Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory that you all know, you just needed a way to say it and to build up a little history and tradition)
The Wakefield Doctrine maintains that we all see life from one of three characteristic worldviews:
- from the ‘Outside’, trying to understand what you are missing (the clark)
- from the senses, the instincts the ‘drive to live’ despite the efforts of the world around you (the scott) and
- from the only place there is, the context, by following the only path there is ( the roger).
Since this is the third in a series illustrating how the Wakefield Doctrine can offer advice on meeting new people and how best to make decisions regarding relationships, lets jump to another worldview!
…by looking at the life of a roger:
- a roger
- a party, if there are any people that matter there, you will be one of them
Your office is the envy of all the other mid-level Managers. You know that the reason that you have passed your contemporaries on the struggle to climb the Corporate ladder is that you can talk to people. While you take pride in your organizational skills, how you never forget a birthday or an anniversary of anyone you have under your care, you know that it is not just the meticulous personnel files nor the work week organizer, both contributing to your reputation as a formidably efficient Manager. You notice that your schedule ( the private one you have, not the one on the in-house network, the one you keep updated on your phone) is reminding you to visit the employee lounge on the second floor. These seemingly random visits are not just a part of your career strategy, you enjoy talking to most of the people who work in the building, whether it’s small talk about last Summer’s Company outing, or talking sports with the sports fans, it was all part of your routine day.
“today’s my birthday… I reserved the private function room at the Calypso Club tonight” The speaker is one of the new Interns. Fresh out of Business School, this one seemed determined to make his presence known in the Company. Even as the new Intern starts to turn the attention of the group on your arrival, in a strong, authoritative voice you say, “I believe that the Company Policy doesn’t condone or encourage having parties!”
You let the shocked reaction sink in, but before you can follow-up on your statement, the new Intern laughs and says, “Tonight 8:30!”
The first 1/8th of your work day is spent answering emails and returning calls. You love this part of your job.
The rest of your work day is spent devising plans, formulating procedures and protocols, researching the latest in testing and assessment tools for your Employee Performance Metrics project. On the two coffee breaks that you have programmed into your Daily Planner (10:47 to 11:15 and 2:15 to 3:00) you catch up on your 100 Years War Re-enactors group and send out another request to the Census Department for a copy of the Vital Records for Braxton County, West Virginia . You love your job.
The last 1/8th of your work day is spent in meetings with upper Management. The CEO is someone you tolerate, the story you have heard from nearly everyone is that he single-handedly built the Company and even though he is tyrannical, monomaniacal and abusive, your position with the Company is a good opportunity. The CFO, is also at this meeting because of his devotion and loyalty (to the Company) and his un-relenting focus on ‘the bottom line’ You find the precise, overly careful, fussiness of this Executive to be admirable, you look up to him as a role model and standard of professional excellence. You can’t stand him.
A strange thing happens as you leave the meeting, the CEO turns and says to you, “...that new Intern on the second floor. Your latest hire? Good job! I passed him in the parking garage this morning and he actually invited me to go to some party he’s having at the Calypso Club! That kid is going to go far in this Company.”
…your time at home before having to leave for the party is spent… reading your mail. Finding some new bills in the mailbox, you pour yourself a cup of coffee, take it over to the dining room table and settle in for some relaxing reconciliation. Looking up, you notice you are (nearly) late. Deciding that the party is a good career opportunity, you decide to go with ‘professional causal’ while standing in front of your closet. “J Crew St Vera, don’t fail me know”, you start laughing and realize that as long as you stick to the plan, things are going to work out just fine.
The final 1/12th of the last 1/3 of your time at home ….with a sense of determination mixed with optimism and a sense that all in all, things are looking good. You head out to the Calypso Club
(to be continued…)http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_IEDC52o0nk