Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)
Well, this should be interesting…
Over the weekend I asked Readers if they would suggest ‘life situations’ for inclusion on our ‘Pre-Dominant Worldview Assessment’, below are the weekend’s harvest.
The thing about the PreDom Worldview Assessment is that it offers a semi-shortcut to discovering which of the three is one’s predominant worldview. Of interest primarily among busy, on-the-go scotts and the occasional roger, the Assessment presents a situation and then offers three possible ways to resolve the conflict (inherent in each situation). The Test Taker is asked to pick among the three, (suggested responses), the one that they feel is most like the choice they would make. It is interesting to note that the response integrity, (in terms of accurately suggesting a worldview), is quite high for scotts and clarks. rogers, on the other hand, have a pattern of response that is not only predictable, but is totally congruent with the stated principles of the Doctrine. damn!
(From Beth): You’re at the airport and an employee announces the baggage will be arriving late. A fellow passenger commences with ugly, disrespectful, downright bratty behavior towards the employee (as if it’s even his fault). How do you react to this?
- Walk over to where this passenger is acting out, smile and watch for an opportunity to contribute to the brow-beating, otherwise simply enjoy.
- Step in front of the complaining passenger and ask the airport employee a question that you believe will yield an answer of a positive nature, make faces mocking the complainer, but only at an angle that does not allow them to see you making fun
- Tell the complaining passenger to, ‘Shut the fuck up.’
(from zoe): You call a friend to go out with some other friends and she can’t because her husband is going out for a guys night. While you and the others are out, you notice across the room the husband of your friend (that couldn’t make it) and he is obviously not with the guys, but with another woman to whom he is paying more attention than a married man ought. Its obvious what’s going on… what do you do?
- Nothing. Hope that the errant husband doesn’t notice you there at the time. It would be awkward and uncomfortable and you prefer to have your options un-impaired. (None of your options include confronting the husband immediately).
- Get up. Walk over to the husband and smile and say, “Hey! I didn’t know you had such an attractive sister!”
- Tell your friends exactly what appears (to you) to be going on, make a point of telling them that they are not to breathe a word of this to anyone, least of all the wife, because, “it will totally devastate her and you’re her best friend and that’s why you should be the one”.
(from jean): You are at a meeting but are not running it. The person conducting the meeting makes a mistake and only you appear to realize it. It is a mistake which will affect someone who is not you. What do you do and how?
- Raise your hand and ask the chairperson to repeat his assertion (the mistaken one), after they do as you request, offer that you are aware, from your experience that the better answer is the following. As you repeat this ‘better answer’ you make constant reference to how you understand how easily the person could make the mistake, not that you’re suggesting they did…make a mistake.
- If possible, get the chair person aside on a break and ask them about the ‘mistake’, gently suggest that there might be another view of the matter and, while be sure to say that you could be wrong, present 5 possible alternative answers (being certain that the correct answer is among them).
- Raise your hand and tell the Speaker to, ‘Shut the fuck up!’
(also from jean): You want Italian Food, and the rest of the family–3 people,.. want Chinese food. what happens next?
- Call in your order to a local restaurant and then inform everyone else that, seeing how the order for food (enough for everyone) has already gone in and there are no cancellations allowed and how it would be wasteful to throw away all that food, not to mention the expense, that for tonight it needs to be Italian.
- Give in and tell yourself that the family comes first and you can eat what you want anytime once everyone has left the house.
(…from jean): Your husband cheats on you. Not your friend’s husband. YOUR husband. You find out when he TELLS YOU. what do you do?
- Suggest that if that’s what he felt was necessary, you are willing to go to counseling and try to work out the differences that drove him to such an extreme act
- Refuse to listen and when he stops talking, continue your life as if nothing has happened, you have put too much effort into creating the perfect home to have something like this get in the way.
- [Tell him to…. (we all know the scottian response, don’t we?) (Good news! Now we do! Friend of the Doctrine], Stephanie has kindly offered the following:
- You tell the doctor at the emergency room a fantastic story about how your poor, poor hubby fell off a chair and broke his nose on the counter, beat himself two black eyes, lost some teeth, … And once the bleeding has stopped, you hand him his bag and send him off to the other lady to nurse him back to health and beauty