Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)
Big weekend now behind, normal (with a slight variation with semi-holiday today) work week stretched out before us. Short Post this Morning. Time to get to work, back to school, the weekly routine.
Hey! here’s an idea! A Contest!! Vote for the Best Comment from the Weekend!
Weekend Quote #1 (from Lizzi)
|
Submitted on 2013/11/09 at 3:42 pm |
HA! I’ve given you a great big ‘F’ for LANDSCAPE on your homework, boyo! Just you wait and see how gentle and sensitive I can be! WTactualF! |
Weekend Quote #2 (from Joy)
|
Submitted on 2013/11/10 at 10:26 pm
I’m writing thus from the *wavy lines* FUTURE. Future you says “Hi, please floss more.” |
Weekend Quote #3 (from Kristi)
|
Submitted on 2013/11/10 at 4:55 pm
“Word salad” is a great phrase, but now I’m wondering if there is a “word casserole”. |
Weekend Quote #4 (from zoe)
|
Submitted on 2013/11/10 at 1:15 pm | *
Accreting male rogers!…ick… |
Ok the Week Ahead:
- work and school and homemaking, remember the Rule: “...everyone does everything at one time or another” and that tells us what? Correct Cyndi! It tells us that it is not about whether getting good grades is a rogerian quality or if being on time for work is a scott thing or cleaning the house and getting to the gym after the kids are on the bus is a clark thing. the Wakefield Doctrine is about understanding how a thing (or an activity or anything else) manifests in the world of the individual we are trying to understand
- speaking of trying to Understand: you know why you should read, learn and ask questions about the Wakefield Doctrine? so you can use the Wakefield Doctrine in your life! and the reason you should want to do this is so that you never again need to find yourself saying, “Now why would she say a thing like that?? I really thought I knew him better than that?“
- speaking of Molly… I will try to keep her (good) advice from a year ago in my mind when I do another Wakefield Doctrine 30 Minute Radio Hour later this week. (Her advice was, don’t feel you need to tell the Listeners everything, if they are interested, they are intelligent enough to find the answer in the blog or ask the questions.)
- …lets end today’s post with this: ‘the Wakefield Doctrine is for you, not them’. So, in the course of the coming week, if you find yourself in conflict with what another person has said or done, observe their behavior and try to see the world as that person is experiencing it… I guarantee that you will see that they are acting as any person would react to a world in which they are: the Outsider (not a part of, not included, no member benefits) or the Predator (if you want to survive in their world you act first and reflect later, because life is meant to be lived, not planned and certainly not by following Rules or maybe the Herd Member (living and interacting in a sea of emotion, you feel the world and the people in it, there are Rules and they as so the greater Good…hell, they are the only Good.
- …after considering all of the previous step… remember that you are predominately: a clark (so stop ‘eating your future’ and get out in the world of people and take some chances) or a scott (know that you can reflect on the not-immediate-things and take the time to hear the person, even if they seem to be whispering) or a roger (the people who seem to be not-with-the-program? your biggest secret asset, stop and see if you can connect with them, otherwise all you have are other rogers (like they care about you) and scotts…
About clarkscottroger
I’ve decided that my sister in law is also a clark-scott. Yep. I initially thought she was rogerian, but she’s one of the most flexible, sweet people I know…until you piss her off. Kind of like me. She is cold, too. In fact, she and I both have that Raynaud’s syndrome (where your hands get cold, turn purple, then white and look like they’re going to fall off), though she has it much worse than I do. She tries to keep the peace until…good god, you piss her off. lololol
All three of us: John, Lisa and I are all sensitive to a fault.
You know why we know this? Because we all sat around the dinner table discussing these ideas, much to the chagrin of my scottian mother in law who was like, I don’t even know what the HELL you’re talking about. HAHAHA.
Cyndi
‘flexible and sweet’ yep, that is fairly totally suggestive of a clarklike predominant worldview. lol
funny about your MIL, she was probably getting irritated with you guys… not running away or rolling over like prey (rogers do) and yet not challenging her or getting into rank relative to her (scotts do).
a scott, Glenn who used to hang out here was fond of saying that as a scott, the notion of 2 or more (!!) clarks in conversation was like a blackhole… energy was there but he knew that for him to try and get some (of the energy) would have been too huge a risk of never getting out!! lol
Haha, she WAS getting a little irritated, shaking her head and generally not partaking in the conversation. My awesome MIL. Glenn was right: NEVER fall into the black hole. Unless you bend the space-time continuum, there is no hope of escape once you fall in. You’ll just be torn apart. MUAHAHAHA
Cyndi
yeah, scotts do not show fear of many things, but clarks in conversation results in the pack howling defiantly and skulking away… the clarks oblivious to the near threat, still in their conversation
Oh I DO like how you did your last!
AND Roger feedback – “Boys would be more interested if the WD showed the personality types of some popular fictional heroes, like Gandalf and Spiderman and such”
Lizzi
interesting… the idea of indicating “the personality types of popular fictional heroes” cool. now, if I only knew who the contemporary fictional hero types are…is… I will compile a list, any and all suggestions (of heroes…and heroines?) are welcome.
so my vote is for joy. You have to love a dental hygiene joke. Also being a huge superhero fan I think I can help you formulate a list. Although for some stupid reason Freud and Jung are coming to mind and they couldn’t even fly …what the hell?
zoe
I agree… Joy is now the front runner!! Voting ends at 10:00pm EST
( Superego? does that count as a super hero)
(I know I don’t have to mention the correlation: id, ego and superego and scotts, clarks and rogers) lol (thank god for Psych 101!!)