Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)
yeah, I was serious about today’s Post. being expressed in situ throughout the Posts of the hosts. deal.
1) a damn ‘First Comment’ is all… predicated on SR6.0
2) of words that rhyme and always last in alphabetical order
3) …when pigs fly, yo. well, not literally but then again…
4) …ist es schon, wie die Mitte des Nachmittags … happy Nikolaustag!
5) from there (in Item 4 ) it’s quicker to keep heading West
6) …’say the Joker to the thief’… no, I see no logical connection ‘tween this lyric and our friend-in-the-west’s blog just sounds good
7) hey, she hadn’t Posted anything yet this weekend, what else could I do? here read this
10) hey, you know how much we like our scotts… I thought seeing how she (along with our ‘Missus Christine’) is very responsible for today’s …odd TToT Post
hey, you’re all people with an interest in the human experience. As a clark seeking to use the principles of the Wakefield Doctrine to become more: (fill in good qualities) and to stop doing so much: (fill in bad qualities and habits and weaknesses and such), I had an experience yesterday that I would like to share.*
…so I got a call from Denise ( www.girlieontheedge1.wordpress.com ) late yesterday and she told me that her dog Zoey just died. Denise made an unsuccessful attempt to calmly relate the circumstances to me on the phone. (Certain backstory is critical here: Denise recently moved to Virginia to accept a position from a firm that she was associated with over 10 years ago. the important element in this is that this required that she make the move alone…leaving family (including Zoey) back in FLA, at least initially. The act of Will that she demonstrated to actually pull this off, very simply leaves me in awe.)
Most of us have lost a pet. Some of us have lost a ‘4 legged family member’. We know the feeling. For me, there was an immediate echo to Ola’s death years ago. What struck me during our 30 minute conversation was that, even though I am a clark and as a people, we are very good in a ‘oh?-you-were-there-when-so-and-so-died?-I-didn’t-see-you’ way… in this particular life situation, was how my mind pulled up the TToT and thinking, ‘how the hell do you find something to be grateful for when this week is over?’ At the same time, (in that over-lapping way that the mind has at times of duress), I heard myself say to Denise, “you were there in Virginia and not back in Florida with Zoe and Zoe was waiting for you to return“. This seemed to make her feel worse, but I continued, “…but not the way a human would wait. When Phyllis here at home had to travel a few years ago, Bella sat at the window and watched and waited. I know that Bella’s ‘mood’ was not the (human) ‘where is she? why did she leave me’ it was much more the ‘I will sit and watch and wait’, …satisfied at being able to do her job in the family, nothing more and nothing less.”
I would like to think that helped. But whether it was the perfect thing to say or not, whether it made her feel less terrible or not, doesn’t really matter, that I was sharing something that I felt with Denise does. They say that we ‘learn by doing’ and while the Wakefield Doctrine provides me with a certain framework for my efforts to improve, it really comes to ‘doing’ and ‘acting in the real world’. That is where change takes hold. I am grateful to you Readers and my co-hostinae for that opportunity.
*in the interest of full disclosure, most of my mind is screaming, ‘you are not going to do that! it’s none of their business, it’s a total bring down, it’s Denise’s tale of Power not yours and 2) this is not a Dear-frickin-Diary blog