liked the joke btw….
zoe–I was there!!! and I missed you. also, I wouldn’t shut up and made a total arse of myself but they were all really nice about it!!!
F***! I missed you! I am such a child that I am laughing hysterically cuz I love the word “arse.”
Next time! (if they let me in again ever) !!! xoxox
You ,my dear, are not that lucky! You are now a card carrying member. Next time!
hah! I felt like I had a lampshade on my head the whole time! Not used to vidchats here! Oh wait, I DID HAVE A LAMPSHADE ON MY HEAD
but you wore it well….
(no! you were fun and I hope you get to stop back in again on future Fridays)
clark, I was so excited to be there! Highpoint of my month, including last month! and the month before!!! :)
this is awesome. Again, as I see it very poignant. However, as you have explained it to me, not as much to you. I have a best friend who is a clark, and one who is a scott. I am so grateful to share things with them as they are so different. Things have changed for all of us as we grew older. However your doctrine and all of our characteristics and secondary characteristics remain the same…je!!!
I absolutely love this observation: “we’re hardly going to stand out and make ourselves noticeable! That would be crazy”. I think I may have seen it mentioned here once before and it made so much sense and I understood myself a lot better! :-) It’s weird for me, sometimes I’m totally okay putting myself out there and sometimes I’m completely uncomfortable (like when someone else is taking a picture of me). This was a great reminder on the Clarkian reality :-)
Katia
I know what you mean, one word: secondary scottian aspect!
This whole part of the Doctrine, i.e. the influence/effect/affect/additional dimensions that can be seen when we have significant secondary aspects is totally fascinating… thank you for bringing it up Katia! I think I should address (or re-address) the topic in next week’s posts
I aim to inspire :-P
Good idea Clark.
I know exactly what Katia is talking about! I have a 2ndary scottian aspect. Sometimes I surprise myself when I realize (after the fact) how “in their face” I was acting. And! And! without the face falling. That is the beauty:) of the scottian worldview:)
Word, sir! I like it inside my head, quite frankly. There’s lots of space to move around in there.
lol
OK. ‘nother topic to discuss. Don, the roger up there brings up a good point. I’ve heard it from my own (roger) about the “living” in the head…always up inside o their heads. So what the hell are they (the rogers) doing in there?!
Obviously, there’s a difference in what this represents to a clark, to a roger. So tell us! What it means for a roger to all up inside his head.
easy
gazing around, noting how their fellow bovines are facing… (ideally) all towards them, (unfairly) paying attention to someone who is not them…
clark, are they judging those other people? jehnay
yes and no
the rest of us (clarks and scotts) would be correct in saying, ‘yes they are judging….comparing us/it/them to a standard (the abstract Right Way that exists in the reality of the roger) we know this because their primary response will be to make us aware of how it should be done
they (the rogers) would be correct when, instead of using the word ‘judging’ they (would) be more inclined to use the word ‘assessing’ ‘appreciating’ even ‘comparing’ (! I know!)
thank you!!! xox
Yes, thank you Clark! I’ll leave the xo’s to the scott up there:)
I always appreciate you putting down on “paper” the expression of the meaning of these things (how clarklike for me to express lol)
I’m more attuned to rogers nowadays. More attuned to figuring out what they mean by a thing and comparing that to my interpretation of….an emotion/event/interaction….
It is true that a roger will choose their words carefully. They of the double/triple/quadruple entendre.
Hey prettyjean! Sorry I missed you on the vidchat last night. Maybe next week.
Dear Denise! I had to leave so early! And half the time I was clueless, but I would have loved to have had a chance to meet you at the vidchat!!! xox <–that is right XOXOXOX bwahahah
That’s how I feel. Watching and hoping, from my own head. In the room, the women come and go, talking of Michaelangelo. Do I dare? or do I dare? disturb the universe?
Random quotes from The Love Song of J. Alfred Prufrock by T.S. Eliot. If you haven’t read it yet, you should go read it.
Michelle
I hadn’t… I have… I (do) dare!
ONLY ONE OF THE BEST POEMS EVER
A taped vid chat? Huh?
no… same old non-taped vidchat
I included that reference (to taping of vidchats) because I heard from someone that there are some vidchats where they are able to tape for replay (or something like that)… I think it is another form of hangout… I wanted to re-assure anyone out there that we don’t do that on our vidchat
Better being happy in your own thoughts and mind than an unhappy extrovert. Peace :-)
No idea what the Wakefield DOctrine is but I prefer to live in my head. I had a crappy 2013 & I prefer to lay low this year.
If I may be so bold, (while) the Wakefield Doctrine will not guarantee a non-crappy 2014, I will say that the Wakefield Doctrine will provide a small but not insignificant improvement in the interesting-quotient on the current year… seriously! ask anyone!
ONLY JUST made it here. And OOOOOOOH you STIRRER! I love it *giggles wickedly*
HAHAH I love living in my head. It’s such a better more accepting place than elsewhere. It’s also mean and horrible and beyond cruel telling me that I’ll never ever be enough…the Clark head. Smash it or love it? I vote love. And Dude. xo wellfuckingdone.
Stranger! you! It is mean and horrible. Sometimes. But I’m with you Kristi. Love it!
An outsider…that’s how I feel sometimes. But I read a book about being introverted and it described exactly how I felt and reacted in different situations. It was such an eye opener and very reassuring. Someone said most writers are introverts. It makes perfect sense.
I’m wondering what this book is because I want to read it.
Kate
Funny you should say that, I was talking to Denise and the idea of the writing of the book of who-we-might-also-be and how that would be a fairly interesting exercise.
Yeah, I’m like that – a Clark. I’m an observer. But my blog has given me a voice. I love that.